LindsayT

I have a bunch of unopened protein broths (mostly bone broths). I would love to give away to someone who has surgery coming up. I don't want to throw it away. Or if anyone has a suggestion on what to do with it, I would love some recommendations. I could make soup with it, but it is mostly single serving, dry pouches. I am willing to meet somewhere public. If this post isn't allowed, I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry that happened. And I know how much hurtful words from your spouse can really shake one at their core. Could you find a marriage counselor who does online video calls? I think therapy is the only viable option to get to the root of what's going on. Or maybe a bariatric surgery support group for partners. Someone had mentioned that he may feel threatened by your weight loss. That is not an uncommon problem; especially if the partner is insecure. Maybe try to build up his security. Men normally respond to verbal praise. For example, in the first few weeks after my surgery, my husband was a very grumpy person to be around. When I commented on it, he blew up and said how overwhelmed he felt with work, taking care of a large portion of the home responsibilities, that it's been all about me and my recovery, and a few other things. I took some time to process, and in the right timing, I thanked him for all he's doing and told him that it did not go unnoticed. I reassured him and built him back up. Since then, things have been going really well. Your therapist may have some other ideas.

As far as cooking. Most recipes can be modified to fit our diets. Please continue to enjoy cooking and your beautiful cookbooks. Eating after surgery and healed doesn't have to be bland and boring.

Great points. Thanks!

A fellow RVer! Great ideas. And they all sound delicious. Enjoy the camping season!

Is it with all liquids, hot and cold? Sometimes, warmer liquids feel better going down. If it doesn't get better, maybe contact your team. In my experience if I drink colder liquids and lay down, I get some pain where you described.

We're headed out Thursday for a few nights and were curious about some good recipes or ideas for food. We'll be in an RV so I can make just about anything, but we really want camping centric foods. I don't want things typically made at home if possible. Apparently, im not very creative. I'm in soft stage.

What are some good high protein snacks for soft food stage? I'd like to start moving away from protein drinks. Thanks!

That's rough. Have you explained to him what our diet looks like? I feel like all I do ALL DAY is eat and drink.

Thanks!

Honestly, only you and your doctor can answer that question. Have you raised your concerns with him/her?

Depends on your program. I could have milk on mine.

Awesome. I'm glad things are going well. I don't think you could drink too much. There are days I get to 80 oz of fluids. Make sure you're measuring your puree to whatever amount your team says. For me, I could have 4 oz. That should take 30ish minutes to eat. If I didn't finish in 30 minutes, I had to stop eating. Your program may be different. The point of measuring is it can be hard to recognize your restrictions at this stage. Best.

Ok, is painful intercourse a part of the changing hormones from losing weight, or should I talk to my doctor about it being another issue? It's not really dryness, though there is some. It is mostly pain during, not after.. I thought increased estrogen would help. It's only been in the last few weeks that this has been going on.

My applesauce is sugar free.

What does a typical day look like for you in terms of food or liquid (not sure what stage you're in)?

I've lost 20 since surgery (4 weeks) and 15 lbs during the preop diet for a total of 35 pounds. That's about what you lost, right? I stalled around 2.5 weeks in that lasted well over a week. Hang in there. It will come off. And like someone said, make sure you're tracking everything, and I'll go farther and say, before you ever eat it. What if you focused on some nonscale victories. For me it was a smaller size piece of clothing or getting my shoes on without huffing and puffing. Just today, I put on a shirt that didn't fit prior to surgery. Your body is doing a lot of behind the scenes work that may not be reflected on the scale.< br>This is not an easy process, and you don't have to do it alone.

I pondered that question for months. I have GERD and didn't want to risk it getting worse, so I chose the bypass. Because I knew I didn't want a revision surgery, it was easy for me to make the choice once got past the idea of dumping syndrome. Each surgery comes with its list of pros and cons, it comes down to what you're willing to live with.

I'm sorry you're struggling. I'm not that far into the journey. However, I would go back to basics. Protein, fluids, and track EVERYTHING. Do you still have access to your dietitian? I'm sure others will have great advice as well.

Dinner went well. I had about a tablespoon, maybe a bit more, of salmon and about a tablesoon of mashed potatoes. My intention was to have the broccoli instead, but it wasn't soft enough. I should have requested them to cook it longer; I will know for next time. Hubs let me choose what meal I wanted, and he ate the rest. It was so nice to go out. The funny bit was that the people sitting next to us kept staring. I think they were worried, lol. How do you navigate people who don't know why we eat like we do; especially in the early months.

Something cozy to wear. I was so cold. Not sure if that'll translate now that it's warmer. Honestly, I slept most the time, and if I wasn't sleeping, then I was drinking or walking. Depending on how long you're in the hospital, toiletries will be needed. Music is nice, so headphone. And don't forget your phone charger.

He is so great. He told me to order what I could eat and that'd be fine with him. When I'm eat more normally for my new stomach, we'll get our own dinners...maybe.

We are definitely sharing the meal.

I stalled around 2 weeks and it lasted about a 1.5 weeks. I'm finally losing again. Hang in there!

It was severe lower abdominal cramping that lasted several hours, sweats, dizziness, and almost hyperventilating. It was awful.