odetteNYC

While it's true that the divorce rate is pretty high after WLS and split ups are common, there seems to be a common denominator of treatment. The fat spouse is usually comfortable for the other one because they are easier to control, easier to manipulate, and easier to feel secure with. The fat spouse suddenly becomes healthier and the other spouse is jealous and angry. This can bring out the ugly truth about a relationship. If your spouse loves you and respects you fat or thin, odds are, you will be absolutely fine. Respect and love and communication are so important. My husband loved me when he met me thin, still loved me when I was fat, and loves me now that I'm thin again. He is my rock. We are open and honest and have no jealousy or anger/controlling issues. We have actually grown closer together in the year since my surgery. I am happier to be around and that makes him happier. He doesn't have to hear me whine about my weight anymore LOL. We are just happy taking care of our kids and growing old together. I am sure your relationship will be fine.

I have a bit of an opposite story, but our relationship has many problems. My ex and I split mostly for other reasons, but he did not support me wanting surgery. He basically wanted to keep me trapped in this little bubble for him and him only. I think if the relationship has problems before surgery, your eyes will open and say wow I don't need or deserve this. WLS will not fix a relationship, and I have talked to many girls believing that it will. BUT If your relationship is great, and your partner loves you the true you before WLS then it will only improve!

Happy!
sleeping beauty
good for you on your weight loss, but just as important.......
your enthisiasm is great and can be contagious!!!
normal blood pressure - thats a biggie
other morbidities will follow out the window too ASAP
I see only all the best on your forerver weight loss journey through life and continued health and happiness
keep up the good work/job
good luck
congrats!!!!

hey everyone ! i was sleeved dec 8 2012 and just wanna share a pic !!!the first one is me yesterday at 188.8 lbs !!!!!the second is me last year at my heaviest of 257 !!!OMG!!! i am just now beginning to realize and see my weight loss !!! i have gone from a 3x top to an xl top and a tight 22 jeans to an ALMOST 14 jeans, ! i still have a ways to go , but i sure am enjoyin the journey !!!!!! :)GOOD LUCK to all u nebies !!!You will get there !

Sunday I weighed in at 233lbs . My husband weighs 236 at 6'2''. The last time I weighed less then him was 9 years ago! I feel like I won a fight of some kind! My husband never said anything about my weight in the past or made me feel bad. I feel more lady like weighing less than him

oh my! Just found out I am pregnant. My finance and I are excited just shocked. This was definitely a surprise!
I have no doubts that I am far enough out and can nourish a baby with out any problems! Any tips suggestions, encouragement would be nice!
This is my first pregnancy ever, I am 29 and am due October 14 2013!
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i just wanted to share a pic with yall. i have really been down about my SLOW weight loss ....but ive really been droppin the sizes . this past weekend after taking and lookin at pics i am FINALLY starting to see a difference.i was sleeved on dec. 8 and my heaviest weight ( the before pic taken last year ....257 !) the after pic i took this past saturday ...188.8 !.. i have gone from a tight 3x top to an xl and from a tight 22 to a ALMOST fitting 14!!! the lowest i remember ever weighing was 175 when i was in high school 25 years ago.....so when i see 175 i will be in heaven !!!!Each of us are on the same journey and we are all so inspiring to each other!!!Just think how we are all gonna look and FEEL this summer !!!!HOT MAMS AND PAPAS!!!!!!!

I was sleeved on 1/29 and stalled right at 3 weeks. I lost 33 pounds then nothing for the last 5 days. Yesterday I had to buy some clothes and bought my first piece of clothing without an "X" on the label. It was just a plain "L". Trying to keep focused on that!

I am 30 days post op. Days 1 - 15, I lost 18 pounds. Then a stall. One day I gained two pounds. Then I lost that. Then I stayed the same for two weeks. This morning I weighed an I have lost a pound. I also started my period yesterday so that may have had an impact on my stall. I usually lose several pounds of bloat during my cycle so hopefully, my loss will now continue. I will say that all during my stall, I continued to shrink. My clothes kept getting more loose. If you have been sleeved, you will lose weight. I think it is just natural to see all the folks on here saying they lost 105 pounds in 4 months and you think, "I better start dropping some REAL weight or I will never get there". And you start doubting it will really work, etc. I think it is just best to live in your own process and be pleased with the small changes. I am off my CPAP, I am down a size, my skin has cleared up and I have not had a Migraine in a month. And I am the size I was 9 years ago. 9 years worth of fat gone in 30 days is pretty darn exciting.

Good job!! the only thing you need to get rid of now is that Cowboys poster on the wall and you'll be perfect.

Surgery 9/4
day of surgery weight 240
Current weight 164
Total loss - 76 lbs

I tried to catch up on all the ins and outs and nuances of this thread but my male brain started over-heating and tripped a breaker which started a movie about fishing reels.

I'm 2 months after surgery starting weight 268 I weighted myself today & I'm 227.1 so I'm down 41 pounds in 2 months .... Yay

I say do your surgery . If u have your parents or his parents have them come stay with you and help you with the kids . Your husband will have another good shoulder (lol) it's not his leg.. If it were me I would do it. Let him postpone his surgery you have the right to be you and happy again not always be last for everyone !! NO more!

I say do your surgery . If u have your parents or his parents have them come stay with you and help you with the kids . Your husband will have another good shoulder (lol) it's not his leg.. If it were me I would do it. Let him postpone his surgery you have the right to be you and happy again not always be last for everyone !! NO more!

I say do your surgery . If u have your parents or his parents have them come stay with you and help you with the kids . Your husband will have another good shoulder (lol) it's not his leg.. If it were me I would do it. Let him postpone his surgery you have the right to be you and happy again not always be last for everyone !! NO more!

Bree he loves you! You need to love yourself before surgery! The sexy will come back after..
But the mere fact that you still "take care" of yourself means you are still a sexual being.
Girl go take a bubble bath tidy yourself up a bit down there (if you can get yourself off you can do a little) and have a nice evening with him. Have a glass of wine, and just love! Love yourself love him and love the future you are about to embark on!
Laura

Y'all know my daughter cried when I told someone about my surgery. Couldn't figure out why.
Finally she said, WHY are there gremlins in your stomach??!?
Lol. She heard me mention the Grehlin. So now I call it the gremlins.

What was you start weight ?

Wow you look great . Good for you .. I know you must feel like a new person . Amazing so happy to see those results . I haven't had the sleeve yet, after being big for so long it feels almost impossible that I can be normal again like you .. Congrats I know it must of been a lot of work ..
:-)))))

Wow you look great . Good for you .. I know you must feel like a new person . Amazing so happy to see those results . I haven't had the sleeve yet, after being big for so long it feels almost impossible that I can be normal again like you .. Congrats I know it must of been a lot of work ..
:-)))))