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I will catch up to you someday!! I did a 100km bike ride earlier this year and it was a blast. :biggrin: Hopefully, I'll get up to a 100mi ride sometime this or next year.

If I were you, I would go to the doctor. You could have a little cyst right there. I had that and it killed to sit, so I went and had my doctor lance it and drain it. :biggrin: Good luck!

Recently, I've been into p90x, not because I'm looking to get epically muscular, haha, but more because it is LITERALLY the best workout with the fastest results I've ever had. lol. If I could justify buying Insanity, I would. Lately, "Beachbody" is great stuff. :biggrin: Oh, and the abdominal workout that comes with p90x is crazy. The first couple of times you do it, you feel like a totem pole for a couple of days. lol.

So, for yesterday, I apologize. I think I just had one of those "it happens to everyone" breakdowns. Contrary to what some people may think, even guys can have irrational breakdowns. lol. Thanks again for the replies, guys. So, here's my thing about the friend thing. I grew up around women, so I have more female friends than your normal guy. I have guys that are my friends, but more of work friends than anything else. I think I'm just trying to figure out who my best man is going to me and I'm like, "ahhhh!" about it. lol. About the argument situation, you're right. I think both of our testosterone kicked in and we both got a little out of hand. I'm really happy that it didn't happen face-to-face because I would have laid out his druggie ass on the floor. What got me started is that he won't stop getting all up in her business and it makes her uncomfortable, so I figured it was time to defend her. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut, but I feel like when it has to do with woman I love, it's my duty to protect her. She doesn't hold her ground and it bothers me. We talked about it and she says she feels really bad, yet she doesn't do anything about it. Arg. I'll probably get over it eventually. See, my desire for the field of medicine is there. I don't really know what else I would do, considering I've dabbled in a lot of fields. haha. I kind of feel l could do other things, but I wouldn't be AS happy if I didn't. I'm never going to give up, though. ^^ For my brain injury, I don't really know what to think. I keep hearing all of this stuff from my mom who was a nurse for 25 years, but not matter what research I do, I always wonder if it is actually the case. Aside from maybe being a tad more emotional here and there and my memory retention being a little less than what it used to be, my life really hasn't changed much. lol. I feel blessed in so many ways. ^^

Thanks for the responses, guys. I really appreciate it. Also, Jacqui, can I say something? Despite the fact that I can think of only one thing we have agreed on in the last 4 or so years, I respect you so much. You are very well spoken and I always enjoy reading what you have to say. Also, I look at you and see what you have accomplished and I can only hope to be able to do the same. :thumbup:

Thanks for the reply, man. I really appreciate it. :thumbup: I'm not sure why, but it was all just built up to the breaking point and I needed to offload it somewhere. haha. I don't really care about the emotion part so much because I've always been more of a sensitive guy. I've always been known to shed a tear at a good movie. lol. I would hang out with my soon-to-be in-laws more, but they live 120 miles away in phoenix. They're really cool, though.

Actually, what is happening is that you're eating so few calories that your metabolism slowed down, so if you bump your calories up to 1200/day or so, you'll start seeing your weight dropping. :thumbup:

Yeah, 500-1000 cal/day is pretty low and will slow your metabolism. Try to stick to 1200-1500/day. Edub, 1500 is actually a good number for most people. It's definitely okay if you're going to eat 2000-2500, but you need to work off the excess calories. :thumbup:

I just need to get a few things off of my chest, guys. I can't hold it in anymore. I'm sorry. After this, you guys will probably know me as good as my fiance. I have to tell someone... I put up a facade every day because I feel like I've failed in almost every aspect of my life. I love my fiance, but I feel like something is missing and it hurts because she is my best friend. I have no guy friends that I consider best friends. I can't even tell you how much I wish I did, though. I've tried to let them in, but every time I do, I feel like I'm going to change into a different person and become an asshole. It is really embarrassing, too, because I have no one to make a best man who I really trust. I have mixed feelings about my weight. Sometimes I care more than others. I care about the way I look, but sometimes I wonder if it is worth the effort. After my head injury 2 years, I never really realized how much I have changed. I'm more self-centered, but I'm also more emotional now than I ever was. I don't know how to deal with it. The most hurt I've been in a while was last semester when I got in an argument with a friend of my fiance that she doesn't even like or keep in touch with. She didn't back me up and now it feels weird when I think of it. I don't hold grudges, but this won't go away. Even though my dad would never tell me this, I feel like I failed my dad. He went to an ivy league school and medical school. I want to go to medical school, but I don't know if I can do it because of my head injury. Also, I'm 25 and I have yet to graduate from college. My sister is an overachiever and I respect her so much, but I wish I could have half of the ability that she has. It seems like my head injury is stopping me from doing anything I want. I feel like I can't be good enough at anything to impress anyone. I have a somewhat competitive spirit, so that hurts the most. My self-confidence is not half of what it was before the accident. Thanks for listening, guys...

I'm so happy you liked it! He's such an awesome trainer.

My ability to go from 0-4 pullups in 30 days of p90x agrees with you 1000%. haha.

Here is a really quick and easy workout with Tony Horton. It's like 25 minutes or so. Free Beachbody Workout With Tony Horton | Beachbody Coach

Okay, so then we wear our weight very similar, then. I have also fluctuated, so I know what you mean. I was probably only skinny for one summer when I was a kid. haha. I was also banded at 291lbs and dropped 91lbs, by the way. I would consider that a pretty hefty loss. Anyway, I asked because I have this sneaking suspicion that you think WAY too much about it. For the record, make no mistake that I agree that a guy's weight and his ability to get women are directly correlated; however, there are outside factors that are not being considered. Having said that, you have to factor in where the increased confidence comes from, whether it be due to significant weight loss, increased exercise or some combination of the two. Make no mistake, too, there were other girls before I met my fiance and I had little trouble getting them to like me. haha. Going into this a little deeper, for a "study" to say that women can rate a man's confidence level is would make self-confidence an external trait, rather than an internal trait, therefore making it an unreliable study. For example, that's like me looking at every single post on this message board and deciding the average age of the normal poster on here, by asking everyone what they think the mean age is on here. Without proof from that person, who knows their age is. It's not empirically possible to figure out from an estimation. All I'm saying is that you can have any MTV/VH1 dating course you want, which I saw on TV by the way, but that doesn't mean that it's going to work. lol. Trust me, if you did half of those things with girls who don't go to clubs and get wasted all of the time, you would never get a date because they ALSO watched that show and know what you're doing. lol. I have a few female friends who go to clubs and tell me about guys who do that and make asses of themselves. Just a fair warning. lol.

So, edub, riddle the peanut gallery this: How long have you had the lap-band and what is your weight right now?

You know that you use facebook too much when you are look for a "like" button. In this case, *5000 likes*. haha.

You know, I can't whittle down to exactly why this rubbed me the wrong way, but it did. So, basically what you're saying is that if you were ever fat and/or not 6'3" or taller, you're up shit creek, then? Yeah...not so much. I know some guys who are 6'3"/6'4" and skinny who wouldn't stand a change against me. 85% of getting girls is how you talk to them. DONE. I'd be willing to put money on it. If you don't know how to talk to a girl and you keep tripping over your words, you're done, kid. It helps if you're skinny, but let me tell you, that is the least of your worries... Unfortunately, edub, if you want those girls in the clubs with the gigantic ass, huge tits, and brains that would rival that of the lap dog, you need a high-paying job and STILL know how to talk to girls. Tip of the day, kid: Learn how to talk to girls, THEN worry about how your weight affects it. FROM THE MOUTH OF THE FIANCE: Learn how to talk to girls because a skinny body won't do the talking for you.

I pretty much stay true to GNC. I love chocolate, but it's tough to get it THAT close to the actual taste, so I usually get vanilla and strawberry. I've mixed it with both milk and water and I prefer milk, but it's totally consumable both ways.

I really wish there was a better way to explain it, but you'll just know when it happens. That's what they told me and BELIEVE ME, I realized what they were talking about shortly thereafter. lol

I agree with her, but if I am given the choice, I'll usually err on the side of sugar-free. :smile:

Oh my god. My head is going to explode. I've argued with Jachut on many occasions about this. lol. Honestly, this is how it works, plain and simple: -At this time, there is no diet on the face of the planet the blows every other diet in the world away by its amazing results, nor will there EVER be, more likely than not. -Having spent most of my childhood reading them, medical journals are NOT so politically influenced that they are as trustworthy as Cosmopolitan magazine. They are science. Is every study that happens perfect and totally definitive, though? NO! That's why they are done OVER and OVER in different circumstances, in order to rule out variables. -High Protein, low carb diets ARE healthy and not just fad. They are strongly backed by the ADA and a vast number of medical associations, not including the majority of doctors that will back that statement. They are also good for weight loss because they will curb your hunger a little better than the high carb diet. -High carb, low protein diets are great for athletes, especially runners. If you need a constant supply of glycogen, this is a great diet to be on. Honestly, guys, it just comes down to this: If you eat small meals often throughout the day and you work out at least 3x/week, it doesn't matter what diet you're on. If you burn more calories than you take it, you WILL lose weight. Period. As for me, I'm going to stick to my high protein, low carb diet. It's gotten me down 88lbs, so I'm going to stick to it. Sorry for the rant, but I had to get it out. lol.

Okay, let's break this down a little: - "Fat men are gross!" is friendly fire. Not appreciated, opinion or not. - You said it in a obesity help forum. What did you expect to happen? - Finally, I didn't miss what you said the first time. You just should have kept your trap shut after that out of respect for your fellow posters. The expected response: "BUT, you can't tell me what to do! You're not my daddy! Blah blah blah..." I know, I know. Just try to be respectful. I don't go to all of my liberal friends and make an ass out of myself for saying that I hate Obama for "such and such" reason. You need to learn to pick your battles.

You're like a rebellious, pre-adolescent, problem child who just got denied their afternoon Cookies and milk. If you have something useful to say, go ahead. Other than that, save it for people who care. Aaaaaaaaaanyway, to the OP: Did I become more confident? Yeah. Did I find that talking to women was easier? Yeah. Did more women talk to me? Yeah. In fact, did I meet my fiance because of it? Yeah. Do women still hit on me? Yeah. Does it bother me? NOPE! So, overall, drop the weight, get some confidence, learn how to talk to women, and you'll be golden. :smile: John

I'm with you guys in that I eat small amounts of food throughout the day, but also keep in mind that when your body calls to you to eat, your body is already nutrient deprived, which means that your metabolism is already dropping. Having said that, I try to keep my meals spaced out to a mild schedule, but it's usually give or take 30min or so.

Okay, from all of the physiology and nutrition courses I've taken over the course of my undergrad, without going into the chemistry of it, here is a brief and simple breakdown of how it seems to work: -Your body has two main nervous subsystems when it comes to eating/digestion: Sympathetic (fight or flight) and parasympathetic (antithesis, or opposite, of sympathetic). - If your parasympathetic nervous system is activated, which eating small meals, often, throughout the day will do, your body can digest, therefore increasing the rate of metabolism in order to break down nutrients inside the body; however, if you are not eating and your body has nothing to digest, your metabolic levels drop, which your body does to preserve and use what energy it has efficiently. All in all, it comes down to a couple of things: If you eat 450 or so calories a day, your body will eventually slow down it's resting metabolic rate SIGNIFICANTLY, which is why your body will seem to gain weight, even though you're thinking, "WTF!!". So, if you crunched the numbers, you would still be taking in more calories than you are burning. If you eat 2500-3000 calories per day and you are not an athlete, you are taking in WAY more calories than your body is able to burn every day. 'Nuff said. If you are eating 5-7 meals per day and averaging AROUND 900-1300ish calories per day, depending on your size and average levels of activity, the chances of you steadily losing weight efficiently is very high. Okay, I'm not a doctor...yet, nor do I have a license to give medical advice, for the record, but I will tell you this, though. If you don't believe me, do your research at the library, NOT ONLINE. lol. Tip of the day, kids: EVERYBODY is different. Not every rule in the book is going to perfectly apply to every single person. There's always exceptions, but as a general rule of thumb, this is a keeper. :smile: Sorry for the long-winded explanation, but someone had to clear this up once and for all. Oh, and if you have any other questions about this, PM me and I'll try and explain it as best I can. :scared2: John

Okay, I did p90x and anyone can, and frankly should, do it. It was all about just doing what you COULD do and build up from there. I would LOVE to do Insanity, though. It would be awesome... I really think that people shortchange themselves when it comes to exercise. I think people should be push their bodies to the limit, but while doing what they can.