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Your right, my apologies. That was immature of me. I get frustrated when people get so bent out of shape over something that was meant to be a help. To be honest. Its not more convenient to me. I am concerned about new people here just like the post Jill mentioned above. The exact same thing happened to me. Just trying to avoid alienating people right when they join this sight.Thats it period. If I had know to PM Alexandra privately, I probably would have. I have no idea who is who here, there is no list that I can find of owners or moderators. I only go by what I see in people tag lines

Your right laurend. We should keep it this way because it is conveinent for you. God forbid anyone else have an idea that might benefit this LAP-BAND site.

Your right. But I love the compasionate "love it or leave it" mentality this place has become.

That's just it, I wasn't asking to restrict your viewing or censor you in any way, just pull it up in a different manner. To help others. Is it so wrong to want to help others?

Like talking to a brick wall!

I am not debating that and haven't suggested eliminating that. I am trying to help the new members not immediately be exposed to it. Let them find the support they need and want and if they venture down the forums, they can join in only if they want.

Like I said before. I was trying to come up with a good compromise without creating censorship. People are acting like I asked them to cut off an arm or leg or something. Why does everyone get so defensive. If I didn't like this board, I would have left and never posted. I simply made a suggestion trying to make things better. I know from experience that I clicked on a link when I was fairly new, not paying attention to what forum it was in. It was in the New Post section and I had no clue that there was even an R&R section. Because I asked why that type of discussion was appropriate, I was scolded and told that they could say what they wanted because it was in the R&R. Lesson learned for me. I have heard this happen several times lately and wanted to help avoid this for future newbies. Sorry for hitting a nerve while trying to make this a positive place to be.

That is one opinion. and my apologies, I forget laurend is not a moderator as I was counting her as well in the plural.

This doesn't address the issue with new members not knowing what the R&R section is all about.

Mark, That would fall under "other" I'm afraid

I allowed multiple votes. In case more than one was wanted. If you want an ignore featur and not to show up in new posts, you can, or leave as it and Other, you can.

Sorry I missed this Drews! You have done so well, even with your early setbacks. It has been and will continue to be wonderful sharing this journey with you and all my May 2006 bandsters! You conitinue to inspire and push me. Congrats!

I posted a poll in the Lounge area, to get a broader perspectice other than us who visit the R&R section. Here is the link: http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=34851

As to not sway the vote, I will not comment here. Please read the choices and vote what your thoughts are. It is regards to the linked thread. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=34841

How do I add a poll to this htread, ot do I need to start e new one? I think the moderators would be shocked how much in the monority there are on this!

This will never change, I shouldn't have even brought it up. This board is run by people who post probably at least 75% of their posts (looking at the posting history) in the R&R section and concentrate less on lap-band support.

Been away for a bit. I suggested this as a good comprimise as I have seen it work well on other boards. Wheetsin, your right, it does say on the far right hand side what forum its in, but as a newbie, I had no idea what I was getting into. I was simply trying to make this a better board for Lap-Band support which should be the main resaon for this board. The other stuff is fine if you want, but should be secondary. Thats just my opinion. Otherwise we should rename LapBandTalk.Com to AthiestChristianBoyloveMormanAbortionTalk.com. Maybe we really need to re-evaluate our priorities here.

I am not telling anyone they don't have a choice to have a baby or not. My only point, and this is for men and women, make that decision before you have sex. Any sex can result in pregnancy no matter what precautions you might take. All I am saying that if you choose to have sex, their might be consequences. This is not about religion or morals, its about personal responsibility and accountability. Flame me if you want

Its ashame too, I got so much support here too and still do from some ongoing threads. THe problem is that I got suckered into the R&R section by looking in the New Posts section and not knowing what I was getting into. As heated as some of the threads get, its hard not to form opinions of others and have ill feelings because of some of the things said and that carries over to the other, supportive, threads.

Would it be possible for off topic threads to not be shown in the New Posts section at the top. I belong to anther board with an identical format and it was decided off topic threads would not shown there. I have read several posts and I did this at one point as well, that when you click on the new post section, you don't really know what forum its in. Its obvious most are comfortable having the Rants and Raves section and have turned this board into a general board instead of a support tool. For the newbies looking for support, I think it would be a great idea for them to see only the on topic things when they check out new posts and if they want to verture further, they can. Imagine the suprise on many newbies logging in and click on new posts only to see topics on abortion, boy love, religion, etc. Just a thought To participate in a poll, click the link: http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=34851

Sorry, Mark. According to the others, mine and your opinions are not wanted or needed because we are men.

Your correct, my apologies. I will be quiet.

I am pro choice, but I think the choice should be made before you sleep with someone. Anytime sex is involved, pregnancy can be an outcome, no birth control is 100%. Abortion should not be used as birth control. And as for no man should have a say so, while the mother carried the baby, the baby is genetically half of the man's, so why should he not have a say in the matter if he is the father. That is crap! Clearly I am pro-life (but not for religious reasons) Any one who has seen an ultra-sounds, even with a very young fetus and say its not a life is crazy. All due respect to you BOH ( my fellow NSU buddy) but I have to disagree. Just my 2 cents.

I would vote neither. Just because it says yogurt doesn't mean its a healthy food choice. Its is still full of fats and sugars and "empty calories".

Well, here we are, One year post op. May was a popular month and I have enjoyed and been inspired by all my May Bandster partners. What can i say other than I love my band. It has been one of the best years oof my life. I feel like I have my life back Let me post some before and after stats: Before/After 334/175-180(at goal and maintaining) 56 inch waist/34 inch waist (pant size) 54% body fat/19% body fat XXXL/Med to Large (shirt size) borderline diabetic with high blood pressure/low-normal range for both I have gotten my life back because of the Band. I can do anything I want to now and not have to worry about if I am to heavy or large to participate. I have lost weight before, but never reached my goal and never kept it off. I have been at goal for 3 months now and have maintained. Thanks to you all for sharing this journey with me. __________________