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You're one day behind me, Kathy. 8lbs! Great! I haven't stepped on the scale this week. Going to stay away from it for about a month if I can help it. Been kind of at a plateau since losing my 50lbs and don't want to get down about it. Aren't we a great group of Jazzy Junes? Take care and good luck!:teeth_smile:

I would make a call to her dr. and let him know of her symptoms.

Hey Cathy, Can relate to the smell of food and the hunger kicking in. I am on day 8 of my pre-op diet. We live on a farm and I cook three scare meals a day for the hired help. Yesterday I was cooking something that smelled sooooooooooo good. My stomach started talking and I started to drool like my black lab when he is offered a treat! Happy to hear things are settling down some for you. You have the right attitude about sharing your story. We all need to hear what we might be in for.

Wasa...good luck adjusting to your change. Hope everything goes smoothly for you.

Shiny and Kat....thanks for sharing. Just walked in the door from my last visit with my surgeon b/4 my surgery on the 17th. I was choked up and nervous and thinking "Well, this is it...my life will never be the same again". It was somewhat a negative thought. Reading your posts re-instilled in me the reason I am doing this surgery. I want all those things that you both have experience. I want my life back. I want the confidence I once had. I want to go all the way and get that TT. Thanks girls for making my day! Sending the love your way

Isn't it amazing how much energy comes from even 10lbs of weight loss? Wishing you and your husband continued success!

Thanks Terri....I appreciate your concern but it is what it is. I have to hang on to that little bit of not forgiving. He ruled me for so many years...it's my way of having the upper hand and in some way I feel like I am protecting myself. I cannot let him off the hook totally.

Terri...I could see where you thought my post contradicted each other. Sometimes it would be easier face to face when talking about a subject that is so intense. I do live with the hell of what happened every day. It's part of me. I have learned to let so much of it go but it will always be there. The point I made of being "truly happy" is because I have filled so many voids in my life and moved on the best I could. I did not say that I have not forgiven. I said I have not done at total forgiveness. As far as the "somewhat functional life" I live...it's the best that I can do with the damage that has been done. I said I was at peace after confronting my abuser and I mean that. I believe I have made great strides in working very hard to live as normal as possible after the trauma that was inflicted on me. I do not walk around with great anger in me. There is just part of me that will never forgive him "totally"

What drew me to this thread was the word "forgive". I can forgive people and myself for certain things. But some deeds just plain don't deserve total forgiveness. Maybe to totally forgive, the other party needs to ask for forgiveness and mean it. I live with the horror of what happened to me every day. I am only able to live a somewhat functional life after 5 years of therapy. My abuser is the mayor of a city and an oh so respected member of society. Nope...I can not forgive until he owns up.

Hey Fanny..great NSV. Cannot wait to have one like that!

Thanks for the updates. Happy to hear you guys are on the road to recovery and doing well.

I am not so sure about this word called "forgiveness" I have made peace inside myself over certain things that have happened in my life but I cannot say that I have totally forgiven anyone (or want to). I have taken certain steps to confront the people who ripped my world apart and felt so very much peace after confronting them, having my say and then leaving the ball in their court. I was continually raped by my brother from the time I was seven until I was seventeen. (He was much older than I). I confronted my mother about this 13 years ago and I was no longer allowed in her life. She went to her death bed two years ago still living the lie. Three years ago I wrote a letter to my bastard brother confronting him with everything he had done to me. I felt a certain peace come over me. Most of the horrid anger I had pent up eased it's way out of me. I have had no family contact since 1996. It's the way it has to be in order to save myself and keep my children away from demented family members. I attribute a lot of my weight gain to the stress of living without my family of origin. But, I am now truly happy. I have brought people into my life that have filled the void and I am blessed. Total forgiveness? I don't think so!!!!!!!!

Good luck to all who are going through their surgery today and this week. Speedy recovery and a happy band life to all. Hey Kathystrick....what is your pre-op diet. I started mine last week and have 8 days to go. I hate to say this but I am not minding the diet. I have all clear, sugar free liquids with the exception of a protien drink in the morning. I will do anything just to get this done and on the road to a new life. I think the thing that saves me on this diet is the chicken broth. I worry about the sodium in it so will head to town to get some low sodium broth. Hang in there, Kathy. It will be over b/4 you know it.

I have one to add to this. While you are in the middle of one of the above, look at this person's shoes, up to their tummy and then back down to their shoes again. Say "hummmmmm" and walk away. It's something my mother taught me along time ago when I would get teased about my weight.

Cathy...thinking of you today and EVERYONE else being banded today. Hope everything is going good. About that lake house...I think they must be all sold out. When you are feeling better, just haul A$$ to Minnesota and I will share!:laugh:

Wishing you the best of luck, a speedy recovery and great band life. God Bless

I am only home about three days a week. I spend Thursday noon through Monday morning at my lake place from April through end of October. Just bought a lap top and need to get set up at the lake. I guess I have missed posting lately on this thread for some reason. Are we going to make this thread the "go to" for checking in and following up? I didn't notice you were so close to your surgery date. Want to wish you luck and God Bless. Hope your recovery time is easy and that your lap band life is successful. Thank you for keeping the Jazzy Junes together and motivated. I am on my second day of my 14 day pre-op diet. (all liquids) I will have to say that I am a BOW (bitch on wheels). I just pop in and out of home. When I feel the BOW feeling...I head back to the lake!

Mekadig..wishing you luck tomorrow. I will be banded on the 17th and those exact feelings hit me two days ago. They have passed. I had a friend freak out (had not told her about LB b/4 last Sat.) this weekend about me having this surgery. Got the big ole' lecture. I think that's what set off my anxiety attack. But, did a lot of thinking and I am sure of my decision to have the LB and have been sure for over a year now. These types of feelings hit and you just need to calm yourself the best you can. I wish you luck with your recovery and LB future. The lap band will work if you help it along. God Bless.

Sorry Grace, don't mean to hijack.. Jachut, I appreciate your approach. What's wrong with sharing? I can only speak for myself but the no B.S. approach needs to be thrown in there also

Sorry for what you went through but happy to hear it was not something serious with your band. I am sure that is the first thing you thought of when you started having symptoms. Hope you have a quick recovery!

Thanks for your explanation. I, too, like to have a couple socially. I usually plan ahead during the week and tweak my diet to allow the extra calories if I know I might have a drink or two on the weekend.

EricaLyn...I did offend the OP with the way I worded my post and apologized. I flew off the handle and posted in haste. The reason we are all on this journey is because most of us have failed many times attempting to lose this weight. The one and only way that I can see success in this is to follow the rules provided by my dr. and the basic lap band rules.

OK OK...so maybe I could have chosen a better word than "shame". I did not post to tear you to shreds and sorry if you took it that way. It just drives me nuts when I see posts similar to yours that convey the message "I cheated and I'm OK so do it if you want to". (Not a direct quote). Yes, there are many different pre-op diets out there and each and everyone should be ENCOURAGED to stick to what their dr. states should be done pre-op and post-op. Sorry if I offended you.

GG and Diz...thanks for the encouragement. I am a strong person and have taken three years to prepare for this surgery. It's getting so close and that is affecting me. Believe me, by the time I lay down to sleep tonight, I will have everything sorted through. That last comment from my friend just brought everything to a head. She proved she does not know anything about what I am dealing with here. She stated that this is no different than Gastric Bypass and that it is proven not to work in the long run and that the risks are really great. Just irritated me to no end. I will be fine and thanks for your concern!

Latebloomer...happy things worked out for you but I am having a difficult time with you gloating about your pre-op diet cheating. I don't want to sound harsh but I would feel shame in encouraging others to do the same. I wish you continued success on your post-op diet. I hope you have better luck than with your pre-op.