DaFierce1

In the beginning (before surgery) I wasn't going to tell anyone. I wasn't sure what they would think, then for some reason the day of my surgery I just went for it and put it on Facebook. I got an outpouring of support and have been very upfront with people who ask about how I lost all the weight.
I started to see a guy, recently and I didn't tell him right away. We were getting to be close and I just came out and told him and asked if that was ok. He didn't bat an eye lash, he was like ok no worries. It actually made me feel more comfortable around him

I tell everyone, up front, that I've had weight loss surgery. I don't judge other people's decision to keep it to themselves, but I frankly don't understand it. It's not something to be ashamed of -- why would it be? You made a difficult, frightening, and painful decision to do something that betters your health and appearance and longevity. You've gone to a great deal of trouble, and altered your eating habits *forever* in order to be around longer and be healthier for your loved ones and yourself.
In my book, that is something to be *immensely proud* of, not ashamed of or hide.
Like I said, I'm not judging; everyone has different lives and different needs. But especially in a dating situation, I'm up front about it -- in my online dating profile (yes, I have one of those) I mention that I had weight loss surgery in May of 2010, and it was an enormous success. This gets me off the hook at restaurants, I just tell them "surgery" and smile, and they help me pick out a more VSG-friendly meal and remind me to get a to-go box.
And nobody that I have ever met has EVER made a negative or snarky comment. Nobody has EVER seemed to judge me (I can't tell what they're doing in their head, but their body language and words have been positive). Nobody has ever been anything other than supportive, and congratulatory, and sometimes curious (in fact, heavier people have often taken me aside later and asked me for more details, and confessed that they were considering it for themselves!).
Again, it's your business and your choice. But I think that we need to stop shaming people who make the important decision to get this procedure done -- it's not a failure, it's not a flaw. It's a tremendously courageous and positive step. And I don't think I'd want to date anyone who couldn't be supportive of my choice to nurture and take care of my physical self; I mean, let's face it... the kind of woman I want to be with will love my physical self as much as my mind and heart, and will want it to be healthy. So why should she judge me for taking the best steps I know of to make that physical self healthy and happy.
youknowit: I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but you seem very connected and articulate, so I'm sure you'll meet someone amazing soon (if you haven't already!)

I'm happy all went well for you ladies. Stories like this helps alot. Keep us updated and take it easy. May GOD continue to wrap his arms around you

Hey, we're all human. It takes time to learn new good habits!
That being said, you need to be careful so close to surgery to make sure you don't injury your tender, healing new tiny stomach! Try not to cheat with items that could injury you! (the Popeye's stuff from today is probably not going to do any significant damage....but be careful!).
Now, the more important thing is this:
Set yourself up for success, and not stress
- If you know you're unable to resist tempting foods, don't put yourself in situations where you are testing your will power! Stay away from the restaurant / food court / others eating things you can't or shouldn't eat!
- Pack Snacks that are on your post-op diet and have them with you AT ALL TIMES. Then when you're hungry or need to eat, you can do it right then and there, anywhere you are, with anyone. No temptation to "eat off their plate" or order something yourself that is "off-diet"
No need to kick yourself for this little "stray". Just be better prepared and you'll be fine.

The biggest lose power walk... Loved it
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Very well said!!!
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It has come to my attention that if I could eat a hard boiled egg for every meal, I would. I won't, of course, because it is not ideal. But they are sooo good and my sleeve craves them. I do have one for Breakfast every morning.

Your not the only one.. Ive been thru the am I making the right decision phase, to yes I'm doing this... Second guessing myself because I don't want to make a mistake, but I quickly get back focused and know this is right & what I want to become healthier.. Im excited, scared & ready all in one.. Lol
Its natural to feel these feeling.. Its unknown territory .. We'll do just fine.. Many blessing to u on ur journey!
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So there I was ...330 pounds of exhausted, heavy breathing, high blood pressured, diabetic, sleep apnea laden, shell of his former self humanity. I had taken the "normal" way many times, the slippery slope of hundreds of diets, miracle cures, and sure fire programs only to tumble back down in a heap, more unhealthy than before.
My wife began talking to me about weight loss surgery. She had been up that slope as many times as me and fell down with the same result. I was appalled that she would choose such a drastic step, I volunteered to hold a gun at her head at dinner time... in my mind the same as what she proposed. The batting of her big, beautiful eyes melted me down as it always does and I ended up at an "information" meeting held by the surgeon at our local Center of Excellence bariatric hospital.
My steely resistence melted away when I detected the sound of sound science and saw the many results obtained by the patients there. I came away from the meeting sleeve-minded to the shock and delight of my bride.
Now, a year and a half later, I am free of excess fat, diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, and all that accompanies them. The only heavy breathing I do is when I run up a steep hill with 2 1/2 pound weights on each foot, carrying a 20 pound kettle bell, full speed, 12 times. Even then I am back to normal breathing before I hit the shower back home. This from a guy that used to compare the steps to the upstairs bedroom with Mt. Everest.
So now I feel guity. It was a lot easier to get the operation than suffer with the effects of obesity. It was easier to make an effective intervention than run down a thousand more dead end streets. It was easier to take a chance on life than taking a dirt nap that odds are would have happened by now.
But, you know, guilt can be earned or slapped on you by ignorant people. The same folks that charge you with the high crime of "taking the easy way out" would take the same route in a heartbeat if they weren't such lilly-livered cowards.
So I will file the guilt of "easiness" away in the same folder with the shock belt I bought some years ago that was supposed to melt away fat but succeeded in just making burn marks on my belly; the folder of dumb ideas.

Its all what you make of it. If you want to succeed, you will find a way.
I, too, was sleeved on May 6 and am feeling great. Back to wearing clothes I couldnt before, going out, coaching ball, dancing .. back to normal.
Get negative thoughts out of your head, think positive and you will be fine. Just think of the long run, you will be skiny and healthy! Good luck to you and this too shall pass

I was sleeved on may 15th. The first two weeks have been hard but like I told my husband...past diets have been hard but we were able to quit.
This time there is no quitting...so that's the hardest part. Dont let food control your life. You now control what you eat. So do it with a smile. Dont complain about what you can't eat...rejoice in what you can eat.

I work at a hospital and people are smart and I have a hard time not telling the truth so I found it was much easier to share the information. There are some that are less supportive than others but that is true of any situation. People in my life know I have tried to lose weight before, more than once, and to all of a sudden lose weight "magically" is a quite a stretch so the truth seemed easier. I don't regret.

Wow you look great! Keep up the great work!
Whats ur routine?
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Good for you!
I think I might be gaining bravery--once I have an official date, I just might have the nerve to let my FB friends know what I'm doing. I hope everyone on your list is supportive, or else smart enough to keep their non-supportive opinions to themselves!

My visit went very well! I was nervous beyond believe for nothing.. lol
She said I was very knowledgeable about everything and Im a great candidate for the surgery.. whoo hoo!
1 more step closer to change!

Congrats!!! We're almost there! I had my psych eval yesterday. It was VERY quick (5 mins max) and straightforward while he filled out the required paperwork for my surgeon! LOL Not complaining one bit!!

Great. You got this girl!
Diva time

My Blender Bottle is similar to this one and it foams a little bit. It seems to depend on how much empty space is in the bottle before I shake it. If there's not much Water in the cup (if I'm only blending 8 oz. instead of 12), it foams up a little more. The foam dissolves pretty quickly, though.
It definitely eliminates unmixed powder in my shakes.

You will be fine! Keep us updated. For us fellow sleevers who won't be sleeved for 3 months we always like to follow everyone's process.

I dont let peoples negativity affect me that way...it to me is more of a challenge to prove the doubters wrong. use it as fuel for the future.

Very well said! I too have just begun telling people outside my family that I am having the surgery. I have had zero negative responses. My hairdresser who is absolutely gorgeous and perfectly built "said good for you, I know you have you tried everything to lose weight, this will work!" This really made my day! I have been pleasantly surprised by all of the positive feedback and comments from friends and family. Of course they are worried, but staying obese is far worse when there are ways to get the weight off. My advice to everyone is beware of negative people. Keep them out of your mind! There is only room for positive thoughts there!!

To get this fat off of me! Lol
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