j_war06

I can see the pics This is my first time to put them on here and I published them to the web and used the insert picture link in the posting thingy, but I did accidently make them big and that may be why they can't be seen

Well my BMI is 42, and I have sleep apnea, hyperextension, TMJ, Depression, and CFS, and they denied me, so good luck

Wow, that's harsh coming from your own kids.

I am trying to decide where I want to move after I graduate and am looking for ppl that live there that may can give me some advice about living there.

Yeah I am on two anti-depressents, I used to take Zoloft, but I had a reaction to it so I switched to Welbutrin and I have been going to therapy for a year and been on anti-depressents for about 3 years now

I am still having some hard days dealing with my weight and its relativity to my depression, and frankly I feel like crap on those days, but I come on here and see ya'lls before and after pics and I feel so much better that I will be posting mine in a few more months

I know exactly what u mean because I was one of those "fat kids" but I wasn't nearly as big as some of these parents let their children get, I have always been pretty proportional, and nobody could tell my weight, but I have done the same thing whenever I goto the mall I count all the overweight and obese people, especially kids. Just everytime I see a large child and their parents I just want to cry because their parents do not care enough to take care of the prob before they are in atleast grade school. I really hate it when I see a skinny, hot lil mama with a chubby little girl, it's like she does it so that her daughter will never be as pretty as her. I dunno I just want to cry for those little kids because kids were mean when I was little, and now kids are meaner to their peers than they ever have been. Just the other day I was at a chinese buffet and out of that whole place, there were two people that were the right weight for them. Everyone else in the joint could have stood to lose another 50 or more pounds. It's just hard for me to believe that this is happening

Ha, see I knew I wasn't the only one who has to hear all these types of comments! Do you all know how many little kids ask me if I am having a boy or a girl?? Thinking that because I am big, that I am pregnant????LOL!! Oh YEAH!! I was babysitting a few weeks ago for my ex's boss and coworker. They had two little 8 year old girls who are just hilarious anyway. Well I took them to the lake to swim, and as we were leaving I noticed some weird footprints, it was a relatively small foot with a HUGE big toe (like they had dug that one in on purpose playing around) and I pointed it out to the girls. One of the said "OHHH It must be big foot" and the other one said "No goofy, it's just a fat person's foot." At which I promptly told them that not all fat ppl have big feet, and told them to look how small mine are (I still wear children's shoes). Then they both said "Miss Jodie you ARE NOT FAT!!!" And proceeded to tell me I was too fun to be fat, then I took them to the pool that night and they were playing around on me, like jumping on my in the pool, and I would take them down to the deep end and that kind of stuff, all of a sudden I hear "MISS JODIE YOUR BUTT IS LIKE A TRAMPOLINE!!!!" I am usually self-conscious about my MEGA REAR but I couldn't help but laugh soooooo hard I thought I was going to drown.

lol, my ex has a cousin that is like the perfect girl, she is gorgeous and STUCK-UP and she never failed to ask him "why are you and that fat girl dating?" and also "if she would lose weight she would be so pretty." This is so horrible because I have known her for longer than I have known him and now I am just the "fat girl", what is hilarious is that she has forgotten where she has come from, before her mother was knocking down 250,000 a year, she wasnt making anything and this girl was "fat" and her mother is aneorexic and all she ever does and still does is rag her about her weight, while she does the same to other ppl, and my ex would feel sorry for her!!!! Well that's why he's my ex right?

Great choice, I would have lost my job and freedom due to the urge to "assault and batter" that person and put her in her ignorant little place. I hate it when thin ppl make fun of big people just because they can and think they are so much better than the big person, in reality they are just luckier. I better not ever see that wench, I might have to go nuts, lol

What has anyone said to you that they meant in the best way possible, but it actually hurt in the long run. An example of what is always told to me is "you are sooo pretty to be your size." Another thing a skinny girl once told me, not realizing my weight and state of depression, was that she would kill herself if she ever weighed 200lbs, then asked me "wouldn't you?" And I was thinking, I'm still alive you scrawny b****. I can laugh now, but it kept me depressed for years, oh Lord I have some stories of the goofy things people say to me, not realizing my position.

Hi, just thought the other was getting really crowded and I wanted to post some pics, but thought they may get lost in all those other wonderful pics. I'll post my pics later, when I have time to get them loaded onto here (I have 56k modem) lol, but ya'll enjoy.

I would, I finally get my perfect body and now there is an imperfection in my dream turned reality. Her port should have been smaller and deeper into the body, this problem sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Also she may have a different type of banding system than those who have gotten their band in the U.S. since only one band is legal here, while many other kinds are legal elsewhere. Why not get the surgery in the states? I just don't get where you are cutting any costs what so ever

I kinda know what you are going through. I just recently broke up with my bf of about 3 serious years because I felt like ever since he found out I am getting the band, he started distancing himself away from me and basically bragging about thinner girls that come around him, like he's trying to make me jealous. In reality, yeah he is a good looking guy, but he is a huge ASS, bigger than my real one lol, and I have since realized that he will always depend on me to provide for him and he will not want to do anything for me in return. I am still EXTREMELY emotional about the breakup but to make myself feel better I have decided to goto a college in a beach town on the Gulf of Mexico and think about how he will miss out on my love because no other woman can give him that, but he never returned it, so I am going to give it to someone else. He and I have been best friends for A LONGGGGG time and started dating, but I think he wanted me because I was a comfort level and he never worried about me cheating or dressing sexy or anything, but now that I am going to get banded he started pulling away and I got rid of him like a month ago. As far as I am concerned he is history, even when I get down and want him soooooooooooooooo bad I can't stand it, I remember how sexy I will look in a mini skirt and how he will not be able to have me when he wants me soooooooooooooooo bad.

Well guys, UHC mom called UHC today and they said that they had recieved my letter on July 11, but have not taken the chance to review it yet. I am so excited that they did get the letter! I just wanna squeal, but I am going to have a heart-attack if they say yes!!!!! This is the only thing I have ever wanted SOOOOOOO BAD that I would cry over not getting it, I have always wanted to be skinny, I can't wait until I have the surgery (I'm getting it whether they pay or not). Please everyone pray for me to be accepted!!!!! :) :) :)

This is one reason why I have opted for an American surgeon whom is one of the top 3 lap-band surgeons in the U.S., I am so sorry you are going through that, your finally getting the body you've always wanted, and now there is something else wrong. Hope you can find a solution to the problem, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Wow, I am really sorry that someone was that rude a vulgar towards you and I know exaclty how that feels. I would've felt like I coulda died at that moment, but what gets me through all the hateful things ppl say to me is picturing them in that same situation and imagining them in 10 or 15 years with an extra 50lbs and it looking HORRIBLE on them and everyone thinking man they used to look good, and everyone seeing me after I have lost all the weight and regreting what they said to me because I am not going to gain the weight back unless I choose to have the band removed

Yeah, there isnt anywhere on the net (that I have found) that has one and honestly I would like to be able to discuss going through all this with ppl my age aswell as those older, but peers really help

I am young (17) and was just having my little pity party all week about being "fat" and not able to do anything my whole high school career, but I am glad you are brave enough to go through with this now, before you regret anything in the future. I have heard several ppl talk about Dr. Ortiz in these forums and what I hear, you will be in good hands. I just hope I can get accepted SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON!!! lol! Well its good to see other teens reaching out on here, doesn't make me feel so YOUNG! anymore lol

Well, I did have the confidence to go to prom this past year, but I have said this before and I mean it, Weight has always been a problem but I could still go and do stuff, now because of all of the comorbidities I dunno that I will be able to use my body to get out of bed in the morning, some days I have to lie in bed ALL day. My bf never invited me to go and do stuff because frankly I couldn't do it because of all the aches and pains.

Hi! I am not approved by the insurance yet but I am being banded right in Texas probably in the beginning of August, good luck!

I had another hard night, but my ex was here and I talked to him so that I could explain to him how I felt over certain issues that pertained to me breaking up with him, but I still feel like crap, I guess I need to make an appt. with my therapist because I just cant get out of this hole.

I have a bf, but not many friends because I never see anyone because they dont know me. My only friends are my bf(ex), and this one couple that I have known forever, other than that I have nothing. It does matter when I get this surgery done because if by any chance I over indulge and gain about 10 more pounds my knees are most likely to collapse, this surgery is not all cosmetic, as a matter of fact I would not mind being this big if I could walk and use my hands and body parts more. I am just ready not to hurt and to not be complaining ALL the time, it gets on my nerves so it has to get on everyone else's. I just don't know why everything stupid happens to me and when I really need something, I can't get it or really just have to fight and fight and fight and fight for it, and sometimes I don't win and sometimes it's too late. I miss going to school, I don't mind it (except waking up early), I just want to go do normal things with ppl, like I cant even hold a conversation with anyone my own age because I haven't been to a party and/or don't go to school, basically there is no common ground.

Thanks guys, I have become so hard because of my struggles. I finally opened up 2 years ago, and allowed myself to love someone, and now they are breaking my heart just like everyone else has done. I just can't learn to trust ppl because I feel like a used paper plate, ppl pile their crap on me, then throw me away. I just don't understand, I try to love and help, just everytime something happens, I dunno I am having a lot of hell lately, my bf has really hurt me over the past month, he will be romantic then just hateful, I dont get it????????

I heard this three person joke on the radio the other day so here it goes A husband and a wife are cleaning out their garage when the lady picked up an old lamp and wiped it off. All of a sudden out from no where a man appeared who said I am a powerful, wise, all knowing genie and you have 2 wishes to make. The husband immediately realizes that he is getting jipped, and asks why everyone else gets 3 wishes, and they only get 2. The genie responds, "well I have been cramped up in that old lamp for 3 or 400 years, and I decided I deserve something every now and then." So the husband agreed, and wished to be the greatest golfer in the world. The genie snapped his fingers and said, "it is done, you are the greatest golfer in the world." All of a sudden the wife snaps at her husband, "you idiot, we could have had anything you wished to be a golfer?" The husband responded with, "Well do you have anything better?" She said, "yes, genie I want to be rich and beautiful for the rest of my life." The genie snapped his fingers and said it is done. The husband immediatly congradulated his wife on her quick wit and thinking, and started feeling guilty about his own wish. Then the genie said, "okay now it's my turn, I wish I could have sex with your wife." The husband, ofcourse, opposed this and began to freak out. The genie said to him "man, I have provided you with whatever you want, but I have been in that old lamp for hundreds of years, I haven't seen a woman in over 500 years, just one night man." The wife was flattered and automatically began to pressure her husband saying "honey look what he has done for us, and how rare is this, atleast let him have something that he would want." The husband finally agreed the the two having sex, and as the walked out of the garage and up into the bedroom the genie whispered in the wife's ear, "when do you think he will quit falling for this genie thing?"