kelcath33

March 20th for me! Can't believe it's right around the corner...

I used to be on here all the time - back when I first had my surgery and a few months post op. I've slowly started coming back due to the realization that I haven't lost anything for at least 5 months and it's because I haven't been in the game at all. I am seeing posts from people that had surgery around the same time as me or much later, that weighed more than me at date of surgery, and they have reached far and beyond my wildest expectations for myself. I just wanted to get below 200 and if I had stayed on plan, I would've accomplished this. The thing is, I can eat almost exactly like I used to and I do feel hunger and I am addicted to sugar/carbs. It is nothing for me to put away a donut and not have a single feeling of fullness. This has been the case for a while now and I know that the same obstacles that prevented weight loss for me prior to surgery still exist post surgery - mostly head hunger and telling myself that I will "get back on it" tomorrow. It's a terrible cycle that perpetuates itself over and over as I give in to a craving or deceive myself into thinking that it's ok because I did lose "some of the weight". I just realized that the only goal I set for myself was to get below 200 but maybe breaking it down might make things a little more doable and I will feel less like a failure. To those who have accomplished their goals, great work and let me know if you have any tricks or tips that you could share. For those who might be in the same boat as me, I feel your pain and maybe it's time today to do something about it. Yesterday was yesterday and tomorrow is a long way off so for now, I am focusing on my actions today.

From one gamer to another, you look AMAZEBALLS. seriously, nice work! Inspiring too

I am 11 weeks out. My highest weight was 257. I lost 16 pounds in 8 months while awaiting approval. My surgery weight was 241. Today, I am 214. That is about 2.5 pounds per week. Of course, I did not lose it like that. I lost 18 pounds in 15 days and then stalled for two weeks. Then I would lose for a couple of days and stall for a few days. That being said, I am on track and content that the scale keeps heading down. I have not been exercising as much as I should and I bet if I did, I would be losing faster, but I am thrilled to be losing.

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I never said that the bougie size affects cravings and I know that my stomach size is greatly reduced; but when compared to other post-op folk, I can still eat a larger-than-average amount of food. I read more stories about people losing cravings/hunger/everything than stuff saying the same. I do feel a restriction, however, I still want to eat more more more.
All I was trying to convey is I am jealous of those who no longer feel those hunger pangs and cravings... especially when I was specifically told that I wouldn't want anything to do with food. So, maybe you can understand my frustration.

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I never said that the bougie size affects cravings and I know that my stomach size is greatly reduced; but when compared to other post-op folk, I can still eat a larger-than-average amount of food. I read more stories about people losing cravings/hunger/everything than stuff saying the same. I do feel a restriction, however, I still want to eat more more more.
All I was trying to convey is I am jealous of those who no longer feel those hunger pangs and cravings... especially when I was specifically told that I wouldn't want anything to do with food. So, maybe you can understand my frustration.

I set my timer to remind my self to eat every two hours and its working,the key is eating,and also i stop walking on my treadmill for a while and it started moving faster,i know that crazy,i will start back soon just watching my body now,and also you could be losing inches that will not show on the scale..so hang in there it will start back soon,

Protein seems to be the key to stopping my stalls. I read from someone that when they stall they go back to meat and Protein Drinks until the stall ends. I tried it with my last stall and after 8 days of not dropping a pound I dropped 4 over night. I don't know if it was just time for it to end or the protein is what helped. I do know I'm going to try it again with my next stall... Good luck!!

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I completely understand the frustration. I was reading my chart when I returned to work (because I have that kind of time lol) and it was documented that my surgeon used a 50 fr. bougie. Yup, 50. I was wondering why I was actually feeling hungry every 3-ish hours and still craving all the unhealthy/naughty foods. I was super mad when I found that out. I can eat more than I should be able to, and I'm only a month and a week out. So when I read that other people get full after such small quantities of food, I get so jealous. It's not fair that I went through all the B.S. for seemingly nothing. My surgeon kept pushing me for RNY too; I feel like this is some kind of sick revenge to get an "I-told-you-so" or something. So my NUT and family are just like, "oh you just have to practice more self control...". Are you kidding me? If I had that, I wouldn't have needed the damn surgery in the first place.

I stopped losing weight at about 3 weeks post op, and the scale hasn't moved since. It's been holding steady and pissing me off. How long do I need to wait? How do I get the scale moving again????

Yes I would but I would probably choose RNY. The weightloss has been challenging. I still feel like I'm on the same emotional losing roller coaster that I was prior to surgery. I wasn't expecting a cakewalk but I'm still busting my hump 5 to 6 days in the gym. So yeah I find that some days I'm a bit frustrated. It really makes it hard to make good choices all the time

Hi, I was sleeved 4/2 and I am down 17lbs!!
So far so good!!

Good luck and think good thoughts..I will be joining you in less then 2 weeks!

Do it for you. Let your success, confidence, and happy/healthy life speak for you.
Amanda Rae

Parents, family and friends are used to fitting into a role in your life. Now you're ready to rock the boat, and they don't like it. They want everything to stay the same, that's all. It's the fear of the unknown. They may be part of the reason you have the weight on you to begin with -- a shield from their criticism. It's OK to move into the adult world and not need their approval anymore. We're all here to support you with no judgment.

Wow your dad sounds like my "Vovo" (grandfather) old world and well... ignorant.
The best thing about growing up and moving out of your parents house is the ability to be able to walk away from any craziness. Do that now!
Love them, because they love you the best they can. But you know what's right for you at this point. And they will come around I'm sure! I didn't tell my mom until it was a done deal! They may be worried and don't have the ability to articulate it..
Have a friend step in and be your person to lean on while you go through this. And draw strength from the people here too!
Good luck to you,
Laura

I feel so sad for you. NO ONE should have to do this alone. And isn't that what family is for? Especially our parents? Maybe educating them a bit would help. Or perhaps telling them how you feel in your body and how the weight is affecting you both physically and mentally would help. Maybe they are stubborn and set in their ways and don't really understand how it's making you feel. But either way, this is why this forum exists so we can get the support and information we need.
I really wish you all the best. And I really think you are doing an amazing thing for yourself. Don't give up!! <3

I'm sorry to hear you're getting so much grief from your family. Maybe you just need to step back and stay away from them for a while. do what you feel is right for you then just let them know the final outcome.
Now that I've had the surgery, I don't care what other family members think because it's a done deal!.
We're all here for you!

We have all been there. It is extremely hard to stay on a diet, that's why they don't work. What I did to lose my weight pre op was replaced two meals with Protein Shakes, had 3 100 calorie Snacks a day and a dinner with less then 500 calories in it. It worked for me very well, I ended up losing 28 pounds in a month and a half. Good luck!

Refocus. You can do this, think about the big picture and commit to the changes you have to make. Plan out your meals, even if you rely on Protein or weight watchers shakes until your appointment to lose what you need to. It will be the very last crash diet of your life. Keep reminding yourself of your ultimate goal.
It is not easy, but there is an end in sight. You just have to do everything you can to get there. I do not regret one single day of preparing for the surgery. And could not be happier since.
You have done the right thing, look for support. Well, you've got it.
YOU CAN DO THIS. Keep telling your self that.
The surgery itself is not a quick fix. It is only a tool. Post sleeve is work and you need to commit to the changes now for it to be as effective as it can be. The rewards are worth it.. YOU are worth it.
Taking my cheerleader suit off now.
Good luck!!