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The way she died makes a huge difference. I would not have a problem with someone passing from old age in their home. In fact my mother n law passed away from old age in her home. I was there with her when she passed. Since then I have both been in the house hundreds of times and even slept there many. Yes, I thought about it but everything was fine. Now, if it were the scene of a grisly murder, I personally would pass. That's just me....good luck!

As others have said, you know what needs to be done. Start with the 5 day pouch test and get back to the basics as @@Babbs has listed. It worked before, it will work again. Sometimes we simply let bad behaviors back in, it is so easy to do. No time to shame yourself......it's a waste of your time and effort and honestly can lead to indulging in more overeating or bad choices. I have absolutely no doubt that you will get back on track! Best of luck to you and we are here if you need us!

Don't let the tiny one get to you. Obviously she is a bit unprofessional. As someone else said focus on the content and yourself. You know what you need to do to get those pounds and more back off. Focus on good high quality Protein and vegetables. Stay away from sugar, Pasta, rice, bread and potatoes for now. Start walking everyday, move your body more everyday. Drink lots and lots of Water and stay away from sugary drinks. I know it sounds like a lot but you really can do this if you want it bad enough. Obesity is a disease, a metabolic disorder. Many doctors that do not specialize in this area don't get it the only long term cure for obesity long term is surgery and a lot of major life changes. To be successful your mindset really has to change and be ready for the changes that come with this surgery. If you are gaining, you are likely not doing what you need to. Trust me, every change you make is well worth it!

@@Titaniumsleeved2014 Congratulations! I hope that you are recovering well. I had the bypass in sept. 2014. It took me awhile but I just reached my goal having lost 146lbs. I would be happy to share my experience and I can help with questions. You can either message me directly or simply post your questions here. There are many of us on this site that can likely help.

@@sallo Time for honesty here.....I honestly cannot relate. I was one of those people who was sick with several comorbitities and wanted this surgery so bad that I cried when I found out I had to wait 6 months to get it. During that 6 months I worked on building good habits like documenting everything I put in my mouth good or bad. Adhering to a higher protein, low carb diet. Eating my food slowly and chewing like crazy. When my surgery was delayed because someone screwed up sending in my paperwork I cried for a whole day. When I was 6 months post op I learned I would need a 3 level cervical spinal fusion. At the time I had been exercising an hour every day doing cardio. I was terrified that I would stop losing weight because I knew my recovery would be a long one. I also knew that I would have to really be careful about my food choices knowing I would have a lack of exercise and my honeymoon period would be coming to a close. Since that time I have had 2 more surgeries on my spine and shoulder. I had to really stick to the plan and walk because that is all I really can do for myself. I thank god every single day for the nurses and doctors that gave me this great tool. I refuse to squander my chance at a normal healthier size. Well, yesterday, 18 months post op, I reached my ideal weight goal. It took me longer and I have to work hard every single day. Please realize that you are already self sabotaging yourself. Why are you wasting your chance to become healthier. I promise, all the change is well worth it. I am glad I cannot relate to you at this point. I really would like you to see this as a great opportunity instead of a give me. It really will bite you in the ass later. I know many who have gained all or most of their weight back and those people never really got on or followed the plan. Best of luck to you.

@@Yodelania Welcome back! I just wanted to mention the 5 day pouch test is really not so much about how much weight you lose in those 5 days but more about getting back on track. It helps you to reset to when you had surgery. I know that if I ever regain and I anticipate it, I would do the pouch test just to get back on track. The best of luck to you! I know you can do this because you once reached your goals. You can remove the bad habits that allowed you to regain. You already know what you need to do.

@@Thecloude1 Don't let this fear rule you. You will learn quickly if you are going to dump and what causes it. Most people never experience dumping, it is a small percentage of people who do. When you go on your trip, bring along some things you might need. I always travel with ready made Protein shakes, good quality Protein Bars, cheese sticks, jerkey, nuts or seeds in prepackaged portions. When eating out early on I stuck to things like cottage cheese, fish, chicken and stay away from sugary or fatty foods that might cause dumping. Yogurt. Keep one thing in mind, when you order yogurt in a restaurant it is usually full fat, full sugar. I have had yogurt make me uncomfortable for a while. Occasionally the higher end brunch places with have lovely plain yogurt with berries. the only time I ever get sick is if I eat too much of something that could cause a person to dump. So what I mean by that is if I were to have a treat like ice cream, I know that if I eat more than 3 or 4 spoonfuls I am going to be very uncomfortable for a while. I won't get sick but I get a very heavy feeling. I also get this from things like rice, bread, Pasta.....so I simply stay away. I can however have a piece of toasted bread without getting that same feeling. Now keep in mind I am 18 months out and at goal so I am allowed to eat some of these things in moderation. In the first 12 months I stayed completely away. I hope this helps. Have a great time on your trip.

@@GSleeve822 I had bypass 18 months ago so I don't know if this is different for sleeve patients. Within a few weeks I could drink Water and by drinking I don't mean gulping. I can now drink a 16 oz. bottle in a few minutes but I had to learn not to gulp because even now that air in my tummy can be painful. I try to avoid getting a burp stuck. That makes me feel very uncomfortable. But yes, you will be able to drink water like a normal person.

@@GSleeve822 I had bypass 18 months ago so I don't know if this is different for sleeve patients. Within a few weeks I could drink Water and by drinking I don't mean gulping. I can now drink a 16 oz. bottle in a few minutes but I had to learn not to gulp because even now that air in my tummy can be painful. I try to avoid getting a burp stuck. That makes me feel very uncomfortable. But yes, you will be able to drink water like a normal person.

I am so very glad you are doing so well post surgery! Congratulations!

For me, everything changed. What I used to love, I no longer love. For example the description that the op made regarding that juicy cheeseburger. I loved cheeseburgers! I could not wait until I could have one again. Yep, I can eat them if I want to but honestly they no longer thrill me at all. I was a spaghetti fanatic ever since I was a young child. The night before I started my liquid diet we went to our favorite Italian restaurant and had a food funeral. It was so delicious! I have had spaghetti and have made it many different ways for my family. I cannot even stand the texture of Pasta which is what I once loved. I don't get sick but things like bread, pasta, rice make my pouch feel heavy. I now dream about a perfectly cooked filet mignon or salmon. A great piece of pork tenderloin or a juicy grilled chicken breast with some fabulous vegetables or a nice green salad. I cant eat much but boy I think about delicious food that is healthy and good for me. I do occasionally crave a good piece of cheesecake or a couple spoons of ice cream. Because I eat very healthy the rest of the day, I can occasionaly enjoy those yummy treats. I started living for real the day I had my surgery. I no longer live to eat but I eat to live. I make sure that everything I do eat is delicious and worth taking up precious space in my tiny tummy. Some people say they really don't care for food since surgery. For me, I love food. I love planning menus, cooking my food and enjoying it while I eat it. I never eat fast food and seriously do not miss it at all. In fact my hubby eats it and it really grosses me out. All that grease, fat and salt.....no thanks. There are times when I have made something absolutely delicious and wish I could eat more but then I just figure I can have the leftovers for lunch or dinner the next day. My apologies..... I just logged back in and saw this was a male only site.......

I have been weighing daily since the pre op liquid diet. For me, it helps that I understand how my weight fluctuates throughout the week and month. It is motivating as heck for me even now 18 months post op and at my goal as of today. You do have to get it straight in your head that you are not going to see a loss every day nor even every week as you get closer to goal. I use the weight on the scale as 1 measurement tool only. If you cannot think about it as a tool, then you need to stay off because the stalls and fluctuation can be demotivating. I use this info everyday. No, I don't change my plan because of what the scale tells me but if I see an increase in weight which has only happened a few times, I look back at myfitnesspal to determine what I am doing to cause that increase. Most of the time I can directly relate it back to salt. If I eat too much salt, I retain Water. the scale is my friend, my guide.......there times when I argue with her. When I stall for longer than a week, I stay off for a week and then we can be friends again.

I had terrible gas pain. For me walking, sipping and the use of a heating pad really helped it dissipate. I also used gas x when my bowels began working again. That pain can be pretty uncomfortable.

@@Inner Surfer Girl Thanks!

I have tried just about every arm exercise known and because I had huge upper arms, I now have huge near empty bat wings. I have some definition below but I will have to have this removed. Believe it or not my arms bother me more than anything. When I raise my arms I can see the beautiful thin arm of the future but all the sagging skin is hanging off them. Ugh! I hid them when I was fat and I am now hiding them because they are really ugly. I just hit goal today so now I need to maintain for the next year and then I can think about plastics.

The best thing you can do for yourself is track your food. Until you do, you really have no idea of the macro nutrients. The Peanut Butter has some Protein however the jelly and bread basically turn to sugar. That in itself can cause you to crave that sugar. If I were in your shoes I would do the pouch test to simply rid your body of the sugar habit. And track what you consume in my fitness pal. When you begin eating again, follow the same plan you did after surgery. Start with soft foods and make sure you are truly high protein, low carbs. Not sure but I suspect you are truly not close to your protein goal which will help you lose weight. You are most definately upside down eating more grams of carbs and less protein will stall or stop your weight loss. What are your portions like? I am 18 months post op and could never eat a whole pb&j sandwich. I have had a piece of whole grain toast with peanut butter on it and was only able to eat 2/3 of that one slice. Are you not drinking 30 min. Before and 30 minutes after you eat? If you have broken that rule you may find yourself hungrier as well. The good news is, you still have your tool. You just need to start fresh as if you had surgery today. I wish you the best of luck! You can do this! I know it's possible because I reached my goal today! There have been plenty of times where the rules start to slip for me and I stall out. The good thing is you recognize the problem and can do something about it!

I call Chinese take out a treat and I budget for it in my fitness pal. Honestly take out is loaded with fat and carbs but because you eat so little of it and it's only once in a while, go for it. I love egg rolls, egg foo young, moo shu anything......and I absolutely love chicken or pork pot stickers. I stay away from the rice, noodles and pancakes mostly because they swell and make me uncomfortable. I do eat the won ton wrapper on the pot stickers. Honestly, I would rather make my own home made Chinese food but my hubby really loves this place so I will have it once in a while. I do however love hibachi dinners from Japanese restaurants and so does my pouch. I simply skip the rice and take home the leftovers.

I would ask your surgeons office for a recommendation on a PCP who supports Bariatric surgery. I would then switch PCPs. It is awful when you have a doctor who don't support it and you need a PCP who will follow you post op. I swear, there are too many general doctors that are behind the times when it comes to WLS. They seriously don't know how to connect the dots with a post Bariatric patient. You need someone who is well versed and will order the right blood tests down the road. My honest opinion is that you find a physician that is well versed in Bariatric surgery and supports it. It will ensure you have proper care both before and after surgery. Most important, after care!

I was told not to in the first couple of months while your stomach heals. This is because you can suck air which in turn causes pain. I have been using a straw everyday since about 6 months post op.

@@Pedro Valle-Inclan I am curious. How can you say that the sleeve is not a new stomach created? They removed 90% of a sleeves stomach leaving a long banana shaped pouch. There is a long staple line. But it is made from a portion of the old stomach. With bypass they simply take a portion of the old stomach to make the pouch as well. In both cases, the new stomach is part of the old stomach. Do I have this wrong? Or maybe I misunderstood your point?

It can be used by anyone. It is basically taking you back to the pre op liquid diet to reset yourself.

Protein is critical to weight loss. I am 18 months post op and I drink one every morning for Breakfast. I could not possibly get my protein from just food, I am very restricted. I have tried many different protein shakes and have found that Premier Protein ready made shakes work best for me. They have a whopping 30 grams of protein, 1 gram of sugar and are 160 calories. They are ready made so no blender mess required. They don't have that nasty grit that comes from most powdered protein. You can buy them in bulk at Sam's and costco. Some Walgreens have them in small 4 packs and I believe Walmart carries them as well. Costco runs a sale on them every couple of months and I stock up. To your question about weight loss, yes protein is very very critical to weight loss and your nutrition. Having WLS can cause you to be malnourished if you don't get proper amounts of protein and Vitamins. You can get very ill. Please find a protein solution that works for you.

A bit of tough love here....are pancakes and spaghetti os on your approved list? Mashed potatoes? This is just my opinion but the choices you are making can lead to some problems with cravings. The more carbs you eat, the more you will crave them. eggs, tuna, chicken, turkey, yogurt, cottage cheese - items high in Protein will keep you more satisfied for longer periods of time while those carbs are actually the worst thing you can do in this early stage. Also eating processed pre packaged foods like spaghetti os is something my nut told me to stay away from forever. It may be why you are having so many cravings so soon. Half the battle is the head games. How much protein are you currently getting?

What's a 5.2 plan?

@@lifeofblair When I go shopping, I am going to pick some up. Thanks for sharing!