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Thank you for this! You can't force parents to want to quiz their kids the night before a big test or make sure the homework is done, the papers are signed, etc., before they go out with friends. I once worked with a teacher (who was fired), who wrote the assignments on the board a week in advance, made sure the students wrote it in their planners (which the school provides), would give a countdown to when the assignment is due ( "tomorrow your paper is due on..." ) and would even call home and leave a voicemail for the parents as a reminder and STILL he would have students come in unprepared. He finally resorted to doing what he use to do when he was a kid, wrote it on the palm of his hand and he did this to one kid (why he was fired) after TWO calls home, a personal note for the family not to mention the reminders in the classroom. We even allow class time to work, after school tutoring in every core subject area and still you have a frightening amount of families who do not take advantage of these opportunities for their children. We even use the U.S. postal service rather than relying on the student to take the note home to family members and also flag bilingual/non-native speakers of English so something can go home translated. BUT then we have the others that come prepared, or rise with a little encouragement or shine with some extra polishing. They make it all worth it.

Great idea!

GREAT movie. I also recommend "Lean on Me" (1989) Starring Morgan Freeman the true story of Joe Clark, principal at a school with a high number of at-risk students. "The Ron Clark Story" starring Matthew Perry (2006) made for TV. "Music of the Heart" starring Meryl Streep "Stand and Deliver" starring Edward James Olmos From inside the education trenches where the glass is half full, Lap Dancer

Aw. I love austic children as well as Asperger's children (I'm an educator). They are typically very loving when there is lots of love at home. You have my heart right now because I'm thinking of a student years ago who did not talk or make eye contact but would provide a burst of hugs spontaneously. (smiling) Each child is different. I can offer you some education sites on the disorder. There are a range of manifestations so his daughter could be anywhere in that range. Your boyfriend will be your teacher there. There are meetings, classes, typically all are free. CARD is a great source. Center for Autism and Related Disorders, Inc. card-usf.fmhi.usf.edu/

Hi Zannie: There are some things the others said I'd like to point to first. This from Kat: " his depression, and your uncertainty over yourself, quite possibly her bold go get 'em attitude, and upbeat, come ons to him, were as likely what truly attracted him as opposed to what her body type or hair color or anything else are" and then this golden nugget of thought... "The problems in you marriage may have been brought to light with your banding, him knowing that you would be changing, may have scared him...but we all know there are better ways to handle that!" and from BJean: "I guess I'm suggesting that you just not make life-changing decisions when the pain is so fresh. Please just remember that your husband is having a major crisis in his life and it could be that he needs you, and your support, more than ever." These are some great thoughts. I have been cheated on. And it was my own cousin who banged my husband in my bed, on my washing machine, on our boat, all the while I was nursing my 6 month old first born child. I was clueless, had no idea my cousin ( who I took in as a favor to my aunt and uncle ) was boinking my husband! I didn't find out until two years after the fact when she had moved out, was long gone, and my husband was born again as a Christian. He decided part of his repentance was to make remedy this dark secret that would risk the distruction of his marriage. It didn't. If this were me, here would be my thoughts about this situation. My husband thought that having a younger, fit, slender, blonde haired blue eyed opposite of me person would put more hair on his chest but the truth was, sex with my cousin had no emotional connection that he had developed with me through years of life history together, memories, and sharing the creation of two lives together...our son and daughter. You have to balance what you have with your spouse to breaking it off. Do you believe your two children would be better off exposed to the direction and guidance of their father? Is he otherwise a good man? ( I mean before this broad came along?) Right now your husband is only seeing life as he knew it when he was single. Girlfriend, no kids, less responsibilities la la la la. That's well and good but once that becomes a full time situation and he LIVES with this person day in and day out that is when the warts and fangs start coming out. Trust me. Women can be vicious. Some women see men as a cash cow to offer a stipend to their rent and bills. They will put up with crap so they don't have to be responsible for a household 100% by themselves. I have always held that if my husband thinks it is better on the other side of the fence, go for it but be sure and leave me the house to raise our children in, I will need lawn service because I don't mow grass, I'm busy with my children, and I also need a stipend to pay the bills ($dollar figure) plus gas money, insurance, and so forth. This is strictly a business arrangement when it comes to the children and raising them. If he thinks SEX is that important that he is willing to abandon his family, I can't say I would want him around. My response to my husband was that at the time he fooled around, it was the worse time in our marriage and frankly, if not him then it could have been me. I forgave and moved on. This is 2007. If he has had unprotected sex with this woman, you need to go to the doctor and have yourself tested for all Sexually tranmitted diseases and specifically HIV and HPV. It's not like it use to be where we could just play around. There is some nasty shite floating around there so number one is your health. He is a grown man and his life decisions are what they are. I would suggest that you find another counselor since it didn't sound like the one you saw clicked with you. I've gone through five. Counseling is a long process that takes sometimes going through a few or switching out therapists because you don't click or you outgrow your current therapist. Take things slow. You have two wonderful children. It's summer. go to the park with them and start thinking of things you can do together as a family. The dynamics may change. **and sister I would not beg a man to stay with me for love or money. Grow some steel ovaries, take some of my female pride I'm blowing your way for you and know that no man is worth living with when they don't want to be there. You and your children deserve a better life than that.** Keep us posted!

Yup. I determined that when I get real nervous or excited, there is an increase in stomach acids and that has an impact on my stomach swelling. Having said that, I was probably puffy for about a month and it gradually went down. I have days where it's really flat and days where I have a muffin top.

The Fill Center in St. Petersburg, FL has a nurse practitioner doing the fills. Great gal, knowledgable and not in a rush. I had no complaints about her. In contrast, Dr. Kirshenbaum, the surgeon I went to in Colorado, had a seamless touch. Hit my port first go, frankly I couldn't see what all the big hullabaloo was about....then I went to the Fill Center. I think it all depends and wouldn't compare the one doing the fill by degree. My surgeon is skillful and made the fill completely carefree. My other experiences was more intense so I went from being calm to being in pain. It depends and experience is the best teacher.

<p>I think people just want to be helpful but don't count on others taking them REALLY SEEERIOUS. </p> <p> </p> <p>The first solids I went to were Toddler meals. I ate real slow, one bite at a time and chewed my food well. I imagined my food would get stuck and someone would have to do the Himlech on me. Truth is, the first time I had a JAM in my pipes it was on Pasta, very little sauch and I actually gobbled it a bit faster than I should have. When I ate meat, it was chicken, small bites, chew slowly, no liquids, no cold liquids at meal to be sure.</p> Adding this edit to myself: Thanks for emailing me for clarification. I expanded my letters to exaggerate meaning OVERLY took a caution WAY too seriously. Sometimes people really go far....take my mother for example...you can say to her "Mom, when you are on that medicine, you should watch how much alcohol you consume". The next day at dinner, when asked if she wants wine she'll say "OH NO. I can't drink because of my medication." Big difference between not drinking four Jack & Cokes and drinking one glass of wine to NO I CAN'T DRINK. That's what I meant...over responding.

Less invasive. No cutting of my organs. Short recovery. 20 years of poor success and continued weight gain on my part.

Please don't think of failure at this early point in the game. You stepped up to the plate in acknowledging you weren't successful doing it alone (I tried for 20 years). That alone is more than many are willing to do for themselves. Your tastebuds will change...atleast mine did. Tool is a word befitting because just like proper eating is a tool to good nutrition, the band is a tool to aid in that process of losing weight. I'm so thankful I had this done and as someone said before, they can't imagine eating the same things they use to eat. That's me. I can't imagine polishing off an entire mushroom burger from Chilli's. Plus there is so much support on this website. Best to you!

Portion control true but you can have 3 ounces of Godiva dark chocolate, 4 oz. of hazelnut truffles, one double fudge brownie, chocolate milk...hey, THAT's portion control right? No, up to us to diet.

I got the part where you don't like having people help you. Oh that hit me where I live but I got use to it knowing it would only be for a short time. I'm coming from a perspective of starting off at age 14 with dibilitating cramps that sometimes sent me to the doctor's office so pain to me is relative. I have a really high threshold for it. We all are different as I'm sure you will find reading all of our words on Lapbandtalk. Know that it gets better. I went from eating toddler food for two weeks to now, where I have more restriction than at that time, to eating Buffalo chicken tenders. So with time it will heal and you'll get back to a place where it's easier to function. Keep doing what you are doing which is checking your body pain level and discomfort level in perspective to what you can handle and doing something about it if you can't. Some things that helped me were Tylenol PM liquid. I took that after I completed what the doctor gave me. Don't drink anything cold. It constricts your stomach. Stick with room temperature or warm things. I drank a lot of Soup...soup I really liked and be prepared for suddenly realizing that you don't like something anymore. It's okay. From now on it is all a learning process. The new you. Since I was fearing I would end up living in my bed and eventually being removed from it by stretcher (exaggeration but not really) the band gave me back my life. I've lost 30 pounds and it's made a huge difference. I can only imagine after I lose another 30, and then eventually 200. Best to you.

Since you are on liquids a lot, there isn't much up to offer coming out the other end. BOOST is liquid Protein. I would have that for Breakfast followed by black coffee 30 minutes later. If that doesn't work..green tea.

Correction: You assume abortion is for first trimester. Abortions are performed up to a point when a fetus is viable outside the womb. A fetus is the only composition of cells that comprise a human being from onset.

This has always been a loaded question to me. If you don't pick choice, you've picked a choice. If you pick choice, you give no choice to the one who doesn't get to vote but ends up dead. Now the one who ends up dead, in any other circumstances where they were killed by the hands of another, the other would be charged with manslaughter, 2nd degree manslaughter or murder.

I had the same thing, the waking up at night too. I didn't know it was GAS...wow...who knew. But I did know that it was something to be expected. It got pretty painful and by painful I mean it was like I had pitched 9 innings for both teams with that same arm. Eventually it did completely resolve itself.

As each day passes you'll feel better and better. Remember the liquid diet is intended to shrink the liver so they can reach the sweet spot where you band will go very easily. ( my liver was the size of a caboose..kidding) You just help yourself that much more when you stick to this detox liquid diet. Keep going!!!

Hi there. I'm going to speak for just me but honestly, my taste buds changed. Yup. After the surgery it was like I could care less if I saw anything sugary ever again. Weird. So having some restriction ( think Thanksgiving FULL before you overstuff ) puts a cap on wanting to eat like you use to. If you want a sippy cup, go for it. I drink my liquids from a bottle, room temp (because cold makes the stomach constrict) and I drink my liquids anytime but with food. I stop drinking 30 minutes before I eat dinner and don't drink until 30 minutes after. The idea is to fill your stomach pouch with only food instead of liquid and food. That's what I was told so that's what I do. Coffee. I drink coffee daily. I'm a coffee snob. Gevalia Kona. My drink of choice. Toast to you love. Best of luck. I'm so glad I had this done and only wish I had it sooner!

Rice ( I run from this like a tsunami ) bread like loaf bread in the store. spaghetti tomato sauce like marinara messes my stomach up so I stay away from it.

She is your boss but you are not endentured to her. Her method of ruling her employees appears to be by bullying them. That's not something you need right now. It's tough enough just going through life and the obstacles out there for obese people. If you are open in the sense that you would tell her that you are going to be out then tell her about the hand surgery. Don't expect support. I always think of people who can't handle it if I take time off...."if I had a car wreck on the way to work today and ended up in the hospital, you'd survive my absence and I you'd still probably complain." anyway... You have a right to your medical privacy, you actually have a legal right. I wouldn't mention the Lap Band surgery. That's your business. *You don't owe her any explanation of your personal choices*

Hmmmm. I made some calls to Doctor's in the Tampa Bay area regarding aftercare. Two places I called did not impress me in any way shape or form. I'm looking for someone who equally cares about my weightloss as I do. When you are as heavy as I am, and have tried all the infomercial promises that offer no support, you can cut through that "feel" that comes with those who are not $o intere$ted in the $ize of you but the $ize of your pocketbook. I got the clear feeling that Kathy G. was interested in me, my surgery, and my aftercare...not just that fill. Again, she and her assistant were two great folks.

Yes, I have BCBS of FL and they do not cover anything related to weightloss surgery/Lap Band. Not to burst your bubble but call them back and ask for the name of a doctor in your area that does aftercare who is " in network ".

Panic disorder and Depression here. My little Klonipin goes down no sweat. My Paxil too. At first I crushed them but they are so small, the size of a baby aspirin, they have been easy to take.

No. I had my surgery in Colorado.

I went to the center in St. Pete on the 10th too. FYI to first time goers, it is VERY hard to find this facility. They are not labeled as Fill Center and are in a strip mall on 66th Street North ( right side of the street going south towards the Skyway). Their place is at the end and their sign says "Millenium Medical" The small sitting area is really deceiving as in the back there is a labyrinth of medical services going on. Kathy G is very friendly. I understand by the Fill people that she is not a doctor but a Nurse Practioner. Her assistant followed me from start to finish all the way to check out. Great gal and super friendly. I felt confident in their skills like they know what they are doing: RE: called my doctor to find out what size band I had and to confirm information. She had a hard time hitting my port but I have a lot of fat on my stomach. Kathy G was very focused on my diet/post op recovery period. I received a booklet with info. Overall satisfaction from 1-10 was an 8.