I too am a self pay. I live in Florida and from what I understand, very few if any approve any type of bariatric surgery. The cost was 16,000 but I went to the #1 surgeon in the Tampa Bay area and the the best hospital; Tampa General.
This is my 5th day from surgery and it is a challenge to get all the Protein that the surgeon wants me to have. I don't seem to have a problem getting food in, I measure everything because I am afraid of overeating and stretching my new pouch.
I didn't tell anyone for a long time because I was afraid of negative responses. I had tried WW for 2 years didn't lose, didn't gain. So when I announced the procedure to my monthly Bunco group, (yep, am a middle age Mom) everyone supported me except for one. She was new to the group, didn't know me or my situation. However, one of my long time friends educated her quickly. I did tell people I had to have a liver biopsy and that I was seeing a dietcian for food allergies. So when I start to lose weight, PLEASE GOD, that would be the reason.
BTW, this site has been a great help to me for recipes for stage two eating.
Good Luck,
Fran