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I was also dead set on having the sleeve done. When I met my surgeon and asked about my history, I told him my severity with acid reflux, he asked me if he can make a suggestion. He suggested the RNY because with the sleeve he would cut part of my sphincter and it will make my acid reflux a lot worse.
I said the same thing about not wanting my insides rearranged but as @@dhrguru says you are with the sleeve by removing part or your stomach.
I hope you decide with what will make you happy! Good luck
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So, how is it that you think removing get 80-90% of your stomach is not " rearranging your insides"?
At your height I'm guessing you want to lose about a hundred? RNY would make sense to me. Would you be frigates to taking your supplements?

2 years ago today I started my weight loss journey. My Hw 256 Sw 254 Cw 150. I went from a size 22 to size 9. I no longer have problems with me feet swelling from standing too long, I can with at a brisk pace with no problem, sleep apnea is no longer a problem. And I can shop in a regular store. I having gastric bypass gave me back my life. I now love my body even though my thighs and stomach are flabby. My loose skin is minimum.
 

Welcome! I also live in Central Florida. I'm attending my last nutrition class on the 7th and hopefully should have a date soon. I've chosen the RNY. I've started changes already so hopefully it will be a little easier after surgery.
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My insurance doesn't cover Bariatric Services either, but because my BMI is higher than normal they overrode my plan and it is covered. Check with your PCP to see if they can put in a referral to see if they will cover it. Good luck!
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My insurance doesn't cover Bariatric Services either, but because my BMI is higher than normal they overrode my plan and it is covered. Check with your PCP to see if they can put in a referral to see if they will cover it. Good luck!
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My story comes from a lonely afternoon. I am a single mom, 39, with 2 teenaged sons. My boys were off doing their own thing, and I decided that I didn't want to grow old alone. But I then began to realize at 350 pounds, I may not grow old at all! I talked with my doc last November, and started the dieticians mtgs. My last compliance checks are finally done. I will see my surgeon again on April 7th, a week after my 40th bday. I hope he gives me the best present of all-a surgery date!
I am ready!

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As of today I have lost 200lbs. I started at 439 and today 239. My goal was to reach 239 by April 1st, but with God's help, hard work at the gym by burning 2000 - 2100 calories a day in cardio and weightlifting and eating around 1100 to 1200 calories a day i have hit my goal much earlier than expected. I'm so proud of myself because i haven't weighed under 250 since i was 13 years old and I'm 38 now. For anyone thinking they can't lose the weight use my story as inspiration because it can be done, and i will help anyone that wants to try. I have to thank my husband and kids for keeping me focused everyday and loving me. I also can't forget the rest of my family, who has also given me the encouragement i needed also. 
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Hello!
I've looked through the site in the past, decided to post today.. I'm one month post-op from my RNY surgery.
Abit about me..
I'm 31. Live in Winnipeg, Manitoba (Canada).
I first applied to the weight loss program back in September/October of 2014 and was 'rejected'. Part of the process in Winnipeg is that you fall within certain criteria. Now, I fell within all the criteria but my doctor is an idiot and put my height 3 inches lower than I actually am (I'm 6'1, not 5'10 like he thinks), weighing just under 370 lbs.
The criteria to get into the program is:
18-55 years old
Non-smoker
BMI 40-55 (35-39 if you have contributing conditions)
Shown previous interest in weight loss
I reapplied in April/May of 2015, and heard back the FOLLOWING DAY that I was approved and my group orientation would be mid-June 2015.
Keep in mind, the weight list is 2-3 years before you go to orientation.. So not sure how I got bumped to the front.
Had my group orientation in June 2015 - they just go over the program, expectations, etc... and hand out material to review. Also need a blood test and weigh in. Handed all that in within a week and saw the Nurse, Dietitian, Kinsiologist (spelling?) and Psychiatrist end of August.
At my August appointment everyone except the Psychiatrist sets certain goals... Not weight goals, but eating goals, exercise goals, etc.. The Psychiatrist just made sure I wasn't crazy.
Some of my goals included 1800 calories per day with an increase in veggies. Exercise goals included 120 minutes of cardio a week, with easing into resistance training in 6-8 weeks. I started going to the gym, that was no problem.
They had us keep track of everything on an app called My Fitness Pal (great app).
So I left that appointment with another set of appointments 3 months later. I saw the same group November 30, 2015. They reviewed the goals and where I was at and agreed I could proceed to the next phase - see the surgeons and go for surgery. Had I not of met goals, or they wanted to adjust and reassess, I would have had to see them 3 months after my November appointments before going on to the surgeons (and yes, people get kicked out of the program at some point if they can't meet goals). The entire point of the program was to see if you could meet and maintain certain goals pre-surgery.. if you couldn't, it was an indicator that you'd likely have major issues post-surgery.
I met with the surgical team mid-January and had my RNY surgery at Victoria General Hospital in Winnipeg on Feb 9, 2015.. So about a month post-op now. Had to do a two week pre-ope diet of NOTHING except Water and 5 diabetic boosts a day. Lost 25 lbs during those 2 weeks.
Going well, back to work on monday. A tad tired, but it's getting better every day. Slowly getting back onto solid foods.
There's my story

It is so so worth it. It's not just the weight loss either. I've lost so much weight over the years. That part is very doable without surgery. It's the keeping it off that I could never conquer. And to slowly watch yourself gain back that weight you'd worked so hard to shed is utterly soul crushing.
I'm six months out from my bypass and only 16 pounds from my goal. What makes this weight loss so different is knowing I can really do this long term. My personal demon was that I was always hungry. No matter how much I ate, or how full I got, half an hour later I was starving again. That's all changed.
I still have hunger on occasion but it's nowhere near the monster it used to be. It's like a tiny little tap, opposed to getting hit with a sledge hammer. You can ignore a tap, but a sledge hammer won't be denied. Now I find myself constantly thinking that this must be what a normal sized person's hunger feels like. It's so controllable it's almost surreal.
I've given up bread, soda, sweets, fast food, rice and more. The further out I get the less I crave it anymore. I could have never done that on my own. I also exercise daily. I'm 54 years old and this is the first time in my life that I'm in charge of my body, and it's finally working with me. I love eating healthy. I never used to drink Water and now it's all I drink. I feel at least 20 years younger and my health is perfect.
I would do this over again without question. As cliche as it sounds by now, this is the best thing I've ever done for myself. I was lucky enough to have no complications and an easy recovery. But with everything I've received in return, even if there had been some bumps in the road, I'm pretty sure I'd still say I'd do it again.
We all have to take a leap of faith going into surgery. There's no getting around it. But the way I was existing before wasn't really a life at all. It was more like waiting to die. It was for me anyway. Now I feel reborn!
Best of luck to you on your journey. I hope you end up just as satisfied as I certainly am!

This is the first time I've visited this forum. I was looking for a place to share my story with other RNY patients, and here is where I landed. So, first off, the basics.
I had bypass surgery 6 years ago at the U of W Hospital. The surgery was straight forward and I suffered no complications.My pre surgery weight was 355. During the first year post op I shrank to 217 (which contrary to all obesity tables was thin for my build). I was 60 at the time of the surgery. During the first year, I ate whatever I could tolerate, and drank no alcohol at all.
I was pretty gruntled over the results. I tossed by CPAP, as the decrease in fat around my neck cured me of the obstructive aspect of my apnea.
I was on a low dose of blood pressure meds, and I no longer needed to continue that med, as my BP dropped with my weight loss. I never could tolerate sugar after the surgery and found I really needed to limit any carbs a couple of hours prior to doing physical activity to prevent lightheadedness--although, I continued to eat a lot of high carbo foods.
After the first year and the highly satisfactory weight loss, I started reintroducing alcohol. I had, for over twenty years, been a daily drinker-- usually a couple of cocktails in the evening with friends.
I found that alcohol after surgery was different. I got drunk much faster, sobered up much quicker and never suffered a hangover, no matter how much I consumed. This was great fun, as I'm by nature a happy drunk, pleased to make people laugh and enjoy the company of friends and alcohol together. This behavior went on and I started to gain weight. I wasn't overly alarmed by either my alcohol use or my weight gain, as I had been told that studies indicate that RNY patients suffered a 10% weight regain after reaching their highest weight loss.
Well, pressures of life mounted, I daily traded in the Stock Market, and found with the advent of the Fed's QE programs and the advent of ALGO trading, my trading strategies suffered considerably. Over the course of the next 3 years I lost $10s of Thousands of dollars in the Market. So, I sat at the computer 14 hours a day watching the evaporation of my money as it went to money heaven. It was disturbing and depressing--to say the least. My alcohol consumption increased, as my activity level decreased. In fact, I started adding a daily bottle of good
red wine with dinner to enjoy and make me feel better.
This escalated over the months. On top of my own Market disasters, our Family suffered some terrible tragedies and losses in the course of an 8 month period in 2014. My Wife, of 46 years marriage, had suffered clinical depression bouts and hospitalization a number of years ago.
With the family loss, I constantly worried about her mental health, and as she increased her wine intake (she is on Wellbutrin), I viewed it as not a bad thing, as it helped her cope with the immediate pain and depression. My weight gain continued. I found myself back on my BP meds. and, back on the CPAP machine--which I hate with a passion.
Finally, towards the end of 2015 we had a discussion about our health and what to do about it.
On Jan. 1 we both stopped drinking and started dieting. At that point I had ballooned up to 278! I was embarrassed by my weight gain and felt I had failed myself and my Wife in my presurgery promise to get healthier in order to have longer and happier life together.
So, on Jan 1. I got the Fitbit App and went on a 1500 cal. a day eating plan. I cut out alcohol, all starchy foods, most meat and very little fried food prep. I take a couple of Premier Protein drinks a day and eat a lot of raw veggie salads.
I have to say, I couldn't be happier. Since Jan. I've lost 32 pounds and have a goal to drop another 30 pounds before Fall, I've put away my CPAP machine, I sleep better and have less aches and pains in my joints.
My wife has also lost weight, although only 8 pounds, which is very visible on her, as she wasn't overly sized to begin with. I have to admit that I have an easier time with the diet, as I don't experience hunger pains, and often view eating as necessary rather than desired.
My activity level has markedly increased. I've started woodworking again (just finishing up a stunning dining room table of solid black walnut) --I had stopped for about 6 years. And I am currently building a deck on the south side of the house that I had been putting off for the last twenty years!
I wanted to share this with others in the hope that it might inspire anyone that fallen into a similar situation and despaired of regaining their health and happiness.
So, my first recommendation is the Fitbit App to monitor and track your food intake. And, to be honest, the first week of big change like this is a bit of a hurdle, but, put your head down and power through this period and you'll find it will be easier going forward. Life will get better.
Best wishes to all.

I'm curious, who/where is your support system? You said your Mom and aunt have been through this, have you expressed your feelings to them? Reached out for moral support? Is your fiance a support?
Why have you not seen your doc since surgery?, usually the first post op visit is one week out.
I won't tell you what you don't want to hear or believe, you seemed to have made up your mind. Be very careful in seeking reversal. It's complicated and there's no telling if you'll ever be back to what you think is 'normal'.

Reading the OP once again I truly feel you need to see someone.
I know it's extreme but have you considered an inpatient stay to address your issues with depression?
It seems like everything is being blamed on the surgery and sometimes it's not that simple.
Please seek help from a mental health professional before making any major decisions like seeking reversal surgery.

Seems like your looking to blame a lot of people for allowing you the surgery from the psychologist who you saw for an hour or so to the surgeon whom never seems to be there when u are.
Fact is we are adults.
This was a major surgery for all of us and we all did our research and no one could have prepared any of us mentally for this type of surgery.
You WILL get thru it.
A reversal?
You wouldn't think undergoing a major surgery to reverse a major surgery will be an option. In fact I can imagine it being a massive risk to preform it.
I hope you seek some help psychologically and spiritually because there is nothing that can alter ones mind other than oneself.
Choose to be happy and you will be happy.
Choose to be angry and you will be angry.
Your fulfilling your own prophecy though - eventually your going to push even your fiancé away by choosing to be so angry.
Smile you WILL BE OKAY.

Here's my before/'after' (it took me a minute for me to figure out the abbreviation).

Finally gonna do this . Nervous
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I feel sometimes when your on the right path something always tries to get in your way. The devil, bad vibes whatever you believe or don't it's like a test. Just stay the course and laugh off the people like that. I would have been vague and said we all have issues...good luck.
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I agree with what everyone has said.
Another thing I have noticed is that even though everyone who has WLS (or is even considering it) is overweight or obese, that may be the ONLY thing they have in common.
Obesity is a disease that affects all kinds of people. There is a wide range of people with different levels of life experience, age, education level, self awareness, common sense, socioeconomic class, and physical, emotional and intellectual capacity and capability. It takes all kinds!

Honestly, all you can do is worry about you. If you spend all your time wasting energy on negative people you'll be exhausted from that alone. Remember the one thing you have control over is you and how you react. If you need to ignore it or tell yourself how miserable that person must be....then so be it.

Sounds like this person was being rude because she is feeling self-conscious and insecure herself. She's trying to justify her own crappy decisions but reducing your difficulty, which is none of her business anyway. You said it above and it's so true, no one knows your life and your struggle, so no one but you gets a say in what you do and how you deal with things. Hopefully this rude person will grow up a little, but if not, this is about you and not her. Do what you need to do.