blondebomb

I was sleeved 1 1/2 yr ago..I only told 3 ppl..fortunately my hubs is my support at home. This is the hardest thing I ever went thru. The physical wasn't hard it was the emotional and mental. It plays with you. No matter how committed we are hormones are strong . Keep trying to get him on bored. Yes ultimately it's us individual. We would have to be perfect in mind or a robot that is programmed not to give in and not succumb to our impulse or what have ya. Can you get him to go to an appointment with you? Heart to heart talk? I have couple friends who live a lifestyle of whatever and live to eat. He keeps feeding her despite her diabetes and other health issues I'm talking 400 pds. He doesn't want her changing and she can't see that he's controlling her or see his insecurities. I don't get spouses like these. Sorry venting some here! If ultimately he doesn't come around now it's hard telling what will happen. Have a local support group. You will need it! I'm sorry your dealing with this. Don't worry about the what ifs. Do this for you. It might be the hardest thing Iv done but it's the best thing for me. I'm down 120 I'm a lot more active my confidence is way better then ever I'm 52 and life is good! (except the x I fall off and find my way back..it does and will happen)! Best wishes dear

I only told a few ppl..1 of them was my hubs and 2 bff's. I am 13 months out and my immediate family still don't know and when anyone asks me a "lost weight" question or health related I smile and say "My health is not up for conversation"..I smile and change the subject. there is other things to talk about then my body. some of my family is obsessed with numbers and looks and I stop it before it gets started. It already is a emotional and mental transition I wasn't about to have to deal with the lack of educated comments of others..I hate that you have to hear this...hang in there xx

thank you for these reminders. as females yes we are constantly reminded on body image no matter what our appearance is. if your overweight, underweight there is contraversy everywhere and it does affect us. I have been guilty of the inner neg dialog myself..losing over 100 pds and still seeing the imperfections of the over 50 class...yea its been hard. some days I hold my head up high and feel confident and proud with what I have accomplished and I wonder if its being over cockiness or if its sheer confidence that I have refound..I don't want to appear as cocky "truly" confident yes. so I am in the kinda "hiding myself" phase again. it's really hard to "hide" this weight loss.. my weight loss is not up for conversation with anyone. when it's brought up I change the topic quickly. I don't like attention..and yes I have a phsycologist I talk to and see thru out the yr still..I am relearning still how to love myself ..thanks again for the article I am glad I seen this!

seen a "NUT" once..with all the changes I had already done and relearned it was obvious she was behind and in old school mentality. never went back and it wasn't required to go back. what she showed me was standerized for all and still stuck on artificial items..

so we were hacked! I just found this thread...

lol...I was on the cell the other day and the format and topics didn't make sense at all! it was crazy I don't know what happened..haha..

Hang in there! I went thru a stall that lasted almost 6 or 8 wks..can't remember exact it was very frustrating on the scale but the inches were melting

11 months..no hair loss from being sleeved ..still take liquid biotin daily..

I feel the need to mention Iv seen some comments on here that appear to be done by me..Iv been Hacked! I'm on my mobile right now but my profile for what I see looks like I'm all over the place! Ugh...making changes..

you better believe it!! I would still be almost 300 if not more by now not bc of unhealthy lifestyle but bc of the dxs I have..100 pds off and it has saved my life and I have my life back! Better then ever..it was worth the obstacles bad emotional roller coaster and challenges!

When it's my time I'll need the whole enchilada done myself. After 2 preg over 35 yrs my tummy muscles also will need tightened..panni won't be enuff for me either..looks great!

Hubs an my 2 bff's is all I told. My family doesn't even no..I'm 11 months po..

I was a few wks ...but it took 4 months for my energy to feel strong enough to go out on my own.

I was exactly 4 hrs after..didn't do much but I got up..took some steps turned around got back in bed..lol