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So I have been thinking about what exactly to say to my inlaws and I think I am just gonging to tell them I have a doc appt and I am on a diet. I really don't feel like it is everyone's business. I will need them to get my son ready for school on surgery day. SO I am planning on just saying My hubby and I have an early appt. If they ask questions I will just tell them it's personal. My husband has been better the past couple days. Maybe we are just avoiding talking about it. I am excited about getting a lapband but I am worried too. Is this really something I can do the rest of my life. I imagine myself at age 70 hurling because I drank to fast. Will I set off metal detectors? What if I need an MRI or a X-ray will the metal in the port cause problems? It is all just worry for the sake of worrying. I know it is going to take something Life altering like the Lap band to fix this problem. I have tried it alone and it doesn't work for me. I will be having my surgery a week before the next semester. I think by the end of the semester I am gonna look like a whole new person. I can't wait. May this be the last time I worry about wether or not I will fit in the desk at school. Most of my classes are in labs but I do have one that will be in a regular classroom. I don't want to be the fat nurse who's boobs are in your face when she leans over you. I wanna be the hot nurse who's boobs are in your face when she leans over you. :cursing: Wohooo.I should be at goal by the time I graduate. What a feeling that will be. I will be Starting Over.:thumbup:

I suffer from depression too and need to lose the same as you. The thing is everyone thinks I am lazy. I really am sick. The meds help but because of the weight and meds I am exhausted all the time. I am overcoming it though. I was so sick at one point I couldn't even drive because I would fall asleep. Now I am doing so well, I went back to nursing school. Take time out for you everyday. Even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom for a bubble bath. You are worth it. Keep working with your doc. It is a long road out of depression but if you keep fighting it good days will come.

It could be gas. They use it to "inflate" you during surgery so they can see. Walking around should help. It could also be referred pain, because of the way the nerves run through our body pain in the internal organs could reveal itself as pain superficially in a totally different area of the body.

Kiz is right about the last meal syndrome. I have thought that many times. It is a battle for me to stick to the doctor prescribed diet. My Doc wants me going low carb. Not every Doc does. They are all different. My doc gave me only 2 rules right now (preband) limit carbs to 30 per day and no snacking between meals. Lowering my carbs though has meant for me to give up regular soda. In the past month I have had 3 diet soda's I am not a huge fan of it. A good place to start is by going to an orientation. Many docs offer this in a group setting. It can give you a feel for the doc and how their office runs and an idea about what diet they recommend. Good luck.

Congrats on doing so well despite being hungry. I have found that with Doctor's sometimes they are hearing us but not really listening. I would make an appt with him ASAP and tell him I am starving and I don't feel any resitriction. I need a fill today. Don't give up. This is your life don't leave it to him.

Congrats. Sorry about all the drama though.

So I have been thinking about what exactly to say to my inlaws and I think I am just gonging to tell them I have a doc appt and I am on a diet. I really don't feel like it is everyone's business. I will need them to get my son ready for school on surgery day. SO I am planning on just saying My hubby and I have an early appt. If they ask questions I will just tell them it's personal. My husband has been better the past couple days. Maybe we are just avoiding talking about it. I am excited about getting a lapband but I am worried too. Is this really something I can do the rest of my life. I imagine myself at age 70 hurling because I drank to fast. Will I set off metal detectors? What if I need an MRI or a X-ray will the metal in the port cause problems? It is all just worry for the sake of worrying. I know it is going to take something Life altering like the Lap band to fix this problem. I have tried it alone and it doesn't work for me. I will be having my surgery a week before the next semester. I think by the end of the semester I am gonna look like a whole new person. I can't wait. May this be the last time I worry about wether or not I will fit in the desk at school. Most of my classes are in labs but I do have one that will be in a regular classroom. I don't want to be the fat nurse who's boobs are in your face when she leans over you. I wanna be the hot nurse who's boobs are in your face when she leans over you. :crying: Wohooo.I should be at goal by the time I graduate. What a feeling that will be. I will be Starting Over.:sneaky:

Good morning all. So far so good today. Hubby made pancakes for breakfasts but I stuck to my plan. My son slept with me last night so I did sleep a bit better. Tonite should be much better. I intend not to cheat again today. I am trying to get creative with my food because it gets a little boring on the low carb but that swhat my doc wants. I had sausage this morning and instead of putting syrup on it I put spagetti sauce and mozzerella. It was yummy. Anyhow just checking in.

I know at some point I must tell my in laws that I am having this surgery. We live with them and this is not something that I can hide. I wish I could. The more I get to know my MIL the more I realize how closed minded and judgemental she is. She judges everyone and for some reason I guess it didn't hit me till the past few months that,YES, she judges me too. So I talked to my husband last night to decide when and how we are going to break the news. Come to find out my husband thinks I am selfish for wanting this surgery. He feels I haven't considered his feelings at all about this. WTH? He feels like I am spending his money all on my self. (now who is selfish) He was so mad because in order to save up for the surgery I have been taking money out of the account and stashing it in the house. That way I know it won't be spent. Wed he was home all day. He had to work the night shift. On his way to work he wanted to grab a burger. (instead of cooking himself dinner with all the free time he had wed). I told him there was no money left in the account he had already spent it all. (on fast food) So because I took the money out for surgery and he couldn't have a burger I am selfish. My surgery should in no way interfer with his life. He shouldn't have to sacrifice like me and my son do because he is "working his butt off". He deserves to spend his money whenever and however he wants and me and our son should just go without? Needless to say, we got in a huge fight. He did apologize this morning. I am still taking the money out and hiding it because I don't want it thrown away on fast and convenient foods. I still plan on going through with this surgery. At some point I still need to tell my inlaws. I am not sure how to handle my MIL because I know she is going to flip out and I don't know what to say. I mentioned it to her before to kinda get a feel of how she feels about it. She told me if I would stop eatting white food I would lose weight. Personally I have never heard of the white food diet. I have never found a diet that people consistently lost 150 like I need. Only WLS can do that consistently.

I appreciate your honesty. Thank you for posting this.

It is actually called deferred pain. I just studied this in my anatomy class. With the way our nerves run through our body we will sometimes have internal pain that will be deferred to a more superficial place on the body. Here is a blog about it with a pic Anatomy Notes: Referred pain.. This teacher calls it referred pain. Hope you have a quick recovery.

I just recently jumped in. I really liked reading this thread because everyone seemed so friendly and welcoming to each other. I have had a little bit of a rough start but hope to check in daily like everyone else seems to do. I am 28, married, I have a 5 yr old boy and will be banded soon. I am also a nursing student. I am getting kind of nervous about next semester coming because I never know if I will fit in the desk at school. Hopefully I will have lost a good 20 pounds by then and it won't be an issue. I have had a good day. Got some studying done and have stayed within the docs prescribed diet. This is the first day that I made it all day without going out of bounds. I realized yesterday I have 2 weeks til I meet with the doc again and he is going to expect some weight loss. I am am just thankful that for once I am not gaining. I have totally given up soda. Another huge step. My husband has been working night shift. Usually my inlaws are home but last night it was just me and the kiddo. I didn't sleep at all. I swear I heard footsteps all night. Tonite I got to go it alone again. Even with my tear gas by my bed I am still scared to be out here alone. We live way out in the country. I feel like I really wouldn't be able to protect myself if something happened.thankfully this will be the last night. My inlaws return tommorrow.

I am a CYSTer too. My husband and I have gotten use to the idea of not having another child but now I am starting to think who knows what life will bring in a few years. I may be healthy enough to have another child. I wasn't diagnosed until we started trying for our second child. I also have insulin resistance and my endo recommended the lap band to help lose the weight. I can't wait to see what the future holds.:w00t:

I know at some point I must tell my in laws that I am having this surgery. We live with them and this is not something that I can hide. I wish I could. The more I get to know my MIL the more I realize how closed minded and judgemental she is. She judges everyone and for some reason I guess it didn't hit me till the past few months that,YES, she judges me too. So I talked to my husband last night to decide when and how we are going to break the news. Come to find out my husband thinks I am selfish for wanting this surgery. He feels I haven't considered his feelings at all about this. WTH? He feels like I am spending his money all on my self. (now who is selfish) He was so mad because in order to save up for the surgery I have been taking money out of the account and stashing it in the house. That way I know it won't be spent. Wed he was home all day. He had to work the night shift. On his way to work he wanted to grab a burger. (instead of cooking himself dinner with all the free time he had wed). I told him there was no money left in the account he had already spent it all. (on fast food) So because I took the money out for surgery and he couldn't have a burger I am selfish. My surgery should in no way interfer with his life. He shouldn't have to sacrifice like me and my son do because he is "working his butt off". He deserves to spend his money whenever and however he wants and me and our son should just go without? Needless to say, we got in a huge fight. He did apologize this morning. I am still taking the money out and hiding it because I don't want it thrown away on fast and convenient foods. I still plan on going through with this surgery. At some point I still need to tell my inlaws. I am not sure how to handle my MIL because I know she is going to flip out and I don't know what to say. I mentioned it to her before to kinda get a feel of how she feels about it. She told me if I would stop eatting white food I would lose weight. Personally I have never heard of the white food diet. I have never found a diet that people consistently lost 150 like I need. Only WLS can do that consistently.

Thanks everyone. I did have a better day today. Hubby actually apologized. We are just not getting along lately. We were in counseling but stopped going because he lost his job and the insurance to boot. I have changed alot in the past 2-3 years and he is freakin out about it. This lapband is just another change. I have always been very passive and overly submissive. He is not use to me saying my needs count too. I am finally taking care of myself and he is threatened by it. I never felt I was worthy of my needs being met. Then I got really ill. The docs told me I have to start taking care of myself, (by following treatment plans). Through all of it I have learned what I need and have gained the confidence to say "I need...". To him this is selfish. My docs tried to explain this to him. He went with me to meet my surgeon and he doesn't believe the lap band is the way to go. Though he can offer no alternative solutions. Sorry to put all this out there thanks for listening. When will yall be coming to Florida? I live in Florida and would like to maybe meet up with yall for the day and hang out, have lunch while your here. I have finals the next couple weeks but after that I am free.:wink2:

Well, I talked to my husband and I brought up the situation. Told him we needed to go ahead and tell her. Only to find out my husband thinks I am selfish for wanting this surgery and he doesn't want me to spend HIS money on it. In his words I am just "using" him. So I am going to go through with the surgery but I may not be married by the end of all this. We have been struggling for awhile now so I am not in total shock. Every little thing has become a fight for us so I am not surprised that this has. He thinks he owns me. Thank you all for your advice. I am gonna need more of it later I know.

Hey everyone, I have been by myself all day. No classes for me but everyone else here is at work and school. Something that has been on my mind the past few days is telling my MIL and FIL that I am having the surgery. We have been living with them for a year and a half and my MIL almost always cooks dinner. My surgeon wants my eatting less than 30 carbs a day and the dinner she prepares are usually a meat with corn or beans, potatos and biscuits. High carb. I have been trying to eat just the meat and I put the rest on my plate but don't touch it. I mentioned the lap band surgery to her a few months ago (before I was sure I was gonna have it) and she was very negative. She told me If I would stay away from "white" food and workout the weight would melt off. I just don't believe this. I have tried all the diets that make sense and some that don't. The most I have ever lost is 30 pounds (slimfast) only to gain it back. I sure all of you have experienced this too. Anyway, she is going to find out because we live here. There is alot of tension between us. We don't get along anymore. I know she is gonna freak out and I don't know how to handle it. I have waited as long as I can. I will cook my own meals but then she will want to know why I am not eatting her high carb meal. She will probably tell my husband all sorts of ugly stuff about me because I am having this surgery. Like I am wasting our money, or cheating weightloss. She is going to attack me. But not to my face to my husbands. I could end up losing his support. I really feel like this is my health and my decision, MY business and no one else's business.

I am scheduled for banding in Jan also. I am on medicare though so I only had to met with a nutritionist and fitness counselor. That was per my doc's request though. I met with the doc again in 2 weeks. I have had the same thoughts about eat now what I can because after the band it will be limited but I have decided not to do that. I want to lose weight before surgery because I am so anxious about having "surgery". It terrifies me. I want to be as healthy as possible. Plus I am ready to face my demons carbs and soda. I have beat soda now but am still battling the carbs. My doc wants me on 30 carbs a day. I usually eat carbs all day long. He also says only 3 meals a day. NO Snacks. Which I have found to be really hard. My family eats dinner so late I have started eatting the rest of my meals later so I don't feel the urge to snack. Anyway, I don't want to be battleing these things right after I have surgery and am suppose to be on liquids. I would not be able to do it.

I can't believe my last blog had so many views and comments. Thank you all for taking time out of your day to encourage me. I had a fitness and nutrition appt today. The fitness appt was just 15 min and she gave me some strength training excercises to do but didn't talk to me at all about cardio. She did mention that I would need to build up some muscle to fill in the skin. I kinda felt gipped from the appt though. We didn't talk at all about how much and how often I am to do these excercises and it was the same excercises she gives everyone. It just felt impersonal. The nutrition appt was alot of info. It was an hour long. She was teaching me and this other guy at the same time. Thankfully I only have 2 days of clear liquids preop. I have seen some of you have 2 weeks. Wow. She said the low carb diet will shrink my liver just as well as a liquid diet so they don't require it. She gaves us list of good, bad and inbetween foods. I am just surprised at myself for going through with this. I feel like I am letting go of who I used to be (an allstar athlete) and admitting I am not that person anymore. I have mommy gut and married butt. My body is scarred by the life I have lived. On the flipside though I can change things. I can be a Milf lol jk. I can be a mommy who lost the gut and a wife who lost the butt. Claim victory over my body again. Plus the psych class I am taking has shown Me I still think I am living in the glory days. I have to just admit This was a sad place to be. Now, I am taking my first step outta here. Before I know it my thirties will really be the new twenties. I learned from 2 different psychologist that just invisioning yourself achieving your goals puts you at a greater advantage of achieving them. So, Here it is, Graduation day. I am walking across the stage in the auditorium, proud, NOT the least bit anxious, I have earned my diploma and am now officially a nurse. I have a ton of friends and family cheering me on because not only did I shed the weight I have shed the fear of talking to new people. I stand up now to give a validictorian speech. (By then I hope I will have learned to spell it correctly). For the first time I will address the crowd without crying out of fear. I am proud of who I have become, outgoing, energetic, joyful, fullfilled, genuine (no more holding back tears and faking a smile). This will be the new me. Those of you who wanna take this step with me leave a comment about who you will be in two or three years. I have used this technique to acommplish many things. I used to be so ill I couldn't even drive. Now I drive, have a family and attend school. Despite still being ill. Here's to a life well spent.

I have the same date.Yay.

You really are doing a great job. Breaking it down into small goals is a great way to look at things. Let go of the guilt it gets you no where words of the big OPRAH. Just allow yourself to feel the JOY of being thin and healthy. That will motivate you to get there. If it feels great now just imagine how it will feel when you get there. I take it one meal at a time.

Just invision yourself healthy, thin and happy. Even take the time out to draw it on paper. The new you. Keep it in you purse or post it up if you'd like. You can do this. You want to do this. It is not impossible.

I don't want my son to be embarrassed either. Or my hubby. I want him to be proud to introduce me to his coworkers. Good Luck. Here's to your new life.