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Made a video about you ?
F*%K that B!#*h. No way, shape, or form that can be legal.
Sorry, I have no advice, but that blows. You should get a free pass on pimp-slapping that worthless piece of crap for as many times as you'd like.
Manipulative, petty, low-class heifer. I'm very sorry you had to be subjected to such a spineless piece of garbage.

If that was my boss, I would turn her ass in to HR and get an attorney.

I'm using them right now, but haven't had any blood tests since starting the. I've read several people on here who use them and blood tests all came back fine. I'm using them until I can swallow the Vitamins, because the chewable so make me sick!

old my ASS......YOU are a success and 84 years YOUNG and gorgeous inside and most def out
an inspiration to us ALL

Was she working when you texted? Just a thought? You should still be chatting other women at this point. You might meet the love of your life while this girl is slowly responding!
Dating is work- at least what I remember! ???? it should be fun too.
Just be yourself and have fun! I agree with a few other posts about online dating--- expect to make contact with a lot of weirdos before you meet a few interesting people.
Do you think your confidence has increased after you met with a woman in person?
Good Luck with your future dating life!

@@hollybower - I'm with Babbs. Separate for a season if you must, but everyone I know went through great angst making the decision to have surgery and were really tense the week before. So this is the advice I give to candidates (I'm a political consultant by profession) before they decide to run.
You are about to enter a time of great change. There will be sleepless nights. Your diet will radically alter. Because of the stress you will rapidly lose nearly 25-50 IQ points. I hope you will have enough at the end to keep a pulse going. Because of this you may not:
Buy or sell a business Buy or sell real-estate You will not marry, divorce or start a new relationship Get all affairs in order before you throw your hat in the ring. You do not have the band width to make life changing decisions. I think the advice applies here too. Don't know you, but based on my experience, I think it's true.

Was she working when you texted? Just a thought? You should still be chatting other women at this point. You might meet the love of your life while this girl is slowly responding!
Dating is work- at least what I remember! ???? it should be fun too.
Just be yourself and have fun! I agree with a few other posts about online dating--- expect to make contact with a lot of weirdos before you meet a few interesting people.
Do you think your confidence has increased after you met with a woman in person?
Good Luck with your future dating life!

What happened mbrock?

Not so fast....
Spouses being unsupportive at first is actually pretty normal. There's a lot of feelings going on I'm sure....fear for your health, fear of change, fear of the unknown. Talk to him about it. Educate him and help him understand what to expect leading up to and after surgery. Have him go to your appointments and support groups so he knows what's ahead. Maybe he will lighten up a little?

Just so you know tho...
If you do decide to get rid of the partner, their weight doesn't count as weight you've lost...
You have to lose it off your own body, not just by getting rid of 180/250/whatever pounds of partner...
Just sayin'...

I don't want to burst your bubble but it is normal to "date" several people, go slow until you know each other and go from there. Consider it a good sign that someone you just met isn't all clingy and stuff. I had a guy scare the crap out of me....accused me of "playing" him because he could tell I had logged onto the website. I should mention he and I hadn't even met yet....

You completely did the right thing. Online dating is off the hook weird.
Do not give up over this.
I have to admit .I am curious what you suggested. Do not respond if this is too personal.

It's OK if you text her and just re-iterate that you had a nice time. Don't mention going out again. If she texts you back, then you can discuss making plans. I always followed up with a text if I had a nice time on a date. This way, he knew I was interested. If he called/texted me back, likely we went out again. If not...then I know he's not interested. It only looks desperate if you text and say, 'why didn't you text me like you said you would?'

Area codes don't matter, sometimes people don't want to change their number when they move.

Dating is not something I know much of, I have been in two relationships and they were women I met at work. Never went on dates with but relationship just happened. So I have no clue how to date. Now that I am wanting to date, I find myself not knowing what to put on my online profile and what to say to a woman either. For now I just see someone I am interested in and send a quick hello with some sort of comment on their profile. No responses yet so don't know how good that advice is. lol

So, my one year surgiversary was in August and I've been thinking of how to Celebrate the success of the past year with my Bariatric Pal friends. What can I add to what hasn't already been said? What were my experiences that can inspire and help newcomers? What were the challenges I faced and overcame? What makes my story so much more special than anyone else's? I came to the conclusion that the answer to all of those questions is, everything and nothing. For all of us the journey is unique and it's our most special accomplishment, but all of our journeys are very familiar and the same for many who came before us. But if I left this post right here, you'd say he lost his enthusiasm along with his weight, so let me tell my story (I promise to keep it short but sweet).
I've been overweight most of my life, I made countless attempts at getting it under control, I'd lose 10- 50 lbs. and slowly lose ground only to gain it all back. Sound familiar? In the meantime life went on, career, marriage, kids, house, bills, you know, right? Being young we feel invincible, yeah I was heavier than fit people but I could handle the weight. Of course, I was more of a spectator than a participant but I always figured I'd take care of it some day. Family, job, good times and bad times,there's always something that took priority over losing just a few pounds. But time rolls on, and occasionally I'd try another perfect weight loss answer, but ultimately it wasn't permanent and it was just another failed attempt. When I hit my fifties I noticed more muscle pulls, back injuries, knees were aching more, out of breath sooner, heart was working harder. So in my mid fifties I was put on meds for elevated blood pressure, shortly after statins for cholesterol. At sixty I was put on a CPAP for sleep apnea, and meds for pre diabetes. It was getting real, I was seeing the damage of carrying all the extra weight, but my doctor was keeping things under control, no worries. Then my hips began failing, I could hardly walk, I needed a cane to get in and out of chairs, I didn't want to move. I went to see an orthopedic doctor and he said the pain was from compressed cartilage caused by my weight, so I asked what we could do, he said "nothing, the damage is done". I think that's when I said enough is enough, I'm destroying my body and my future was heading towards life as a sick and handicapped old man. So I had a serious talk with my PCP, looked at my options, did research and made my decision to go with WLS at 62 years old. On my day of surgery the surgeon asked if I was ready, I said "let's do it", and I never looked back.
Here I am 14 months post surgery, no more meds, no more CPAP, no more diabetes, I walk miles with almost no pain,and otherwise feel fantastic. I'm now doing things at 63 that I wouldn't have tried doing at 53, I went from feeling like an 80 year old to feeling better than I ever remember. I was in size 3XL shirts and pants with waist size of 46", today I can wear large to medium shirts and 34" waist pants, now I can shop off the "normal" racks. I've gone from the sidelines and into the game, I'm stronger and I have more energy, I can walk, run, and climb, and play, I feel young again. I'm still not used to the face that stares back at me in the mirror, there was a heavy guy looking back for the last 40 years or so, now I see a leaner more vibrant looking man, it's strange but I'm getting more used to him.
So that's what makes my journey a special success to me, yours may be similar and it may be different, but it will be your special journey. I'm still learning to live with my sleeve, you can't erase years and years of lifestyle overnight, but after a year it's becoming more normal to listen to my sleeve and pay attention to what and how much I eat. If I can offer any wisdom, its to make your decision and then own it, go ahead and commit 100%. I know a lot of people regret not doing something sooner, but we can't change the past, we can only change the future. Best of luck to you all and thank you for your stories and experiences, I have learned and still learn from them.

I've no thoughts as to what to do...
Male attention is not something I've experienced...
(Hard to believe, I know..)
Anyway, I'm gonna hazard a guess that the attention you're getting is not related so much to your physical changes, but more to your mental changes...
I'd say you're possibly more out-going, friendly or approachable since you're feeling better about yourself...
Sometimes we don't see the changes in ourselves because we're too close...
This works for both the physical and mental/emotional changes as well...
As I said, I've no advice for you apart from - Enjoy!!
Remember, it's just attention...
And there's nothing wrong with a bit of attention...

The federal government allows 12 weeks of unpaid family leave.

Dukan IIRC is similar to Atkins. My sole purpose in this is to not engage in a fad diet ever again. I want the practice of 3 healthy meals and a snack a day if necessary to be my at of life. I can acknowledge that a slip up on occasion may happen, but I want that to be the exception not the norm. I have promised myself to eat right and exercise. I feel like I was given a gift. When I have trouble I plan to use support groups and any tool I can find to stay on track.
ETA: Dukan diet. - Similar to Atkins in that it is in low carb, high Protein, limited fruits and veg.

Just going to leave this here....

@@Tssiemer1 Fear not...I've yet to see a "pretty" jina! They all kinda look like a meat sandwich on a hoagie gone wrong. Pick a side....

Damn right !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Such a magnanimous thread theme.
Considering the male version of this phenomenon.....
I'm looking forward to my fatty layers melting away.
For years it's been like playing golf but spotting your opponent handicap adjustments.
There are inches and inches of torpedo being confined in the silo.
This fat melts down and 'Lil Chubb may go away and Dirk Diggler emerges.
Soon.

Even more fun stuff to look forward to.
Great thread.

@@Babbs - "Dear does my labias minora look fat to you?"
Umm, no dear it's your dress

Stop putting yourself down. You look amazing!! Revel in it.

I have had two episodes of dumping syndrome, but it is not good! :huh:
The last time was right before Halloween! I do not reccomend trying cashew "ice cream" even 1/4 of a cup.......
I had terrible vomitting (with nothing in pouch), dizziness, sweating, abdominal cramping, and diarehha and overall feeling of death. It lasted about 4 hours?
On a positive note- I knew that trying halloween candy was out of the question!