Jonsie27

Lets do it!!!!!! I've been thinking about a fitbit, maybe its time to take the plunge!

No offense, but I don't feel l angry with myself. Should I? Hmm, dont get it. Aw, hubby is a good dude. But going from his interest in sex pre-op (the level of which was fine with me) to his increased interest now feels like it's just based on my weight. That's not what I thought our relationship was based on, and I've got some hurt feelings about it. And I've talked about this a little bit above, but honestly, YES I would prefer he, and everyone else, didn't discuss my weight loss. Pre op and post op he asked how he could best support me (like I said, good dude) and I asked to not talk about it unless I bring it up - which is almost never and that's what we've done. That being said, thats what's supportive to ME. Other people may find support in validation from others, it's just not where I get mine. Am I being fair to him? Probably not! That's one of the reasons I made the post. I plan on heading for some therapy, but I'm also not planning on compromising on some of this. "That's just the way society works" and "you should be happy" are not good enough.

Sometimes I feel like its good to look at these because its so easy to get caught up in the "I'm still losing I gotta keep pushing" mindset.

Hello! My roux en y was 4/4/2018 and I've lost 115lbs. This month I want to get to the 160s from the 170s and get back on track with my water intake/food journaling. I'm not gaining but I've been on a plateau for about 6 weeks and it's super frustrating! Any one out there with some good plateau busters?

Only my husband and parents know (they help take care of my daughter). I've lost 115lbs and people constantly ask "what I'm doing" - my answer is always "eating less and exercising more" because it's TRUE. People also hate that answer so it stops most questions. Lol. That being said, if you feel telling some folks would be helpful to you in terms of support and motivation, that's awesome! Just make sure its helpful to you and not out of some sense of obligation. You don't owe anyone an explaination, its your body and you CAN succeed with this tool! You're doing this for YOU not them. ? The fact that our bodies are up for public commentary in general is creepy to me. Ugh!

Definitely planning on it. Trying to find one that specializes in WLS issues.

Is this person literally INSANE?! Who says that?!!?

Not just a NY thing, I'm in Cali and people thought I had some weird disease. They couldn't handle me talking about why the weight was coming off. "But what are you DOING????"

Im so sorry you were having a tough time, hoping things have smoothed out a little! A friend of mine said this and I think about it every day: It costs ZERO dollars to mind your own damn business. Why people can't just say "hey, are you feeling ok?" and then STFU and listen if you want to talk or respect the fact that you dont want to talk is beyond me. Lol, I've found that "you look pale" also means "why aren't you wearing makeup, bridge troll?"

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Dear all the work haters who are crabby because I got a raise, because now my ideas are somehow more worthy when they come from a smaller person. No, its not fair, but I got the raise...Keep hating, your salt is delicious.

Yay! Like, can we all move past this please? People have told me how great it must be to have all this attention... I'M AN INTROVERT! I've been one my whole life and haven't changed. All this commentary and questioning makes me want to take a nap, ugh. Lol.

Agreed, and I'm sorry, but your cousin sucks.

You're absolutely right about this, these are two separate things! I work in healthcare too (I think we care for others at the expense of ourselves sometimes) and we do have a lot of overweight people in our field. Although where I work the difference in the way people are treated is pretty real.... Maybe I should change jobs lol.

Good job on heading to the therapist! Maybe you can share some of your therapy insights if you think theyre helpful?