MADE IT 2 MY GOAL..OH YEAH

Hey Paula, you know, when I found out they were going to Arbys I ask my mom and dad both nicely if they would take the kids down there to eat instead of bringing it home and me having to smell it and see it. My mom ask if it would be easier if they brought it back and just went out back to eat it, and before I could answer this, my dad said no. My dad wasn't really all for me having this surgery done. After he said no, I just turned and walked away. While he was gone to get the food, my mom and I talked. She thinks that food is like a fear now and I need to face it head on. That if I leave to go to another room whenever food is around, it will only get worse. The only way I could explain this to her was like this. She smokes so I told her, its like if you were trying to to stop smoking and everyone around you was still smoking and wanted to go be right in the middle of them smoking, it would be so tempting for you to pick up that cigg. lite it and start smoking it. That is how it is with me, when I see food that is hot and smells good, Im going to want to eat it, it doesnt matter if i want to eat it or not, it is a response that I have had for so long. I don't think she completely understood what I was trying to say cause she seemed to get mad at me for saying it. My dad did say he was sorry for what he said, but then turned around and ask me if I wanted to come in there with them while they all were eating and me eat some jello or a popsicle. When I told him I'd rather not, he told me I needed to just suck it up. I know that since nobody else in the house has had this done, there is no way in the world they know what I am going through. There are no support groups close to where I live except for 1 and it is like 30 minutes away and I have to pay $40.00 to attend it. I don't have the gas money to get there much less the money to pay to attend. So what do I do? This site does help alot, because you know what I am going through. I just don't want to push the people I love the most away from me and I am scared that is just what I am going to do.

Ok, I post on here quite alot and answer posts as well whenever I can. I has kinda posted on this subject before but not the way I am now. I was banded on Aug.18. so I am 4 days post-op. I have done good on my liquid diet, I havent cheated (although I have wanted to so bad). I know that in the end, I will look back at all of this and know it was worth it, but right now, I'm not so sure if it is or isn't. Let me explain. It's not that I am hungry. This only happens when it is supper time. During the day when I am alone and don't have to worry about anyone eating, I am fine. I'm cool. But, when it is time for everyone to eat, I start getting so mad at everyone. Like tonight. The kids and my parents had Arby's for supper. When I found out my dad was going to get Arbys I went crazy. I started crying saying that everyone gets to eat anything they want but me, I'm stuck here eating sugar free jello and sugar free popsicles and drinking broth and waters. My mom calmed me down enough to where I stopped crying. After they all ate, my dad took the kids fishing for a couple hours (I guess so that I could have a little relaxing time). My husband gets home at 8 p.m. after being at work since around 2 this morning. He sits with me for a while and we talk and stuff. We make sure the kids get their showers and we take ours. Then he goes into the kitchen and warms him up 2 Arby sandwhiches and a large thing of Arby Fries, puts Arbys sauce on his fries and sandwhich, gets him a Mountain Dew, and starts eating a drinking. Then my youngest son decides he wants to eat another Arby sandwhich then so does my dad (we are staying with my folks for a while). Once again, I start to become hateful. Talking about it must be nice to eat something like that instead of sucking something down. I feel that when the eat this kind of stuff infront of me, they don't care one bit about what I am having to go through. I know I shouldn't get mad cause they have to eat even though I can't. So what's wrong with me. To beat it all, I haven't only lost eating for now, I have also had to quite smoking (cold turkey), and had to stop drinking cokes. All at one time. I thought that I'd be able to atleast cut down on my smoking while going through this but I had to stop all at once. I have bad asthma (which actually has improved alot)and plus it isn't good for the band. And everyone knows about the caffine. So, please, can someone please help me. Am I losing it, am I going crazy? What? Is anyone else having these feeling like I am, or am I the only one?

Sounds like clumping. Are you eating to fast or to much and are you eating what was reccomended? I was told that if you eat to much or to fast and not what you are suppose to this is what will happen. I hope you get to feeling better.

I found that walking (A WHOLE LOT) help to ease the gas pains.

I found that walking (a whole lot) help get rid of the gas pains.

We went to Disney in March of this year and I can tell you now, if you ended up eating inside the park you better be rich. My hubsand and I are going back in October and what I am planning on doing is taking buying a little grocries while we are there and packing a little lunch to take to the parks with us.

I have talked to a few people and we all agree that it would be a good idea to start a little chat room and invite everyone who was banded on 08/18. Why only those banded on 8/18? Because we all are basically going through the same things at the same times. I (along with a few other people) think it would be a good support group, maybe be able to vent and listen to people vent, share our stories, our worries and other things. So, if you were banded on August 18 and would like to join this chat room please click on the link below and it will take you directly to the chatroom. I hope that whoever reads this will click this link. If you do and nobody is there at the time, please keep going back to it. I know that I will check on it several times a day and hopefully I will be able to meet someone in there. If you want to, my email is sandmdeering@gmail.com, you are more than welcome to email me. OK, here comes the link for the chatroom. ChatMaker.net - Make your own chat room! - #August18thbandbuddies :wink2:

I am on a clear liquid diet until Sept. 1. We are having a cookout that day. Everyone is going to have hamburgers and hotdogs that day except for me. I am going to have my hubby grill me up a small piece of boneless chicken, then I am going to put it in the blender with some seasonings and chicken broth and puree it (since Phase 2 calls for pureed foods) Now I have a question. In my folder it says that you can have 1 1/2 ounces 3 times a day. No snacking between meals and remember ur fluids and Protein. I am assuming that the 1 1/2 ounces means for everything not per food you want to eat, right? I think 1 1/2 ounces of chicken should be plenty. I think that I am going to drink me a slimfast sometime during that day so that I stay fuller longer. I have been complaining about not being able to eat "real" food. But as I think about it, I am afraid of when I start Phase 2. I mean, you are still really limited as to what and how much you are allowed to eat, but you get 1 1/2 ounces 3 times a day, and I'm really afraid that I am going to end up gaining instead of losing. Does anyone else have that fear?

:smile:I can advance to PHASE 2 on Sept.1. I was guessing that the reason for the liquid diet is for the healing process. The computer is my hobby and it does help alot. I know this is all going to be worth it in the end so I dont mean to complain. I just really needed to vent. Ive tried to say the same thing that I said on here to my husband, my mom, and my dad, but none of them have been through this and don't have any idea what it is like.

I was banded on the 18th also and was able to have protein shakes as soon as I got to my room. I wouldve drank them if the nurses had brought them to me but they never did. I dont have hunger pains like you are talking about, but boy is my stomach growling. I don't think I can remember my stomach growling as much as it does now. I don't like the broth either but I have found something pretty darn good. I have drank down some vegetable beef broth and it was actually really good. Plus you get get like chicken Noodle Soup and drain the broth out of it and drink it. Give the Noodles to one of your kids or someone else. Give the Veggie broth and Chicken Noodle Soup broth a try, I think you may like it. As for the sticky stuff from the tape, I have no clue as to how to get it off. I have the same problem. It seems like the more I rub off, the more comes back.

Ok I had my lapband done on the 18th and I am going CRAZY!!! My diet consists of G2, bottled water, sugar free Jello, sugar free popscicles, and broths. I'm about tired of it. You wanna know whats worse though. The commericals on TV. I keep seeing commercials with these huge beautiful juicy hot bacon cheeseburgers with tomatoes, lettuce, and onions. (I hate onions, but at this point if you'd hand me one I'd eat it) I called the Doctors office today to see if maybe I could eat some cream of chicken ( i love cream of chicken) and of course, NO was the answer. I have to stay on clear liquids only. Someone answer this for me. Why the clear liquids? I know Phase 2 is to teach you how to each in moderation again not sure about whats beyound that but I have no idea what this liquid diet is for. Maybe for you stomach to get use to having something wrapped around it, for the healing process, I DONT KNOW. All I know is, I want something real!! Can someone please tell me how they got through this Phase without wanting to smack someone beside you because they have chips or even worse, a small slice of pizza? PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Welcome to the site Deborah and congrads on your lapband. I was banded only 1 day before you. So I guess we are pretty much going through the same process at the same time. I like yourself am only able to do liquids, jello, the broth from the soups, and Protein Shakes until Sept.1. But, I'm not suppose to eat pudding. :smile2: Anyways, I'm glad to hear you are doing well with your recovery.

OK, so I have noticed that since I got banded on Aug 18th, my skin has been really really oily. I don't have oily skin either. I have been washing my face like crazy cause of this and even been using daily oil control stuff from pro-active but it's not working. It's 3:15 in the morning and I just got up to use the bathroom, rubbed my forehead and it was like rubbing your hand across silk, it was that oily. Is anyone else going through this or is it just me and can anyone give me some advice about it?

I had 2 C-Sections, this procedure (in my opinion) was nothing compared with pain of the 1st C-Section, now with the 2nd C-Section, I can honestly say, this this procedure, I had less pain with the 2nd C-Section.

You know, its funny. The Doctors says that you are back to feeling normal (pain wise) in about 2 days. The post above me says it took about a week and a half and this is day 2 for me. I can't help but to wonder, what is normal to the doctors.

wow there sure is alot of 18th bandsters out there. I had no idea. I just woke up from a nap and it took me all of 5 minutes to get up from the bed cause of the pain. If its not any better by tomorrow, I'm calling the doctor and see what i can find out. To the woman that was talking about her legs hurting, it may just be muscle cramps from the surgery. They will work themselves out. Just walk as much as you can without overdoing it, and warmth helps it alot. Good luck to everyone!!

It's normal to be scared. This is a big change that we all are making in our lives. It's not like a diet that when you get tired of doing it, you can say the Hell with it and quit. This is something that will take dedication and determination. Trust me, I just had my lapband done monday (Aug 18), the whole way up there I was finding reasons not to do it. I even tried to think of reasons right up until the took me to the OR. But also, trust me, once it is over and done with, you start your recovering period and start thinking about how much better you are going to feel and look, you will realize it is worth it.

Well everyone, I am now banded. I had my surgery on the 18th (AUG), stayed overnight and come back home on the 19th. I have to tell you the truth though, on the way to the hospital up until they gave me some happy juice on the way to the OR, I was about to back out of having it done. Yeah, my nerves got the best of me. Thank goodness for the happy juice. I am home recovering pretty well. I am still a little bit swollen, I am still in alot of pain, (my hubby says that where the pain is, is where the port is). It hurts to get up, it hurts to sit down, it hurts to move. He says that I have to move around or it wont get any better. So can someone please tell me how long it was before you stopped hurting so bad where your port is?

Well, tomorrow is my surgery date and I'm really looking forward to it. Sure, I still have some butterflies but I know this is normal. I got up this morning and went to Church, come home, straightened up bedroom, packed my stuff, went and got groceries, and now I am sitting here on the computer typing down my thoughts hoping someone will take the time to sit back and read this. I'm sure alot of you will be reading this actually. I made up my mind last week that tonight I am having a big Steak, Baked Potato, salad, with a Coke to drink. For dessert, I am having a slice on Peach Cobbler. My Aunt calls it "my last REAL meal". lol Tomorrow morning, I have to be up at 6:00 to get all the kids ready for for school and down to the bus stop. After they get on the bus, my husband and I are leaving for our 2 hour drive to Knoxville, TN. I'm sure by the time we hit the interstate, my stomach will be full of huge butterflies. I have to be at the hospital at 10:00 a.m. and I guess they will take me to the OR around 11:30 or so, I'm not sure. My son ask me today how skinny I would be when I got back home. He is only 7. I had to explain to him that it would take time for me to lose the weight, and he says, OH, I thought you lost it instantly. LOL, I couldn't help but to laugh at it. I know that everything will be fine during and after the porcedure. I have a wonderful surgeon, (I have been told he is one of the best in the Country), and he has a wonderful staff working with him. But to be honest, I'm not looking forward to having to have only liquids for 2-4 weeks, or however long it will be. But, it is part of what makes the band work and part of my way to becoming a better and happier Stacy. So, I will take it with a smile on my face and liquids in my belly. lol For everyone out there who is waiting to be banded, I wish you the best of luck and lots of weight loss. For those of you who have already had it done, I wish you the best of luck also and I hope you find all that you have looked for with your band.

Good luck tomorrow. Nerves are just part of having this procedure done. You wouldn't be normal if you didn't have atleast the slighest fear. I'm having mine done tomorrow also and I have little butterflies circling around in my tummy also. I'm sure everything will go just fine. Best of luck to you!!

I know exactly what you are going through. I am scheduled to be at the hospital at 10 a.m. Monday morning for my surgery. I (unlike you) haven't been running all over town though. lol I haven't packed the first thing yet, still doing laundry (guess I'll finish it tomorrow after I get home from church), got to get the house cleaned, get the kids cloths out for Tuesday since I wont be here (my mom is getting all 4 kids off to school for me Tuesday), got to go pick up some grocries for next week (which I don't really want to do since I wont be able to eat them), but hey, everyone else has to eat huh. The only thing that I have completely done and ready for is I went and got my meds filled. Does anyone else have to bring your pain meds with you for post-op pains? My advise to anyone having surgery in the next few days, sit back, take a deep deep breath, and relax for a few seconds and not get caught up in all the Choas. OH and don't forget to let that deep deep breath out hehehe. Good luck to you on Monday, hey we can be band buddies since we are having it done on the same day. I'm going to Knoxville, Tn to have mine done. How about you, where are you having yours done?

That's wonderful, I'm so excited for you! I know it will make things alot easier for you on Monday. My husband is taking off Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday to be with me eventhough, I get out of the hospital on Tuesday. LOOK OUT AUGUST 18, HERE WE COME!!!

OK gotcha now. Hum, I'm sure like the rest of my body, it has more fatty tissue that it should!!! But like most everyone else, it's been so long since I have been able to see it, I couldn't tell you yes or no.

I'm still waiting for Aug the 18th to be banded. My say in this is, if the doc says no physical activity (actual sex) go for the next best thing. Oral. have him go down on you first and if you feel like it afterwards, (so you don't have to bed over any) lay flat on the bed and get him to get on his knees next to your head and give him what he wants from the side. It works for me and my hubby with no complaints at all

OK, I'm either really young or have really been out of the loop for quite a while. What the heck in a MONS?