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Thats a tough decision. On one hand, you could call his bluff and pay for it, hell, pay for all of it if you want. I wonder if there suddenly becomes a different reason as to why he can't do counseling? On the other hand, if he is only committed to the marriage so much that he should only contribute some of the cost (knowing that you don't have means to pay the other half) then you are also dealing with a spouse who likes to use money as a tool for abuse. It might not be physical abuse, but mental and financial abuse like this are still abuse. Again, sorry about your situation. You are seriously in a no win. Unless you ultimately decide to leave and that you and your kids lives are worth more than a couple hundred dollars spent on a counselor. I don't believe he actually wants to go to counseling. And that is sad. You deserve better. You're stronger than that.

Keep in mind that I am not a medical professional. When the Dr. cleared you, did you ask them if you would lose that much? It is my understanding that how much you lose depends on how much your body can stand to lose. So if you are not a super high BMI, you don't have as much to lose. Did you look into the requirements for your ins. to pay for it, since your BMI is so low?

Any reason not to get another band, since it seemed to be successful the first time? I am surprised that they would sign off on a drastic surgery like the sleeve for a 23 pound gain. Seems like taking a bazooka to a knife fight. That said, I think you would be hard pressed to lose 50 pounds, even with the sleeve. You would only lose what excess your body didn't need around. You may go under 150 temporarily until you recover from the first 2 months and start working out, but I can't see you losing 50 pounds and maintaining that kind of loss at 173lbs.

I am not a psychologist, nor have I had experience like this, but I wanted to speculate a possible cause. I had a friend who was dating a woman who decided to have this surgery not long after I told them I was having it. He was never supportive of it to me or her. He flat out said he didn't believe in it and that he would never even entertain the idea for him. A few weeks later he broke up with her after 2 years of dating and almost moving in with her. I never brought this up to him, but I wondered if it had anything to do with a fear of what would happen after she lost weight? Would she suddenly be attractive to other men and would she like the attention she would get enough to stray from him? Also, would others expect him to follow suit and have the surgery, or would he feel pressure to lose weight and make changes he wasn't ready for on his own? Taking this one step further then, could your husband not only have those fears, but also start projecting his fear of an inevitable outcome by starting up an affair with someone else, figuring you would do it to him? (which is probably not the case but he may have already made that up in his mind) I am sorry you have to go through this. This should be your time to shine. You put in the effort to become healthier and whoever you share your life with should choose to support that even if they wouldn't go through that themselves or even if they "don't believe in that". Best of luck!

I tried so many different Protein shakes. It was a little pricey but I found some that I could tolerate much better than other ones. Its such a personal taste thing though. I like the Bariatric Advantage Orange Cream and banana. They were both good. I also like the Pure Protein Banana Creme ready to drink, in a can. Vitamin Shoppe makes a real good chocolate Mint. I am a vanilla guy, not a huge fan of chocolate but these things were amazeballs. whey Tech Pro 25 Chocolate Mint. Also, If you have not done this yet, its so worth it. nectar has a deal where you can get single serve sample packs of their flavors pretty cheap. You can only do it once, but gives you an opportunity to try their flavors. http://www.si03.com/EMAIL/nectar_gng_sampler/nectarsampler.html I also used the protein powders in the plain oikos non fat yogurt. That helps get more protein in. I also liked the Isopure prtein drinks. Its not as thick, more like gatorade but its an acquired taste. Hope these ideas can help.

Is yours a liquid only diet? Mine allowed for sugar free jello and sugar free popsicles, Protein shakes or drinks, raw veggies and chicken broth.

I tried to out work the stall too. I have come to the conclusion that we do not have the power to un-stall the stall. It will decide when its time to lose again. Your body I mean. Time. Patience.

Good call! I just went on there and in under 5 minutes spent 28.00 for 2 pairs of jeans! Bangarang!

Everyone loses differently. That said, I lost 85lbs in the first 90 days. I just recently experienced a full 3 week stall, not a pound was lost, even after working out harder, drinking more fluids and carefully watching my intake. My body just had to readjust. I just noticed 2 pounds gone this morning. You will lose it fast, but do not worry or fret when it stalls. It will stall, you will want to do more to get it going again, but you have to let it run its course. I stopped worrying about it and it did start falling off again. Your loss is fast, but it may be that way for you. Best of luck!

Man, this thread is right "up my ally". I have been having a rough "go" of it for some time post-op. I have been trying to get more fiber, I feel like I am drinking enough liquids, but most of the time its a struggle. Pre-Op I would go once a day, maybe skip a day here or there. Since the Sleeve, I have been going about once every 4 days. And it's a struggle to push that sh!t out sometimes. I seriously think I'm going to explode a pipe in the wall if it hits a bend at the wrong angle. I have started drinking diet ocean spray to get some cranberry juice in to help. Seems to be making it a little easier. I may have to check out this device.

I ordered this sample pack: http://www.si03.com/EMAIL/nectar_gng_sampler/nectarsampler.html I liked quite a few of their flavors. This is the best deal if you want to try a bunch without investing in a lot of any one kind first. I also had the Bariatric Advantage Orange Cream and banana. They were both good. I actually have some Isopure Fruit Punch you can have, if you would like to try. I liked it but the massive jug they sell at Vitamin Shoppe was too big. Did you ever get your date scheduled? Hope you got that day you hoped for. I read good.

I hit my 5hrs this week, and then some. Still at 295lbs. though.

still sitting at 295lbs.

Done! I took the oath, for my Wife, my Daughter, and the millions of Women and Children subjected to horrible violence at the hands of cowards, Worldwide. (btw,to take the oath, you need a valid post code. A US Zip Code is not valid. I just googled and came up with 5806.)

Thats not all wrong actually. You will have loose skin. And you'll be proud of it. It can get cleaned up later, either naturally by working out or surgery. You are not going to be bald. But you may lose some hair for a little bit. It grows back eventually. You probably won't be worse off. The chances of that happening are slim. But, YOU GONNA BE SLIMMER than those chances anyway

Sorry to hear that you are not getting great reactions to this. I had a couple friends who poo poo'd the idea, but not in a way that made me question my dedication to it. I can understand why some might not feel elated that a friend or family member is going to have this surgery. But, that said, I also cannot see a reason for someone who has decided to do this, to back out because of somebody else's opinion of it. There are so many points and counter points. Some say that it is too dangerous and a major surgery. But those people may not realize that without the surgery or weightloss, a knee replacement, hip replacement or long term diabetes can be just as serious. I am not saying that you shouldn't pay attention to them, but I hope you also realize that some of them may know very little about any of the possible procedures or what type of dedication it takes to be successful. The surgery does not make you eat right. It does not tell you to go exercise. You still have to do the work. My Sister-in-law said that I need to try harder. She herself is morbidly obese. I told her that I get no bonus points for how I lose the weight, I just have to lose it. Since my surgery, she keeps telling me how great I look and that she is glad I am taking it seriously. Best of luck, hang in there, stay the course.

I think it depends on the Insurance you have. I am on my wife's insurance. She works for St. John Providence. They did not require a 6 month protocol but if you were under a certain BMI, then you needed to have some co-morbidities, Like High Blood Pressure, Diabetes, High Cholesterol, etc. I was a 56 BMI I believe, plus I was Diabetic and had High Blood Pressure. I only had to have my psych eval and a stress test. Even with just that, It still took me almost 5 months from first appointment to surgery.

I lean more toward this answer. While I am open to talking about it with anyone, I would have to make sure they understand that I am not recommending it, but that I am simply sharing my experience to act as information for THEM to make the decision, free from any expectations from me. If they are a friend or family, I of course want them to be successful, whichever path they take, but I do not want to endorse any procedure as "The one to do". All I have to offer is what happened to me and the challenges, and rewards, that I went through.

I am actually happy that I am cold all the time. I always liked to layer and wear sweaters with shirts underneath. But I would always sweat and that made me self conscious. Now I can layer two long sleeved shirts and still wear a jacket or sweater at work. While I have gotten some newer shirts and workout clothes, I have purposely stayed away from jeans. They are a huge expense. I now wear a size 44-46 waist. I am still rocking my 52" waist jeans. I am short so all of my pants have to get hemmed. With 5 pairs of jeans at $50+ and an additional $10 per pair for hemming, I am ok cinching my pants with my way too ling belt that I have to keep adding holes too. Glad to see I am not alone. Its nice to have small things like certain outfits to look forward to along the journey.

I will start by saying congratulations! I am always so thrilled when I see guys and gals in their 20's looking into this already. To have the opportunity to make this change so young, is probably one of the most exciting situations to be in. with the exception of a few, the majority of people on this forum would say the number 1 regret was not doing it sooner. Obviously everyone's journey is different and you have to be at a certain point in your life to start looking at this as an available option. I agree with the posters above, make a list of questions, ask them in person and on forums like this. Read as much about as many different aspects of this. BUT, remember, sort through all of the info and figure out what you need to take away from it and discard the rest. There is so much info out there, many different conflicting reports and stories. Do your best to not fall into the trap of believing everything. The other great thing about being so young when you go through this, your body should recover quicker and most likely will have less chances of adverse side effects or complications. Best of luck. Get the answers you seek and keep asking, searching, reading and talking. You'll be so happy you did.

Similar here. between 100-120g protein daily. Cardio daily, weights 3 days per week. Also not really building muscle, but I am trying to keep as much of my muscle as possible while burning fat. I have read that it is pretty hard to build muscle while in the initial losing phase, basically the first 8-12 months. Since you are losing weight and already have to work hard to get enough protein and fluids and calories, the best you can hope for is to not lose too much muscle. I believe once you hit maintenance, you can probably start to build muscle again. I think once you are cleared to lift more than 10lbs, you will probably be safe to lift weights, but you may want to start off easy. The surgeon can give you a better idea, but my surgeon was also quite vague about it. All he would say is I am clear to workout however I saw fit.

it may or may not be for you. I understand the hesitation. For me it is not so much about a sweet craving but more for taste. For instance, I wanted oatmeal at phase 3 but could not stand the taste of plain oatmeal. I found a cinnamon brown sugar sugar-free to rani syrup that made that oatmeal edible. I drink Powerade 0 cal, zero carb Isopure drinks, sobe life Water 0cal and other things like that. But again, that feeds a necessity in me to drink something other than water, or I won't get my Fluid in. I guess I figure as long as I don't stay on that stuff forever, then it serves a purpose for now. Best of luck, whatever you decide.

Once you get the all clear from the dr, you should be good to go. I got my all clear around 4 weeks. This weekend I had some Snacks, so I hit the gym like:

Where it says servings in the entry before you add it, select the number 1 and change it to a decimal. .5 for half, .75 for 3/4 of something.

I spent some time looking into these not long ago. I liked the idea of something on my wrist that did the heart rate, but because of other factors, ended up with one that requires a secondary chest strap due to the other features this one had. I got the Garmin Vivoactive. I LOVE IT. Wear it daily. It tracks my steps, reminds me to get up and move, stays charged for 3-4 days without issue, although I charge it every couple days. You can wear it swimming and count laps/times. It tells me when I have emails, texts and phone calls. Its light and not very thick. Its also much cheaper than an apple watch. The only downside that I can find is that the music controls on it only work for Apple Music, but that is because Apple doesn't want you to be able to control pandora or spottily on an iPhone with anything other than an Apple Watch. I recently got a bike and Garmin sells a sensor to put on the crank of the bike to track how many pedals you get on a ride. Can't say enough good things about this Activity Tracker. Oh, and it also connects with MFP, Apple Health and other fitness type apps to pull and push data.