Sleeveforme2017

10-13-17
170.8

9-29-17

173.4

9-22-17
175.8

You’re probably right

Sounds more controlling and insecure than jealous, in my opinion.

I was if I was the only one who noticed that. She hasn't posted anywhere in a while.


Sent from my Z981 using BariatricPal mobile app

Does anyone want to keep going?

My mom told my brother who told his wife who told her whole family. Then my mom told my other brother who told his wife...etc. She knew I didn't want anyone to know. I was so incredibly pissed about it. Then she lied and said she thought I would be fine with it because it's "just your brother." I don't understand why people can't keep their damn mouths shut. I feel your pain. I hope your hubby comes around and apologizes. And good luck with your procedure!

Do you think he doesn’t want you to lose weight? Like trying to sabotage you? It must get not be that AT ALL... but dont you go sabotaging yourself or throwing your hands up. Breathe. Get the surgery and then make him make his own dinner for a year!!! That’ll teach him.
Seriously though, I am sorry you are so upset. I hope he realises and apologises. Hugs

I can totally see your side. The betrayal is a very hard thing to get over, for sure. I just want to send you a virtual hug. And one last thing Keep your eyes on the prize and KEEP ON KEEPING ON!! You've got this. What an exciting time!!

Ah that’s shitty. I understand that you feel really hurt. I wondered what to do about this kind of thing and I decided to tell my family and a few close friends and if anyone else asks them I will tell them. But that’s my own personal decision and yours was yours. That’s upsetting and you’ve got every right to be angry.
I think also that there is a lot of shame around WLS which is not warranted. Obesity is a disease and not understood and you are doing something excellent for your health and well-being.
Some people don’t like to see people change. You become a threat. You know the story, it’s probaly been written about heaps on this board.
I guess you have a few choices now.... let your husband know how disappointed you are and don’t tell anyone else, tell a few people, or just let everyone know if they ask and put a barrier of protection around yourself in your mind. People may be extremely supportive, you would think they would be if they are anyone who loves you. You might be surprised.
You are so worth this and nobody has any right to pass any judgement on you.
It will be interesting to see how you feel about this in a year or two.
Like the lady above said’ people sometimes do shitty things’
I know it’s easier said than done but nobodies opinion matters. You are the person that matters right now.
Very best wishes on your wonderful journey x

I can truly sympathize with you. I too planned on keeping my surgery a secret. Not out of embarrassment but I don't think it's anyone's business. Plus, I'm very outspoken and didn't want anyone's opinion. I didn't want to have to hurt anyone's feelings but I knew I would have if they came to me wrong.

I had another surgery four months prior to RNY so the folks at work thought my absence was related to the bathroom prior surgery. I didn't even tell them what that surgery was. I was off 3 months.

About RNY. I told my mom and one sister. I have 3. I told that one because I needed her help. Well she told my aunt. My mom told my other sisters and my dad. I kept it from them the same reason I kept it from everyone else. My husband told his mother. I have no idea why but he did. I was so angry. I felt so betrayed. I felt like he told a marital secret. It really hurt me. Seven months and over a 100 lbs later I'm still angry. My mom apologized. She said she thought I told my sister's because we are really close and share ALMOST everything.
My sister didn't think she did anything wrong. She was like what's the big deal. I just feel like it was personal. I don't announce I'm having my annual exam. Why would I make a big announcement about this.

HW 330
SW 292
CW 193.4
GW below 200

My husband did the same thing and we work at the same company! I still feel the same way three months later and the trust isn't there like it used to be. I'm sorry!

Ditto! Bloody hell. I’d be like Byeeeeee!!!!

Holy crap. "He says I didn't ask him if I could have this surgery." He actually thinks you need his permission to have surgery and improve your health? What freaking century is he living in??
Okay, disclaimer: I am not married. So maybe I don't get how it works. I don't think it would ever work that way, though.

People have no idea I've had it. Why? Because months before my surgery I started the Keto diet, and working out. I was losing weight like crazy! I haven't changed one thing since my surgery, including my portions. Everyone assumes it's just the keto diet. (which is it, along with portion control). I've lost 65 lbs total and I go to the gym 6 days a week. It's obvious that I'm working my ass off to lose weight. So, no, people don't just "know"

Yea , honestly I find it very disrespectful for people to go tell somebody without getting permission to do so first. It's almost like they're trying to take a jab at u. It's nobodys business but yours and it should be totally on you who knows and who doesnt. I really don't know how I'm gonna act when some smart ass says hey u look good but didn't u get that weight loss surgery.

Sent from my SM-G935T using BariatricPal mobile app

Isn’t the divorce rate post WLS like 80%? I know it’s super high. I’m pretty sure I read that it’s 80%. This is why. People can’t handle the changes.


As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

My husband didn’t stay for the surgery and he wasn’t there when I woke up. His step mother was there’s then later my mom came after I had told him not to tell anyone. He told them and they showed up. I was so mad . Then He wasn’t even there to take me home he sent his step mother to pick me up.

Thanks for the advice. He didn’t even come to the hospital

I hit a milestone today I am super excited about!
I have finally lost 300 pounds! I have been stalled the past few months and finally lost those last 6 pounds to hit this milestone! I am so thankful to be making this journey.
It still feels like a dream to me. It's crazy how I went from having to be on oxygen 24/7 and hardly being able to cross a room without getting out of breath to being able to walk for 6 miles and still be ready to go out and do other things!
I am loving life right now and wanted to share my excitement at hitting this milestone with you!
 

Yes you will . And you will regret being able to eat normal and will long for the stage your in now. Trust me.

Yes you will . And you will regret being able to eat normal and will long for the stage your in now. Trust me.

Yes you will . And you will regret being able to eat normal and will long for the stage your in now. Trust me.

My last test showed my iron was 20 the scales indicates that 35 is the low end...no call yet from my NUT.


Band to Vsg revision: 5/23/17

HW: 315+
Starting weight: 294
Surgery Day: 281
Current: 226
Goal 170