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I am not telling my family either. My wife knows but no one else. Really not in the mood for well-intentioned yet ill informed advice from the family. Even if the flip side is correct and they full support me 100%, I dont want it to be a constant topic of conversation. Other people thrive on support from family and friends and that was works for them. But for me, this forum and my wife is all the support I want.

I am a little less than three months out and am down 40 lbs from my highest weight!! Only 100 to go!
Left pic is at highest weight, right is last weekend.
HW 285.8 SW 272.8 CW 246.4 GW 140 Sleeved 11/23

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One year ago today I made the biggest decision of my life thus far. There are only a handful of people that knew and to this day, only close friends and family. I made the decision to get healthy for not only myself but for my future husband, our future children and our overall life together. I was a serious yo yo dieter, constantly up and down with my weight. So in August of 2015, after months of research and doctors appointments, I had gastric sleeve surgery. To this day, I haven't told many people out of fear of judgement, embarrassment and being told "why didn't you just eat right and exercise like everyone else". Well, I had and couldn't lose the weight. So no, this most certainly was not the easy way out, it was by far the hardest thing I've ever done.
Happy to say as of today, one year ago I started my journey at 234 lbs and today I weigh in at 145 lbs for a weight loss total of 90 lbs and I've never felt better, inside and out. I'm finally excited to see myself in my wedding dress in 2 weeks.  

Hello everyone, Warning beware of jealous people in your life. So my now ex but also my daughters father has as I feel always tried to sabotage me. I gained close to 100 pounds in the last 6 years since I've been with him had a baby got super comfortable and let myself go. Well since my surgery and before he was never with my lifestyle change he would bring fast food and candy into the house, he didn't work out with me on a regular basis (and mind u he is athletic and a boxer) there was no genuine encouragement nor support. He was and is a serial cheater. He told a girl he cheated on me with about me getting the surgery before i even had it and just recently told another woman i believed to be a friend but he was sleeping with her too that I had the surgery and now I think i'm better than ppl and they laughed about how I'm still big and my body gone be a mess (I seen the messages) the disrespect is at an all time high. Bottom line is I am better than what they obviously thought of me. This change has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, I'm happy about life again, I see the changes in me mentally, spiritually, and physically. I'm looking forward to the future and learning not to settle or accept anything I'm discovering my worth and now I'm glad I can close that chapter in my life and looking forward to my journey and finding someone new that sees the Goddess in me
down 83 lbs and not stopping

I wanted to share some great news with everyone, today I am down 97 pounds! How is everyone else doing on their incredible journey?
Sleeved October 10th 2016
HW: 377
SW:358
CW: 280
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I am so disgruntled. I had a recent post about how my husband is not supportive but he has reached a new low. He just told me that I am using drastic measures to become skinny and " he doesn't like skinny women". When I first got with my husband I weighed 145 lbs. I'm 5'6. So I I was pretty small then. Well fast forward twenty one years and 3 kids later ...my highest weight was 242 lbs. I am insulted by this so badly. I told him if you don't like the size I become then you have the option of leaving then. I'm so tired of this ish. Everyday he is putting me down about this surgery and I know I may have some tough Patches post op and I know he is going to lavish in that so that he can say I told you so. My 20 year old son is going with me to have my surgery due to I'm going to Texas and I'm from Alabama. I don't think he quite gets it but he said mom I'm going with you and not letting you be alone. That means the world to me. I just feel like this is probly gonna be the end of my marriage. My husband then said I'm probly trying to be skinny for other men and I'm like really. I would go thru my stomach being sliced just for attention... get the heck
Out of here. Just so disgusted with having to defend this decision to him. I have researched this for 4-5 years. I'm making a change for a better healthier me. I guess everyone doesn't want a better, healthier me. He has been thin all his life and doesn't understand this weight struggle. So he doesn't want a skinny wife but you want an overweight wife who is prediabetic, has sleep apnea, high cholesterol, and heart problems huh? But she is good n thick,, yeah right. I'm just over it!!!!

Thes photos were taken
Day of surgery: 6/25/15
And Today 10/16/16
Size 24-size 10

Throwing up was the WORST for me. It was a few hours after surgery, my stomach was already sore and tight, throwing up made it so much worse, but it was a relief as I did it, if that makes sense.... also the quick sharp pain that you get when you've siped too FAST
-Ariannuhh❤️

I was 306. Now 249. 4 months post op.
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hey, I got sleeved on 10/11 and I walked around the hospital without pain meds or the IV pole attached to me. I have/had no gas pains whatsoever the other patients were shocked and the nurses were like how are u so happy and not in pain. I tolerated my foods. I'm doing well at home and my incisions are healing fine. Thank God!!! I see my doctor this week. So listen theres nothing to be paranoid. Not everyones body is the same!
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I was sleeved 5 days ago and my recovery has been so smooth that it's making me suspicious. Day 1 was pure hell obviously. I had a good deal of pain waking up but mostly it was the anesthesia and heavy drugs that were making me feel completely awful and confusing reality with fantasy.
Day 2 I got in an okay amount of Protein and Water, maybe made it about 1/2 way to goal. Since then I've had no problems. Very minimal pain at times that is either hunger or gas and other than a bit of soreness around the big incision I've had no issues. I can get down 8 oz of broth or water in about 30 minutes. I am okay taking regular drinks (no need to sip, but not gulping) and have gotten 60g of protein and at least 64 oz of Fluid for the past 3 days.
It's making me paranoid. I ALWAYS have issues after medical procedures and I'm terrified that this is all going a little too good. I feel certain that I'm headed for a staple leak or blood clot or something. I'm worried that maybe there already is some kind of leak and that's why all the liquids are going down so easily, or they made it too big.. or something. I'm freaking out because I don't feel sick and I know it's demented. Other than being extra tired I am really not having any problems....
Is it too good to be true or are some of us just lucky?

I did. On day 3, other than the muscle soreness, it was as if I hadn't had a surgery. I'm 6 wks, and from the beginning I could always drink 64 oz and meet my 60g+ Protein goals, and there hasn't been one food that upsets my stomach at all. I called and they said that's the way they always hope it will be for each patient.

I had the same thing happen. My doctor told me since I lost about 60lbs in 6weeks, that the stall is letting my body catch up with the weight loss. You will see a major drop in weight again but don't get discouraged.

I haven't even had my surgery yet but I do know that everything you do always come to a standstill for a minute I was reading someone else's page and they said your body has to get adjusted and you just have to wait on your body so don't be afraid and just give your body a chance to catch up with your mind but keep doing what you're doing and eventually the weight will start back falling off just be patient with your body
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I had my surgery Monday 10/17. They ended up also doing a hiatel hernia repair at the same time. The worst symptom was probably the pain in left shoulder and neck which they say is very common but their pain meds in hospital took care of it. Gas Pains started later that night but again were manageable and walking helps so much. I was home 24 hours later and honestly I feel pretty good. I too read all the horror stories as I prepared for this surgery. I had also had never had general anesthesia and was terrified I would;t even wake up from the surgery. Then I had nervousness about blood clots - you name it I was stressing about it. The surgery was a breeze. The pain was manageable - it is now 36 hours post op and am not even needing to take the pain meds they sent me home with. Still have some trapped gas but the more I move the better it gets. I still feel bloated and a bit sore but honestly I also feel great - energized and ready to start this new life Best of luck to you. Try not to stress too much about the what ifs
HW 309
SW 285
Today ?

Never vomited. Inscision site pain and Constipation were really the only issues I had.

I didn't have any post-op symptoms. I mean, I was in a little bit of pain (from the gas) and was tired for a while. Other than that, nothing really. I never threw up or felt nauseated.

I read some interesting comments today and I wanted to make something really clear.
Out of all these people around the globe that are on this website, there are going to be some of us that have found post op, that this surgery was the wrong decision.
If you want this website to be honest and truthful, a source of good solid information for people considering surgery and a source of support for people post op, then everyone's experiences should be welcome.
The reason's I think this surgery was wrong for me has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with my post op complications!
And as for comments about people who regret their surgeries and have complications because:
• "houses were dirty"
• "they didn't follow instructions"
• "they haven't seen the great results yet"
• "they are just negative people and negative people are more vocal
So, just let me tell you this, some of us simply made a mistake.
We thought this was a good plan, we took advice, did our research, attended the seminars and weigh ins (in my case, two years attending).
We met our surgeons, we discussed our pre existing conditions, we spoke to our family and friends.
I myself have a counsellor, did CBT counselling for the entire two years pre op and am deemed emotionally and mentally sound. (just as an aside, my NHS CBT counsellor did not agree with this surgery).
I checked with my pain mgt team about the efficacy of my medications post op.
And it was still a mistake!
And so what?
It happens. And people like me should be able to explain these things without others trying to negate our admission of this mistake by offering excuses as to why we are unhappy with our decision.
I could have floated onto a cloud, had magical unicorns lick away my stomach, and woke up in paradise fully healed, sipping a cocktail in the sun and I would still tell you that this was a mistake for ME. And for many of my friends.
It doesn't matter how many years post op I get, I will consider this a mistake.
My house is not dirty, I followed instructions to the letter, I consider my bariatric discharge booklet my life guideline and I never variate.
I keep in touch with anyone and everyone in my medical care stream that might be helpful.
And complications happened. And yes, to many of us in our bariatric system. But again, it was not the complications that disturb us.
We all have different reasons for regretting it.
Most of us feel that we were misinformed, which doesn't help. My neighbour regrets her bypass because of her now permanent diarrhea and no improvement in her diabetes. She tells me that she has to think about food most of the day just to keep herself fed (choosing the right foods so as not to vomit), and she could have simply dieted harder if she had known she would have to think of food all day. She is three years post op and she still struggles with dehydration. Her hair never grew back after the initial drop out.
I myself am only 9 weeks post op and have had complications so I can't know what my future holds.
I miss eating quickly and simply in a way that doesn't have to be well thought out.
I want to be able to eat a full salad, maybe even with dressings, without worrying about which component might not agree with me.
I want to be able to eat any kind of meat I want cooked how I want in the quantity I want.
I want to drink beverages with my meals.
I miss a morning coffee or afternoon tea. I miss ice tea. (I know other people can drink it but I can't now).
I don't want to have to plan my food day meticulously or be different from others around me eating.
I want my medications to work again in the way they did pre op to control my fibromyalgia symptoms.
And I have definitely seen weightloss results. As I was lying there starving to death for seven weeks, I have lost all but 20lbs of my expected and required excess weight to satisfy my healthcare team. ( I am still only getting around 500 cals a day in, but have constant diarrhea so who knows how much stays in).
I now look "normal" except for the grey pallor in my skin and the nappy I now have to wear because of fecal incontinence (my IBS-d was totally controlled before surgery).
I am six dress sizes smaller but can only leave my house if I don't eat anything and wear adult protection in case of Water causing an "accident". Or in case I become faint from lack of food and fall.
So I do actually feel that had I read a forum entry like this, I might have thought twice.
And that's a good thing. If people are scared, that's okay. Let them hear more than just "don't worry, I was fine, you will be too!" Because maybe they won't!
So this is not about complications, it's about people.
One size does not fit all. Some of us should have simply accepted our weight, or worked harder to diet it off. Had I taken in only 300 to 500 calories a day for 9 weeks pre op, I would have lost all this weight anyway.
If you are happy, well done! If you are dead set on going ahead, ignore this. If you are a high BMI person (think 600lb life), God bless you, this may save your life, if you are a food addict, I feel your pain.
You will still have to diet post op! You will still have to exercise.
If you are undecided, then simply take a breath, think about it, really examine your food issues. Could you do more to lose weight? Could you move a bit more and eat a bit less?
Anyway, I am where I am and I plan to make the best of what I have left. And I intend to keep making sure that pre op people have a good think and post op people like me have someone they can talk to.
Thanks to everyone who is supporting me.
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Just thought I'd post a little update. June 5, I was at my heaviest 410 pounds. I felt like DEATH...literally. I had SEVERE sciatica which caused me to go onto disability after working for YEARS...I couldn't walk. I couldn't stand. I couldn't sit. All I could do is LAY THERE and cry because of the nerve pain down my left leg and lower back. It was either back surgery or weight loss surgery. Since I also HAD high blood pressure and PCOS plus VERY obese and the severe sciatica...I thought weight loss surgery would be my best bet. Plus, healing would be 2837739354928 times harder if I were to under go back surgery at my weight. Dr's told me over and over again that losing weight may or may not help my bulging disc which was in turn causing the sciatica but I went for it and just hoped for the best. Day of surgery 9/2, I was 367 pounds (I went on a damn strict diet) and today...I am 314!!! I am also BACK AT WORK with no more sciatica pain what-so-ever!!! I'm off all meds for high blood pressure and I'm feeling fanDAMNtastic!!!!! I love the way o feel and more so, I LOVE ME. I've never been one to post pics....but here we go. Not ready for the whole "body shot" because this girl is under construction but here goes nothin!!! Top picture is day before surgery...the collage pic on left is last month and on the right is yesterday! I drink 64oz+ Water each day...and always try to get 90g of protein...even if I finish my day with a premier protein!! Alot of you girls and guys on here don't know how many of us look forward and look up to your updates and advice...@Babbs...@Elode...@InnerSurferGirl...all 3 of u girls I look up to and I cannot wait to keep on keeping on. Thank You from the bottom of my heart!!! -Vanessa

Are you going to have mental health issues? "I know someone who became unwell"
Are you going to become and alcoholic? I know a person started drinking cause the craved sugar!

"that's not fair, you cheated" and "Who was your surgeon? Would you recommend him? I really need to lose 10 lbs" (said in perfect seriousness by someone who is maybe a size 2 at her most bloat-y time of the month).

It has been awhile since I've posted a before and after. Hope it inspires anyone newly sleeved as to what is possible. Preop I was a size 22 now I wear a 4.  

It's not much compared to some post but I am 2 months post op and down 30 lbs. working hard everyday! The first pic is today and the second was taken 4 days post op.
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