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It's a lot more complex than a mental addiction, I'm sorry to tell you. Over eating has it's basis in biology and the way our bodies and blood sugar function. Obesity is not just a choice, it's a disease. This surgery is the closest thing to a cure for what you are dealing with. Do it. Before surgery I was a carb junkie and sugar aholic to the extreme. I can't stand that stuff now. The surgery removes the grehlin ( which causes hunger) and the hormones in your stomach that create sugar cravings. It stabilizes your blood sugar. These are things no amount of 12 stepping will do for you. Obesity and drug addiction are not the same thing, no way. You have to eat to LIVE. Please don't beat yourself up you have a disorder. Your body will fight you every step of the way to hold on to your weight. That's the way we are evolved. And the chemicals you crave in foods create stronger and stronger cravings. It's not you fault. Have the surgery and never look back. Given you may have some emotional,ties to food to work through but it's so much easier from this side of the bench.

Just stick it out. Don't increase your calories that's a mistake. You can increase your protein and lower your carbs , that will break your stall

You need to consider how you can go on and live a happy life being such a yes person all the time. Clearly your being to giving to your family and you need to be more selfish. It's healthy to be selfish sometimes. Seriously. Have this surgery. It will change your life. Your coping with food and you need to turn those emotions outward. I would seriously consider a life change. Let your father and mother work out their issues on their own. It sounds like your dad is still capable enough. They are your parents but you don't owe them every scrap of happiness there is. Also it is time for your family to pitch in with your parents. It's not your responsibility alone!!!!!!! And as lomg as you are doing everything they won't. You need to stop and make them see what's it's doing to you. You need to give them no choice but to help out, period. You have your son to think about. It's enough!!! I would have the surgery for sure. If you have to, call a cab to get you home. Then once you feel well enough, go out and make some friends outside of your family. Take the time you invest in them and make friends who will be there for you when you need them. Get you and your son out of your current situation and when you mom qualifies she can get help from her insurance. Your son still has his whole life to live and needs you. You need you. You need to spend your time with people who love and support you. You've only got one life and this is it. I give you permission to be selfish. It's good for you and for everyone else in your life. The happier you are the more you can be there for others when they really actually need (and deserve) help. Now go and do this!!!

I'm surprised how much this comes up. Not to be judge mental- but you know that weed increases your appetite right? Do you think maybe now is the time to quit for good? It's not really addictive physically and it's pretty hard not to eat while high. I think quitting before your surgery is a really really good idea. Bypass is very different than the sleeve, you cannot get away with as much. You don't want to be smoking after having this done, trust me. The munchies would feel like torture to me. Weed slows you down, basically makes you fat and lazy!! (When your high anyway). I know from experience how weed affects people and their lives. Maybe you should take this opportunity to turn a corner and stop using, get on the right track with your energy and lifestyle? I don't know much about you, maybe you have chronic pain or something like that. But I can't think of many reasons to smoke weed. It makes people depressed and apathetic. I'm from hum olds country the weed capital of America so I know a lot about this!!! Quit that shite!! Plus they urine test you in the hospital and if you pee dirty you may have an issue!

Waaaaaaa I want to be there too!!!!!! 206!!! So close. I'm thrilled for you! Don't you dare get on the scale again for another couple weeks. You never want to see the 200s again!!!!!

I wish so Much someone would notice my weight loss. No one says anything! I wish someone would make a comment like that to me. He was trying to give you a compliment ad you should be proud to have lost so much weight!! Seriously. I've had one of my customers ask me if they could give me some dieting books. For real. I've had somone tell me they were embarrassed to be seen with me. That my face looked like a donut!! Now that's an insult. I know you feel probably a little self conscious now? Maybe trying to adjust? Or maybe this guy is a douche. But I'm proud of you for losing your weight- and you know what. I bet you were beautiful before too.

http://obesitycoverage.com/tricare-weight-loss-surgery-requirements/ Such a great resource for finding out what your requirements are!!! Updated and true to fact.

I'm doing awesome thanks for asking! 6 weeks out and 35 pounds down. It's not easy all the time but I'm so glad I did it and anthem was amazing!!

It's not easy. I had my surgery the day after you. I really struggle with both food and Water. It helps if I have a water bottle with me at all times. I find I hate drinking out of glasses. I drink decaf coffee as a way to get more liquid in. Food... Sigh. I pretty much hate eating now. It's a love hate thing. I only get hungry about once a day in the afternoon. That meal is pretty much it. I try and focus on Protein. But some carbs have strayed slipping in. It's honestly tough to come up with things to eat like. I'm so sick of everything. Food makes me nauseated and sick about an hour after I eat and it lasts all day. It's so annoying. Some days are better than others and some food better than others. I definitely dump from carbs, they give me late dumping. Sick to my stomach grump and agitated. So I really wish I didn't need to eat. It also gives me anxiety to eat because I am afraid I will begin eating too much and not lose weight. I only eat about. 200-500 calories a day. I am honestly afraid to go over that. It just freaks me out to think I may slip back into my old ways. I still don't entirely trust myself, although it is getting a little better every day as I let go of who I used to be and realize that it is in the past. I don't crave sweets anymore thank goodness. I am taking this time to be rid of things I used to live my life around. The further I get along, it seems like the less I want to do things like drink coffee, eat junk or carbs, or really eat much at all. Food is super low priority. I do worry about water and protein however. I wish I could find a simpler means of getting it in that I could tolerate every day. I get sick of foods so quickly!! I used to be like that before and it's even worse now. I try and look on Pinterest for low carb meal ideas. Vitamins are also difficult. They taste so gross and I hate taking them. Sigh. But I know I have to so I'm really making an effort. I can't wait until I can swallow pills. My doctor says at three months out I can swallow pills!!! That will be amazing. Anyhow let's keep in touch. Let me know how your doing. By the way I'm 5'6. Was 240 now 206.

I didn't have to do a two week liquid diet. Just fasting day before and of surgery. I definitely had my last go with sushi rolls. One month out of surgery and sushimi is a big part of my diet. Very good to eat! No rice though

Have the bypass. You lose more weight. The sleeve is much less successful. And why have two surgeries when you could have just one?? I would find a different doctor. The ds is for really really big people. 500 pounds plus. So unless you have that much to lose, go with bypass. The sleeve is for people without much to lose. Only 65% success at five years whole bypass has 85%.

Can you? Probably. Should you? Probably not. it is a commitment to a life change. And bread is really what got us all here in the first place. I think you really have to commit to low carb for life and the thing about carbs is once you start it's hard to stop. For me it would be like playing with fire.

By the way I looked up your insurance requirements. You don't have a 6 month diet requirement. You only need to show you have tried weight loss programs like weight watchers or jenny Craig, you may need to send in proof of that. Also you will need to have your surgery at a VA hospital. http://obesitycoverage.com/tricare-weight-loss-surgery-requirements/

What insurance do you have? Online you can usually find the requirements if you narrow it down and know your exact insurance. Get started with your primary now regardless, that will put you ahead of the game. Oh and a word of advice on the downlow- if you have Aetna, you will want to weight in on your first weigh in as heavy as possible. I mean dress heavy, drink tons of Water before, eat a big meal- because if you don't lose on Aetna your screwed and weighing more from the beginning in water weight ect will help you. I would stuff weights in my bra if I had Aetna. For real. You do not want to let this ridiculous requirement ruin your chances!!

I'm so happy for you and I love your hubby. When I told my ex I wanted this surgery he told me he would leave me if I did it. Granted I wasn't that obese (yet) at 250 pounds but I was already suffering never wanting to join in on life. So I totally get we're you are coming from. You have made a great decision and you won't regret it at all.

Yuck!! I hope you feel better soon. I never heard of that with rny

I was told it is essential to discontinue liquid calories at two weeks

Omg no. Just the opposite!! Why would you want to stretch your pounce out??? In fact we are to avoid doing anything that could stretch it. You could seriously hurt yourself trying to do this. You could burst your pouch or your intestines

Thanks everyone. I agree about the carbs. It's hard not to eat them they taste so good !!! But I know they aren't good for me so I'm going to work on taking them out. I'm sorry for those whose weight loss is going slower. I know that must be frustrating as hell!! I'm so eager for my old body back when I used to be thin and fit. I'm grateful to have lost so much already. I don't have a huge amount to lose either and I've only been obese about three years so my body kind of remembers I think. It was very unnatural for me to be overweight. My body kind of wants to be thin. I had an eating disorder my whole adult life which led to me gaining to this size. I used to be super fit and very slim until I had kids. Then my Ed blew up and I gained 100 pounds in about a year. I'm hoping the short duration of my obesity will help me lose weight now. I'm grateful for how far I've come and I think everyone else should be too. It's a hard surgery to go through, and it's a hard hard life being overweight and obese. It's emotional and it's draining and for me it consumer my life, cost me my marriage and my health. I wish everyone the very best and would love more ideas about how to speed this up, for me and everyone else too!

Also it's only been a month. You could be constipated or retaining water. Give it some more time.

That is so rough. Are you eating carbs? I really can't recommend enough not eating many carbs, less than 20 grams a day. It makes a huge difference!! Also discontinue your Protein shakes and go to solid protein forms. It keeps you full much longer and it's less caloric. Start at the gym lifting weights and cardio. Start small and increase every week. Not only will you lose faster, you will feel more productive and in control or your life and body. You will feel empowered. Otherwise just hang in there! You will get there eventually. It takes time and patience but it will happen. Don't worry about what other people think. They all love you and they want the best for you that is all. They are routing for you. Express to them your frustration. Everyone!!!! Know s how hard weight loss can be. They will sympathize. In fact if you make it look to easy, sometimes people get jealous! Everyone wants to route for you when something is actually tough and you have to show your commitment I'm sure they only have your best interest at heart and if you just let people know it's coming off but slowly, no one is going to judge you. Communication is the key. Weight loss is a touchy subject Most people don't even say anything about my weight loss because they don't want to offend me! It makes me kinda sad when no one comments. People don't want to tread on feelings which is understandable. So just smile and try to stay positive

Thank you everyone! Great comments

It's really hard to get all your fluids in at first Take it slow

Be very very careful about carbs!!! They increase hunger and lead to more cravings for... Carbs!!! Protein is your best friend and should be 80-90% of your diet. It will keep you full and not increase your cravings. At this point eggs and cheese and low sugar yogurt are what you ought to be eating. I'm not a nutritionist of course but speaking from experience you don't want to be eating a lot of carb based foods!!

Did you have sleeve surgery? It's common with that. This is the gastric bypass forum