allyray

Isn't it amazing how this subject touches a raw nerve in all of us? When people ask me how I lost all the weight, I tell them, "I had bariatric surgery last June and I haven't had a bite of starch, or any sweets, or any booze, or any soda since then... I live on almost exclusively on small portions of Protein and some green vegetables, I exercise almost every day and I feel great! Thanks for asking..." If you spit that all out quickly enough, nobody dares to say it's "easy".

I don't know how he found out, I really hadn't told many people at work, but I guess people talk. Anyway, it came up in conversation, and he started questioning my motivation, saying that didn't I worry that I was taking that easy way out. That if I just worked hard and stayed disciplined, I could do it all on my own. He made it sound so simple. I could tell he thought he was being positive, but he was being condescending, something he has a reputation for doing.
First of all, it's not so simple. I am well over 200+ lbs over. I have gone past the point of no return. And while I make no excuses for how I got this way, I know it's all on me, and I haven't made the best choices in my past. But I'm at the point where medical intervention is required, and my doctor wholeheartedly agrees (I love her by the way!). And I'm going to do this like I do everything in my life. To the best of my abilities. Despite his opinion, I know this will most certainly not be easy. In fact, I want to it to be hard. It will make it that much more worth it once I reach my goal.
And second. This is life and death, I'm in my mid 30s now, and the clock is ticking. If I keep going on this path, I will not have much time left on this planet. I am not concerned with preserving my honor in his eyes. I have family and friends who are all united in their support of me on this. And he's just some guy we hired last year to do . . .I really don't know what he does.
So for those that say, we're cheating, or taking the easy way out. Kindly direct them to engage in intercourse with themselves. Rant over.

I am a type 2 diabetic, and the requirements were my AIC needed to be at 7 or below. Mine was 6.2 day of surgery. You can do it!

This is just wonderful to read! You've got a keeper there!

Thank you Jennifer. I have to say I was in total shock wen they told me yesterday. I was expecting them to give me a date. Anyhow I am expecting my family physician to prescribe Metphormin and I'll see how it works. Looking at the big picture, I'm glad they caught it before hand!
Thanks for your response.

That's awesome!!! So you're feeling good?

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

I'm from bathurst post op 2 days with Dr semerjian, come home one day early no pain meds just Tylonal!

Rj. I am from Sussex, so not thst far away! In our area, there are very few people who have WLS that I know of. So I am very apprehensive about telling people about my upcoming surgery, for the very reason of running into situations like the one you wrote about. It's a shame really!!

@@heav85
My husband told me it feels threatening to have you're partner go though a physical transformation. It does make him insecure and question's if he is enough. i understand and I'm doing what I can to make him feel better about the situation.
BUT....It still bothers me that there is so much importance put on you're appearance when you are thin. Is it me or is it insulting that significant other's think now that we are smaller we might have an affair. I guess larger people never have affair's? (WTF) It's only weight loss. I still have the same love for my husband. I'm just in a smaller package.

I'm finding myself increasingly cranky the last week or so and I haven't even started my 14 day boost diet. Anyone else find this happening to them? Please tell me it's nerves??

This is just wonderful to read! You've got a keeper there!

This is just wonderful to read! You've got a keeper there!

This is my first time posting here and this thread is by far my favorite!!
Things that I will not miss... As I read through all the previous posts, I could relate to the majority of them. Personal hygiene, intimate moments with my husband, doing more things with my kids, not bring embarrassed at my teenage sons' basketball games when I clearly stand out as a very large woman, not having feet hurt, not being the big little sister in my fsmily of 9, wearing clothes over and over because I swear I won't buy new clothes for this size agsin, sleeping in the same bed with my husband every night because of my snoring due to my large neck and chest fat... Oh I could go on and on!!!!!!
Thanks so much for this forum!!!!'

Oh no allyray, that's terrible for you! That's my biggest worry, the other mothers at school finding out. I've been the subject of school gate gossip for the last 12 months and it's horrible, I don't want the same mean people to talk about me for this too.
My dad is a real gossip and can never keep a secret... And he often collects my kids for me. I may have to tell him a little fib.....

....when you can clip your toenails without gasping!

@Kissifur -- one of my goals is to be able to grab some of those expensive name-brand hoodies I buy my sons and throw them on to walk the dog, etc... I can look like a cool mom in Abercrombie and Hollister and all those places... Actually I can probably fit into my 15 yo's now... I'll have to go home and try some on!

You dont have to strain to wipe your bum.
sorry, had to say it.

Wentworth. It took me awhile to get used to the accents but I absolutely love it. I think I watched both seasons in about four days. If you like Orange is the new black then you may want to give it a try. It's much more serious but very good.

My bariatric team has advised me to find a new pastime since I watch way too much tv, but can't stop me from watching the series finale of my favorite show tonight, parenthood!!!! I don't want to say goodbye to the Bravermans!!!!!!

On the one hand, I can't even fathom...on the other hand I suppose I do think low BMI/young/recently obese should at least try pretty seriously before WLs so I guess I judge too. What I noticed is that people who had known me FOREVER who were not obese were my cheerleaders. My family who are most overweight were less so. I was 150# overweight, most of them are say 50# overweight. My general feeling is that it is other fat people who are the most judgmental perhaps?

I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

I waited till I was out of the hospital...

I have been in this situation before where and old "friend" wants to have lunch/coffee whatever, and even though it may be harmless, I always put myself in my husbands shoes. How would I feel if he went out to lunch/coffee with and old "friend". I would be so freakin jealous so I just have never let myself in that situation and neither has he.
Good luck with your decision. That's just my 2 cents worth!!

Hello!
The metabolic changes alone are beyond anything you can prepare for. Then there is that being safe (even if it is lonely or painful) and separated from people feeling you aren't even aware of until you and it start melting away. Then there are the issues that made the eating and morbid obesity acceptable life choices that want to come up and do the two step with your emotional equilibrium. Add on body and appearance issues, moving away from addictive eating behavior, sexuality and your responsibilities toward loved ones, work...
Cut yourself some serious slack. Just make it a point not to be mean and everyone else can just learn to generate a little understanding.
Peace