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ok so i was banded on 9-9-10 lost 10 lbs pre-op and 13 after for a total of 23lbs went from 228-205lbs was stoked!:rolleyes2: but then i started the mushie then solid stages and lose nothing.... i hover between 205-208 and back again... i am only taking in about 1000-1200 cal a day so why am i not losing.. when to maintain a weight of 205 u should take in 1677 a day WHAT GIVES!?B) has anyone else experienced this? will i start losing again? my first fill is due oct 5th

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Well, adding solids back in does slow loss--but only temporarily, and only because it lingers in your colon. So try not to worry about that too much.

That said, it might be time to play around with calories. I know there are lots of "shoulds," but I had to toss mine by the wayside. After years of (preband) journaling on fitday.com, it became undeniable to me and my doctors that my calorie needs, despite my weight, were much, much lower than any recommended level.

That's why I got banded.

Give your body a little time to get used to the solids---it's been through quite an ordeal. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to start journaling someplace like fitday.com---just for a baseline.

If you don't start losing again---which you probably will, once your body figures things out---then you can experiment a little. You can see if bumping up your Protein helps, or if paring down on refined carbs helps, or if upping your exercise helps, or if knocking down your caloric intake helps....

It's too soon to freak out, but not too soon to think about logical ways to tackle things if it does evolve into a problem.

With luck, the scale will start moving soon, and it will all be moot.

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Your first 6 weeks post op you are to focus on HEALING, not losing weight! Don't stress over the scale - if you starve your poor body when it is trying to recover from surgery you will create an even bigger mess....I just focused on making healthy choices and trying to let my body heal, and not worry about losing weight - so what if you don't lose a lb in those 6 weeks? If you let your body heal and get off to a great start you will not regret it later, trust me!

WHen I went for my first fill at 6 weeks post op I hadn't hardly lost a thing, I might've even been up a lb if I remember correctly. (I should've journalled as I forget these things easily!) Weight loss was SO SLOW from MArch when I had surgery to about July/Aug - but then I got good restriction and it has been great ever since! You just have to be patient, don't try and rush things, and above all don't compare yourself to anyone else! Everyone loses weight and gets to restriction at a different time....don't get discouraged, just keep focused on your journey to health and weight loss!

Keep up the good work!!!

Kim

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