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Well, I'm Kelly I turned 30 in september. I have three kids two girls 11-9 and a boy 3. Since having this surgery my life has become surreal. Two months after having surgery I served my ex-husband with divorce papers. I made the decision that day on that gurney that when I woke up that Kelly would be gone. Since he cheated and kept at it and after that surgery I thought what's divorced verses major surgery.
The funny thing about GB is the tricks it plays. You go from going the girl who's EVERY guys friend and fixes them up but secretly you wanted it to be you. Your so use to being ignored and looked over you attach to the first person to come into your life and call you "beautiful." I fell victim to that and wound up in a severely abusive and dangerous relationship. The last night he hit me it was with his iphone and when he left for work I started packing bags. I took all of my kids clothes and couldn't bring all mine bc they wouldn't fit. Needless to say just a few months later my ex took everything I owned because I literally fled to another state to get away. Took me a while to accept losing precious antiques, but their materials and cacn be replaced my life can't. So we left.
After leaving and settling in the new state I tried to figure out what to do. My bestfriend said I had been through too much to not have my fairy tale. So, on her she set me up an acct on christianmingle. I sent out a few messages and sat talking to the screen that I was stupid for doing this lol. While looking through some of the eye candy and some of the well duds. lol I seen a Marines' page and Lord was he cute. I messaged him and we talked for a long time and finally met. Funny part is I drove him to a park where the local cops had a sub station there LOLOL... we walked what seemed like forever and for whatever devine reason i felt comfortable to tell him about the surgery/s. After talking to him for what seemed like forever I came home one night to find my apartment had been broke into they had stole my bed, jewlery and most importantly my kids birth videos were in my camera case. I felt like life was punishing me and literally threw my hands up and said I quit. Then he called I told him what happened and he said pack your stuff your all coming to live with me. We did and we're just a few months shy of a year. He's the greatest man I've ever met. My kids are his kids and is fully willing to adopt if the non-existent fathers would sign documents.
For the first time in my whole life I'm the girl introduced to his friends as his "hot girlfriend." I wish I could see what he see's because I don't see it what so ever. I wanted to share with yu'all bc I wanted you to know there are men out there who are good and you don't have to stay inside that box you built while being obese. Love should never hurt and it should always inspire.

If you're concerned about pressure or pain with or on your incisions, try this. Lay on your sides facing each other and put your legs in a scissors type position. He'll slide right in with no problems. This also works good if either one of you has back pain issues. There won't be any pressure on your back or incisions this way.
I've tried to stay out of these conversations as I'm no young kid anymore, but sometimes a little experience in these matters can help. I hope this helped.

Thanks girlies. I appreciate the words of encouragement. I just didn't think of it that way.

12 hour post op and all is well. Right now my biggest pain is sore throat due to tube in throat durning surgery. Walking the halls ice chips have kept me going. Start liquid diet in 5 hours. Thanks for the well wishes. Woke up in the or after surgery to the surgical team singing me happy birthday. They had decorated my chart and gown with birthday stickers. It was nice.

The countdown begins......5 more days till I become a loser!!!

I do appreciate the honest folks. and the folks that are not condeming. but i make my choices. I will succeed in my new tool that I have regardless what you think. And if you havent had the surgery you may need to make comments because you just dont know what you might do.
I dont drink cokes of any kind let me get that out there. no carbination at all not even sparkling waters because they also have carbination in it. i drink plain bottled Water. and every now and then i squirt a little crystal light in it. but not so much.
I eat scambled eggs. i eat turkey bacon, turkey jerkey. but not alot. still has cholestrol in it.
on the grilled KFC chicken breast, i peeled all skin off of it. and then pinch the meat off. i have never finished a chicken breast, . i slowly eat everything because with the episode of dumping I had, I hope to never have that pain again. it was horrible and thought i was dying from a heart attack.
I dont eat alot of dairy because of the sugars/carbs in them. I use myfitnesspal and log what i eat. that is how I know about my carb intake. and I cut down on the carbs, its a great app. i have only eaten 1000 calories in 1 day. most of my calories are between 700 and 900. thats not really bad.every day is a new day for all of us. I had to deal with the critics when I was 307 lbs. and the looks of disgust, but I have people who cheer me on because they see the difference in me now and see the weightloss i have achieved. and the ones who are bashing me. i just dont think you get it yet. funny how we dont see your choices on what you eat. arent you done with the hate. I know I am. good luck to you on your journey

I'm not worried about when I have kids. I go to the gym and I eat right, I just can't get rid of my stomach from my surgery. I'm 18, kids are no where in sight in my future. I'm tired of not being totally confident because of my stomach.

About how much does a tuck cost? Im thinking about inventing the home liposuction kit. A knife, Hoover, thread and needle....ok so my jokes might need improvement too!

I went in weighing 300 lbs and today I am 115 lbs.

I had a Tummy Tuck this past February. It was no cup of tea. For a month I pretty much had the movement of an 80 year old woman. However after 8 weeks I was perfect. I loved the results! I went down a few sizes in jeans and I'm not embarrassed about my stomach anymore! I'm looking into doing more cosmetic procedures soon.

What about wearing a shaper for now to conceal the extra skin until its time for the Tummy Tuck. It might help how you feel. I talked to a woman who lost 152 lbs and she wore a shaper and I would have never know..she looked fabulous. Just a thought.

I think we need to start saying in the pre op threads to remember that WLS doesn't make your body perfect. You are still going to dislike certain parts of your body. In fact I bet if you ask a size 2 woman what she dislikes about her body she can still come up with ten answers. Whenever I start to feel those negative body thoughts creep into my head I force myself to remember the woman who had the confidence to not only appear in public in a bathing suit before WLS but who had the courage to say enough is enough and get the surgery done. stretch marks are evidence of earning my tiger stripes and they are not bat wings, they are angel wings. Lord knows with being overweight and having surgery I ve been through the jungle and through hell and made my way out.

Well I was 289lbs. before I had surgery, I lost 139lbs. in eight months. I never had skin removal but I can honestly say if you focus on getting your Protein in everyday then you want have a lot of sagging skin. Use Peanut Butter, and drink Protein Shakes the only one that actually taste good is "Muscle Milk" doesn't leave a gritty or after taste. You can buy it from GNC or Health food Store.

I had my surgery October 2004. I'm now 36, lost a total of 202lbs. I'm 5'7", I have some excess skin on tops of thighs & underarm flaps. I think if you will keep drinking Water & exercise you can avoid surgery & unnecessary scars.

I am 8 years out...5'2/260# at may heaviest. I have had 3 sessions of plastic sx. First one was 2 years out because the doc wants to make sure you are stable at your new weight. I had a full Tummy Tuck, brachioplasty (arms), and inner thigh lift at once. Not for the low pain tolerance folks! 5 months later I had breast implants (I had become a 32 long...lol. Also finished thighs and lifted my behind back to where it should be. That one was a breeze compared to the first one. The last one was 2 years ago. Minor Lipo and fixed a scar. We measured and I have 11 feet of scars. The ones on my arms are barely noticeable ...I usually have to point them out. Scar for tummy tuck you can't find anymore. Thigh scars show up more if I'm in the sun cause they stay white. But that's what spray tans are for! Scar ontop of hips from lifting the rear is most noticeable but isn't really that bad and not in a place where too many people see it anyway. The biggest thing with plastic surgery is its usually not covered by insurance and isn't cheap. Please feel free to ask if I forgot anything.

Sooo .... I've poop'd 3lbs of junk and its still coming. I'm so surprised that the magnesium citrate doesn't have my tummy cramping and my Ass raw. I still haven't packed my bags and my surgery is in 10 hours.
My honey wants to get grown and sexy with me and bump and grind for the last time for a week or two but I'm absolutely afraid that I'll give him a gift that keeps on giving.... The runs!!!
*Surgery Scheduled 3/21/13*

Hi All, having surgery at 9:30 tomorrow morning! More excited then nervous at this point. Wishing my fellow first day of spring surgeries the very best!

Cranialmalady thx for the encouragement. The diarrhea continues. I'm getting in enough Fluid but still working on Protein. The constant up & down to the toilet is exhausting & I'm not sleeping great. But I was able to walk around my parking lot today, & even put my own socks on! I'm happy for all those doing so well. It gives me hope that I can get better.

Oh I hear you!!! I just want below that line. It is taunting me. I am sure you can do the 25-30 pounds!

Hello, My name is Colleen. I recently had RNY surgery on Feburary 25th, 2013. I weighed in at 210lbs the day of surgery. At my largest I weighed 225. Im 5'1. All my life I have had issues with weight. At age 16 I got on birth control and I ended up gaining so much weight off of that. At 18 I was diagnosed with PCOS & HYPOTHYROIDISM. The past four years ive struggled with concieving. My body never ovulated and I had irregular cycles. On December 13th, 2012 I had my first consult with a bariatric surgeon. He told me my chances of concieving after surgery are very high. He felt I was a great canidate. Over the course of the next two months, I saw my physcologist, dietician, etc. I lost about 10lbs before going into surgery. Its been 22days since ive had surgery & im weighing in at 190lbs. I feel great & I can see and feel the changes happening to my body. This surgery saved me. Im so blessed!

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Sorry I didn't check in with everyone yesterday. I had a rough day. I am feeling so much better tonight and I am so proud to be on the losers bench. Swallow test was good and hopefully I will be heading home tomorrow. I pray that all of you are recovering nicely.

Really don't think it's fair that I have to go tomorrow to DMV to replace my license because it expires the day of surgery. Why couldn't it expire next year after the weight loss. Can't have that picture hanging around for the next 10 years. May have to loose my license next year:)

Praying that everything goes smoothly for you all tomorrow!!! Best Wishes
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