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My BMI and blood work still comes back okay, for now. I'm losing about 2-5 pounds per week. I can only lose another 15 pounds max before I am going to look skeletal. I do take some Vitamins which is helping but most of them I can't take because they make me sick with no food in my stomach. It is so difficult for me to eat!!! I'm heading to an appointment with a new bariatric surgeon today because the one that did my surgeries is a dick.

It's been 6 months since my original gastric bypass, which I then had reversed to a sleeve about three months ago. I still cannot eat without vomiting and pain. Sometimes, some days, I can do yogurt or a pretzel. I sometimes can handle cheese and Soups. But there are many days I can't. I haven't had more than 300 calories a day in six months. With the sleeve everything hurts and feels like it gets stuck and I have to make myself throw up to feel better. Anyone else experiencing an inability to advance their diet at three months?

Here I am. 6 months since original surgery. I've actually lost more since the last photo. I'm almost too thin at this point!

Hey everyone. I've been meaning to get on here and share my story and ask for advice. The condensed version is that I had gastric bypass 6 months ago, ended up in the hospital for almost four months in extreme pain, had my gallbladder removed, another diagnostic surgery, and finally opted to have my bypass reversed and converted to a sleeve. Doctor suspected I had roux limb syndrome, and rare and painful condition where the intestines don't work. I had sleeve surgery 2.5 months ago and I have not been able to advance my diet. I have lost 100 pounds in 6 months and am very near to my original goal weight, which may actually be less than I want to weigh. I am already very thin. I can only eat yogurt, some cheese, broth, liquids, and sometimes I can eat hard pretzels. Protein shakes give me diarrhea now and I can't tolerate anything sweet. When I try and eat other things my stomach hurts like crazy and I have to make myself throw up. Sometimes even yogurt makes me sick. I struggle constantly with dehydration as Water also tends to bother my stomach. I feel like I am in prison with these restrictions going on for so long. I am desperate to be able to advance my diet and get in meats and veggies. I am also feeling very hungry a lot more now, a sign to me that my body needs and wants more food. If anyone has any advice for me I would greatly appreciate it. Am I just expecting to be able to eat more than I am ready for? Its been about 10 weeks since I had my sleeve surgery.

Anyone have swelling, pain, and a hard distended lump around their belly button post surgery? I'm about one week out. Thanks!!

Very hard. I sip a lot. I can't stand it! But I've lost 70 pounds in three months so who cares if I'm cheating a little !

I've had gallstones, gallbladder removed, a marginal ulcer and gastritis since surgery dec 4th. Now I'm on a pic line and have chronic stomach pain. But I've lost 70 pounds and it's all worth it. I would do it again!!!

If someone asks me directly because they want help losing weight, I tell the, in private and ask them not to discuss it with others. This surgery is a gift I want to share with others that need it. But gossipmongers can bugger off as far as I'm concerned. I just tell them I went "gluten free and raw food!!!" Haha what a joke

Use senna liquid. Ask your doctor. It's time for a laxative like milk of magnesia, use every other day. Add Fiber and Water to your diet Don't let this go or you can get a blockage. You can also get a fleet enema from the store but make sure to be near a toilet it works fast

I would not tell anyone outside of your close family and friends. People can be really mean and negative about it. Which is so stupid as this surgery is much harder than a regular diet

The paramedics thought I was drunk because I had ketosis so bad. Hahahaha. Lame

I threw up blood the first night. Normal.

I love my mom, she is a wonderful mom and wonderful person and helps me so much I don't know what I would do without her. I'm very grateful for her and all she does for me and my kids. Sometimes I think about her getting older and I totally freak out because like I said, she is my best friend. Honestly I was so mad about this when I wrote the post above. I'm still pretty upset. It shocks me that she thinks it was her right to share my private information to anyone especially the biggest gossip she knows. It's unfortunate that she can't keep secrets. My mom is my confidant and I love her with all my heart. She knows all my secrets and never judges me and that's what I love about her. She is a wonderful kind person with a huge heart. I understand that she was terrified for me and needed to talk to a friend about it. But there were many other people for her to talk to. It is too bad that she didn't make a better choice. I don't know wether her friend will tell people or not. My mom isn't a very private person, she shares a lot of herself with others. I myself am not shy or a closed book, but in this matter I desperately wanted to keep it between us. I never thought for a second that she would tell people! I am shocked. I know that our relationship will heal but it will take time because this was a breach of trust. I am so grateful that my mom went through hell and back with me during the last two months. She has given up so much for me in her life and continues to do so, because she is a wonderful mom. I would never have made it through this surgery without her by my side. But in regards to my weight she has never respected boundaries. She feels it's okay to comment about it and really hurt me throughout my life in terms of my self esteem. I know it comes from a good place, that she wants me to be happy. But why can't she see that being happy is about being unconditionally loved by your family? There is such a thing as wanting the best for someone but people need to hear that they are okay just the way they are. And no, just because someone is your child, it does not make it okay to make comments about their physical appearance and health. That is for their doctor to do. And people's physical appearance is their business no one else's. My mom needs to try and see beauty in everyone no matter their weight. I forgive my mom for what she did because I love her. I just hope that she looks at herself a little harder over this and realizes how much breaking a promise can hurt. I am sorry she has to go through all of this stress and give me so much of her time this last month. I never thought this surgery would be so difficult for me or for her and I should have asked for help from others, it was too much for her to handle alone. Hopefully with some space between us this rift will heal. And hopefully, I am praying that her "best friend" will keep her mouth SHUT about it too. I'll never really know who she has told if anyone but there is nothing I can do about it. If people question me on how I lost weight I will simply say "through a lot of blood sweat and tears." And change the subject.

Or she might as well have. She told her best friend about my surgery who loves to gossip about other people. My mother might as well have posted it on Facebook. I asked her, no I begged her, I made her SWEAR to me that she would not tell a soul. I let her tell her husband and that was it. What does she do? She tells my uncle, my aunt, and her best friend. I most specifically asked her not to tell this woman above anyone else!!! And she DID! My mom is like a best friend to me. We talk everyday. We share all kinds of things. I trusted her. She says the reason she told is because my complications in healing were stressing her out. What a lame excuse. There are a number of people she could have called who would have comforted her. She could have called her husband or my best friend who also had the surgery. She told because she doesn't respect me or my privacy. She has zero respect for boundaries and never has. Breaking a promise of trust is more painful than slapping someone in the face.

That's a pretty interesting question. Personally I would not have had this surgery if it did not induce weightloss. My health was fine before surgery. The only things I had going on we're back pain ( which could have been addressed with physical therapy and will still need to be) and fatty liver, which from what I understand is not immediately life threatening. So rerouting my intestines just for a small fix on those issues wouldn't have been worth it. My energy levels were poor and I felt very uncomfortable, but I wasn't going to die from that. Why do people think, especially thin or average people, that it is so criminal to want to look better and be the most attractive people we can be? Why is there shame in wanting to lose weight, considering every American standard of beauty revolves around size? Yes, you can diet. Just make sure it's the hard way, not the easy fix way or you won't deserve it. That's such an American mindset. Things don't have value unless they require hard work. Well they just don't know how hard this surgery really is! My ex husband used to give me shut about the wanting to be thin all the time. But yet he hated my weight! It's like damned if you do, damned if you don't. The truth is that 99% of people want to lose some weight! And yet we aren't supposed to want to be attractive or we are labeled as superficial. I did this surgery for the weight loss and the associated perks of feeling and looking better, clothes and shoes and dates and everything in between. I wanted my children to have a beautiful mom they can be proud of and my daughter inspired by. It is a huge additional benefit that weight loss will also cure my fatty liver and help my back, energy levels, etc. But I wouldn't have found giving up eating for life worth the risk to fix those. It's been painful as hell and I've now had two surgerys and five trips to the er for complications. But I still believe it was WORTH IT. So maybe I'm a superficial person. But I'm going to be dancing at my sons wedding one day and have the energy to do it, AND LOOK HOT.

Omg I'm back in the er AGAIN! Fifth time now? My stomach still hurts like hell, it feels like a cats claws are raking the inside, and it burns like crazy. Even the strongest pain meds don't get rid of it completely. So I am back at the hospital where I had my surgery hoping they will admit me at least for the night. I didn't want to leave until this is dealt with because I love three hours away. I started having fainting spells driving a few days ago and almost when of the road! I haven't been able to drink more that 8 ounces of Fluid in two weeks, and I haven't eaten more than a egg size portion of food in three weeks. When I drink I get such horrible burning pains in my belly or I throw it back up. My nausea is so bad, in spite of the nausea medication they have given me, that I can't stand to eat more than a bit of anything. My doctor says I have gastritis and a small marginal ulcer. I just can't go on like this I need to get better. Prilosec isn't working for me at all. I feel no relief except with massive doses of pain meds. They have me on a pain med that the nurse told me is like taking heroin. Omg I'm scared and I just hope my doctor is getting sick enough of me to get to the bottom of what is going on.

I bought some new clothes today! Clothes I would have never worn before and they were on regular sizes. I'm done with plus size forever!!!

Milk of magnesia is a laxative. Don't take it every day! You could have an ulcer I would get to a local doctor

I'm in the er again. Six weeks ago I had rny and last week my gallbladder out. Now I have an ulcer and they think it may have perforated my intestine. I'm so discouraged and just feel defeated. I have been in pain everyday. I have barely eaten in over ten days and can barely drink Water. I feel generally terrible with no energy at all and I barely sleep. My medications are a mess and my surgeon is three hours away and he is a total ****** bag who could care less about me. All he says is "most people are doing fine by now this surgery is no big deal " maybe he is afraid I'm going to screw up his statistics. I was never put on medication for ulcers or gallstones after surgery. I asked and he said I didn't need them. And now I have an ulcer and no gallbladder. I don't smoke or drink and there is no reason I should have gotten an ulcer. I'm feeling really low and like a human pincushion. And at this point I feel like I'm living out of a hospital. Is didn't have much weight to lose, and now I'm thinking this was a mistake and I should have done it the safe way or maybe just accepted my weight as it was for awhile and gone slow. Today I entered one-der-land but it doesn't feel very wonderful to me.

I might be on my own here but personally I just drink up the comments like mothers milk!!! Keep me coming people tell me how good I look!!! It makes me feel so good after all I've struggled and so long feeling invisible to men and women. I never felt overweight I always felt like the beauty I am inside so it hurt when people overlooked me! I love that they are giving me feedback on my progress now. I know it can be hard to take attention if your shy and not used to it. I suggest just trying to own it and let yourself enjoy it- you deserve the compliments!!! People are mostly weight obsessed themselves so they want to know your secret. I just smile and say I know isn't it great! I do feel a little bad when my overweight friends want to know my secret and I don't tell them. It's not as easy as diet and exercise of course. But I have decided to keep it private and everyone has to find their own path to health, we are entitled to privacy

How are you doing Dorothy? We had surgery almost the same day.

Why is it so hard for me to cut him out of my life? I wasn't raised in an abusive situation. My parents were very kind to me although my siblings could be mean at times. We fought like normal siblings. I was a chubby kid and it hurt my self esteem, mostly the way it was handled. I admit I did have low self esteem. By the time I was in my 20s I had an eating disorder and my self worth revolved around men. I didn't value my looks although I was beautiful and I didn't have any self confidence when it came to men. I had several nice boyfriends but still ended up with a man who was withholding and controlling of me. I am struggling because verbal abuse is so gray area. When is really "abuse?" My ex of seven years and the father or my kids would use words as weapons and then he would blame it on me. When we got together I was bulimic. I was quite thin and even so he said I was to big for him. That hit a chord in my brain so that all I wanted was to prove I was worthy of him. I became bulimic and I got what I wanted at all cost- him. Eventually the dam broke however when I became pregnant. It was then i started to realize what a mistake is made- he wasn't that important. This baby and me- that was important. This was my life! He could be so charming at times. He could weave the idea of a beautiful life, he could turn the tables on me and make it seem like it was my doing that I was unhappy or that he put me down. It was true I had no money, I gained a ton of weight pregnant with my son, I didn't have a good job and I had low self esteem. He would pick those issues to get me down even lower. I think I wanted a life with him as a fantasy. I even stayed long enough to have my daughter, seven years in all. I never wanted to be a single parent and I was always in love with him or at least the idea of it. When we were together he would corner me and scream at me, flip me off, his favorite thing to call me was "you f**king b***h". He would tell me I was lazy because I didn't want to workout like he thought I should. I was constantly reminded of my weight. He would say I walked too loud, my feet were too big, my clothes repulsed him, he was embarrassed of me. He gave me ultimatums about losing weight and basically said I was a mess. He would lose his temper and even threw things at me a couple times. During our relationship my weight went from 140 to 240. I was also pregnant three times with two babies. He would say I have let myself go and other moms don't look like me and it's just an excuse. I tried to diet so many times and he would get angry at me for that too. He wanted dinners and desert every night. He believes all I needed to do was get up and go to the gym every morning and the weight would fall off. He used to say I should become an exercise bulimic. That it had nothing to do with food it was just my lack of activity. To my credit I used to be very active when we first met. Pregnant took a real toll on my body and raising babies was exhausting. I like working out but it hard to make it a part of everyday life and I would honestly eat so much crap it just felt impossible to lose weight that way alone. He always said it was just his way of looking out for my health. He wanted me to be active and healthy and sometimes I think- well maybe he was right. I am totally messed up right? I'm obese and I can't stop eating and I don't workout like I should. I could be much better to myself and he is just trying to give me a kick in the pants. How tolerant are we supposed to be of our spouses actions towards us? How accepting are they supposed to be? Everyone has flaws- was it right of him to strong arm me to improve my life? Was he being abusive or just honest? Was it right of me to leave because he was trying to get me to lose weight and be healthier physically? I started over the years to find I didn't agree with him about myself. I would find myself saying no to him in my head. I wasn't a failure, I wasn't lazy or weak. I was like most other moms with full time careers- coping with food a bit, having trouble finding time to workout. Most of the time I ate pretty healthy, I just had a weakness for sweets and I was tired a lot. I relied on sugar to keep me going. I didn't think I was a lazy pig. I felt like- just give me a break. One second of unconditional love inspite of me being fat. Just one time say I love you, no matter what. That never happened. My ex keeps trying to get back together. He says he didn't mean the things he said, they came out wrong. He says I didn't give him enough sex and affection so that he had to be mean to me because he was sexually frustrated (we had sex 2-3 times or more a week) He says it was his job stress. He says he is sorry but never why he is sorry. Just that he was trying to help me. Do you think I was in an abusive relationship? Or is that just how they are??? Because I've never been sure if it wasn't just how marriage is? Is that just how people act when another person lets them down by gaining weight? Are there relationships where couples don't care about appearance so much? Would I be wrong to expect that he would have been kind about the weight I gained with my first pregnancy? Do you think I might meet someone who doesn't care about my appearance that much? This has been on my mind a lot lately. He keeps trying to get back together and I feel so unsure because I wonder if in just being to hard on him. Maybe no one wants to be with someone who "let themselves go" although I never felt like I did that. I always dressed up nice for work and cared about my looks. I'm feeling really confused today. Do ALL men care so much about weight??

Is your question that you are worried about malabsorption issues? I would be more concerned with sleeve issues such as heartburn and not losing enough weight. That's why I chose the rny. I figured if I'm going o do this, it will be once, no revisions for me. I chose the surgery that provides the most weightloss. A lot of bad stuff has been coming out about the sleeve in terms of results. I think with the sleeve you need to have much more willpower. The bypass is a lot harder, nearly impossible for some, to cheat on. My best friend had bypass and her husband the sleeve. She lost 170 pounds in one year. He lost 70 pounds and gained back 35 so only a 35 pound lost. He can and could eat around the surgery the whole time. She had dumping and major restriction. Given she was more motivated but he clearly needed a stronger tool to help with his weightloss. I don't think her really made the choice to lose weight and she did. But statistically people with sleeves don't lose as much. People with rny do get Vitamin issues along the way. Not everyone, but it happens. You have to commit to taking the pills for life. I feel it's worth it to get the health benefits of weightloss even if I have to have Iron transfusions some day. I was going to end up diabetic so I would have had issues anyway. The sleeve can give you heartburn and many end up with a revision. I didn't want two surgeries

Your right that song is perfect thank you!!!!

This week I almost did something really really stupid. 6 months ago I left my partner of 7 years and the father of my two children. He was verbally abusive to me our whole relationship. He used to tell me I was fat at 150 pounds. His nickname for me was buffolo and he told me things like I embarrassed him, I discussed him, I was lazy, incompetent, a gluttonous pig, just couldn't shut my mouth and didn't want to work hard at anything. While we were together I had two children, three pregnancies, started a successful business, made friends and made a life for myself. I tried so many times to lose weight only to fail and many times he would sabatoge me. I was supposed to lose weight as long as I still cooked him amazing dinners, brought home ice cream and Cookies, didn't talk about it too much, and hit the gym every day at the time that worked best for him such as 5 in the morning so I was back in time to give him a blow job and get the kids ready. I needed to have sex with him every day. He used to say he would "fuck the fat off me". He said if I gave out more I would lose weight. I was supposed to be all about sex while also taking daily insults towards my looks. This went on for years and my weight steadily climbed from 140 to 240. I tried working out, Jenny Craig, personal trainers, juice fasting, phentermine, a month of eating disorder therapy and much more. In eating disorder therapy they told me that I really didn't need to lose weight at all. I was about 180 pounds then and they were right. My health was good and I felt good. They preached self love and moderation, staying away from diets and working out for weightloss alone because it was causing me to gain weight and killing my self esteem. My partner made me leave therapy early, refused to attend with me and basically dismissed it because they weren't talking me into losing weight. I became very depressed. I ate out of anger and resentment towards him a lot. I didn't want to lose weight and make him happy. I felt horrible. I stayed a long time for my kids but it was killing me. I asked him last year how he felt about me having rny. He said if I did he would leave me because it was cheating, taking the easy way out and just another sign of my laziness. My lack of wanting to work hard for something or ability to take responsibility. Well it's been 6 months and he has never stopped trying to get back together with me. I guess just in the happy state I am in I started to forget how bad things were or maybe it almost seemed impossible how he could have been so awful. I started to wonder how much was my fault because I was depressed about my weight. Maybe he acted that way because of how I was? Depressed and eating all the time.... I decided I would agree to go to counseling. I let him get closer to me and be back in my life a bit. I even told him about the surgery. He acted fine about it until---- whoa. Wow. True colors come out. He started to show himself. He said he thinks it was "taking the easy way out " but that isn't even as bad as he said- "I know what you did. You planned this for a long time. You decided ages ago you would have the surgery and so you just ate whatever you wanted to get fat enough to have the surgery, basically you knew you could pig out and then you would just use the surgery to fix it. " Oh man oh man. I can't believe what a huge mistake I almost made. Who says that to someone who had to have surgery to correct their weight? Using this as a way to hurt me. I mean I didn't even plan on having this surgery until October of last year. I was a few pounds short of 40 BMI but I would never gain a ton of weight to qualify!! I couldn't even gain the couple pounds I needed and ended up drinking tons of Water before my weigh in and then some! I barely passed only to find out I qualified for Comorbids anyway as I had liver disease. He thinks I just sat around flippantly eating ice cream and donuts saying to myself who cares the surgery will fix this anyway. Like I had liposuction or something!! So ignorant. I have given up my freedom to eat for life because it meant so much to me to be healthy for myself and my kids. I'll never completely be free of having to manage my weight. He thinks I am so superficial that this was just a fun little game for me. I just took the easy way because I am lazy like all fat people, we are just lazy pigs who can't close our mouths. All I know is the whole time we were together that's the way he made me feel. He is like a walking eating disorder. He actually thinks weight loss is all about diet and exercise and anyone can do it. So easy. And guess what? He is overweight himself!!! I am just shocked at myself. I can't believe how close I came. I can't believe I let myself get fooled and hurt by this person again. Never never never again.