hillgirly

The amount of misinformation I see on this forum is staggering. It definitely needs more vets who actually know what they are talking about, and less people who who think they do.

I think what has happened that cause the loss of many veterans is conflicts on the board. There are many opinionated individuals in this world. Many of them are newbies and many times they offer unsound advice. When a veteran chides in and tries to correct the advise, they are verbally assaulted. So it is a little like a free for all.
Just remember as a veteran that one important quality to have is a thick skin.

do you know what happens when someone punches you in the eye? The eye swells up, retains Fluid and looks like crap. for a long while. And that was just a PUNCH, imagine having someone reach in and pull out an organ...wait, you CAN! Because that's what happened. lol!

Your body is recovering from a trauma, it's gonna hold onto fluids and doesn't want to let go, it's healing and freaking out. You are still working out the gas in your system, your body is only JUST figuring out how to digest Water let alone function normally or release the fluids and nutrients it's afraid of losing.

Give your body some time to recover. It's totally ok, you aren't a failure except in the fact that you are failing to give your body the time and consideration it needs. You are gonna do great, I PROMISE!!!!

Hi! I'm kind of new here, but I'm in St. Louis County and will be having my VSG at Des Peres on May 14th. I actually live about a mile away from DePaul.

In most ways, I'm a lot like @@LipstickLady - I'm blunt and direct, and I don't pussyfoot around.
I'm also logical and dispassionate (which serves me excellently in my avocation). This frequently puts me at odds with drama queens who are ruled by their feelings and little else. Oh well, tough titty.
And I don't believe in personal attacks... until you attack me. Then it's gloves off, *choose your expletive*.
"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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I was never one to ignore people until recently. I don't mind when people disagree with me, but I do mind when people start name calling (not me, but other people), cursing, attacking the person not the issue, etc. Now I have about 10 people blocked because, honestly, they are not worth the negativity they bring in to my thoughts.

Scroll up to your name and a drop down menu will appear. Go to manage ignore prefs and type in the username of the person you want to ignore.

It's a great thing.

Take what you need and leave the rest. This really is a great forum despite a few.

@@Hiraeth
You've contradicted yourself several times just from your original post. First you said it was the split fee, then you said it was them being rude.
It is ridiculous and unreasonable to be upset over a policy that's already in place just because you don't like it. It's their policy, they have the right to enforce it. As someone who works with contracts, if it's anywhere on the menu, you have no claim to say it's not fair because you didn't see the disclaimer. The fact that the disclaimer is there is good enough for a court of law.
Like I said, them being rude is the bigger issue, but let's just admit you basically started it by demanding they not charge you the fee they state they charge in the first place.
I've worked in customer service for 20 years. I always treat my clients and customers with the utmost respect, but that doesn't mean they are always right, and I will politely tell them so. That "Customer is Always Right" rule is a crock and only allows them to take complete advantage of the business owner, and good business owners know how to handle the situation by sticking to their guns, but at the same time doing it in a respectful manner.

Having had my own business for 20 years, I can tell you that the restaurant manager handled this incorrectly. A good owner/manager diffuses a situation. They do not ramp it up.
Yes...I had customers who were looking for a fight and I couldn't do a thing about it. But my late husband was a pro at handling unhappy customers and 90% of the time, the end result was a resolution that satisfied both parties...and often led to a return customer...which obviously this restaurant is not so interested in.
Your satisfaction might be when you pass by one day and they are out of business...

I think this is more the issue.
It was stated on the menu, so it belonged. Just sayin'.
Don't leave a bad review just because you don't like a policy. But leaving a bad review because you felt they were rude to you is perfectly acceptable. I think it was handled incorrectly on both sides, IMO.

Meh. After almost 3 years on this forum, I'm used to it by now
I so wanted the vets input and knowledge when I first started! I hung on their every word, even when they told me I didnt know what I was talking about. They are the reason I've been successful thus far. It honestly gets me a little misty eyed just to say that.
It may be my tone. I'm not the most warm and fuzzy person, and it rubs people the wrong way sometimes. But I'm straight to the point, and that should at least be appreciated, darn it!

Honestly, it's why I have just not been active. There are so many people who are attention whores, drama king/queen, or outright arseholes that I just don't feel the need to help anyone. I'd go as far as saying that I actually want some of these people to fail very publicly.
The blatantly stupid post and questions often have me scratching my head. There is no way they could have had the surgery and not been told some of these things. More likely they were just sitting in the office daydreaming about ways to eat around the surgery before ever having it.
The only thing keeping me here is the Guy's Room. I don't know any men that have had gastric surgery and this is the only place that I can ask IF I eventually have a question I can't get answered on my own or from my surgeon.
Don't try and save anyone @@LipstickLady, most likely they aren't worth the effort.

We have all these newbies coming in with questions/statements that make me wonder if they ever sat down with a NUT, their surgeon or if they were given any type of pre-op training.

Is it OK to eat pizza/tacos/fried chicken? Is ice cream soft? How about milk shakes? I ate swedish fish/noodles/rice a few days post op. I am eating french fries and chicken nuggets, but it's ok because I'm ok so everyone else will be too. I want it so I ate it and I am going to get mad an anyone and everyone who tells me it wasn't a good idea.

Anyone who disagrees is mean, rude, sarcastic, judgmental, non supportive, a bully, horrible, rotten, a monster. I get that this backlash is a defense mechanism because they know deep down that they are wrong but it still sucks to watch this downward spiral that is happening here.

It's not great advice to chew and spit. It's not great advice to move along with your food stages because (you think) your body is telling you that it's OK. (Your body does NOT know best or you wouldn't be in this spot in the first place.)
Vets should leave because all the above advice and pandering and coddling is MUCH better than real, honest, truthful, experienced answers.

It's a freaking $h!tstorm out there the last few weeks. Seriously.

You can't solve her problems with respect to guilt, sexual issues with her fiance, etc. Your interaction with her doesn't sound like it is making you happy. If I were you, I would dial the contact way back. If she can't respect any boundaries you might implement (don't talk to me about your love life, don't text me sexy pictures, let's only chat once a week, whatever you choose) . . . honestly I would block her from your contacts list and go about trying to find a good woman who is not engaged to someone else and in turmoil about her romantic life. I promise you there are better, healthier relationships waiting out there for you.

@@Hiraeth I'm not sure that you are being "used" but it certainly doesn't seem like a good situation and I would not get back into a relationship with her. I would ask her to stop sending you suggestive texts or leading you on. If she can do that to the person she's engaged to be married to in less than 2 months - then she's not looking for a committed relationship and you shouldn't trust her (either should her fiance). She needs to get her shit together emotionally and decide what she wants to do with her life. You are young - find someone who knows what they want and is respectful and trustworthy! If you want to pursue something with her - just have your eyes wide open and realize that you may get hurt again. I encourage you to talk to someone about maybe broaching the subject of your sexuality with your Mom (if that's something you'd be safe doing). It can't be easy hiding who you really are. Good luck!

My kids refer to ENFP's as " that lady who cooks and cleans for us and who will kick our ass if we act like s******ds"
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This place has REALLY slowed down. And not just this particular section, the entire site.
What a shame. A great wealth of knowledge was lost...

Not sure why it'd be frowned on around here.
It's a part of life and a damned important part, too.
Sex is much better now than before.
Now, I know that I broke the bed due to effort.......not due to weight.

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LMBO! This sound like my hubby-literally! I'll have to read this thread to him. Of course I'm sure that will start the whole conversation of whether I ate all of my Protein today & his offering of a high Protein snack

LMBO! This sound like my hubby-literally! I'll have to read this thread to him. Of course I'm sure that will start the whole conversation of whether I ate all of my Protein today & his offering of a high Protein snack

Evidently your stomach isn't ready for those foods. Get back to Clear Liquids, sip slowly and get in liquids and Protein.< /p>

LMBO! This sound like my hubby-literally! I'll have to read this thread to him. Of course I'm sure that will start the whole conversation of whether I ate all of my Protein today & his offering of a high Protein snack

LMBO! This sound like my hubby-literally! I'll have to read this thread to him. Of course I'm sure that will start the whole conversation of whether I ate all of my Protein today & his offering of a high Protein snack

We all slip up! The "habit" eating is the toughest to overcome. Take it as a learning experience. You have now disproven "one small bite won't hurt." Hopefully enough time has passed & you feel a little better now. Take a walk, sit in a chair (do NOT lie down ). Tomorrow is a new day. You've got this!!