CandySmooch

I totally agree with you here. JUST this morning - I was soooooo attracted to my future fiancee' because he did my laundry and hung up a towel rack for me in my private bathroom. LOL - and then I watch how he interacts with our old basset/beagle dog named Tucker - he was making baby talk saying "Tucker want a cookie? Yea, Tucker wants a cookie, good boy!" - and after seeing my laundry done and the towel rack and my trash emptied - made me want to call in sick to work for some sweet lovin! Ah well it can wait till tomorrow I just think its wonderful what different people find attractive.

I too decided to NOT tell anyone besides 2 close friends who I know don't judge me, my boyfriend and my mom & stepdad. Surprisingly the roughest person has been my boyfriend. My mom was all for it. He and I have been together a little under 2 years and he has given me mixed support. At first he didn't want me to do it because i haven't really "tried" then it was if this is going to make me happy then he's all for it. But since having the surgery I've heard the " I don't know why you couldn't have done it on you own - I would have been there helping you every step" where i flat out told him I'd done it all before and nothing worked and he'd reply with I've been with you for 2 years and have never seen you "try" to do anything on your own. in which I'd again state yea I'd given up and was bound to be what I was until I found this. Mostly he's supportive - but once in awhile it gets brought up that I haven't "tried" and it pisses me off to no end. I'm happy with not telling anyone else - if I could've gotten away with having it done and not telling my boyfriend I think I would have but that was impossible. I know one thing that he was pissed off that I didn't discuss any of this with him beforehand - I just came home one day and told him I'd like to have it done and my mom was going to use my education fund for it and asked what he thought. He wanted to be consulted before I went to my mom but my thinking was why discuss it with him if it wasn't a possible reality first. I kinda see his point - but he needs to see mine! We'll see how it goes - I don't mean to bash him because besides those few minor comments he's been really great about everything else.

haven't had any problems with rice - also my dr. was adament on not being on a diet after surgery - just everything in moderation - I still use diet things even though he said to use real butter, sour cream etc. just in moderation. he told me I wasn't having the surgery to go on a diet for the rest of my life, but to LIVE a normal life and eat healthy. I don't have anything forbidden just strictly moderation.

I had a wonderful experience with Dr. Sanchez in Monterrey, MX. Monterrey was not as intimidating as all of the tourist and bad cops of Tijuana for myself anyway. I was told Monterrey is one of the richest cities in MX thats why there aren't as many problems as other areas. Everything was lovely - I did see some poverish sections, but for the most part it was all pretty nice. Woudnl't change a thing - I had problems with American Airlines! That's who I had issues with, nothing about going to MX - although I did run into a lady at the airport and I told her what I was going to do and she told me she woulnd't let a Mexican Dr. clean her cats paws! Another lady I sat next to on a plane was a nurse and she told me I should seriously re-consider what I was doing! I'm just trying to make idle honest conversation with these strangers and their trying to tell me what to do with my life decisions! A big F-U goes out to those strangers for making me feel like I was committing a mortal sin when I was just trying to be nice by chatting with them to pass time! Nobody knows about my surgery except 2 close friends, my boyfriend and my parents. Not even my siblings know. So for anyone reading this - if your going to do it, if you don't feel comfortable constantly having to defend yourself about going to MX then I wouldn't tell anyone besides VERY close friends/family.

Cute stuff! I too need to quit smoking. My boyfriend and I quit last January except I have a really stressful job as a 911 Communications Specialist handling all kinds of horrific calls and long houred shifts that I've continued to smoke at work behind my boyfriends back. I regret doing this, but I just can't seem to quit at work I'm fine everywhere else. It breaks up the monotony and lets me have a break to take a quick smoke, it relieves my senses after a stressful call, it helps me cope with heartache and gets me though the shift. I've tried to quit completely at work, but then I feel like I'm going out of my mind!

Call me up anytime you need backup! I will take a certain amount of guff from people, but when I've had enough or something is completely off the wall - I'll shoot straight from my mouth after that and tell it like it is!

Someone needs to put out "kama sutra for fluffies" book. Any other simple positions besides missionary, on the side, and from the barking position? I'm not trying to be graphic - just wanting to know if anyone has luck with something else.

I find when pulling my hair back makes me feel sexy because I'm not trying to hide my beautiful face behind my hair and it accentuates my jaw line - small double chin and all and I like my shoulders - I have sexy shoulders.

Oooh Oooh. Just thought of an embarassing moment that happened a few months ago at the gyno. I get really nervous at the gyno, just because I'm getting all naked up on a table and spreadin my business to the world. My doctor is a lovely man and puts me at ease - but still no matter what I will always be nervous. I was sitting naked on the table with the paper all under me that they tear off after each visit, trying to adjust my paper gown to keep a little modesty when I'm starting to sweat in between my thighs and nether region about the upcoming exam. Well I could feel the paper sticking to my ass and backs of my thighs and was trying to figure out how to fix it when in walks my gyno and his nurse! He asks me to lay down and I did and tried to discreetly pull the paper away but it was stuck to me! I could feel it stuck to my thighs and inbetween my butt cheeks. He asks me to scoot down to get my feet in the stirrups and when I did I heard the paper rip away from the rest as most of it was stuck to me from the sweat! Poor man, bless his heart - he actually tried to help by pulling some of it away but it was soaked in sweat so it was only coming off in little pieces! After they left and I could get dressed I just kept pulling off tiny pieces of ripped paper stuck to me. THAT WAS SO EMBARASSING!

This wasn't really embarrassing but more funny. We have to wear dockers and polos for our uniforms at work ( I work in a 911 Communications Center) I have so many pairs of dockers over the years some of them wear thin. I was at the vending machine alone when I bent down to retrieve my Hostess Cupcakes and I heard a rip like no other! Sure enough I went to the bathroom and completely blew the ass out of my pants! I just found it ironic that I happened to be bending down to get cupcakes at the time ------is that a sign or what?? Keep your ass off the cupcakes!

First off, I was very upset at people wanting this thread removed - I understand taking the extra precautions but then people kept coming back. Stop reading if you are offended. Some of us NEED this thread. I struggle with bedroom stuff and I need a group of gals who are big like me to talk to about it. You understand what I am going through. I once bought a sexy nightie and matching stripper shoes for valentines day for my boyfriend. I took a bath and put the outfit on and thought I looked ridiculous! I took off the shoes and opted to keep the teddy on but then I went and put my big fluffy pink bathrobe over it. I just thought it didn't flatter me. How silly my boyfriend must have thought after he opened my robe and saw I was hiding sexy negligee' under it because I didn't have the confidence to walk down to him without the robe. I still see the shoes sitting high up in the closet thinking - one day - one day soon I'm going to strap those puppies on with the same negligee and try it again, but right this time. I look in the mirror and from the shoulders down, I don't like what I see - I don't find it attractive - and my boyfriend will be a typical man and make a comment once in awhile about a hottie on tv - nothing crude - he'll just be like dangggggg. In my head when I look in the mirror I think what does he find so attractive about me? If he thinks the skinny girls with big boobs are so hot - I look nothing even comparable to them - so why is he with me? Yes I have a beautiful face and I'd have to pick my face as my sexy feature but other than that....... My gal pal who is big also told me if you haven't taken a good look at yourself "down there" then you need to. I said how? She said put a mirror on the floor and straddle it and take a look. Mmmmm, not such a good idea - I'm disgusted by my body so how can my boyfriend not be? I have numerous scars on my thighs and pubic area from sores I've gotten over the years from my thighs rubbing together and I think - I don't blame my boyfriend for only heading south once every few months. If I was a man I wouldn't want to either. My man and I got into a fight one time and I brought this up in anger and later he told it wasn't anything like that - he'd do it everyday if I wanted him to. I believe him. We make wonderful, passionate love - sometimes it doesn't last as long as I'd like - but that happens. Mostly we do the same old things because that's what works, not that I don't want to try, but its too complicated and uncomfortable being this large. I think he understands that because he doesn't push for those things anymore - like I'm noooo good at being on top and I know he'd like this. It's too hard for me to move around at this weight and I feel veryyyyy self-conscious and akward in this position. But I will when I get some weight off. Thanks for reading - and anyone who is offended can kiss my big toe - I'm a big girl with a healthy appetite for sex who has some problems and needs someone who understand to share with.

Yes I too am a sloooooooooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww loser. And I mean slooooooooowwwwwwwwww. I was banded May 24th, 2005 - lost 8lbs right after surgery during the liquid phase - gained 4lbs back before my first fill July 7th. After first fill - felt no more restriction - only lost 1lb before my second fill Aug. 31st. He filled me too tight and I lost 2.5lbs in one day and a 1/2. He took .5cc out - which I know was too much because now I'm back to not much restriction and NOT losing anymore weight............ So total weight loss in 3 1/2 months - 8lbs I was soooooo sure I'd be the one to drop 30 right out of surgery. Nope - I am literally one of the slowest losers I've seen on the 4 forums I belong to. I'm hoping my next fill will get me to the sweet spot that everyone speaks of. I've got a long way to go to. Not as easy as I thought it'd be - whoever says "oh she took the easy way out and had WLS" - is full of dooky and in my book is about as worthless as a poop flavored loli-pop! I've had to work for my 8ln loss and that's really nothing to brag home about either! Good things - like staying fuller longer. Like not having to heap a full plate of food to satisfy me. Like asking my boyfriend to take 1/2 the food on my plate (let him gain a few pounds lol) That's all I can think of for now. I will tell you - that the bad things we're not supposed to eat will go right on down smoothly - when I was filled too tight and couldn't eat solids - I found that oreo Cookies went right on down - no problems. I still battle the sweet tooth - somehow I don't feel satisfied until I have one sweet treat a day whether it be a candy bar or a couple cookies or a piece of candy. Before being banded it was nothing for me to hit the vending machine at work 2-3 times during a 12 hour shift for something sweet. Now I rarely do. That's everything I can think of - hope it helps!

Why should she have to beg and grovel - I'd be flat out TELLING the Dr. I'm keeping my band for now until I deem a decision otherwise and please go ahead with the Gall Bladder surgery and we'll discuss removal of the band at a later date. Why is he pushing so hard so soon when he doesn't have proof that its the band causing problems - I'd be getting a 2nd or 3rd opinion - I understand you like and trust this Dr. but they are not always correct and that's hard to realize when you like and trust someone so much - if he pushes for the removal on weds w/ your gallbladder - I'd tell him flat out you'd like a second opinion before he removes it - if he has a problem with it - then so be it - don't let the fact that you searched through 5 different surgeons to find this one - there are others out there who can help you. Dont' let that stop you I'd fight to keep it for sure at least for awhile after the gallbladder or he could prove w/ evidence that it is the band for sure!

My dietictian said I could have tomato soup and crackers in my liquid stage. Said the crackers would be carbs and would fend off the hunger more. I lived off of tomato soup and crackers my first week or 2. I also had a mexican soup with very thin noodles she said would be ok - think it was called Videl? Its all individualized - I healed very quickly and my appetite came back full force before my first fill I had gained 4lbs back even though I was eating 1/2 as much as pre-band - go figure - that's something I'm still having trouble with - I'm eating 1/2 as much but the weight is coming off sooooo slow - it's so discouraging - going to try to some yoga soon on top of walking.

I also am a loving bandster by Dr. Sanchez - he's wonderful and very affectionate. I've never had US dr.'s run up and hug me in the first meeting. I had nooooo worries whatsover - the worst part was the plane trip from my home in Kansas City - KC made me miss my connecting flight in Dallas! Everything else was a breeze - even the language barrier at the hospital stay is not that bad - Dr. Sanchez's team will give you a cheat sheet with common requests for you to relay to the nurse in Spanish. They were all wonderful too. His private guesthouse where you stay before and after surgery is very cozy and nice - the back patio faces the beautiful mountains in Monterrey. my cost was $900 deposit to reserve surgery date - $7000 upon arrival and the cost of your own airfare rountrip. which mine was $500 so total of $8400 and he gives free fills for life - you only have to pay for the flouro which is like $100 but I can get fills here in the US for $100 so I don't go back to MX. Everyone you deal with from start to finish with his team is superb! I filled out an application and Judy called me the very next day - everyone else took up to a week to call me back. His website is www.ready4achange.com if you have any further questions please PM or email! Will be happy to assist.

I'm also wanting plastic surgery when I'm done, but hoping I don't need it (proabably will as I already have a hanging stomach, but it doesn't hang too far maybe 5 inches or so) but I was told that a good plastic surgeon wouldn't touch me before I lost ALL the weight and had children - which makes sense - why have all that work done when your going to screw it up having kids? I'd also like a boob job - uplift and possible implants if that will make them stay perkier longer. So I'm 24 now - I'd like 2 kids - have 0 now - so before I can begin to show off a beautiful body after plastic surgery I'll be into my 30's which is disapointing because I wanted a naked nice figure in my 20's.

I used Dr. Sanchez in Monterrey - he was wonderful total cost was $7900 plus $500 airfare - he's done over 5,000 surgeries w/ minimal complications and no deaths. I like that he owns his own private guesthouse where you stay before and after surgery (u only stay in the hospital one day) and arranges all transportation. It was oddly enough a very relaxing experience - his back patio faces the beautiful mountains. I took a roll of pics to remember it. He did not require any weight loss prior to surgery and I was 293 - bmi 48

Interesting - thanks for the info - looks like flintstones it is!

Everybody's different. I have experienced only 1 that I would consider a full blown PB. But I don't get as much saliva as everyone else describes. I've had the painful ate to fast and have to give it a few minutes, but that's not so bad. But let me share my first experience shortly before going to full solids after banding - this was a bigg no no, and I was stupid to think it'd be ok. My sister throws a BBQ - and no one in my family knows I've been banded besides my mother, step-dad, and my boyfriend. I figured she'd be having hot dogs and hamburgers - now grant it I felt very healed and hadn't had one lick of problems with any other foods - soooooo I show up and they have nothing but smoked BBQ'd ribs - not the baby back that are lean - but the fatty ones. I put one on my plate and figured I could pick around it - I purposely had not eaten that morning so I could get at least a little salad or something down and not be so obvious. That rib looked & smelled soo good, and it really was soooo tender I thought'd be ok and it was before I got some fat - I tore off a tiny piece and ate it - went down just fine - another 2 bites - ok - 4th bite had a little fat on it and BAM! I immeditaely tried to be discreet and handed that rib over to my boyfriend and he just looked at me and asked what? don't like it? I quickly shook my head and he knew something was wrong - I told him I'd be right back and I went into the bathroom and was doing lamaze breathing for a good 10 minutes! I had tears in my eyes and breathing was the only thing that got me through it - I just remembered what my friends had said - it only has 2 options - to go up or go down - you just have to wait it out and see what it's going to do. I breathed and breathed and breathed - put my arms up over my head and paced in the bathroom. I believe that is what everyone calls a PB and that was my only bad experience thus far. Like I said - I've felt really uncomfortable when I had a too tight fill and ended up throwing up for the first time - but it still never compared to that rib bite I took and I will never forget that!

Damn - I just went through my closet and donated all of my plus size clothing to other plus sized friends and then what was left to Goodwill just a few days before Katrina hit!

I would but I'm at work and they have a block on chat rooms. Got a question though - what kind of multi - vitamin do you take? And where can I find these liquid vitamins at?

I too had "last supper syndrome" - I was eating like a queen my last few weeks hitting every favorite restaurant I had. My last night was at a buffet - and actually that was it - one last hoo-rah - now when I go I just have a salad & breadstick or something although I was bad tonight and ordered a crab cake that i'm sure was loaded with fat and calories Funny, I remembered it used to taste better.

I second Princess - well said! And I can't wait to receive my catalog!!! Boyfriend had issues with me owning a vibrater so I got rid of it towards the beginning of our relationship because it made him uncomfortable. But NOW!!!!!!! I've been working on him for 2 years now trying to convince him that it is NOT replacing him, but enhancing our sex life as a couple together. JUST last week - he said he's listened to what I've said and has agreed to get one! BUT he wanted to be the one to pick it out since he'll be the one using it on me and he didn't want it to resemble his male member - I am completely ecstatic over this as I only used my vibrater for clitoral stimulation anyway - it felt unnatural any other way and I didn't like it. I've heard about the little butterflies and bullet shaped ones that back a lot of power. We'll shop around the catalog and awayyyyyyy we go! Soooo 2 years later and I'm getting a vibe again - I can't wait!!!!!!!!! This was a huge milestone in our sex life together! Also can't wait to get all this weight off so it will be even better and we can do more things that I'm not able to at this weight - like somersaulting off the ceiling fan in the bedroom LMAO - teeeheee !!!!!!!!!

THANKS - i've got it figured out now - this thread can be deleted by a moderater now.

Is there anyone who can help me with the ticker factory? I have made up my ticker and tried cut copy pasting all 3 different codes they give you and they just keep showing up as the codes - no scales - I have the current one from tickercentral but I don't like it. I must be doing something wrong but I've tried everything I can think of. Anyone?