njlimmer

They don't read it. On my profile, I was pretty honest about what I was looking for. Another guy messaged me and said he was looking for a bisexual who would wear black leather and participate in swinging. (Again...no shame to anyone but that was NOWHERE on my profile.) I told him that I didn't think I was what he was looking for. He told me that I'd never know unless I tried. Also, the number of guys who tried to get me to go away with them. One guy told me he'd take me to Jamaica - we had never met or anything. I have a better sense of self-preservation than that!

I met my husband online 18 years ago. It's is crazy. Had a guy with a picture of a couple in his profile. Me: - sorry I don't talk to married guys. Him - It's okay. My wife picks them out for me. Me - ? Now, I'm not shaming anyone if that's your lifestyle. I was just really naive 18 yrs ago and didn't think that that REALLY happened in real life!

I would think the only concern would be the small seeds. If they were to get into a healing surgical place, that would not be a good thing IMHO.

I had red meat the first week I was on regular foods sooooo.... like week 6? I would suggest watching the texture. If you like it well done, but might be problematic. I had a medium-rare filet and it was AMAZING.

I bought a size large bra! A size LARGE! And... I've never bought fun socks because I couldn't get them up my calf. They always slouched at my ankle! Check out my protest socks!

Mine started the day of surgery. Joy. They just gave me a pad and pressed it to the area. They are so used to dealing with this kind of thing, they don't even care.

This was my tipping point. About a week after my 47th birthday, I skipped the pre-diabetic stage and went straight to a diabetic. Had my bypass on 3/3 and follow-up today with my endocrinologist. My A1C went from 6.8 to 4.6. I am now officially cured of diabetes. My cholesterol went from 218 to 104. I've lost 83lbs since my diagnosis in October. I've never really had high blood pressure, but this morning it was 105/65 which is lower than my normal. I feel the best I have felt in a few decades.

10 weeks out from RNY on 3/3 and huge success to share!! Went to the endocrinologist today for the first time since surgery. A1C in October was 6.8 making me a diabetic. It's what really sparked my WLS. (6-6.4 is pre-diabetic and anything over 6.5 is diabetic) Today, I'm at 4.6!! I am officially cured of my diabetes!! WOOT!!! Also, in 2019, my cholesterol was 218 - today it's 104!! For the scale victory, I'm down 37.8lbs from surgery and 83.8lbs from October!! 10 weeks out from

10 weeks out from RNY on 3/3 and huge success to share!! Went to the endocrinologist today for the first time since surgery. A1C in October was 6.8 making me a diabetic. It's what really sparked my WLS. (6-6.4 is pre-diabetic and anything over 6.5 is diabetic) Today, I'm at 4.6!! I am officially cured of my diabetes!! WOOT!!! Also, in 2019, my cholesterol was 218 - today it's 104!! For the scale victory, I'm down 37.8lbs from surgery and 83.8lbs from October!!

I'm 2.5 months post-RNY and so far I haven't found anything that I can't have. I might not be able to eat as much as before - that's the point after all - but I still enjoy going out to eat. There are a few moments here and there where I wish I could just gorge on everything, but that's what got me into this situation in the first place. I have discovered how much of how lives revolved around going out and what was next to eat so that's been a new thing.

I needed a dish to take to a party and wanted something that I could have too. I found this recipe for a 7 layer Greek Dip... not really 7 layers but oh well... It was really yummy! I served it with cucumber slices for me and pita chips for whomever. https://www.thelazydish.com/easy-greek-hummus-dip/

Down 35 from surgery (3/3) and 81 from October! Doing really well!! I feel so much better and my joints aren't hurting as much. Recently, I find myself wondering if I'm eating TOO much so I need to remind myself to be mindful of my eating. The only downside I've experienced... LOL... I used to use the bathroom as my hiding place. I could sit there for a long time and just read and enjoy the peace. Now my leg falls asleep too soon! LOLOLOLOLOL Hope everyone is doing well!

I had my bypass on 3/3/21. I went into my consult asking for the sleeve but based on my doctor's recommendation and my own research, I went with bypass. It's a misconception that the bypass is more invasive. From the patient side, the recovery is the same as both surgeries are done laparoscopically. It is a more complex surgery for the doctor and it takes about an hour longer, but other than that there's not much difference on the patient side. My doc said that the sleeve is a good surgery, but if it were a race, the bypass would win every time. I was also diabetic, and there's a higher chance of being cured of diabetes with the bypass than the sleeve. My endocrinologist said they're not really sure HOW it works, but it does! My endo told me to stop taking my diabetes medicine once I had surgery because many people never need it again. I go to him next week so I hope that's how it works for me! In the months leading up to my decision, I read a lot of posts about people switching from sleeve to bypass because of GERD. I would get it occasionally before surgery and didn't want to take the chance of it happening afterward. My insurance also told me that it was a one-time coverage so I wanted to make the best choice for myself. As for prep work before surgery, I agree with @lizonaplane I spent the time having extra appointments with the nutritionist, working with my therapist, and generally lurking around here soaking up knowledge for other folks' experiences so that when these things - like stalls, hair loss, loose skin - have occurred, I'm mentally ready for them. I also changed a lot of my eating habits. I really think those changes have made my post-op months so much easier.

Thanks for the link! Luckily, my hubby may not understand teenage girls, but he does know when to listen to the mama or else! I will share that with him for sure. I absolutely believe it can cause weight gain. I mean - don't most of us to some extent try to do the exact opposite of what our parents want especially when we're teenagers! I love therapy too. It's why my oldest has survived this long. There were years there when I was sure only one of us was gonna make it! Good luck, and BTW - I think figuring out the root cause of an issue is a point so many people miss so you are already ahead of the game.

What helped me to get ready was I started using a smaller plate, and I used the half plate of veggies, 1/4 protein and 1/4 carbs method. I made myself cut down to 1 serving of whatever it was - not going back for 2nd and 3rds. I think it really made a difference once I had surgery.

Wow... this hit me in the feels today. I've been overweight since I was 10 when my parents divorced, and we moved in my grandmother. The only thing that was ever said about food was about leaving any behind. I - like many on here - was a card-carrying member of the "Clean Plate Club." It is still hard for me. I have to consciously think about it to leave food behind. That being said, what struck me about this post deals with how I parent my own girls. Parenting is hard, and kids should come with instruction manuals. I NEVER wanted to give my kids a food complex. I've never made them clean their plate. When they're done, they're done. Both of my girls are on ADHD meds, so they don't like to eat during the day, but they're hungry at night. Usually, they come back for a second dinner sometime before bed. Neither one had a weight concern until last year. My oldest became a cave dweller during the lockdown, and it wasn't until she went back to school in January that she walked further than from her bedroom to the kitchen. I tried to get her to go out for a walk -anything - but she's 14 going on 25 and knows everything. All that to say, she gained about 50lbs in less than a year. It's not healthy for her, and she's not happy with it. I can tell that she's now self-conscious about it. Like many of us, it snuck up on her. It's all good when you're wearing PJs every day, but when you try to wear real clothes and they don't fit, it's a shocker. She brought it to me first. I told her I was concerned because it wasn't healthy to gain that much, that fast. She said - you think I'm fat! (Remember she's a teenager.) I told her I absolutely didn't think she was fat, BUT it's not healthy and she's not happy. She's really lost her stamina and endurance. My husband, who is 6'7" so 300 lbs for him is way different than 300lbs for me, was an athlete and is of the mindset that we tell her she needs to lose weight - and no... I stopped that cold - but he has that athlete mentality that if a coach said he was bad at free-throws, he would have practiced them until he was better. <eyeroll> I told him that she's not an athlete and she's a girl so telling she's overweight is NOT the route we're going. If we tell her she's fat then this will be her mental talk - Well, I'm fat so I better just go along with what my friend wants because I'm fat and no one will like me. Well, I don't want to have sex, but I better because he's showing an interest, and I'm fat so this is my only chance for love. Well, he's abusive, but I'm fat so I don't have any other options. - He looked at me like I was nuts, but I told him this is how many girls think. I'm trying to talk to her about it without being a nag or a dictator. When she's asked for help, I've made some suggestions like slowing down when she eats, taking smaller bites, cutting back on some of the sweets. I told her that I would help with things that I'm learning through this process, but that she has to WANT the help. It's hard because I can see that right now she's going down the path to end up where I've spent the last 3 decades, but I'm also trying to not make her worth about her weight. I could become the crazy food police, but that's not how I want our relationship to become. Weight can be lost, but if I make her not even want to be around me or her family, then I've completely lost her in other ways. I'm sorry your family made you feel like that, but I hope you don't "cut off your nose to spite your face" as my GiGi would have said. If you're to a point where you need it, this surgery is for YOU. In the end, if your health deteriorates or you don't get to enjoy things, you are going to pay that price. If they gloat or whatever, they'll gloat. I can't relate exactly because I didn't get that growing up so I don't mean to sound flippant and if you don't already have a therapist, I'd recommend you try one. My mom married someone just to get away from her mother and her nagging. I moved out at 15 and she spent 8 yrs in an abusive marriage because she didn't want to be "wrong" and have my grandmother "tell her so." Don't let them and their pettiness drive your decisions any longer. You do you.

I use MFP. I briefly tried Baritastic, but I like all the features on MFP better. Plus, it syncs with my watch and my smart scale.

I second the long charger cable. Chances are the plug will be on the wall behind your bed so for it to reach and still be plugged in takes a longer cord.

I wore pants home too and was fine. If you want, you could get a swimsuit coverup that looks like a dress and then you can wear it to the pool!

For pizza, I make garlic parmesan chaffles and then top with sauce and cheese. Yummy!!

SOOOO much of it is habit. They're giving us goodies for teacher appreciation week, and for a second each time, I'm like - I'll take one of these, and one of these... Luckily, my brain kicks in before I actually grab anything, but it is SOOO much habit.

I have the Renpho, and I don't really pay much attention to the other measurements. I love the way it has an app that it automatically connects to. I also bought the Renpho Smart measuring tape, and I love it! It takes measurements with a click of a button and reports it to the app.

Let's share favorite quotes and such that really speak to you on those days you need some extra push. This one spoke to me yesterday when I was struggling.

This has been my experience with my kids - 14 and 11. The oldest was frustrated with me because I was stopping to check out stores that I've never been able to shop in, and I finally told her that not everything was about her, and now that I'm almost able to shop in a "normal" store, I wanted to check it out. She looked at me like I'd grown an extra head and said - What do you mean normal? You're normal. Me: You know, I've only been able to shop in stores with big clothes. Her: Why? You're not big, but you are losing your butt.