GotItDoneInHarlem

I'm going to offer them as transition clothes to people on here and then donate what's left.

Bravo!

I joined this amazing forum today, as I stumbled upon it as I was concluding my research as I start my liquid Diet tomorrow, I am excited... I deal with a bit of Anxiety but ironically the anxiety hasn't hit me! I think I am tired of being tired! My mind is made up, I'm not sure if I'm mentally ready, so I'm not going to think i'm just going to DO!
If any of you would love to follow my progress or if you don't mind me following yours send me a friend request on Facebook @Lupe Rose and or ad me as a friend here, I would love the company on my Journey! Good Luck to all of you. I appreciate any encouragement in advance.
Best
Lupe

I'm 9 days out, recovering very very well after a ROUGH start. I'm dying to go to the gym and get on an elliptical.
Does anyone know if an elliptical is safe? The treadmill is so boring.

If you do a search for regret and look in posting titles you will find many threads..

I think when a lot if us go into this we forget or just don't realize this is a MAJOR surgery, I know I did.
Don't let the little scars fool you...
Now it's going to take time to recover.
You are less than a week out. The only thing you should be doing is concentrating on healing, that means resting, hydrating, walking around a bit and resting some more..
Things will get better it will not always be this bad, your body just needs time to heal from the major trauma it just went through.
Really I was not 100% for a month!
Be kind to yourself and know in just a very short time this hard part will just be a memory

Good things to hear. I know when food enters the equation that I'll fill up much faster and I simply can't imagine that liquids that are moving so fast could be damaging me. So happy to hear it! Thanks everyone.

BRAVO! I bet that's a goal for a lot of people on here. Good to hear other's success stories!

Congrats on the good work. I hope to post similar pictures in a year (although not in a dress).

Congrats on the good work. I hope to post similar pictures in a year (although not in a dress).

I was sleeved on 12/17, just a day before you. For the first two days I was in really bad shape. It gets better. It'll get better more and more every day. I already feel 10x better today than yesterday. Hang in there and keep going to the reasons you did this in the first place.

Congrats on the good work. I hope to post similar pictures in a year (although not in a dress).

This forum has been a godsend. Thank you to everyone who have been so supportive during this time.
See you on the Post-Operation side of the forum!
J

This forum has been a godsend. Thank you to everyone who have been so supportive during this time.
See you on the Post-Operation side of the forum!
J

This is your husband. You're always supposed to be up front with the ones you love. Whether or not he likes it, you have a valid argument. These conversations suck, but this is your guy. He deserves to be told the truth about how you feel.

Thanks proudgrammy. Your response really clicked for me and helped.

Thanks proudgrammy. Your response really clicked for me and helped.

Thanks proudgrammy. Your response really clicked for me and helped.

HarlemLoser
I don't think they are trying to bribe you
sounds like they are scared that you might have complications or even die
they are worried about and for you
I've heard other spouses report similar things about family/friends being very concerned a problem might occur during surgery
they are just worried for/about you, and scared
offering you money to get special food/trainer - (new one for me) is again just showing their concern, wanting you to do anything to lose weight, but concerned about surgery
maybe show them this board/posts - good stuff (no vomitting or farting issues )
you said they are supportive - thats great
post surgery i believe they will be their and help you
please don't second guess yourself about surgery next week
you made the wise decision to do the sleeve cuz you know you've tried everything else
the sleeve will help you lose weight, but its no easy ride
you have to work with the sleeve - and it will work with/for you
good luck next week
speedy recovery
kathy

I agree with (most) of the above. Educate them. Direct them here. Tell them you love them and that's why your doing this. At the end of the day your the only one that can live with this decision. Good luck to you.

Hey, I really sympathize. Perhaps if you could educate them more on VSG, take them to a seminar at your clinic or show them one of the youtube videos by various bariatric surgeons. Best of luck with a difficult situation. They obviously love you very much and just want what is best for you. You need to show them why this is the best thing for you and how you made your decision.

Sounds to me like they aren't fully supporting you if they are bribing you not to do it. I'd tell them no thank you, and please no more bribes. If it's not supportive of YOUR decision, then they need not offer alternatives.

I won't say I know how you feel (because who can) but I will say I understand feeling the desire to please and having your confidence shaken by going against what those who love you want for you.
I'm sure it is because they are scared and think that somehow their actions are protective. It comes from a place of love.
But so does your action to get the VSG. You've done the work, you have gone through so much. This is for you and it is ok to do what is healthy for you.
And they love you and will keep loving you and they will be there to Celebrate your victories on the other side.
My thoughts are with you.

Educate them, I had surgery 10/30. I'm doing fine, I'm 26 pounds down and I wouldn't change a thing. My BMI was only 35.7 so I think I'm losing slow got that reason but other than that I'm great! If they realize that it's not as risky as Gastric Bypass and how technology has improved the procedures I think they will be ok. I chose to tell nobody but my best friend because I knew my family would be the same way. But if you want this, don't feel guilty and don't let anyone else's feeling ls change your mind. You have to live with this not anyone else. Good luck and God Bless!!

I am a loser! I'm losing weight!