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I feel a lot better this morning, but I still have one question. Will I always be this bitter toward people who have always been thin? I am so bitter and falt out mean to those who have always been thin, not all of them, but most. Will I ever be able to look at a skinny girl and not think about her getting fat and outright hating her?

JUST ONE MORE I SWEAR, THEN I AM GOING TO BED I have a chinese pug who is about a year and 3 1/2 months old whose name is Pudge. Brantley LOVESSSSS Pudge and says he is his best friend. Anyways, oneday while their family was here for a cookout Brant was playing with Pudge who has horrible skin allergies and had about 3 big sores on him and a few smaller ones, and his dad walked in and looked at Pudge and said "whew your an ugly dog" and Brant proceeded to run his daddy down and scream "Hes not ugly daddy, he just has some bobos and he cant help it, so don't say that!!!" Meanwhile, July 4, Brant came over (Lord help me) to our house to stay during the day, and I got on to him for pulling Pudge by his little rolls (I cringed thinking, that could be my rolls) and I got on to him & told him he was hurting Pudge, and your not supposed to hurt friends. The next thing I know, I look over and Brant has Pudge armed up and is giving him a big SMACK on the lips. I told him that that was nasty, and he proceeded to tell me that it wasn't nassy, Pudge was his fwiend. This is coming from the kid who chews his fingernails and says "MMMMMM toe nails good" and when told to quite eating his boogers he says "But they tastes sooooo good JOJO!!" HAHA I HAVE WAY TOOOOOOOOOO MANY STORIES

Hey, something else, since my aunt only has boys and they hardly ever shut a door, much less lock it. Anyways, Brantley (4) walks in on Kyle (14) peeing. Then steps up beside him and starts peeing in the same bowl. When Brantley finished he went running into his mom's room and says "Momma, why is Kyle's SeeSee so big!?" HAHAHHA Also, while sitting in a Mexican food restaurant one day, Brantley was sitting close to a baby at another table, and whenever the baby would start to cry, he would look over and hiss and growl (said he was a frake aka snake) and make horrible faces at the baby. After the everything was apologized for, he said "Momma why do dose babies have to be so loud, I wanna beat em up!!" Such a temper

Gotta love it!! My little cousin (Brantley) is 4 yrs old but has the temper of an angry bull, and has two older bros (Brodey 6 and Kyle 14). One night we had just finished eating, and I promised Kyle I would play a game with him, and ofcourse the two little ones had to come into the room too. Brantley and Brodey had just been playing outside and were all hot and sweaty, and Kyle told them not to get on his bed. Brantley then went into the closet and got something out and tried to hit Kyle, when Kyle took it away from him, he proclaimed "I DONT LIKE YOU!" then sat on the floor. After a minuter Kyle started talking about his new expensive basketball shoes, and Brantley proceeded to throw one at him and growl like a bear. Kyle took the shoe away and kicked him out of the room, but Brodey let him back in and Brantley said "KYLE!" then kicked his NEW shoe and said "I don't like you, and I hate your new bastetball sues!!!" and stormed off. It was so cute!!!

Aww, you guys Im crying again, but it's becuz I know yall are right, I have to get this together, and get past it, and whip everyone's asses in between, I just think that sometimes no one cares that I hurt, and no one who can help wants to like my orthopedist and insurance company, and bf, and other friends, and college mates, and teachers, and so on and so on.......................................I love it on here, everyone is sooooooooo supportive, even when your being a downer

Hey, I thot my family was nuts, but I am truly lucky. But from a psychological point of view, do any of you think that the abuse or just wierdness in the family may have contributed to your weight gain and obesity in the long run? I know that while I was little my mom was a little nuts because her mom (my Mama Di) treated her like she wasnt worth the dirt she walked on, so Mom pushed me to be the perfect little girl, especially since my Mama Di took away my sister from my mom after she was born and told everyone that she had had a baby when she was about 35 (which isn't old btw) but everyone saw Mom pregnant, and never saw Mama Di pregnant, but she honestly believes that everyone thinks that my biological sis is her daughter (weird huh?) My family is WACKY! That's all, when I was little Mom used to make me do pagents, to this day I dunno where that money came from because my Mom worked for Mama Di in her conveniant store making $50 a week, and Dad made about $6,000 a year. I am a natural blond haired, hazel-eyed girl, with dimples, and it was more than anyone could stand (I was soooooooo cute) but I started gaining weight when I was about 3 or 4 like CRAZY!! And have never lost it, I was born big, but I mean I blew up and Mom did everything she could to stop it which led me to being a Binge Eater from the ages of abour 4 until I was about 12, then I became a short-term anorexic (when school ended I started eating a lot in the summer). Now I am just huge and in a lot of pain, but I am so lucky to have the parents that I have, and you all have shown me that, thanks, you all are an inspiration Oh, wanna here something funny!!!! My other grandmother (Mamo) got arrested about 5 weeks ago for public intoxication, she had went to the doctor and faked serious depression to get Xanax and Trazadone and took some on the way home, and did not make it 2 miles before she hit someone in an intersection but drove off to Casa Ole (mexican food place) and hit someone else then freaked out, turned around and almost hit another person trying to back out of the police baracade!!! All they gave her was a PI tho, but we made her sit in jail until she sobered up!!! My family is just plain ZANEY!!

Thanks, I understand that, and I act like that most of the time, but for some reason lately it has really been bothering me. I was in the top 10 of my class until my co-morbities, and now I am barely in the top quarter, and I havent been to school in God knows when, and I am going to miss my senior year now. See, I am in a small town, and everyone knows everyone, except no one knows me because I can't get out of my house most of the time, and when I do, where ever I go I have to sit all the time so that my knees do not give out. I just don't know, I miss being around ppl my age, I am always around much older ppl, and have very very little interaction with anyone my age. I have never even been to a party because I have TMJ and used to have to goto bed so early I couldn't go plus the pain in my knees wouldn't have let me stay neway. Its just everyone has something to talk about, and all I have is something to complain about because I think that I am just going to go to bed one night and wake-up the next morning, but not be able to move anything, I just know it's going to happen. I can't even rely on my teachers to send me the work I need in homebound because they would rather say they sent it, and not send it and give me a 0 for the assignment. I FAILED HISTORY!!! I HAVE NEVER EVER FAILED A CLASS IN MY LIFE, NEVER EVEN COME CLOSE TO FAILING!!! I JUST NEED TO BE ABLE TO GO BACK SO THAT I CAN MAKE DECENT GRADES! I'll never get into college with grades like mine (although I stick to my guns that I turned in all that work, the teacher's word over rules mine, so I will always lose because I am a literal BIG FAT LOSER) I never win in life, never. I am so upset, atleast I won't know what I have missed right?

Actually it isnt there fault entirely, my mom's business chose to exclude obesity as a treatable "condition", but I am fighting it like no tomorrow with examples of laws and practices within TX and the U.S. and am praying that I get accepted this time, I was denied the first go round in April and have just finally given up on the promise that my orthopedic surgeon made to write me a letter. So, good luck to you, and watch those policy exclusions, they are really sneaky, and close to illegal.

Hi, Im in Jasper, and you guys are the first ppl I have seen on here from anywhere close to me. I am supposed to have my surgery by Dr. Spiegel (in Beaumont) and have the surgery in the Houston Center for Laporscopic (however you spell it) Surgery. Wish me luck with getting approved!!:nervous

Hi, I'm 17, and it was easy for me to get the okay from my doctors here in Texas, so I am sure it wont be to hard there. Good luck with it, and I hope you dont have any policy exclusions, they are HELL!!!!

Hey everyone, I havent posted a thread in a while because I have been doing great, but sometimes I just feel so unattractive, and about an hour ago I spoke with some of my friends that were hanging out at the local pool and I couldn't go because of my co-morbidities. I have finally realized that even if I woke up banded tomorrow that I will never get to be a real teenager because this horrible disease (obesity) has taken over my life! All of a sudden I just had a nervous break down, I realized that I didn't break up with my bf because he thought I was too fat (which he never said, I felt it was implied), but maybe he is just trying to be a teenager too. For the past 5 years I feel like I have been holding him back and mentally forcing him to feel like he needed to cater to me, but in reality everyone deserves to be a real teenager, even me, but that time is gone now, I will never lose the weight fast enough to be able to go out and do stuff like everyone else. I think my bf finally realized that I do have a serious disease and problems and that they will not be fixed in time to do much of anything, I just want my senior year to work out, but it's already July 14, school starts back August 15 and I still havent heard from the insurance company or my orthopedic surgeon, and I won't be able to go back (I have been homebound since March 1) until January. That means I'll miss homecoming, but its not like I even know those people, I haven't been to school enough to know them, I miss so much. I JUST WANT TO BE A TEENAGER!!! But we can't go back in time can we?? I have wasted so much time being fat that I forgot that I could be skinny, and everytime I think about the fact that I will be someday with this surgery it makes me tear up with happy tears, but then I remember that I won't be able to spend the new "skinny time" with anyone that I have grown up with. Lately I have been kind of crazy with jealously and depression, everything is getting worse because of the obesity and I am jealous that all my friends can go out and have fun and be teenagers, but I can't I have to stay at home on the couch so that my legs will be rested enough to go to college at night. :cry P.S. Sorry to be such a downer all the time, but I really need this place to be able to let out my feelings and emotions to real ppl, not psychiatrists

Thanks Alexandra, but nowmy mission is to help everyone I can get accepted, including myself. All in all I had to go after them I am scared to death that they will not accept the surgery, but it also made me angry that an exclusion like that could exist, so I did some research, and now, even if I have to pay for my surgery, I want to help other ppl try to get accepted by their insurance and I have also become an Obesity Epidemic Activist to support American Weight Loss through whatever means fits the individual, so if anyone else wants some information just message me.

I am using UHC also, and I think the doctors are working for them to. The orthopedic surgeon who suggested I see a bariatric surgeon about losing weight told me he would write me a letter back on April 7, he never did, all he and his assistants did was lie to me about him being too busy and taking days off or some stupid mess, anyways I sent a damn good appeal letter to UHC just last Thursday, July 7, what is that 3 months and I am yet to be banded, I hope they come back with a YES! But UHC overall has not helped us out one bit and has been total idiots, where do they find people to work there?!?!

Hi, I just sent in my appeal letter last Thursday after collecting evidence for 2 MONTHS! It was a long and horrible process, but I did get some very useful information to use against them. First, I looked up my policy online on their website, then I made notes of what they would and would not cover concerning any co-morbidities. After that I added up all the expenses that they have spent on me the past 3 years, then did some estimated math from facts that I received from my doctors treating my comorbid conditions to project how much they would spend on my co-morbid conditions by the year 2010 (when they will no longer be carrying me.) For my last straw I put in some personal emotional trouble, like I have not went to school in about 4-5 months because of my co-morbid conditions, but I also threw in some legal "mumbo-jumbo" because I am a concurrent law student and could get that information from a special website for lawyers and law students and this is what I found. "Under the American Disability Act Obesity and Morbid Obesity is a disease and a disability." This means that since I am fat (morbidly obese) that they are not supposed to be able to any longer discriminate against obese people within the workplace, or any other function open to the general public, just like they can not not hire someone because they are missing an arm or a finger, or are in a wheelchair. This also means that the insurance should actually cover you if you have an actual medical problem because of the obesity (like I have chronic and severe knee pain, depression, chronic fatigue syndrom, TMJ, etc...) if these problems did not exist before you were a member on that plan, they had to develop while you were covered by them. SEC. 12112. [section 102] (a) General rule. - No covered entity shall discriminate against a qualified individual with a disability because of the disability of such individual in regard to job application procedures, the hiring, advancement, or discharge of employees, employee compensation, job training, and other terms, conditions, and privileges of employment an insurer, hospital or medical service company, health maintenance organization, or any agent, or entity that administers benefit plans, or similar organizations from underwriting risks, classifying risks, or administering such risks that are based on or not inconsistent with State law; or

OMG! My boyfriend just never understood why I have always been so jealous of skinny bitches. BTW I thought that I was the only one that used that term on a constant basis. When my bf and I go out I am always finding the pretty, hot, built like a brick poop-house, girl before he does. Then ofcourse I have to point it out, and I get jealous of her, I do not get jealous if my bf looks lol, (secretly I like to look at other guys to) we are open and he loves me BUT I HATE going to the lake or beach when people especially skinny little whores in hot pink string bikinis and tanned up like no other!!! UGH! can we make it a law that it isnt illegal to sabotage their lives to let them know how we feel! lol! It drives me nuts!

I do not have arthritis, I have already been tested for EVERYTHING! I have had an MRI, CT Scan, Bloodwork, X-Rays out of my ears, and all the advance technology systems of detection. We do not have any more PCPs that I could go to. Everything else in town is owned by Christus, and if I change then I kinda have to stick because of the insurance. Christus does not believe in BC and I have to have BC to regulate my body. The problem is every joint in my body hurts except for my shoulders and back until you get to my lower back (that does hurt). Mom's company has always had that exclusion, the lady was dismissed because the company had a huge budget cut because they lost their business in Brazil, and she was the obvious to "let go" because of all the time off she had taken due to her mental health state. The lady literally had horrible break downs, she is the reason I decided I needed to see a psychiatrist, it was like looking into the future. But anyways, she had another bad breakdown and had to leave work for another month to undergo "treatment" and they used the excuse of budget cut to get rid of her, but it was really because they could not fire her based on her mental state since she was not a threat to others. I just do not understand, how can there be this much pain with no explanation, therefore the only obvious reason for my problem would be weight. Makes since to me, that my weight causes my problems, my bones really are very small, you can tell in the X-Rays and MRIs how small they are compared to the amount of fat around them.

Its bad im so emotional about it. I see a psychiatrist every 2 weeks because of the problems my weight has caused. I see a doctor for my knees probably one a week (different doctors to get medicine), I have a low immune system from my knee pain, and cannot do ANYTHING! My whole body hurts all the time, I cant even curl my hair anymore! My hands hurt too bad. I ache and cramp all over my body, and all that is wrong is im fat. WHY ME! I have to work hard for everything I get, nothing ever comes easy, and on occassion that it does, it always has some horrible consequence. I think I am cursed. There is one lady who did have it done under mom insurance that worked for mom's company, mom she was dismissed for controversial reasons and now she cannot talk to anyone affiliated with moms company.

My doctor is extremely caring, she just lost a lot of weight naturally and not through surgery, but she is going to write me a letter anyway. I have been to every doctor from here to Houston and even in San Antonio (5 hours from here). I have done physical therapy about 3-4 times and it just makes them worse every time. We can not afford a surgery like this, at all. It is way out of budget and if my parents came up with the money I refuse to bankrupt them anymore than I already have. I have tried everything to make my knees quit hurting, I was even addicted to pain medicines at one time because of the pain. I hope this can happen soon, I just do not know what all is supposed to go in an appeal?

How can you people afford to pay cash?

My mom's company is self-insured and they have decided not to cover morbid obesity as a disease. We can not get weight-loss anything because the insurance will not cover it, so we have to list another problem that can be solved by the weight-loss products. The doctor says that because of all the fat around the muscles and bones and stuff all over my body that it is extremely hard to read any of the test results. He does not think that there is a disease in there though anyway. He says that because my knees hyperextend and my bones are too small to support my weight. You probably do not hyperextend, that is why you may have never have had knee problems.

We cannot afford to self-pay, period. My BMI is 41, but their problem is that I do not have co-morbid conditions (that are listed on those forms). I have serious knee and muscle issues. My primary care physician does not agree with the surgery, and will not write me a letter. My Lap-band surgeon already wrote a letter to them the first time to file the claim. I think the problem is the amount of filings they have had for this surgery, and because I am only 17. If I do not have this surgery, I may never be able walk any further than out my door into my car. I cannot even drive it when my knees hurt. I am so depressed.

All I know is that my mom's company is self-insured and United Healthcare is their insurance provider. Basically they are telling me that the surgery is for cosmetic purposes only. We are preparing a case right now by going back to when all my problems with my knees and other problems developed and are adding up all the money that they have spent on doctors bills, tests, and medicines. I am having problems getting a letter from the orthopedic surgeon who actually recommended this surgery to me as a form of weight-loss, his receptionist has no idea what lap-band surgery is and is entirely rude everytime we call his office, and we never get to talk to him. I have a letter coming from my psychiatrist, TMJ specialist, and other orthopedic surgeons that I have visited. Basically if I do not have this surgery, and lose weight (quickly), my entire knees are going to collapse! I do not know what to do, I am so discouraged! I do not know how to go about an appeal, and am scared that I will have to live with this unbearable pain forever.

I was denied under UHC, claiming that it was purely cosmetic, but lemme tell you BoxerLuv, I weigh a little more than you, I am at 225, and all I wear is Old Navy, you just gotta find your fit. And guess what, I do not wear plus sizes either!! But I do hope everything goes well.

My insurance denied my claim about 2 weeks ago, and we are going through appeals and I was just wanting to know if anyone else went through the same thing, and how did they win?:Bunny

well, I got a note from the insurance Wednesday, and they said no and that we have to appeal it, so please pray for me