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Very nice sentiment but..........I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it is never over....It is a day to day battle to beat an addiction...Just like an alcoholic does not drink anymore he is still an alcoholic and must constantly be aware of what is going on around him.. That is the same with us...Day to day struggle we will never be totally healed...We are like a puzzle, one piece at a time until we have figured it all out and then we can't let our guard down..We must keep up the struggle.. The benefits are numerous and our health and self worth will improve..but there is always work to be done....

Not all carbs are bad...your body turns everything you eat into sugar...does not matter if it is meat of dairy or anything else... We do need some good carbs, like veggies and fruit...Cocaine we can live without and don't need it.. food will always be a demand on us..We must chose wisely and there are carbs that are good for you...just saying!

all of the rules apply to the sleeve..If you eat too much you will feel like you have food in your throat..1 cup of food is maximum for me even after a year out...I still cannot tolerate beef and pork..And only brown meat in chicken...no drinking with your meals..30 min. before 30 minutes after. You will find that there will be foods that you can eat a lot of. For me it is popcorn or any sweets....They do not close the valve at the bottom of your stomach because they are not dense foods...they slide through to your intestines..Hence sliders... You have been on the first round of this journey....The second will be easier I hope as you will have to deal with your head and why you regained that weight. This is not a 1 year diet, this sleeve is a tool to be used to help you with the amounts of food you have to fix the reasons you got this way..You will struggle because anyone who says they won't or don't are fibbing.....Think life change for both you and hubby.....hope this helps!

Your body has shut you down...300 calories tell your body that you are in starvation mode...It will do anything it can to protect you.....Isn't the body an amazing machine..!!! You should drink some more Protein shakes and drink some G2 Gatorade even though you think you are getting enough Fluid.. Once you up the calories your body will relax again and allow you to drop some weight..Also the meds and crap they put into your system when you had the surgery takes time for it to leave your body..Your body is also under stress from the surgery alone. It takes time for it to realize you are okay.... You are now geared to lose weight..It is going to happen..K try to relax about this little setback!

RJ--What caused your coma? Hope all is better now! I went septic 4 days after WLS. They had to induce a coma because of the amount of pain I was in...I was in it for 19 days... I spent 5 months in the hospital due to complications with this surgery and am still fighting with my health for over a year now....Long story really......

Butter, so true!!!! My husband has been hiding the scale from me - I only get to weigh once per week (this was after an incident when I "only" lost .5 pounds right after surgery...yeah, another story for another day). I might take your advice on putting it away for a couple of weeks. As always, thanks for your insight. Hun don't weigh yourself for a month..These stalls are so depressing..You need to let your body get on with business and let it give you the rest you need....Thank goodness you have a good hubby!

I love shortbread Cookies with fruit and walnuts in them. You can only get them this time of year...I have eaten more then a few of them so far..But instead of tossing them out they lurk in my freezer waiting for my next onset of depression or whatever......Can't dispose of them yet.... They are like a pack of cigarettes that people keep in their pocket just in case while they are breaking the habit.......Last year I did not have to face this I just got out of a coma and could not eat or drink for 5 months.....yikes....This season is rearing it's ugly head......

First off Chelenka there seems to be a lot of lurkers on this forum and this thread....Makes me a little nervous about everything I posted here...LOL But what the hell, honesty is a part of healing and your story adds to the case that that is what this thread is all about. I appreciate your candidness and honesty and the fact that you shared with all of us your story... The wounds inflicted may be different then my wounds. But they are none the less wounds. You are right some people react differently to abuse. It is what ever makes them feel good about themselves during the abusive time and what follows in life.... It is a mirage. And because we are children we don't know better. How we carry it into our adulthood I have no idea but it is just the way it is....We are never satisfied with finding happiness within ourselves or learning to love ourselves for who we are. It is a sad state of affairs to be sure.... When I was 11 my mother in front of all my siblings and my step father after supper handed me 2 girdles and said that she felt that this would help hold me in if I was going to continue to eat like I did......I thought I would die right there and then...... I felt so sick and instead of that ending the eating pattern, it just enhanced it; made it spiral out of control... There is one good thing about all the struggles we have lived through. It makes us more compassionate and caring and thoughtful toward others...It surprises me when some people on here say that they look at fat people differently and find themselves becoming judgmental of them after they have and are still struggling with the same issues and will for the rest of their lives.... I believe that because of everything we have gone through it does make us stronger but better human beings as a whole and maybe I would not want to ever change that..... You to are very brave and I admire the fact that you shared...I have 2 questions though... What happened to the singing career? And how is your hubby handling the thinner you?

I take prim rose in gel capsules. I take them a long with my Vitamins, twice a day...Seems to be working..My skin has already improved some on my hands..... I use caster oil on my scars..It is the only product that sinks into the tissue and heals the inner scar and makes it softer...I also stretch and rub the scars gently which help to keep the hardness from forming....

That's what 150 looks like....i am on my way....You look amazing!

what? how daft can they be?!

As we all know everyone is different and can or cannot tolerate certain foods or liquid...I am a year out and still have issues with pork or beef....But no reflux so i have been able to drink a 1/4 c of orange juice with my pills every night...I chose low acid though maybe that is the difference.

you will have to sign a permission slip for the surgery even to take place...Before signing ask if it is for the sleeve....K

you should be proud of yourself girl..You look awesome...Congrats on your wonderful success....You should brag and with rights as well...dang!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

that is an understatement....I fear I am going to die a Popsicle if things don't change....I used to think I would rather be cold then hot anytime..NOW..not so sure..Everyone says that you do adjust but it takes some time..Okay....It is over a year..I did my time......she sighs!

I drink oj at night when I take my Iron pills..It helps absorb the iron better.. Now I drink G2 Gatorade for hydration..1/2 Water 1/2 G2..works well....you can try that and maybe ease up on the juice.... Run it by your Doc and nut though to be sure...k

Hey you stole my line!!!

I hear you, I lost 176 so far and look like a wrinkly hag..This part is not so fun....

Your so adorable!!!!!!

It will get much worse before it gets better..As you go and get the surgery you will find that there are so many other issues that come up, so many uncertainties that you will be asking ?'s left and right... You will also realize that no matter how prepared you are there will be a lot of unknowns for you. Also there will be things you think and say and feel that you never thought possible. You will get nervous and anxious and happy and sad and every emotion known to mankind.... This forum will help you along with the issues that your head causes and will cause you....There is someone on here that has felt what you feel, done what you've done and found her/his way past it...You are not alone here.... So keep up the research and the forum....it will really help you along the way...K

Thank you..I really don't think that the way I feel has much to do with my mother...It just comes and goes..why I don't know..Along with it I get really tired...That's just the way it is..This to shall pass until I have another bout of it.......

RJ, I'm such a noob here. And don't know you. And don't know your story / history. But ... didn't you just see your mom? No..I talked to her on the phone last week...That is when she told me that she does not want to hear from me ever again..Then she hung up the phone on me..Not a slam but a quiet click.... That has happened a lot in my life time and it usually takes 6 months to a year for her to write me and tell me that she excepts my apology and if I want to call her I can or send a parcel.....I usually wait a while and then call her.. This game is getting so old now and so is she...She's 80 and still at it......too much!

LOL..I tried coconut oil...not much success..I am finding the prime rose to be working though...

Thank you sweetie, but today I need more then a hug...Don't know what it is but it would have to be something big...Good thing is, I can't eat..the plus side of depression....It's a good thing...Martha...no/yes..oh well!

You know..later when you are in the throws of the journey..you will be able to handle all of that stuff..There may even be that you won't want that kind of food after the sleeve.. But for now you are vulnerable and have to take what ever action works for you. You want to shrink your liver so that it will be easier for the surgeon to do the operation..... They will just have to understand..It is about you, and you have to do it for you...Hope it helps..