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By HeatherGurl, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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HeatherGurl    0

HeatherGurl
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I just HAVE to get this off of my chest...

There are a few ladies here at my work that have had the lap band. I am the latest. The other ladies are 15 and 20 years older than me. I emailed my before and after pic to them... just so they can see how I have been doing because they ask my daily. They were banded a month before me. I have lost 28 pounds in 5 weeks and I am just really proud of myself.

Well one lady calls me and says "you haven't lost 28 pounds" "that is unhealthy" "there is no way" (She hasn't lost but 24) Yeah!! 24 which is GREAT!!!!!!!! Anyways she was SO rude to me that I am never going to speak with her again. I am NOT in a competition with others to see what I can lose and they can't. I am VERY happy when anyone I know loses any weight!!!

Have any of you experienced this? I mean, this lady was down right ugly to me. she is a very outspoken person, but I did not think she would be SO rude to me!

She is not someone I will ever talk to again... Thank goodness she is in another building!

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Kimber-lilly    2

Kimber-lilly
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People will say some of the most candid, rude things to you---all you can do is blow it off. I know many people know I have the band and this one chick at work WEEKLY has some snide comment or question regarding my weight loss. She is no skinny mini, so I decided that she is jealous. I am being so nice to her because I know she is trying to get a reaction from me. not gonna happen!

I would just mention to that gal who was rude to you that it isn't a RACE and everyone loses at different rates. then smile!

:rolleyes:

Good luck!

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Mita    2

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I had the same thing happen here at work. This gal was banded 4 months before I was and I lost a whole lot quicker than she was. Well come to have it she stopped talking to me but turned around and talked about me.. Some times people can be down right mean and jealous. Maybe in her world she is not happy with her outcome.. I too would just ignore her and keep up your postive thoughts and wt loss.

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mousecrazy    2

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It is just sad that she had that reaction to you. You certainly have the right to associate with whoever you want. You just keep on doing what you think is best for you, and take the high road in the behavior department. The low road is already full, it sounds like!

Cindy

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chichigirl    1

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It's really so sad when people react and behave like that. I usually feel sorry for them, they must be so miserable with themselves that they try and drag everyone down with them. It's too bad. Such a waste of energy.

As long as you don't take her words to heart and allow her attitude into your own mind, you will be just fine.

On your weight loss - CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!! Keep up the outstanding work and be proud of yourself, we are:-] You keep this up(and I hope you do), you'll be at goal in no time. Just don't forget about the rest of us here, we need all of the inspirational people we can get!!!!!

Happy Holidays

Cindy

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CCBSTX    0

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Just ignore that person! If she's not supportive than she's a waste of energy. That is how I go about my life. Its mostly about energy-conservation!!! hehe.

Seriously.. surround yourself, if possible, with supportive people. Pat yourself on the back, for those 28 pounds and smile...

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NJChick    3

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Just take it where it comes from and then poke her in the eye :rolleyes: Mean old biddy deserves it. Haaaaaaaaaa !!! JK JK JK

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fiveholts714    0

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She's jealous. Just stay wawy from her. Some people go through their lives so miserable the only way they can feel good is to make others unhappy. Feel sorry for her, if anything.

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