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I am scheduled for VSG august 27th. I had my psych and was extremely nervous. It was so much easier than expected. They are basically looking to make sure you completely understand your surgery, lifestyle changes you'll have to make, that you have support coming from somewhere(family, friends, hospital support group, etc.), the physical changes to your body(loose skin, possible Hair loss, etc.), and just a general "do you get it?" type of thing. Good luck!!!

Too funny @@Dub ????. The illicit under lock and key drawer stash. Sounds good to me!

......but under lock and key, of course. It tastes too good to leave unguarded.
Sipping on the best iced coffee I've had at the moment. Iced coffee = 2 scoops of Chike Moca Iced Coffee mix + on cup of ice & Water mix.
The powdered Peanut Butter is great, too.
Their Protein Powder makes killer shakes.< /p>
This will be good stuff to keep around in my desk at work for easy Snacks and Meal Replacements.< /p>
Warning, though, the coffee mix does have expresso in it so it is caffeinated.
I'm generally not an iced coffee fan....but this is going to be welcome stuff for that last snack on night shifts.
Their Protein powder is excellent mixed with water & ice.

Thanks! I need all the cheerleading I can get!

Golden standard for a reason

I'm so glad you mentioned sushi because I LOVE sushi and wondered if that was doable post op. Probably not the way I stuff it in my mouth, but still doable!

It's called Diarrhea of the mouth Dahlia....... Strictly only found in people full ****, lol

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

Look at the reviews for sugar-free Gummy Bears on Amazon......and then give her some in the morning. She will have cramps and diarrhea in a few hours, probably in time to ruin her car.

Ughhhhhhhh...I am so tired of this dumb bi#@h I work with who keeps making comments about the surgery is the easy way out!!! I never told her I had it cause she never asked me, but I know she knows cause she asked other coworkers if I had it done! So ignorant!! I hope she gets diarrhea in her car on her way home!! Ok.. I'm done. Lol

@@Smye I look at the financial "set back" as an investment in the future. Just think, you are up fronting the cost now, but this later will save you from having to shell out for other surgeries to repair knees and backs and the cost of diabetes and the testing strips and not to mention the plus sized clothes all cost a butt ton more so for the price of that one hiddeous tent shirt that cost $110 you instead buy a $10 top at target in the regular section and put the diff towards the bills.

I haven't told too many people about my decision to have surgery, because I know support isn't going to come from my family period. They are all super morbidly obese and have tons of comorbidities, but they would rather be miserable than to give up their love of super greasy, super fattening foods and soda. My brother already lost his legs to diabetes yet he can't give up full sugar soda. He just keeps going like this and if he doesn't change one day he's going to kill himself, but he says he's rather die then not be able to eat and drink what he wants. It's sad. The whole bunch is like that! They are also the kind who like to sabotage diets to feel better about themselves and rub it in your face that they just ate a triple cheeseburger with onion rings and a chocolate shake and "all you can have is your little itty bitty nothing." My mom used to encourage them all to taunt me as punishment for sneaking food when she was starving me. I'd have to sit there and watch them eat huge heaping plates spilling over with food, while I was sentenced to days without food because I snuck a piece of bread or something.
So knowing how they are, I've chosen to NOT tell them that I'm even having a surgery at all, but to assemble my own "family" of people who can and will support me. I've told my best friend since forever who has watched me struggle and seen how cruel people have been to me because of my weight. She knows my struggle and supports my decision. I told my college roommate who also has had the surgery and is 1yr post op and just reached her goal weight. I've told my kids so they won't be scared about what's going to happen and how things will change. And although my hubby wasn't originally behind the decision, I showed him the stats for someone my size who doesn't get the surgery along with writing him a heart filled letter about my struggle, even the parts I hid from him, like all the diet pills, the binging and purging, etc. and how my clock is ticking down. For instance, for my size, the average life expectancy is about 5-7 yrs before heart attack, or stroke leading to death. That would put our youngest baby at maybe 6yrs old when his mom dies. That's horrible! After he understood that we couldn't "just try one more diet" that this was SERIOUS and not just me trying to get a quick fix with no work, he's been behind my decision.
Maybe you could try either sitting down and talking to your family and tell them all the details about how you got to this point or pour your heart into a letter if it tends to get heated and argumentative. My hubby shut me down or stormed out every time I tried to bring it up, so I did write him a letter and then we talked after he had read it. Include the Myriad of diets, the medications, the pains and co morbidities you have that are dangerously dragging your life expectancy down, the science behind how the surgery works to correct these problems, the statistics on if you don't have surgery and the statistics on if you do. Then just let the emotional walls down and tell them how it hurts to know that they don't support you. Tell them how it feels and don't hold back. If they still can't support you after that, then do what I've done and built your own "family" out of the people who can support you. If all else fails, you always have us here.

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

I had surgery on 3/12/15. Went from a size 30 to a size 24. Down 80 pounds so far. Had lots of complications but I don't regret surgery. It's changed my life!

I hafd my surgery on 12-15-14 and my hw 439 cw 280!

In a different post I mentioned that I have served my scale divorce papers! Lol

Yikes! Hope you weren't seriously injured on the stairs. I had a friend who'd sleep drive! THATS SCARY! Lunesta can cause night feeding in some people too but I lucked out because for me it tastes so do bad that it pollutes just about everything I eat the next day. When I take it I have to choke it down.
Ah to be like my old man....head hits pillow and he's down for the count despite the day's events including serving in the Middle East. Meanwhile I'll lay in bed contemplating the space-time continuum and the relative time of traveling through black holes and making chocolate cakes of varying types.
I wish we had gastric sleeve for brains....wait that's a lobotomy, right?

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

Before killing him in his sleep with a pillow(I know I considered it w/ mine LOL), try approaching it another way. When I told my husband I wanted WLS he told me to just go on a different diet and maybe it would be different.(I'd been on one for a year at that point and had lost 3 lbs). He got angry, he cut me off and wouldn't let me talk, and he even tried to pull out the kids and use them as a weapon saying that I would be stealing away their Christmas presents to pay for it. I couldn't get through to him speaking, so I wrote him a long letter and told him at the end after he had read this, I wanted him to come talk to me. I poured my heart out in that letter. I didn't hold back. I told him why I needed this, how it was going to help me, how it would effect all of us for the positives, how my life expectancy would grow, I wouldn't live in fear of getting diabetes, and all the statistics I could find on wls from survival rates, 5yr survival at my BMI range without wls, my fear of dying I front of our kids from a heart attack, just everything I kept inside. I told him
how important it was for me to have his support and not feel like I have to choose between him and my life. They should be 2 things that go together. I basically had to sell it to him. It wasn't because he didn't care or was trying to be insensitive to my needs. He honestly did not understand my struggle and was afraid I was going to do something hair brained to try to get skinny at a huge cost of money and possibly my life. We used to watch 600lb Life together and there were several people who died. By explaining my side and giving references to websites with facts, he was able to research for himself and see that it was a good idea. You can still eat out after wls, but instead of buying 2 Entrees, maybe you buy one and split or or if he's not a sharer, maybe buy 1 entree and one healthy appetizer as a meal for you. You just need to get both your sides heard and come to an understanding. When I was done, and then we were done talking, we both knew this is what I need and he's behind me. He actually surprised me the other day and said that he doesn't want me to wait til Christmas if I get approved earlier so I could be on the road to a healthier me sooner. Last night he gave me a magazine that listed some good family friendly hiking trails in our area, because I'd like to be able to go on nature hikes but my weight makes it hard to even stand for 30 mins at a time much less enjoy a hike! It didn't all happen over night, but as he began to let it all sink in, he's really become a big supporter for me getting this done.

People's first reactions aren't always their last or even their next reactions.
God knows what he really thinks / has heard that WLS involves -- or even what you told him after learning just a little bit about WLS. (Did you give him the idea that you couldn't ever go out with him and enjoy a nice dinner? If so, please know that a year from now you're very likely going to be able to do that. You will surely bring home a doggie bag, however. But no one will notice.)
My husband was completely supportive of me. Still, I drug his ass to my full-day educational program and to all my doctor's consultations, pre- and post-op.
I continue to educate him about every phase I'm going through.
But he IS perfect.

@@Smye I look at the financial "set back" as an investment in the future. Just think, you are up fronting the cost now, but this later will save you from having to shell out for other surgeries to repair knees and backs and the cost of diabetes and the testing strips and not to mention the plus sized clothes all cost a butt ton more so for the price of that one hiddeous tent shirt that cost $110 you instead buy a $10 top at target in the regular section and put the diff towards the bills.

I wouldn't call it guilt, but there is definitely a level of embarrassment. I know if I tell my casual friends that I'm having wls they will totally just think I've taken the easy way out and not realize how important this is for me. It makes me want to keep it to myself and only let a few people in. I've always been a pretty private person as far as my weight and diets go so it wouldn't surprise anyone if I went on another diet and lost some weight. By the time I lose a substantial amount of weight, I might be more open to talking about it. I think if anything I'm more afraid of telling people and then not losing anything and have people talk about me and how I couldn't make it work because I'm just a fat lazy person. That's my biggest fear.

I trust my NUT completely. As soon as we started talking, I knew right away that she wasn't in it for the money. She was in it to help me succeed and just happens to pay her bills doing so. That makes a HUGE difference. I've had dieticians and nutritionists whose only goals were to berate me or make me feel wholely inadequate with comments like "You can't tell me you know how to eat a healthy diet and weigh what you do. You don't know anything!" or when there's no weightloss accuse me of cheating on the plan, which I haven't. Or just treating me like a total imbecile and pulling out the plastic food portions and having mock dinner parties and then saying "well, you don't really eat like this otherwise you wouldn't be here." Having that trust and faith and just general feeling of being able to be open and honest without judgement from your NUT is paramount to success in the process. This is the person we are going to rely on to teach us how to eat and live with our new pouch. The rules are different on the other side and we can't just be expected to wing it. If we can't take their advice and follow their guidance knowing it's what's best for us even if we can't fully understand that point, then I don't know how it can work. If they aren't listening to your concerns and answering questions, that's a HUGE problem. There should be no unanswered questions. You need to know how they came up with this particular approach. I mean, what are you going to do post op when the NUT says nothing but liquids for 2wks and then slowly add in soft foods like thin cream of wheat or cottage cheese and you say, but I don't feel that wheat is a good food for me, so I'm going to go with......Teddy grahams soaked in milk to make it go down and after that rely on any pain to tell me what foods I should eat because my body knows better than him/her. That can be kind of dangerous if your NUT didn't take the time to explain WHY there's this progression and what could happen if you jump too fast. This is all just an example, not saying this is your problem at all, but just showing how important that trust and guidance is. If you can't get it from the NUT you have, you either need to find a new one, or pay for a second opinion elsewhere. My insurance only allows for my PCP to oversee the 90 days of supervised diet, but I decided to pay the extra to get a NUT I can trust and work well with. Sure my PCP wants me to be healthy too, but all she relies on are books and manuals and eating charts, whereas my NUT that is costing me dearly, has ditched the charts and is working with me as a whole person. I don't know how I could hope to make it through this process and succeed if I had to do it without her.