BeachBabe(soon)

I don't blame you for feeling that way. Did you kinda feel like big dollar sign sitting there. I went to a seminar and it was pleasent, but heard the same thing "I'm not in it for the money". I would have felt better If he just left that out. How is it that some DR's can charge less, then? I have to admit I have issues with American Dr's. But, if you get a bad feeling, than maybe you should give it a second thought. Your going to have to deal with these people for atleast a year. And a DR, who couldn't be their?

Congraulations....looks like you gained a 5lb little angel.

Momceo111... Hi how are you? I'm from S.Florida.......Have you thought about having your surgery at the Wish Center? And I'm thinking about going to the Bash. We'll see.......... Your surgery date is coming up, you must be sooo excited.

There are two kinds of guilt: Healthy Guilt and Toxic Guilt. Healthy Guilt is the kind of guilt we should feel when we have done something that is truly inappropriate or harmful. For instance, a man who beats his wife or children should feel lots of guilt. Healthy Guilt says "Hey, you made a mistake. Do something about it." It helps us acknowledge wrongdoing and encourages us to act contritely. Almost everyone (except sociopaths) feels Healthy Guilt some of the time. But Healthy Guilt is not the problem when it comes to food. The culprit here is Toxic Guilt. Toxic Guilt is neurotic guilt. It is guilt that arises from dysfunctional thinking and beliefs. I have created a checklist to give you a quick but effective way to identify the existence of Toxic Guilt in your life. TOXIC GUILT: A CHECKLIST These 25 statements are examples of thinking that causes Toxic Guilt. If you say yes to even one item, you have at least a small amount of Toxic Guilt. If you say yes to five or more, you need an inner revolution against the tyranny of Toxic Guilt. I FEEL GUILTY WHEN… 1. I eat. 2. I overeat. 3. I eat "bad" foods. 4. I am overweight. 5. I say "no." 6. I feel angry. 7. I have sexual feelings. 8. I stand up for myself. 9. I go first. 10. I disagree with my parents (whether alive or dead). 11. I am thin. 12. I get attention. 13. I take time for myself. 14. I am loved. 15. I am needy. 16. I ask for help. 17. I spend time with friends. 18. I am not being productive. 19. I don’t live up to my parent’s expectations. 20. I don’t do housework. 21. I spend money on myself. 22. I do what I want. 23. I am not perfect. 24. I am happy. 25. I exist. Not one of these items is "bad," but Toxic Guilt tells us it is. It twists normal needs and wants into illicit and forbidden desires. Thus, we are tortured by an irrational dictator that rules unchallenged in our own minds. The thinking that produces Toxic Guilt was unwittingly taught to us by parents and/or religious organizations. Then, without awareness, we live our lives never questioning our adopted toxic thinking patterns. We now feel guilty because we are a normal person with normal needs, wants, desires and behaviors. We can call this kind of guilt toxic because it never leads to healthy reactions. It does not lead us to forgiveness and redemption. Instead, it drives us to self-condemnation and self-hate or we "eat everything in sight." You are having a self-protective reaction to Toxic Guilt when you eat. You eat to feel better. The problem is, eating does not eliminate the cause of your suffering. When the food remedy wears off, Toxic Guilt returns. If you are to find release and relief from Toxic Guilt, you must take it seriously and become an expert on it’s voice in your head. You cannot afford to deny or avoid it. The following techniques will help you get started. CONFRONTING TOXIC GUILT Make your own list of Toxic Guilt statements. Write down everything that even vaguely sounds like a Toxic Guilt thought. Ask yourself these questions: "Do I really need to feel guilty about any of these statements? Does a truly healthy grown up person feel 'bad' when she/he thinks or wants these things?" Make a decision today to stop being a victim of Toxic Guilt. Write a Declaration of Internal Independence and place it on the refrigerator. Example: I declare that today I am free of Toxic Guilt and all of its destructive thoughts! Create some compassion for yourself. You have suffered at the hands of a cruel and irrational judge. Don’t compound the problem by beating yourself up. Use your energy to fight it. I recommend that you print out this article and carry it around with you. Refer to it when you feel Toxic Guilt appearing. Share it with your friends. Everyone has a bit of it. Get some support and email me at Matt_Coyote@bellsouth.net if you want more tough-minded weight loss tools. <!-- BEGIN HumanTag Monitor. DO NOT MOVE! MUST BE PLACED JUST BEFORE THE /BODY TAG --><SCRIPT language=javascript src="http://server.iad.liveperson.net/hc/35538741/x.js?cmd=file&file=chatScript3&site=35538741&category=en;liveperson;2"> </SCRIPT><!-- END HumanTag Monitor. DO NOT MOVE! MUST BE PLACED JUST BEFORE THE /BODY TAG -->

I'm glad for the young girl. I remember when I was that age, and the pressure to be thin. A guy told me if I lost 5lbs than I would be "HOT". Idiot! It just s*cks that someome with "major problems" can't run into a Dr. like hers. I'm not all that worried about myself, I'll come up with money. I'm PMSing right now and suddenly the whole is against me. The sun will come back out and I'll be singing about baby birds chirping in the spring time in a few days.

Thanks all.......... Sue........thanks for the airport info, very, very helpful.

~Trish... My policy has an "exclusion" and I was told theres no way around it.....s*cks.

I just read on another board, this girl, she's 22yrs old. her BMI is 35,3 and she lives on the east coast and is going to Texas for her surgury. Don't know why? Her "Doctor" told her to wear 10lb weights on her ankles and wrote down that she's 2 inches shorter. This is going to sound pety of me and I'm embarrest. She has UHC and was approved. I have UHC, BMI 48, I'm 35, had 3 natural births, nursed my 3 little babies. UHC told me "sorry lady no can do". I know it's not her fault. But I'm struggling to get the money together, but I'm not giving up........I'm staying positive. Thers this other women on that board who has a problem with her legs, they swell up really bad, I mean they are really BIG and she has such a hard time getting around. shes been trying to get this surgury done, but her insurance is giving her a hard time. Why doesn't she get a break? Shame on ME!!!!!! p.s. wheres "spell check"?

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I'm kinda confused....Do you fly directly to Monterrey or to San Antonio and than someone picks you up, if your Dr is in Monterrey? I checked out airfares and it's so much cheaper to fly to San Antonio. How long is the drive from San Antonio to Monterrey?

I'm not banded yet, but as soon as I have the money in my hand, I'm hoping on a plane to Mexico. At first i thought "no way, I don't need that kind of help", read these message boards and other ones too, and I realized what I've been doing so far hasn't been working. All these people are working their band, they're the ones succeeding. I've been over weight for the past 11yrs, my life has been on hold for 11yrs. And the next 11yrs are going to go by just as fast, I asked myself "how do I want to spend the rest of my life"? Yo-Yo dieting and hiding from all the fun life has to offer. I have kids and want make lots of happy memories. How do you want to spend the rest of your life..................? Good Luck.

What a beautiful boy! Congraulations on your new addition to your family.

Does he have a web site?

I made some calls and found a couple of Dr's who except MX banders. Dr.Robert Marema 954-351-7770 Ft.Lauderdale $17,000, in US includeds surgery and hospital. You will need to bring all your info from MX(surgery transcript?) and fill out their paper work. 20 page history info. And a fee of $995.00 which covers nutrition, other little stuff and time with Dr. You will have to call and speak with someone from finacial dept. to find out about fills. I spoke to Joanna, she was very nice. Dr.Thomas Bass (954)966-8559 Hollywood 17,000 for surgery and hospital. 1 year of fills and Dr.visits included. They usaully only use flouroscopy the first time. They except MX banders and fills are 250.00, plus you have to bring in ALL your info from MX, transcirpts tranlated to english and whatever eles. They are also putting together a package deal for MX banders, about $2,000-$3000, that includs fills and follow up care with Dr. for one year. This package is still in it's infant stage so $$ isn't written in stone yet. The woman I talked to,Tiffany, was so nice and honest. Dr.Wizman, is 21,000 and this price DOES NOT INCLUDE FILLS. The woman I spoke to was very tight lipped w/ info. I don't like that. Iamed is now doing financing, this is new to me, 1-877-LAPBAND. I hpe this will help someone and good luck. Let me know if you need more info.

WOW, it really sounds like your doing great! Congratulations on your new beginning. Watch Out World Here She Comes!

What is a hiatal hernia? how do you get it and what does it feel like? I kept hearing about them.

:guess Has anyone here heard of Dr.Wizman in Margate,Fl? Insurance option is fading fast. Option #2, a Dr here in the States for the right price and nice low fill fees. There's a Dr.Marema in Ft.Lauderdale, if anyone has info on him, would love to hear it. I'm going to call them tomorrow and see where I stand w/ that. Option #3 I like a couple of Dr's in Mexico. I want to get that little fishy moving.............

O.K. all better now. I think it's time to go to bed. Good night all.

It worked ..................... Kathy's directions totally did it for me! Thanks kathy!! When it comes to computers I just get by. O.k. no it didn't...........it worked on the signature preview ? I WILL NOT GIVE UP!

I have "cut, copy , paste" on my keyboard, I'v been useing that. What part do I cut, the first url or the bottom http? Tina

It's like I'm reading my own thoughts.............. I, too have that wicked, evil voice in my head. Kathy's wal-Mart story freaked me out, been there, done that. And after you've eatten you let out a big sigh of relief. ahhh......... So it seems like it's a mix between evil voices and getting my needs met. And who unselfishly fixes that dilema....ding dong, it's the chinese I ordered.

I was reading the Sunday paper and came adross this in the USA WEEKEND section. Kirstie Ally " I don't have a disease. I don't have the fat gene. But I have a charecter flaw, which is I have a tendecy to get out of control, and I have to rein it in." Shes saying this while she "curls up on the peach-colored sofa in the den of her kitschy 1920's-era mansion in the Hollywood Hills." she sipping Crystal Light from a pink cut-glass goblet her assistant has brought her. definition:desease {a condition of the living animal or plant body or of one of it's parts that impairs normal functioning}huh? I have be honest I don't really understand how it's a desease. Some people think fat is a cover for other issues. fears, being insecure, the fat protects us from some thing. For me it's my hormones. PMS kills me. Or maybe it's PMDD? I become a bottomless pit and the pit only wants crap to eat. I've only ever stayed on a diet for three months. Than something happens and bam I'm eating badly again. Fear of success, maybe? what ever it is I want out. Celebertys have a staff of people to help. Lap Band will be my personal staff, thank you very much. I write this as I sit on my hard chair in front of my outdated PC sipping my Water that I got all by myself. Once again "Thank you very much." Tina

Thank You All for the positive words. I read, I cryed and in the end I put my shoulders back, my chin up and said"What about me?" I have a bad habit of letting other people dictate what I think of myself. I'm going to walk forward and let the chips fall where they may. Your right I need to focus on "ME". What I posted doesn't carry the same weight anymore. It doesn't have the same taboo. I feel freer. I'm going to live in the present and as for the future, come what may. Thanks for the pep talk and kind words. I super glued them to my back bone.

I have UHC also. I called them again, 5th time, they always said the same thing. "NO...exclusion! Your employer did not chose to have this." Today the "nice" girl said the same thing, but...............she also said " Go to whoever can write you a better letter of why you need this surgery as in "medicaly nessesery". I asked her to tell me honestly if I have a chance and she a "very good one". So I'm going to make a appt. with a surgeon under my plan and see what happens. Got my fingers crossed. I'll let you know what happens. Tina

:Bunny I forget where I got this link. It's a listing of fill places in the US, only thing, maybe not a bad thing, you pay a fee for the info and get a discount on fills. Hope it helps. www.fillcenterusa.com And they do fills from Foriegn surgerys. Tina