newhope4me

Jacqui, I mean no disrespect, but there have been many of your posts that I have disagreed with, however, I agree with you regarding breastfeeding. I live in the States and breastfed all 3 of my children, each longer than the one before. My daughter was breastfed until she 16 months; it would have been longer but a Dr. gave me narcotics even though I told him I was breastfeeding and requested no narcotics. I too faced with "friendly advice" that I should wean my children after a few months. However, from everything I had read, it was the best for my children and that's what matters, not anyone's opinion or discomfort. I always tried to be discreet, but as those little rascals get older they get wiggly and they like to look around, probably much like we do when we eat.

Yeah, it doesn't happen to me every time either.

I can't explain how I have without clitoral stimulation, because vaginally, I do need clitoral stimulation. However, I was just thinking, maybe it's like a mental thing, similar to a wet dream or something. I mean when men do that they are not receiving any physical stimulation. I know women who have had orgasms in their sleep as well. So maybe it is such an arousing session that you don't need the physical stimulation...just a thought.

I've never heard of pantene causing hair to fall out. Was it related to dietary defiencies? I once was told that pantene conditioner was terrible for your hair, "the same as using dishsoap on your hair." But it is what I have had the most success in controlling frizz and helping my daughter's hair look beautiful. I have naturally curly hair and my daughter got a double dose from both her father and I. Do not wash it every day. This is not good for curly hair. With my daughter's hair, we may only shampoo it once a week, but we condition it at least every other day (we use the pantene in the brown bottle, suppossedly for "women of color"). I don't worry about shampoo. I feel shampoo is shampoo. Why spend a lot on it. I do like to splurge once in a while and get products from the salon, but I don't notice a difference in my hair. After squeezing most of the Water out of our hair, I take a dab of conditioner and scrunch the hair with that, especially the ends. Like I said, I personally prefer pantene. I think you could get 100 suggestions, they could all be different, but basically it's going to be your decision. On the radio, Bob & Sheri show, Sheri raves about a specific brand, suppossedly made for curly hair. I purchased some of that. omg, it made my hair feel like horse hair, not soft, could not run my fingers through it-it was awful, a complete waste of money. Good luck finding a product you like.

andrenaline? hmm, never thought of that. That is an interesting concept, possibly. i think it's a bit funny that the "itchy" orgasms are when i'm on bottom, but he prefers me on top because i orgasm sooner, therefore, he equates it to "better". i don't mind being on top, but there are times that i don't like being "on display".

:huh2:This is odd and I've never heard of anyone else experiencing this, however, when I have a really great orgasm, my chest has this itching sensation. It is usually like in between my breasts but has been my entire chest area. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

So many jobs....I was originally hired as "Girl Friday" 6 years ago. Now I am Executive Secretary/Banquet Coordinator/Webmaster/Membership Marketing Director/Family Activities Director for a private country club. I think I enjoy the pressure of always having something that must be done. And on top of that, I am the wife of a Marine and the mother of a 13 year old drama queen. (Also have 2 grown boys) In my free time (occassionally I have that) I like to redecorate our house, sew and read true crime. I love my life right now. However, sometimes when I have a few seconds to think, I wonder if I stay this busy and continue to take on more and more in order to not have time to deal with the past/pain.

The book is "big big love: A Sourcebook On Sex For People of size And Those Who Love Them" If you'd like to pm your address, I can mail you my copy. It's had some wear, I got it from paperbookswap.com

I'm not sure how large you are, and don't mean to offend anyone by saying that. I have a book, I would be happy to send it to you or give you the name of it (I'd need to find it). But it is about loving big people, including positions and such. I got it a few years ago because I thought I was just so large that I didn't understand how anyone could love me. (believe me I already know I have self esteem issues) My hubby and I have always worked around it. Of course now it's much more enjoyable and less stressful for me.

I have a co-worker who swears by don quai (not sure on the spelling but pronounced Don Qui, long "I" sound) for period issues but expecially menapause symptoms. She swears she had no hot flashes, no hormonal rages or anything. But I swear she's stuck in permanent PMS, or maybe she's just a bitch, hmm, don't know. LOL

Well, I am so glad this is somewhat confidential and I am so glad this is here... I grew up not knowing what that bag was hanging in mom's bathroom. Mom did not tell me about the birds and bees, o, wait, she did say that, "if a boy touches you when you are on your period, you'll get pregnant." So wrong! Then I married at a young age, not really knowing anything (except I was pregnant, guess he touched me at the wrong time). He tells me about douching (most embarrassing moment of my life!). So then I start to buy them every time I bought tampons. Then fast forward quite a few years, single again and to earn money, I was a dancer (yes, that kind). I was super paranoid about smells, especially since certain girls had nicknames based on scents. So I douched religiously at least 2x a week. Once had a Dr. ask me why I did so often, did I smell bad? No, just paranoid. Now I know better, but old habits are hard to break. I do but no where near as often, probably only few times a year, it's been decreasing, which I guess is a good thing.

I believe I just saw a headline that claimed, "Cancer linked to Masturbation" Not sure of the exact wording, but that's the idea. So if not even masturbation is safe...I protect myself in all activities (of course it helps a lot that I have been in a monogomous (spelling?) happy marriage for 5 years), but I also enjoy life.

I am one who does enjoy it, if everything is right (relaxed, in the mood, no digestive issues, etc). In fact, I have had orgasms from anal, but i've also had orgasms from giving oral, without receiving any genital stimulation myself. It's not that I orgasm at the drop of a hat (or pants), I think it just depends on how aroused I am at the moment. I don't believe men who enjoy anal stimulation suggests any type of homosexual interest. In fact, I feel those that are completely against it are a bit homophobic and possibly not comfortable with their own sexuality. (good thing hubby doesn't read this, as his rear is completely off limits)

i did get the clone a willy in our "us" package. I haven't seen the clone a pussy. i thought about getting him a vid. I knwo what he enjoys watching, but i just can't bring myself to do it. It makes me feel so inferior. I know, I know, it's just a video. And I'm real and all. We watch porn together, I know he watches it here on days off while i'm at work. But for some reason I am not comfortable providing it for him. Which opens up all these self loathing feelings for being so insecure and reminds me of how huge and nasty i feel. sorry to go off on that...there are some vids that i've seen that i think i may be able to get for him, i read the reviews, i look at some of the pix, but i have more questions....i think i'll just stick with buying him toys or whatever, and he can look at porn online.

I was wondering if there is a site, not a porn site, but a site that has something like reviews but also you can ask questions about products, videos, etc. At the end of Feb hubby is being transferred, I am staying here since he is only getting transferred 3 hours away. He will come home on the weekends. For xmas i got him a gift that is for both of us. Today I was again shopping on adam and eve, i like how they have reviews, but i had questions about some of the items that the reviews dont answer. Some products are quite pricey, since I have questions, I don't feel comfortable spending too much money on something I'm unsure about.

I've got a new fave drink, Disarrono! OMG, for those who haven't tried this, don't. It is too good, so smooth. Hubby and I bought a bottle over the weekend before xmas, and have since finished 3 more bottles. And we usually aren't daily drinkers. I told him the other day we need to stop buying it, he said no, just restrict ourselves. LOL, yeah, right. Then my boss gave me a bottle with a bottle of eggnog, lol. Well, like i keep saying...January 1st... I also made mac and chz for my daughter 2nite with real cream and butter, to try to use it all up to get it out of the house.

That is my confession too! Even my own cooking, i've been using real butter and heavy cream. I forgot how yummy real mashed potatoes are. But I came into December thinking I will eat yummies and goodies and sweets, but of course in January I will get back on track. I even reminded my daughter this morning that January 1st we go back to chicken and good carbs, no more mashed potatoes. I haven't even weighed myself for about 2 wks, in order to not depress myself! However, I notice that with my wonderful band, even though I'm eating all this yummy, delicious holiday food, I'm not eating nearly as much as I could have eaten last year.

Is Sugar and Spice new? Thier online store is not up yet? Plus, I've never heard of that one. I have a friend that does Slumber Parties. But I think all that have been mentioned are aimed at women.

Of course I'm over this now, so many months after the fact, but thank you.

(my 2 cents) My first MIL was sweet, but very judgemental. Since I wasn't married to her favorite son and I am not materialistic I don't think she really knows how to interact with me. My current MIL is wonderful as well, but just not what I'm used to, lol. She is a stoner, hippie type. The first gift she ever bought for me was crystals. She's the sweetest thing, we just think differently. Also, since she was absent (at least mentally) for most of hubby's childhood, there's a bit of discomfort between us (my knowing family secrets, her feeling a bit of guilt for not being a better mother, etc) Ex-hubby and I used to get along until after I allowed him (he didn't even have visitation) to have the kids for a few months, he tried to refuse to give them back. Before that, I would stay at his and his new wife's home (she was a classmate of mine when we were in high school, but not friends). She and I actually got along better than he and I did, up until he called her by my name at a family event. It still makes me laugh (i'm such a bitch) And talking about gift giving, exMIL once gave me a couple of bras for xmas. 1st, let me explain that she's actually Jehovah's Witness, but always gave gifts like a week before, and say it's not for xmas. So she gave me a couple of bras, I was like 19 yrs old and to me they looked like "old-lady-bras" (no offense to anyone). I was so embarrassed. I wasnt going to say anything, but hubby (1st hubby) said that if i didnt say anything, she would continue to buy bras for me. So I was honest with her and told her they weren't my style. She explained that since I just had a baby, that they would provide more support than the ones I wore. At the time i found it super awkward!

Maybe i'm just cheap, but even though i have some toys, ranging in size, shape and texture, i prefer a nice warm bath. In the right position and the right water temperature, it's a great way to start the day! Relaxing yet it energizes me for the day.

With the new year approaching, it's a great time to get back on track. That's how I would approach it. I knew that once Thanksgiving hit, i threw out worrying that i was only getting quality calories, until Jan 1. Why fight it, why not enjoy the holidays with everyone else? I have enough to worry about, with the holidays and this is the busiest time of year for me at work. My hubby is a Marine, and suppossed to be in top shape. But with his gaming addiction (which for those who are familar w/ a previous thread of mine, he did just beat when the expansion caused him to lose interest), he is completely out of shape. The first of the year is our goal together to get back on track and to continue our healthier lifestyle. We both prefer different types of physical activity therefore we've never worked out together, but the food thing is our combined downfall. Like I said, maybe making "resolutions" will help motivate her. Also, maybe seeing all your success has discouraged her a bit, possibly affecting her security, which led to her not wanting to work as hard. Just a suggestion.

i know i'm a bit late in responding, o, the holidays, anyway, for all those readers out there who have spent thousands on books (as have I), check out paperbookswap.com I've saved hundreds since joining. I love to read true crime/non-fiction.

I got my band in Mexico so I guess I do have a "foreign object" in my body. (sorry, couldn't resist) In regards to the "natural way", this is why I chose to not tell anyone about this procedure. I don't need anyone's judgement or negativity in my road to a healthier, happier and dare i say, more attractive me. In your quest to try to avoid the band and try to do it the "natural way" are you starving yourself?...taking diet meds?...depriving your body of necessary nutrients? I know with the band, I am no longer doing these unsuccessful things. I also don't feel like I am going to gain it back. I feel successful. I am much happier, especially knowing that I have avoided many medical issues in my future.

I have heard that about men not always ejaculating when they climax, but I'm sure he would know if he is climaxing. He's not. He does enjoy it, otherwise why would he ask for it. I enjoyed it when I was in the similar situation in the past. But it's more like foreplay than an actual sex act, I hope you understand what I mean by that. I know how frustrated i get when i am right there, but for whatever reason (stress, whatever) i just cant get there. I hate that frustrated feeling. It seems that is where he gets to, and I wonder why he would want to get to that point. When we are home, then no problem, we can finish another way. But going back to the road head issue, why would you want to get to that point in the car? To be frustrated like that? I have spoken to him about it, more than once. It's always, we'll keep trying. I don't consider him greedy (I used to love to give oral, now it's not so enjoyable since I'm so frustrated). Like I said, I've had issues in the past, I understand not being comfortable (or being so insecure that I can't enjoy it) in certain situations. He makes up for it in other ways.