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Do you have contact info for Wendy? I need a fill.

After much frustration and little sleep, I am now home and feeling so much better! The local band doc came in to speak to me and we argued. Turns out, her office miscommunicated to me what could happen in an emergency situation. Her office (as I believe I stated earlier) told me in an emergency situation, they would remove the band. My doc was unable to contact her directly and only spoke with apparently the same "assistant" that I spoke with. The doc cleared everything up with me and explained that unless they see slippage, or obvious problems, they unfill, not remove the band that was inserted by another surgeon. And when I say argued, I mean we argued! LOL At the time she came in, I was functioning on practically no sleep and had just been told that the doc in San Diego that my insurance had approved for me would be out of town for a week. I was exhausted, mentally and physically, I was frustrated, angry and just done. I am paranoid of regaining weight; however, that paranoia so far is making me very diligent about what I'm eating (even though right now I'm on "gentle, flu like foods"). There are a few things that I am going to eat since I can (sushi!!) but I'm going to try to maintain unfilled. The doc also referred me to a medical provider that does fills locally. I am feeling better than I have in a while. I appreciate all the advice, info and support. Also, my last day in the hospital, I found out there were some changes at work so the stress there has been reduced greatly too! I almost feel like I've won the lotto

Well, I am now in the hospital, admitted Wednesday evening with my glucose at 42. They don't know crap here, I explained the barium swallow to the doc but the only one in town that does anything to do with the band my doc allowed me refuse her treatment since she refused to see me, even when he called her directly. My doc/insurance is expediting paperwork to get me into San Diego asap. In the meantime, they've got me on an IV. There have been a couple of hospital staff that have been nice and understanding but I swear some are very judgmental. The ER doc even asked why I got it, like I have to explain why I wanted to be healthy!

Just wondering how you do that? How do you go to a doctor with no money to pay them? I don't know how that works. When I go in to any doctor, dentist, etc, there's a sign that says payment is due at the time of your appointment. So what do they do after your appointment if you can't pay them?

So, new issue today. I passed out at someone's house and had to have my husband pick me up. As he was on his way, he called for authorization to take me to the ER but since it was during regular business hours, our medical provider refused and had me see another doc. But since I have an appointment in the morning with my regular doctor, all this doctor told me was to get some sugar, a shake, "french fries, even a jelly donut, anything you can get." This after I explained to him I cannot eat solid food. Now I am in bed, feel completely drained, trying to finish a glass of rice milk. I'm hoping the next 14 hours go quickly and see what my doc says.

She's the only doctor in town that does lapband, therefore, the only one my general doc can refer me to. She only just started in 2009. Even with the seminar, the band doc will not see me as a patient, only in an emergency situation to remove the band. Which I don't understand why they would opt to do the more evasive procedure. I'm a military dependent and we've had a lot of unexpected expenses come up recently and I'm now on medical leave from work for other issues. Self pay is no longer an option. Thank you, everyone for your input.

We financially are not in the same place we were when I had the procedure and therefore, cannot see the surgeon that banded me (travel, etc). Where we currently live, I believe that is the only doc that does the procedure and/or it's the only one my insurance will cover. My general doc has no experience/expertise with the band, which is why he referred me to someone else. I have a followup appointment (for other things) with my general doc on Tuesday. I am going to talk to him but I'm assuming he can only refer me locally. Evy, did they unfill you? The lady told me more than once that this local band doc will not do anything (fill/unfill) a band someone else put in because she "doesn't know what's in there".

I've been under tremendous stress for about 2 months (back on antidepressants, sleep meds and trying to find a counselor that is a good fit). Since the stress started, it seems my band has been extremely tight and has made eating difficult, to the point that I started a lot of vomiting. Now it's to the point that I've barely had any solid food for about a month. I've had shakes, broth, etc. (if that stays down) but not much else (had one good day about 2 weeks ago that some very tender pork roast stayed down, it was so delicous!!) I am not where I can return to my surgeon (military family) and I was a self pay (March 2007). I never had any issues with my band and my last fill was more than 2 years ago. I think my band has slipped with the stress and the vomiting. I mentioned it to my general doc who gave me a referral to a local band doc. I called to make my appointment but was told that I can't make an appointment until I take the seminar which is every 3 Tuesday of the month. Which brought up a concern, it's already been quite a while since I've really had anything nutritious, so should I go even longer, especially 3 more weeks. I explained the situation to the lady who transferred me to a supervisor who then explained that this local band doc will not look at anyone that was banded by another doc. She said that if I thought there was slippage and hadn't eaten for as long as I've said, that constitutes an emergency room visit and then they would remove the band. I don't want it removed!! I mean, if all I need is an unfill, then why remove it? And I refuse to get where I was before and she said, well, you can always request insurance to pay for it to be put back in. But I can't now because I am at goal weight. If they do remove it, is my appetite going to come back full force like it was before the band? I feel like the band has been a savior to me, to my life, my well being, etc. She explained I could die if something happened (didn't really catch what it was she said, I was still really upset about the fact that she said they'd just remove it, without even looking to see if that's the problem). I don't think there's any other doc in the area that my general doc can refer. I haven't even told my husband about all this yet. However, he did mention the other day that he was concerned and he's afraid it's slipped too. I am going to speak to him when he comes in this evening. I am just so frustrated by this situation. Even as miserable and hungry as I am right now, I don't want it removed.

Sorry if this is a repeat. It takes a while to go through all the topics. I was banded March 2007 and I love my band and the new life it has given me. It hasn't been easy, as someone who is a foodie but it has taught me to "taste" food. However, the restriction seems to be increasing. Currently it's that time of month and I usually am tighter but still manage to get some solid foods down. But, it's been a few days and hardly anything has stayed down. I haven't admitted this to anyone (not that too many know anyway), not even my husband even though I'm sure he's aware. I don't want to see a doctor because honestly, I don't want to lose my band. I refuse to get fat again. I'm not getting any younger and I appreciate the energy and better health that I am in now after the weight loss. I've gone back on unjury, just for some nutrition. But have had a couple of days here and there where I've gotten lightheaded when overexerted. I know everyone's going to say, "go to the doctor". Here's the other thing, I paid for this myself. I'm a military dependent and I'm afraid if anything is wrong, they'll just remove it and I'll get fat. I can't get to where my band doctor is (and even if I could, money's too tight to see him). Maybe it's just because it's that time of month, multiplied because I am going through a lot of stress right now.

There is very little scarring. The procedure I had was called the "24 hour" procedure. A small incision is made under each breast, about the width of a nickel. They are not noticeable unless you are looking for them. Of course scarring depends on the method that you have.

Ditto! I recommend these to all my friends.

charlimc, I understand.:wub: I am a survivor. My childhood was robbed from me by more than one perp. My mom is still married to one of the people who abused me. I've traveled a long, difficult road to get where I am now. I believe each survivor finds their own path to healing. I hate to say, "it's going to be ok, you'll get better" because it always seemed like empty promises when ppl told me that. My first husband was abusive, maybe he didn't sexually abuse me, but I went from one abusive situation to another. I've attempted suicide, been hospitalized for 2 months, been through so many years of therapy, diagnosed with depression, post traumatic stress disorder, bipolar; taken so many different meds, I used to cut myself, burn myself (still struggle with self-destructive actions, today was especially difficult), have put myself in several terrible situations, I am lucky I'm alive. One thing I notice about myself is many times I feel like a little girl, lost, confused, scared, wanting comfort and I'm 40 years old. I have to seriously remind myself, have to bring myself back to reality (kinda difficult to explain). I am now comfortable (most of the time) with sex (if not, I don't). I have been through what you are talking about. I used to completely break down and lose it. My husband is very patient and caring. With me, it was basically time and trying to get comfortable with myself. You must feel comfortable with your own body before you can truly enjoy being with someone else. I also think something that helps me is the 2000 miles that seperates me from all my family. I know that's immature or whatever, but now I can live my own life without having to live around people who pretend nothing is wrong. (just about a month ago, one of my cousins apologized to me, that she didn't do more to help me. but she was also a child, what could she have done at the time) Unlike the previous responder, I do not like to be on top (I feel too much "on display"), and I rarely can do it with the lights on. If you need to discuss anything, please feel free to pm me, I can share my email address and even my phone number with you if you would like.

I didn't watch this show, but I've seen most of the past episodes. I believe she is a bit cold and harsh, to everyone. Yes, she does have her moments of compassion and affection, but she barely let those children be children. She would have a melt down if they got ice cream on their shirts! I'm sorry, but that's what toddlers do when you give them ice cream in the summer, where else did she think it was going to go? Does anyone think that the majority of this, I mean the timing of it all, right before the premiere of the new season? I'm sure it's not all just publicity, but I'm sure some of it. I adore those kids and I think they need to be able to be children without a camera in front of them for their whole childhood. I'm not saying I haven't enjoyed watching the show, but they deserve a real life, not one that has been edited for television.

You know I saw a difference in the mirror, but when I saw these pix it made me realize how bad it was. I am very pleased with the results. Now if I could only get rid of those dark circles under my eyes...

I am finally getting around to posting pix. Two before pix and the two after I am trying to frown in the first one; raising my eyebrows in the second.

And now there is a similar case in I think it was Italy. A father and his son abused the daughter/sister for many years. Awful! According to the article I read, she cannot live on her own due to them keeping her away from society for so long.

Ok, it's been more than 10 days, i went in for my checkup, and it's great! She added a couple more units on one side to kinda even it out, but I didn't notice anything different about the two sides. And tonight, my daughter said, "you look different, but i don't know what it is." but it's kinda funny, for the after pix, they ask me to frown, i tried as hard as i could and only a tiny little furrow showed up, i kept laughing, because i was trying so hard, but nothing. I am going to try to post the pix. I'm very happy with the results.

Exarmy, I agree, men are men, they are visual creatures. However, some people get addicted, cannot control it. Which is where my husband was. He was downloading stuff that even if he lived 3 lifetimes, he wouldn't have had time to look at it all. I do not have a problem with porn per se. I do have a problem with "teen" porn, that is sick! I have a 13 year old daughter and I was am a sexual abuse survivor, so that whole thing is nasty to me. I have seen porn where they dress the girls up to look like how I dressed my daughter when she was a toddler; I'm sorry, but most people would think it would be weird to dress a woman up to portray an animal, why isn't it distasteful to dress a woman up to look like a child? Anyway, porn, like everything, can be ok, in moderation. But also, like everything, too much can be a bad thing.

O, duh, lol, yeah, hubby wants to get his eyes lasered. But I wasn't thinking to better see, I was thinking cosmetic. Are you thinking microdermabrasion or something more intense?

That's an excellent idea, a beautification budget! lol I did have my breasts done in 2005 (always been a "thick" girl with lil itty bitty ones), then the band last year. So, the way I see it, i'm under budget. I will let you know on Thursday if it's worth it. So far, I do notice a little bit of difference and i like it. You had your eyes lasered? What is that? What does it do? Thanks to dear ol' mom, I have dark circles under my eyes all the time (suppossedly hereditary) Speaking of younger men, hubby is 13 years younger than I am. Besides hating what I see in the mirror, I don't want to look like his mom when we are out. LOL

It was $11 per unit. She put in 35 units, or $385 This is how I rationalize it, hubby is a smoker and I am going to spend less annually than he does on ciggarettes. LOL.

True, it is not immediate. She explained to me that the day after I would wear my bangs over my forhead (that was something I started doing about a year ago). By the second day after it would start to feel...she said she didn't know how to describe it, but I would describe it like a superglue on your skin kinda feeling. I go back in 10 days and she checks to make sure she got all the areas I requested. So, I won't know if i'll be happy with the results until about then. I had read up on it and asked if it lasts about 4-6 months. She said the first year, you should expect to do it 4 times. Now she has been doing it for a few years, and she can tell when she needs it-about every 5-6 months. Yes, I was thinking about posting before and afters. I'm also thinking about some hair removal because she has a flat fee, no matter how many times one has to go back to see her, it's no extra cost and she guarantees it.

I am dying to tell someone, but I don't want anyone to know! I am 40 years old and have boys that are 21 and 22. I get complimented that I don't look that old but I have this ugly forhead. I hate it when people at work ask, "are you upset/mad? You look mad." I'd looked into it a couple of times, but ok, whatever. But then I got an offer from the Dr. that did my boobs, but he's llike a 3 hour drive. I looked for someone closer and of course found one. I emailed, got an appt and got botox on Monday! I'm so excited, but don't want to tell anyone. For 2 reasons. Want to see if anyone notices don't want to tell, it's my business (seems funny since I feel I'm on here yelling it from the rooftops, lol) Thanks for letting me share.

No I haven't but you can bet this is going to motivate me to try!

My husband and I have been through this. When we first married and I felt ok about myself, i didn't mind occassional porn as long as the girls weren't portrayed as "teen" that sickens me. Well, I married a Marine straight out of the barracks, he was already addicted to it by the time we married. His addiction was so bad that any free time in front of the computer he was downloading this, never having time to look at even half of it. It became so bad, it really started to affect me and our marriage. Many times he would cry and say he'd stop. During his our first deployment, just to kill time and because one of the other guys suggested it, he started joining "those" sites. He was communicating with several real women, not just pix anymore. He did eventually realize himself what he was doing to our relationship. Our life could have gone on without me ever knowing, but another wife found out about her hubby doing the same thing and I got suspicious. I checked his email account (and God love dumb men) he had forwarded something from his secret account to this account and had used the same password for both. So, i found all the evidence. That's how I know he came to his senses before I ever found out. I saw that he had stopped all communication about 3 weeks before I found out. Please no one tell me I shouldn't have stayed with him or I should have left him, etc, because it is one of those things that I consider a weakness in my life, but we are happy now. And he is much more considerate of my feelings now. But don't think he got off easy. His commanding officer and Chaplain found out about it (hmmm, wonder how that happened). And I went on those sites as him and wrote something like, "I'm just here to fuck with people and kill time. I'm married and an idiot for being here in the first place." A few girls tried to email, one had a few words to say to him. But most, because they are probably doing the same thing, didn't say anything. Occassionally, we might watch porn together. But he is extremely careful about what he looks at online. He actually talks to me about when he's feeling tempted; stressful times kinda push him to it. (now he fights a gaming addiction, lol) Anyway, that's what I don't like about it, it like many other things can lead to much worse things. It also can affect one's sexual behavior, i've read. It is a valid concern.