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I thought I was going to be with you guys for September, but approval came in on Wednesday from insurance and confirmed yesterday that surgery is scheduled for this Friday, 8/21!! Started my one week pre-op diet today.

Hope you can all relate--- I've been doing my supervised diet since March 1st. (Lost 45 Pounds-- woo hoo) Well, my daughter just had a baby- she is bipolar and the hormone change pushed her into an episode. We've been scrambling to care for the baby and get her committed. In my old way of coping I would have made a batch of cookie dough or something....
Well, I don't have any of that stuff in my house anymore. Scoured the cabinets and my only sweet thing that I could have was a prune! But... it was amazing how one little prune (or should I say "dried plum") could satisfy my sweet craving. (And guess what-- I only ate one--not the whole box!)

Isn't it wonderful how many of us have come together because of this? I feel a real close network building here. My daughter is 25 and sees how we have come together and thinks it's great too! Only thing that would make us complete is meeting in one place at the same time. Wouldn't that be a goal for next year?

For the past 6|7 years since I've had this weight I never like pics of me. But can't wait to actually like the way I look again. Crazy thing is inside I still feel like the thin girl I always was before all my back surgeries. And honestly by doing the new exercises daily my back and legs are already getting so much stronger I don't always need my cane already. So I'm confident that the more I do, and lose the weight that I won't need it at all which is my second goal. ☺

I just got off the phone with the surgeon's office… I'm officially on the schedule for September 8th!!! And I've also put in my leave request at work and scheduled my pre-op visit with the surgeon & nutritionist for August 20th. I'll get more details then, but at my initial visit they told me that they do a 2 week pre-op low carb diet.
I can't believe this is really happening! I'm so excited!!

As a member of this thread and our new FB secret group we share great stuff here but we've become truly friends with each other on the FB page. Even with support from our families, nothing compares to the support of others going thru almost identical preparation and near the same timeline. It's great!

SWIM girl!! It feels so good. Forget the scars and marks ... your body will feel so good with each pound lost. Good for your joints, too. Swim!!

I justified staying with my last ex ten years too long for two reasons:
1. I was raised in a religious home where the wife is long-suffering and silent in spite of how she is treated. Pray and stay. This caused me to ignore blatant red flags that would have warned me to not get involved with that beast. Once I kindy suggested in my very librarian-like voice that maybe he could see a doctor about getting some medication to help him level out his emotions. "I DON'T NEED NO F***ING MEDICATION! I could time his tirades to 45 minutes. I knew that if I could hang in there for 45 minutes he would be calm and nice again. He's sorry, he loves me, he won't let it happen again - several times a day. In spite of the mixed messages of he loves me and I am always a nuisance, I stayed because I was told he was just having a bad day. Besides....
2. He never hit me. Until he hit me. The injury that sent me to the doctor was a bruise on my arm the size of a 7 ounce steak. His private abuse had gone public. I love you. I am sick and tired of your ugly face. (He yelledthat at me in a Subway shop). But he never hit me. Until he hit me. With volatile people like that, you don't leave when they are home. That is how you end up dead in tomorrow's news.
When I finally got out of there ( at 2 am - I left early from work (third shift) I went to a women's shelter. The diary I had kept was very handy in preparing my case for the restraint hearing. I had his guns taken away from him, too.
The diary reminded me that I was not the crazy one. Reading things I wrote while crying remineded me that he was always throwing things at me that accidently slipped out of his hands and flew across the room. It was the camping lantern that fractured my ankle. I would have told you, "But he nevers hits me." Until he hit me.
I cannot stress enough what my doctor said.......Why would you love someone who treats you that way??????
If any of you EVER need someone to talk to, send me a private message. The number for the Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233
I wish you the best. Don't suffer in silence. Help is available.
Oh, I forgot to tell you - I moved 250 miles away.

You said, "It's usually ok but when we argue it can get full on and he can be quite nasty & say some hurtful things. We've got 2 children together. 2 year old & 3 month old, so you'd think he would be a lot nicer but that isn't the case. It's not the first time his put me down about my weight. He always apologies and says he only said it in anger but I just don't know when enough is enough.."
Look up the Cycle of Abuse. I am a survivor of domestic violence, including death threats from an unstable ex who kept five loaded guns in the house.
When I finally had to go to the doctor to have my injuries looked at, he said. "Why are you still there?" I said because I love him. The doctor asked, "Why would you love someone who treats you that way?" That doctor was very supportive in helping me escape from that mess.
It is no secret here that bariatric surgery exposes the raw dynamics of a relationship. My first ex was "just kidding" when he told me I was too ugly to live. My second ex "didn't really mean it" he when he said he wished he could beat the godda** shi*out of me.
Actually, as much as his cycle of tirades and apologies hurt, you are now seeing what he really thinks of you, and the lack of appreciation he has for your love. Examine your realtionship and how you two contribute to each other's day. What's in it for him, and what's in it for you? What was in it for my exes was cooking, laundry, housekkeeping, errand running, a second income to pay for their hobbies, and free degrading sex when they weren't out with someone else. What was in it for me was tears and humiliation. I ate what they ate, watched what they wanted on TV, wore what they told me to wear.
Bariatric surgery is going to help you re-invent yourself. I am guessing that he is not being all that lovely to the children either. I know that the politically correct thing to say is that you should do this for yourself, but the domestic violence survivor in me says to turn that fat money into revenge money. Do what you gotta do to keep your dignity and peace of mind and go get HOT!

I have a feeling this is going to be an unpopular thing to say but, it sounds like you have an extra 200 pounds of unwanted fathead to get rid of. Nobody needs that or deserves it and you are going to need a cheerleader in your life to help you with this!

You all need to ditch these f*ckers immediately. Love is not the be all end all...support and complementation are. OP and the rest of you, this is obviously worse than the more typical situation we read about here, in which the partner butters you up and says there's nothing wrong with you and doesn't want you to stop being able to eat pizza and burgers with him/her. This is far more toxic. No person on earth is worth being with if the cost is a diminished sense of self. And that is true whether you are having bariatric surgery or not.

When people show you who they are, believe them.
~Maya Angelou~

Once insults are hurled at you they can't be taken back. Life is too short to live with a person that degrades you.

Leolar and Solly33
There are a lot of emotions that you go through. Instances such as watching food network at my son's doctors office and being like I can never enjoy trying out all these recipes if i go through this. Or the mere fact that going out to a restaurant will never be the same again or that Sunday BBQ. I'm a foodie. And that part of my identity will forever be gone.
And the first few days after surgery, I did have regrets. And others I know did too. I think this process is the hardest thing I have ever done. But I know why I am here. I know that eight weeks ago, I was in food coma, couldn't fit any clothes or had the energy or desire to take my toddler to the park. I was absolutely miserable. And today, post surgery, I have taken him out nearly every day to the park for hours to play. And soon, when cleared, I'll be able to run after him and not sit on the sidelines of his life or my life. At my biggest, I had stopped being an active participant in life. Now, food is no longer as big of a focus. Everything else is including my health, my job prospects and most importantly my family.
Make sure this is right for you. There's no going back. What do I miss so far? Chugging Water on a hot day. Lol. Silly but that's all I want. Good luck to you both. We are all here if you need us.

you nailed it!!!!!

Congratulations! My surgery date is September 3.

Finally got my approval today and my
Surgery date (August 19th)!!!! WooHoo!!!!

Hi all! Congrats to the new and soon-to-be sleevers! My journey is going well. I hit 8 months post-op last week and I am down 130 lbs. My goal is to lose another 45 lbs. No complications or Hair loss issues. I take my Vitamins religiously, so my labs are good. The sleeve has exceeded my expectations! Easily the best decision I've made in years. Glad to have my active lifestyle back. ????

I was sleeved 6/22/15. So far since surgery I'm down about 25 pounds. The hardest part is the liquid post-op. I did Clear Liquids for 10 days, the full liquids for 14 days then puréed for 1 week. Now I'm at soft/ maintenance! My energy is great and I have no complaints. Started back to work today and feel good! Good luck everyone!

I start my two week pre-op diet on Wednesday. I'm revising from the band to the sleeve on August 12th. I'm so ready to get this started.
UPDATE: I just got a call asking me if I wanted to change my date to August 10. Hel-lro! Yes Indeed!

Wish I could have cream Soup. I can only have chicken broth with plain Protein powder added in. And would love some lean Protein with my veggies. Oh well, it is what it is and it's only temporary.

Started my pre-op today. Have a couple Protein shakes on the menu today, along with some broth, sugar free Jello, and stopping to get egg drop Soup on the way home since I am allowed (and love that stuff). I got all my Vitamins in this morning and am just now starting to feel a little hunger so I may go ahead and heat up my broth. I have to keep telling myself I can do this, I can do this...

I'll be honest. I cheated on my pre-op liquid phase. I can remember making a Target run and passed a McDonald's. I "wanted" a Fish Filet, fries, and a triple cheeseburger. I ate it, regretted it, questioned my frame of mind and thought to myself WTF are you doing? I think at the time I was feeling a "OMG I need to eat this or that because I will never get to have it again". Which now I know isn't true. I just choose not to eat these things.
For me the pre-op liquid phase was the hardest part. Stick with it. It's a small step to a much larger goal.

Yes majorsmama u can do it im hungry now as we speak lol