HunnyBun

So I've had this boyfriend for a little while. Things progressed very fast between the two of us and I honestly thought he loved me. He said he did... Maybe I'm naive but I had high hopes for this relationship. Here are some problems: During this relationship he was invited to three weddings and didnt ask me to go with him. His brother lives 5 minutes from him and he never introduced me to him. He never wanted me to come with when he was going out with his friends so I never got to know any of them. He never agreed to meet my friends when I asked on several ocassions. He expect me to always come to his house and when he finally does come to my house, he expects me to praise him for all the effort. I only go see him 1-2 times a week and he insists on ordering spicy foods or pizza even though I HATE spicy stuff or pizza. WHy cant he just order the food on days I'm not there? He often acts like he is doing me a favor by making time to see me. There are a few more things, but are more personal. Am I just expecting too much? Or are these serious issues? What do you ladies think? I feel like I need to break it off, but when I talk to him he seems very upset and cries. I'm stuck because I care about him but I want more for him than to just hang out and eat pizza. :help:

I once called the police when I was at the laundrymat (11pm) and a dad was dragging his daughter by the hair. He kept yelling and cursing and that had me ticked off, but when he dragged her on the floor by the hair, I got pissed off and dialed 911. The cops showed up within minutes and as soon as they were there, I left. I dont know what happened, but hopefully the dad learned his lesson. The only thing I was worried about is the dad might blame the girl for this and give her a real beating at home scary thought.

I have experience with a very hyper, easily ticked off child. My son has been in school for 3 years and the teacher complained about him a lot. He didnt like to listen, didnt do his work, so easily distracted. I had problems at home too. One thing you have to remember is that ADD is not that bad. It's not a mental illness, he isn't 'crazy' and will most likely grow out of it. It's temporary and does get better. If this is what is happening with your little boy, definately accept it and work with him. He needs help, not denial. The one thing that has worked with my son is reward. I reward good behavior daily, and most of the time it works wonders. I remind him in the morning 'be a good boy, do all your work, listen to your teacher and after school we can go to the playplayce' etc. Things like this teach children that they have to work in order to get something good. If he doesn't behave well, don't take him. If he cries about it, let him.. but don't cave. Second thing that is so important is NEVER EVER threaten him with a punishment and then don't follow through. This is the worst thing you can do for your child. I know that giving punishments sucks and no momma wants to do it, but when you don't follow through, you're harming your child. Give punishments that will make him unhappy, like taking away his favorite toys, not allowing tv for 2 days, no videogames for a week. Children need restrictions and without them, they think they can do whatever they want. Often kids will say things like 'I hate my life' of 'I want to die' and this is not a crisis, they aren't depressed. Children who say that, especially under 10 years old, say it because they dramatize every emotion, and this is normal. They often dramatize good emotions, saying things like 'This is the best day of my life!'. Don't be alarmed if a child responds in this way to being punished. DOn't back down, instead explain that they can be good tomorrow and the punishment will go away. Don't make it too easy on your child. He needs structure and he needs to be praised. Be firm with punishments, and reward good behavior. It is a lot of work and requires full commitment from both parents and other family members, but a child with add needs more positive attention. Also, please please don't ever make your child feel guilty. Don't say things like 'because of you, now daddy is mad at me' or 'you make me angry all the time, why cant you just be good?'. Children don't deserve guilt, they are too innocent for that. One last thing, don't punish him for being angry, he is expressing emotions, not misbehaving. Instead try to calm him down in a loving way. Give him a hug and a kiss and say somethign comforting like 'I know you're angry about your punishment, but I love you very much and you're my favorite boy in the world. Now lets go read a book'. This often works. Good luck. I know it takes so much work that it can be exhausting for parents, but just a few weeks can make a major difference. Maggie

Sounds like fun, but would a non banded girl like myself be welcome? Maggie

Scrub it with a sponge then wipe dry. Apply oil into it. Baby oil works ok, so does Lemon oil for furniture. Some other cleaning tips: Soak a washcloth in hot Water with a little soap and stick it on the swiffer to mop the floors. No Need for 'swiffer wet'. If you have old mirrors that get bad looking smears when you use windex, try using only water. Water will not leave any smears. If you get bad hard water on glass shower doors: clean the glass really well with lime away, then rinse clean until it looks perfect. After it's completely dry, apply rain-x. It will keep water from sticking to the shower door and will stay looking great.

Mine is "Abracadabra" by Steve Miller Band I really love this song!

LOL that's funny

WHy's my nose bent out of shape? Because some jerk right behind me on an intersection thinks it's ok to honk at me the second the green light comes on. That really pisses me off. Or because my son will come up with every freaking excuse possible not to do his homework, and calls me a bad mom when I tell him to sit down and do it or he will be in big time trouble, Or because I get headaches almost every freaking day and all my doctor has ever offered was perscription advil. When I want to figure out WHY it hurts, she think's I'm too paranoid.

Being fat has affected my sex life just as much as it has affected other parts of my life. When people cheer on when I finally buy a size 14, I am hoping they will cheer on when I finally have the confidence to get fully naked in front of a man and allow him to worship every part of my body. Or when I can easily get on top without losing my breath from all the bouncing LOL.

I don't know about laws over there, but where I am, he could not throw you out. If he does try, would calling the police help? DOn't let him control the situation, you are entitled to your money and he needs to pay it.

I live in Chicago and the winter is really starting to get me down. I have the winter blues and I think I need to get away. Can't afford a full vacation to Hawaii, but am looking to escape to a warmer state for a few days. Do any of you know of a good place to rent a room and BBQ in the sun? Mags

I've had a Today sponge stuck too! It took me a good 25 minutes to get it out. I was just about ready to call someone for help.

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Gosh it looks terrible, so sorry that this happened to you! I once got so burned at the tanning salon, I had a high fever from it. It was horrible. Did you tan your face as well? If so, the skin on your face might have suffered a lot of damage. Your dermatologist might suggest that you go through treatment to get rid of the damaged skin and reduce risk of skin cancer. I recommend self tannign gradual tan lotions. The best one I have ever used so far is made by Loreal. It's called 'Sublime Glow'. It doesn't streak like regular tan lotions because it only gives you a slight shade with every day you apply it. After three days you have a nice even tan, and no damage to the skin. It's really worth trying. I have a very light complexion but purchased the one for medium skin tones and it gave me a nice color after only two applications. Please don't ever go back to the tannign salon, but if you do, wear sunscreen!

To answer your question, I am 23. I do have an obgyn and will call his office tomorrow. Thanks a lot! Maggie

I've never had my breast checked out, probably because I'm pretty young still and never thought it was necessary. Never had problems before this. Thanks ladies for the advice. I will take a couple advil when it gets bad and will make an appointment on Monday. Maggie

My brother smokes pot and his life is a mess. I don't talk to him anymore. All he ever wants to talk about is how he is broke and needs to borrow $20. All he does every single evening is smoke pot. It makes me mad just thinking that his life has no real adventures, no excitement, nothing happens. All he does is work, get fired (comes in late, calls in sick, too lazy to do anything), smoke pot, and bother his family to lend him money. He fell into this trap, now is depressed and argues with me that he needs pot to make his life bearable. Good Luck to the original poster, hope your nephew grows up enough to realize this isnt what a daddy should be doing.

I have been having sharp pains in my left breast. They aren't tender pains like I get before a period, but sharp pains that feel liek are deep inside the breast. They feel like a poking, sometimes a harsh squeeze, even so bad sometimes it feels like someone is stabbing it. Does anyone know what causes such pains that last for more than a week now? I'm gonna get checked out by the doctor if it doesn't stop, but am looking for a little peace of mind in the mean time.

Holy smokes! $200? How big is the bag? I'd think you can get a good high on $10 a day or so. Been a while since I've been in that kind of crowd. The thing that most people don't understand about marijuana usage is that it has many consequences that aren't very obvious. For one thing, pot is an emotional drug which can cause a feeling of need for it. It causes depression and anxiety. The worst part is, people who smoke pot tend to rely on it for relaxation, and that is not a way to live life. Relaxation should be achievable in a healthy way, taking a walk, a long bath, vacationing, gardening, not hiding someplace and getting baked. Obviously you'd have to hide cuz most people don't approve. It is afterall illegal. Just as with alcohol, only in moderation is ok. People who drink too much have many problems. Same thing with pot, if it's a once a month type of thing, I wouldn't be so worried, but if he can't help himself and smokes in the house, on a weeknight, more than once per week... it is probably a problem and he needs to stop.

I'm so sorry for your loss Vera. You and your family are in my thoughts.

As someone who has not been banded yet, I come here mostly for the off topic threads. I already spent three months researching the band and probably wont have any more questions until I have my band. I come here because I like being among a group of people who share the same goals as I do, losing weight. I like reading and discussing the same issues we have as overweight women, mom's etc. Once I have a band, I will know many people who have gone through it too, and that is very comforting to me. I can honestly say, if there was no offtopic, I wouldn't have a reason to come back.

Sorry you had a crappy V-day He should have been more thoughtfull. Did you get him a card or explain that the candles and dinner was for Valentine's?

I do pilates and I weigh 269 lbs. I also do yoga, walking, aerobics (for like 4 minutes lol), I wrestle with my bf, bike, treadmill. I think my level of activity is wonderful, considering I can clean a whole house in three hours, including washing floors on my hands and knees. I don't let my nearly 300lb body stop me. I do have somethign else to add about the comment: diet fails because people are not motivated or lazy... most of us on the message board probably have an eating disorder. We over eat a lot, or at least the unbanded ones. It is a very sad way to live life, but we are judged for it negatively. The people who have other eating disorders, bulemia and anorexia, they are felt sorry for and pitied, they are not judged as harshly as we are. Someone sees a fat person and says 'oh my, look how fat and discusting! yuk!', and then they see an anorexic girl and say 'oh poor thing'. That's all so sad, fat people arent fat because they are lazy, we're fat because we really just can't help it, no matter how many nights we cried, how many times we were made fun of, no matter how much we wished we could change. We go through such hard times being fat, we lose self respect and we stop loving ourselves. We lose hope in ever finding love. We all hate being fat, hate ourselves for it, and we want to lose weight, yet we simply can't. It's just as hard for us to stop eating as it is for the anorexic girl to start. I know that I can not speak for anyone else, but what I wrote above is something I say from the heart. Maggie

Bring them with, just don't wear them :cool:

Jeans and boots will do fine. Weat a sweater under your jacket cuz it does get a little cold. It is not so bad. You do not need to go crazy and wear thermals under your clothes. Not like we're eskimos :cool: The weather in chicago has been very nice lately, 20's and 30's and two weeks ago it was high above 40. You wont freeze to death