Betsyjane

Facets? I get it! I know a good Tanzanite guy when you're ready, for wholesale prices. Good color Tanzanite is getting soooo pricey! I'll also look at the show and take pics and gets cards if I see anything. Yeah, I thought I felt the IQ rising over here. Must have been you guys at dinner.

I'm gonna differ with the group..... Although I am tickled to have my lap band, and I know I couldn't do it without it, you know you can always make up a darned fine excuse to have the surgery put off....death in the family or sick aunt or whatever, and keep doing it on your own until you are convinced one way or the other...... Who knows. Maybe in another few months you'll have lost more and feel good about it, or you'll know that you need the help. I will say this...if you get the lap band now while you are on a roll, you'll be in the right frame of mind to succeed with it,adding it to the arsenal you already have.

Life is funny. I went to a woman's store who had said she wanted to buy a sapphire and diamond earring set I had. She didn't want it, but she did want a very specific type of earring, so I took her order... Dave and I went from there to the Star Cafe for lunch, and I was looking at the earrings...a woman came by...and bought them. All of which got me thinking. I go to the quarterly gem and jewelry show in Houston, and I am admitted into the wholesale section. I usually pick up a few things for friends at wholesale cost...I don't make anything on them, but since I'm there, it's no trouble to pick things up. Anyway, if any of you are looking for costume or fine jewelry and want me to get something for you, just tell me what it is and what price and I'll go grab it. (Or if anyone wants to go as my buying assistant, you're welcome to come with me and I'll get you stamped for the wholesale section. I go this Friday for the whole day, so unless you are craving a day of jewelry, you might want to arrange to meet me there rather than go with me.) It's at Reliant Park.

For now, all you do is study, learn, and pretend you ahve restriction, pracitcing eating like a bandster when in reality, you ahve your old habits and cravings. You won't be perfect. You're just waiting for your fills. I had pouch dilation awhile back, and after much soul searching, I found that it was due to being too tight in the mornings, and even liquids were sitting too long before they would go through. I had thought I needed another fill because I could eat way too much, but it was because I had a large pouch in which the food would just sit! Several days of liquids corrected it. I had to decide whether to get a slight unfill or change my morning habits. I now very slowly sip my morning shake...the pouch seems to be fine, but I still might do a slight unfill. Pouch dilation is something you don't want, but if you get it, you want to catch it fast so it doesn't become permanent. I caught mine because I thought I need ed a fill and the nurse saw it on the fluoro.

Well, I haven't seen this stupid behavior in ages.... I saw the trainer day before yesterday and worked out hard. Had a massage yesterday. Went back and did my exercise routine again today and then stayed for water aerobics. And then went and pigged out! I used to do that alot---exercise and then feel a big urge to binge. Of course with the band, the gbinge was 1.5 chicken McNuggets, eaten very slowly and carefully. Not like the odl days, but definitely it was a drive through fast food behavior. anybody else have post-exercise cravings? Or drive by eatings?

Daffodil- Remember until you have your first fill, you are wide open. You could probably eat a house if you put your mind to it. Just do the very best you can, and you'll see how things change after you have enough fills to hit your sweet spot.

I do! I do love you!

I don't remember....Do you have a knee brace?

I think I'm wanting to go all the way with this new lifestyle. I want to eat raw and whole foods, become a vegetarian (maybe), exercise religiously, etc. Is there anybody out there who feels the same way? I don't want to just eat everything, but in moderation. How do I get there and still get enough protein and frankly enough calories if I have to chew chew chew a bunch of raw veges?

How many other sites can you go to and read about green bowel movements. I tell you it's a great country. LOL I think it's worth calling your doctor and asking...if for nothing else than your own piece of mind.

I used to put metholatum under my stallion's nose so he couldn't smell the mares. Maybe that will work for cooking. LOL!

Aw shucks. I feel the same way. Now, Lana, I didnt' say I was enjoying it! Entertained by it is another way of saying if I don't laugh I'll cry sometimes. I'm totally obsessed with it because I don't have my patterns down. I'm all over the place. I envision someday eating incredibly healthy raw and whole foods routinely, and then when I am out to eat, having whatever I want to splurge on but in moderation. And eating mindfully. And being a dedicated exerciser, but in what style, I don't know. And diligent with water, no sugar, etc. I feel like none of it is a habit yet.....but I know where I want to go with it. I didn't unfill. Every day is a new day so I'm still not sure.... Suzanne really needed to do it! You should have seen her face at dinner. Barabara spotted "that" face immediately. But enough pickin' on Suzanne. I went to the first session with the personal trainer yesterday. We just did upper body. I'm really comfortable with her. Must be her age, which is the same as mine. So today I felt mildly sore, but it was enough of an excuse to go get a massage. Leaving the massage and feeling in tune with my body, I felt like I could eat right, exercise, and really develop a physical culture. But the feeling fades. Gotta figure out how to keep it going..... Hey Lana! Will you invite me to go for a brisk walk with you around The Commons someday?

Hey! I walked differently today. Not sure how, but I felt lighter and stronger. My first time.....

My weight loss happends in fits and starts. I'm always surprised when I've lost because I can't put togehter much of a cause and effect, unless I've lost while sick. Got to find a way to make it a positive reinforcement...... Curiouser and curiouser. I was reading a thread by a bandster in Australia who said that low carb diets are not in vogue there, and that lap Dr.s don't discourage any kind of carb eating, beyond watching simple carbs. So she has always eaten bread. It's hard to know how much of what we hear is fact and how much is opinion on which we base our expectations! I'm actually beginning to enjoy the mysterious nature of banding, and I'm letting go of needing black and white answers. As much depends on who I am and what I'm doing at the moment as what anybody else says is true. The complexity is pretty entertaining.

I agree with prbrooksie! I know guys think differently about porn, but there are a lot of scammers out there. I also hate the idea that yet another generation of guys will have unrealistic expeciations of women's bodies...a particularly sensitive issue on a lap band site. :-)

Bored, eh? That is also his problem to fix. Tell him his job now is to regain your trust. It is HIS problem to fix and not YOUR problem. Part of how you will begin to trust him again is when he is able to tell you what kinds of things he is going to put into his life so he doesn't get bored. What will he do when he is bored at home with the computer? What will he do when he is bored with his friends? What activities does he need to get involved in so he has less time to get bored? What new things to learn? This is his problem and he needs to struggle with it.

Smart move with Curves, Barbara. I wonder how much you influenced Dr. S to broaden his approach..... What fun to look forward to being shaped and pampered!

Make sure he knows that this is HIS problem and not YOURS. He now has to figure out how to regain your trust, and he has to tolerate however much time it takes to do that. This is not about your parenting. This is about him doing things to show you he can be trusted so he can slowly regain his priveleges. Don't let him pull that "other kids' parents" stuff. Whenever he points at you, point it back at him. His behavior got him into this...not yours!

What about a special dispensation just for prom night, if he earns it somehow. Prom is an awfully special memory. Maybe he can find a place to volunteer with lung cancer patients, lose his computer except for homework, and offer a full Saturday of free car washing to anyone who drives by.

Just ask him to fill you with Omnipack. It's thicker. Try the easiest solution.....

It ain't time out if it's locking him up with his toys. Physical punishment doesn't work with people or animals. Just causes resentment and sneakiness. I don't think it should be legislated but I think there ar emore effective ways than swatting.

I havent figured out why I'd want to bother drinking alcohol....potential problems, struggles, quick drunkenness and calories. What's the point?

I think complex carbs are fine, but with our limited portions, I want to focus on protein first just to make sure I get enough to keep my hair from falling out! And I agree with fresh foods! I've even tried some of the shortcut TV dinner style foods, and they are gross! As long as I'm making healthy changes in my life, I'm going to stick with whole foods/raw foods!

I promise I'll try to organize my thoughts into one email in the future.... My latest brief success: The center front of my bra was laying flat against my chest this morning (but not this evening).

My latest brief success! This morning, the center of the front of my bra was laying flat against my chest. But it's not tonight.....