CandySmooch

Nope there are many of us Fluffy Gals who hide in the never-ending closet of My Pants Don't Really Fit Anymore so let's try to see if we can make them look like they do. I totally didn't even know about tucking the flaps back in until another big girl was telling me her pants didn't fit her anymore and lifted her shirt to show me her zipper down 3 or 4 inches with the open flaps tucked back in..........needless to say I was in SHOCK - I said dammmmnnnnn here I've been for the past year just walking around with the zipper down making it look like I've got two simulatnioius growths out of my stomach from the flaps sticking out - making funny pokey things through my shirt! I only learned this trick a few months ago. Hopefully I won't have to pull this trick off too much longer.

we're all here for you. this is a wonderful support system of people who know exactly what your feeling and what your going through. I am not a perfect bandster by any means, but I try a little more each day - and its working for me. I've started just by parking far away from the stores I go to when shopping. gotta start somewhere right? well each day is a new day to start somewhere. as far as your husband goes - gggggrrrrrrrrr how frustrating I know! But when you say its because of your weight does that mean on your part or his? I know its difficult to be intimate when your so big - by the way how big are you? My boyfriend and I only have 2 main positions, at first he would want me to do all these positions that being a big non-flexible girl - it was impossible - he's stopped asking - I think he realizes its not that I don't want but I can't right now because of the difficulty. So what's the issue though ? I understand its weight but your problem or his? And yes with everything else you've got going on - this is one issue that can be put to the side only temporarily because it is an important one. I can't believe 2 years!!! I go without for 2 weeks and I'm sooo bitchy to him! I'm good with sex stuff as a biggin if you just want to fill me in a little more maybe I can help and if you don't want to do it on this thread then please private message me or email me and we can chat that way.

thanks for being so informative!

Ok everyone, I figured I needed to post a little about my journey and what's going on ......I haven't really seen any NSV's yet so I decided I needed to search for them no matter how small and this is what I've come up with. Some I'm reaching for so share a laugh with me MY NSV'S - (although few, here they are) K I noticed only one fitted shirt that used to fit tight and now it is comfortable to wear. I don't have to give my t-shirts a little stretch before putting them on. (u know what I'm talkin about) My mom noticed my belly wasn't sticking out as far as it used to even though I'm only at about 10lbs loss. We have a large box fan that we stretch across the hallway to point in our bedroom and you have to climb over it everytime you need to go into the bedroom. I used to have to lean on the doorway to brace myself to climb over it to keep from falling on my ass and breaking it on my way over, but now I find I don't even break my stride anymore - feels almost like I'm easily jumping hurdles now. (Here I come Fluffy Girl Olympics! Watch out!) I am able to stand on one leg and and put my shoes on without having to sit or lean on a doorway - and without just getting the shoe on halfway before I'd lose my balance and my leg would fall and then I'd just squish my foot around in it until it got all the way on - deforming your shoe eventually after years of abuse like this - (come on I know some of you have done this too, lol) I feel I fit better against my boyfriend when he hugs and squeezes the ol' toosh goodbye when I leave for work. He used to have to wrap his arms around sidways to grab my behind when we were hugging, but now I notice he can hug me straight on with his hands slipped over the back of my hips to give the ol' apple cheeks a squeeze. My docker pants at work almost fit again. You see we only order pants once a year at work and mine haven't fit for a lonnnggggg time - I'd say close to a year so what I've been doing and another big girl at work does the same - you wear the zipper down a few inches and tuck the opening in so its not obvious your pants don't fit - well that zipper has gradually been getting closer back to the top and now in another few pounds I will be able to actually fully zip and button them again. This I am excited about because its very uncomfortable to wear your pants like this for 12 hour shifts at a time. OH and I forgot this happened just tonight! I've been ordering 2XL shirts at work since I started 6 years ago. Well now its that time to order new shirts I put down only an XL thinking of the upcoming eventual weight loss and the personal secretary actually emailed me to confirm I only wanted an XL - I replied and asked her what she was trying to say? (Just messin with her, but it will be funny to see her squirm and try to reply tomorrow:D ) And my boyfriend must be noticing some weight loss too because the other night he said when I lose all the fat I better not lose my rear too cuz he likes it. (I doubt I will cuz believe it or not its the only thing that isn't fat on my body, it might shapen down, but I won't lose it a lot of it and that's ok because I don't have a lot to spare back there) I carry most of my weight in my stomach area even though I am amply blessed in the chest area too. Who knows what's going to happen.....but I massage my body all over periodically telling it you will not be loose and saggy.......ahhhhh the power of positive thinking. So my last dr.'s apt. on Sept. 1st - I had lost a total of 8lbs - I think i've lost at least 3 more now but I don't keep scales at my house, but I was at my sister's the other day and she has a generic one - I thought what the heck but before I got on I noticed it wasn't aligned properly and was showing +3lbs - so I got on it and it said I weighed exactly what I had at my last dr.'s apt. so I figured to -3 off of what it showed to make it even (although I know this is only a rough estimate) - so possibly within the last month I've dropped 3lbs which is a huge success for me - as long as it keeps going that direction. I've been an extremely slow loser post op 4 months and only down 8lbs - possibly 11lbs now. ok so there is what's going on in my life and I really wanted to share with everyone - it makes me feel like I'm making progress however little it may be - it's still progress for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless!

cindy - your smilies are soooooooooooo freakin cute!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks everyone for your kind support in my time of need! This place is the best!

Well my giblets are not very sensitive so actually I think I will go ahead and try the X-Scream - I'm just worried about it rubbing off on him and if he's overly sensitive to something like that then I will try the more sensitive kind. Anyone else care to share any personal reviews?

I have not had one - but am also looking into doing it. The organic health food store in my area gives recommendations - I looked into a provider who charges $70 for the first session and $40 for everyone after that. I plan on getting my first one in 2 weeks - keep me updated and I will do the same. And your right - it just makes sense to get all the junk out since we're putting good stuff in now - and I've also heard and read of people losing a significant amount of weight after they've completed their sessions. The lady I spoke with said the session lasts an hour and half and it varies on each individual on how many sessions you'll need. My step dad needed 15 while my mom is on her 8th and they estimtaed a total of 10 for her.

K - I'm going with the finger fantasy and nympho niagra - I will keep you updated on how they go. I went away from the X-Scream since I didn't want to take a chance on burning either of us - so the nympho niagra made it seem like it was just for women. Maybe DeLarla could chime in on this. Everyone else who's tried her products - I still want reviews here!

hmmm interesting - k come on girls spill it!

Ok, so I'm getting ready to place an order with DeLarla - but I wanted some opinions on some products. It's the stuff called"X-Scream" and there's another one I can't remember the name but it does the same thing - that's supposed to make your giblets all tingly when applied to the area - has anyone tried it? Does it work? Is there something you prefer better than that? Also had a question about the "Good Head" - does it numb the back of your throat? Anyone tried it? What do you think? And also about the "Like a Virgin" - that's supposed to well make it like a virgin - does it work? Is it it worth it? I only plan on trying one right now so wanted to know which would be the best bang for my buck - no pun intended LOL!

I am going to struggle with this in the future except I have a boyfriend who I currently love with all my heart, but what's going to happen when I start getting all kinds of attention that I've never received before? He's not the jealous type so its not going to be the end - but how am I going to feel??? I think we'll be ok, I may become a major flirt but I know who's serving me dinner at home, and I say I would never cheat on him cuz I know what that feels like - but what if something like your situation happens (besides being married - I'd never date a married man again) - but will I be strong enough to avoid temptation - I'd like to say yes, but I've never been faced with it before - its something that will have to wait to be seen. On a side note - in the past I had an affair with a married cop. They didn't have a good relationship and cheated on each other but regardless - I now regret it. It wasn't a short affair either - it lasted for 2 years. I totally believe in Karma and I have this eery feeling that its going to bite me in my ass one of these days. I totally regret it now that I'm older and regardless of the situtation - I should have never been "the other woman". It was soooooo easy to do so - we were attracted to each other so we didn't care about anything else. Although it was a fun time in my life - I look back now and think how childish the affair was for me to be in it, but people do it everyday. I'm ashamed of my actions and would hate to admit it to a future husband and I'd hope beyond all prayer that my future husband wouldn't find it that easy to be with another behind my back like the affair I had was.

I love Dr. malley - he's great - I'm going for a fill in the next couple of months.

OMG - everyone - thank you sooooo very much from the bottom of my heart for your continued support. I'm sorry I haven't been on here to update everyone, but we've been working things out. Let me fill you in on what happened. When I got off work that morning at 7am and got home he was still awake - he looked at me and said he hadn't been able to sleep at all since I left and went to work last night. He had been up thinking all night long about what he was getting ready to do. I asked him if his decision had changed and he said yes. He then picked up the phone to call his brother since his brother was supposed to be coming to get his stuff at 8am. I went in the other room so he could have his privacy (oops yea right, I HAD to listen to find out what was going on) - his brother and him are very close. I listened to him talk to his brother for over an hour about what had been going on. I heard him talk a lot about how he had been freaked out about settling down, but realized now for the first time he was ready. I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, he was approaching 30 years old and we've been planning on a spring engagement. His life was here with me and he realized that - and he wasn't going to just throw it away and run from it, he was going to be my man. There were a lot of other things I had heard him say, but waited to hear it myself. After he got off the phone with his brother we had a "Come To Jesus" talk and got everything out in the open. We've been working things out over the last few days and everything is back on track between us. I was so worried and knew there had to have been another reason for him wanting to leave so suddenly when we haven't had any serious problems in the relationship. Sure we don't see eye to eye all the time, but who does? and I certainly didn't think that would cause our relationship to end. Again - thank you so much for your continued support - I don't know what I would have done without everyone!!!! And on a side note - we had a family BBQ yesterday and my mom commented on how she could tell of my weight loss if it was only minimal - she said she could tell my belly didn't stick out as far as it used to and by God - I believe she's right!

It's almost time now - to face one of the hardest things in my life. I'm going to try to maintain what little dignity I have in tact and tell him goodby and go ahead and leave before he does so I won't be there when he's packing his stuff up. I'm shaking so bad. I hope I don't break down and cause a big scene. How could he leave me? How could he do this to me? How do you do that to someone you've been in love with for 2 years and planning marriage and kids then bam - its F*ck you I'm done. I don't want to start over again. I feel like he's died............I am dying.

As the hours draw nearer, I'm losing it more by the second. I can't stop crying - I had to work tonight - i work night shifts in a 911 center and as the hours are coming closer to going home and having his brother pick him up - its getting worse. how am i going to do this? i love this man, i want to marry him. I know i've got to keep it together because i don't want his last image to be of me bawling and begging but i don't think i'm going to be able to. i know this is the end. i am so destryoed here how can I go on?

I see your birthday is today - happy birthday!

Cool, glad to hear it! He's a wonderful doctor. Best of luck - anyone else got stuff going on? I do but it's under "its a heart break" in the support section

i am sooooo distraught at the thought of saying goodbye to him forever tomorrow. i want to be strong so his last site of me isn't bawling like a baby - but i don't know if i can do it. i'm losing the only man i've ever truly loved and there is not one thing i can do about it. why? i waited so long to be happy.....its been a fairy tale from the beginning even the night we met was only by fate itself. how am i going to do this tomorrow?? i can't, i don't want toooooooooooo let him goooooooooo

thank you so much everyone. it's helping me to know i'm not alone. all of my are in such shock as i've told them tonight. its just like going through a divorce since we've never been apart since we met 2 years ago, and again Halloween is going to be a f-ing killer - would of been our 2 year anniversary!

Guess I need to change my avatar since it is a picture of us when we first met Guess I'll go do that now. Anyone got any cute ones they could send or something different to embrace a new life?

Thanks I'm going to need continued support through the struggling months ahead - your going to see me go through all the motions. I do have a few close friends who are here for me, its just going to be such a change at home. Everything reminds me of us. Everything. And tomorrow is going to be terrible when he actually leaves - I doubt he'll say any more than he already has, its just him leaving now.

My surgery didn't have anything to do with the break up. We had issues, but I still thought it was worth working through. Its so hard to have someone look you in the eyes and tell you its over when you want nothing more than to make it work and they've given up. He's the type of person who sticks with what he decides so I know this is final.

Hi everyone, I need some support and have no where else to turn. My boyfriend and I unexpectedly split tonight after living together for 2 years. We had been in a cycle of fighting off and on, not that bad, but I really didn't think it was worth throwing it all away over. I really thought we could work it out. He's done, he's made up his mind, its over. He said I knew it and he knew it. Well I didn't know it until today. Our anniversary is next month on Halloween. Halloween will never be the same anymore. I really don't know what to think or what to do, but its really over. We were planning for our engagement in February, we've been looking at rings. I'm just so blown away, I've been crying all day trying to convince him its worth saving. His brother his picking him up in the morning and he's moving his stuff out - he's moving to Branson which is 4 hours away. I will never know anything about him after tomorrow. I don't have an address or phone number to even contact him at and he's ready to move on anyway. I have so many changes that I'm being faced with all at one time, I thought I was a strong person, but now I'm not so sure. I'm so bummed I don't even know what to do. I have a splitting headache and my eyes are all puffy. This is the worst feeling I've ever had I feel like I have no one I was ready to settle down and start a family - nothing will ever be like him. I've never felt I had truly been made love to until I met him. We had such a passionate relationship, not like any of my other relationships, I was so sure I had truly found my soul mate. I'm so sad, I don't even know what to write about anymore here And on top of that I haven't ate or drank anything today - I'm trying some chicken right now, but my band is being a fickle bitch too. I'm feel like I've just had a tight fill.

I defianetly qualify for this group. 8lbs lost in 3 months - I really like how you are weeding out the people who don't qualify! Get outta hereeeeeeee LOL. Glad for the support here!

Ooooh completely did not even think of him - I'd still jump his old bones as he is and maybe send him to his grave! dammmmmmnnnnnnnn that deeep sexy voice - for those of you who don't know he is the voice on the commercials BEEF, It's what's for dinner. mmmm sam elliot , that's What's For Dinner...........I say