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I am freely open about my sleeve and encourage others to get it also since its been a great experience !

They said "In the month after her May surgery" but did not state which May, nor that it was last year, etc. Why on earth would people decide that was this May? Those would not be the "facts" it would actually be supposition, and an incorrect one at that.

Given that I was unfortunate enough to go through much of what this person's sister has gone through I certainly feel they have a right to their opinion. Just because you disagree with it does not mean they shouldn't be given the same level of respect that someone who is gung ho for this surgery gets.
I am no idiot. I researched my surgery and physician quite well and I am a strong advocate for my care, and yet, when you are the person dying you might be in a position where you just can't fight. You're too weak, drugged up, whatever, it's hard and for anyone to question a person's ability at that time that has never experienced that level of suffering...well that's not fair and should be apologized for.
While this case is extreme, and thank god mine wasn't that bad, I also faced the future without being able to eat again due to the decay of my tissues and the difficulty in repairing them. It's a very real issue. If this is a troll it's a troll who has experienced something of this because they understand the process that the damage can take. I doubt it's a troll. Likely it's someone who's heart has been broken by what has happened to their family member who just wants to see no one else suffer like this. To be beat up for that is really kind of crappy. One post or one hundred...they deserve some respect.
OP I'm so sorry about your sister's condition. I and many others here have been down that road, though not to the extent she has been. I'm sorry for your pain, and actually agree with you in many cases. This surgery is preformed far too often and we see more and more stories like this because of it. I think about a third of the people who have the surgery should. Write your local media and representatives. This story should be told. I'd love to see people like me NOT be able to have this surgery. Not because I'm an idiot or didn't research, but because it's not a good choice for many. There are other options that should be exhausted first.

Why do you care? If you aren't going to correct them and take away their power to annoy/bother you those "rumors" will continue to swirl around the office. You are giving them more power. Educate them, walk away and shut them up.

I saw it earlier. I love it. Here is the clip from the show;
http://www.wendyshow.com/2013/01/16/lisa-lampanelli-weight-loss/
Fabulous!

Why are you eating all the time? Figure out why you are eating (home alone, bored, stressed) and find something else positive to do instead of eating. Go for a walk. Read a book. Do some jumping jacks, anything but eat and join a support group. If you can't do it on your own get some help. It is too early to give in to defeat!

Why are you eating all the time? Figure out why you are eating (home alone, bored, stressed) and find something else positive to do instead of eating. Go for a walk. Read a book. Do some jumping jacks, anything but eat and join a support group. If you can't do it on your own get some help. It is too early to give in to defeat!

The time you spend writing this you should be in route to the hospital. C'mon, you already know the answer to your question.

Pole dancing. I've always wanted to take the classes but knew I was too big for the pole. I heard it is a phenomenal exercise, it may look easy but it isn't.

Pole dancing. I've always wanted to take the classes but knew I was too big for the pole. I heard it is a phenomenal exercise, it may look easy but it isn't.

When was the last time you lost 26 pounds in less than a month?

Pole dancing. I've always wanted to take the classes but knew I was too big for the pole. I heard it is a phenomenal exercise, it may look easy but it isn't.

Love hot foods and I can still eat most things, but I might not be able to tolerate the high Scoville scale heat items because you need something to wash away that throat heat. Lol

Careful Cheri. They're gonna bring in "F" who lives in fear of certain posters and only posts for two days about those horrible people...then disappears altogether....to complain about how you're scared him into not being able to whine about his triple cheeseburger Breakfast
Meanie heh heh heh
Oh and you left out the section on ripping open your wounds riding a wild bull on day 3 after surgery. I always love those posts. After all, the doc was probably kidding about you not lifting anything and as long as you use your legs to lift yourself up on the bull it'll be ok...oh and you can lift children because you are a mom and your muscles have this magic memory that allows for that weight....but shucks...I forgot WE CUT THROUGH THOSE! Ummmmm but for you they're different right? The pain you are feeling is totally different and likely a leak Best post about that pronto LMAO

Here are my thoughts on this, why not focus on yourself and ignore what the others are doing. Far too many times do I see where "we" focus on others instead of ourselves. If they are trying to lose weight, good for them. I always said I could care less what others are doing as long as it isn't affecting me. Life is a whole lot easier when you take to the time to embrace YOU instead of others. Good luck with your weight loss!

I haven't had anyone give me negative responses, but I would have said to her with a smile on my face, "Aw good for you sweetie now back to me, I had this surgery because my butt was fat and I was in poor health and I decided to take control of my body, hence the reason I'm here."

I haven't had anyone give me negative responses, but I would have said to her with a smile on my face, "Aw good for you sweetie now back to me, I had this surgery because my butt was fat and I was in poor health and I decided to take control of my body, hence the reason I'm here."

Honestly y'all....the bitching and whining about mean people is getting way worse than all the truly mean statements ever were. Accept or ignore....move on. Don't let it keep bothering you and certainly don't keep rehashing old news.

You are giving him too much power, when you allow someone that you are no longer in a relationship get you riled up like this you are doing yourself a disservice. Now you know you can't ask him to bring you anything. Since you have a child together and you undoubtbly will be seeing him when he drops your son off, be proactive-make sure you have everything you need in your home for your Pre and post surgery. Most importantly focus on yourself and ignore his nonsense. Good luck.

You are giving him too much power, when you allow someone that you are no longer in a relationship get you riled up like this you are doing yourself a disservice. Now you know you can't ask him to bring you anything. Since you have a child together and you undoubtbly will be seeing him when he drops your son off, be proactive-make sure you have everything you need in your home for your Pre and post surgery. Most importantly focus on yourself and ignore his nonsense. Good luck.

You are giving him too much power, when you allow someone that you are no longer in a relationship get you riled up like this you are doing yourself a disservice. Now you know you can't ask him to bring you anything. Since you have a child together and you undoubtbly will be seeing him when he drops your son off, be proactive-make sure you have everything you need in your home for your Pre and post surgery. Most importantly focus on yourself and ignore his nonsense. Good luck.

You are giving him too much power, when you allow someone that you are no longer in a relationship get you riled up like this you are doing yourself a disservice. Now you know you can't ask him to bring you anything. Since you have a child together and you undoubtbly will be seeing him when he drops your son off, be proactive-make sure you have everything you need in your home for your Pre and post surgery. Most importantly focus on yourself and ignore his nonsense. Good luck.

You are giving him too much power, when you allow someone that you are no longer in a relationship get you riled up like this you are doing yourself a disservice. Now you know you can't ask him to bring you anything. Since you have a child together and you undoubtbly will be seeing him when he drops your son off, be proactive-make sure you have everything you need in your home for your Pre and post surgery. Most importantly focus on yourself and ignore his nonsense. Good luck.

I guess I'll just put it out there.
I am more academic than emotional and have lost a lot of patience with this political correctness or uber editing of comments in fear of offending someone. People who are easily offended are going to be offended by something no matter what. Some want to be handled with pearly white kid gloves with soft fabric. This dilutes some of the passion of the human experience. If you only want to hear what pleases you and supports your point of view, then you probably need to grow up. We are all much more complex than that. I am not easily offended. I want to hear the sinew, guts and soul of something, not the edited, whitewashed, watered down and overall diluted version. I respect those who have the guts to damn the torpedoes and put themselves out there. If you are so fragile that you cry when you touch the wings of a moth and some dust vaporizes, then you and I are probably not going to be able to have a very meaningful interaction. If you have not elected to take advantage of resources and advice provided by your surgeon, NUT, or the vast information available on the internet, then I am not interested in communicating with you. Personal responsibility is part of adulthood.
With that said, I am not perfect. I don't expect anyone else to be. But I don't want to hear whining nor see questions about very obvious information that can be easily researched by a 30 second web search. I am, and we all are, processing through a project of "self" where accountability and information are important. Anyone who wants support in being less accountable or making excuses are not interesting nor a good investment in my time. Do what you want. I really don't care. If your questions or feelings are informed and sincere, then that is different. Some just don't want to feel like they are alone in their experience and need validation for their current feelings.
You want to send me to your banned list? I couldn't care less. I do not ever need outside validation from another person. That is the level of "self actualization" on Maslow's Hierarch of Needs.

I say purchase another scale. I had that problem, my scale was not calibrated properly and I wanted to make sure I had an accurate reading.