CantBelieve_IdidIit!

I have had many changes in the last 5 months since surgery. At work many people know due to a non trustworthy co-worker/friend but at this point I really dont care who knows I had VSG. Its saved my life. Some compliment, some just stare...its weird but I try to just be the same me.
I have an old military friend whos husband & I were all stationed together, he makes comments in front of her (she has gain alot since she got out too) that are uncomfortable, like "you look beautiful now that u r skinny again & time has been kind to some of us" I can feel this hurts his wife and cringe when he says these things to me because it is obvious it hurts her. I dread seeing them, but have no idea how to shut him up. I feel it has strained our friendship...even when she is alone I can feel she looks at me different & I try not to mmention the surgery, my weight loss but it feels like we are no longer close! The saddest part is we were battle buddies in the war and I never wanted to alienate her in any way...she was my life friend, she had my back in a horrible place & she is my chosen sister!
My husband also had the sleeve so we really lean on each other about food, excercise, weight loss etc...that part has been a blessing. I can see some of the people in my life are great & see that the surgery has been positive...sadly some are not ok with our choice...those are the ones I will be sad to lose but it is not something I can control. Looks are temporary but love & friendship are always...I just wanedt to be happy & healthy not change my friends...I'm babbling now...over & out

I see online forums as a place where topics & conversations are ongoing...fresh & timely. If I want just impersonal information I will google it. I felt coming here was for support as well as learning medium. Since reading the rants I now talk mysef out of posting things because I dont want anyone to roll there eyes or mock what I post because what's new for me is possibly old rehashed news to a sleever who is a year or more out.
Perhaps there should be 2 forums one for superior/experienced sleevers and one for people like myself called slow/nonexperienced sleevers as Im only 5 weeks out and have lots of questions/ponders for other like sleevers...if they don't mind helping that is.
I'm not talking about why I should not eat 64 oz steak & loaded baked potato 24 hours after surgery...I figured that would be plain silly & painful!

Excellent! You must be feeling great! Looking forward to my 6 month weight loss number.

Well.....here I am at 6 months after surgery, down 123lbs. What an awesome ride, and it only gets better.

What's up people. I've been brainstorming about all of the things that I want to accomplish after I lose the weight. I believe that if you speak things into existence, they will happen. So im hoping you guys give your input so that I can steal some your goals and so that they can become a reality for you Lol.
Here is my list that I will accomplish within my first year post op, GOD willing.
I want to:
•shop at Armani Exchange
•cycle in a century
•go skydiving
•go to great adventures amusement park
•run in a race
•take my son to the park and play with him without being short of breath

Only 98 pounds? Wanna trade? =p You are rocking your sleeve! You have lost: a small child, a big dog, 8 cats, 392 sticks of butter, 19.6 5lb free weights, I could go on forever. You have lost a ton of weight. Imagine what all that felt like on your body and you're now free from it forever. You hit a road bump, came to the forum for help - you are obviously still winning this battle - at this point you're just calling in a few reinforcements. You CAN do this. And I wholeheartedly believe that you will.
A couple of ideas for hard times:
- Diva's back to basics
- Add more exercise - But try something new and totally different - zumba, running, hiking, salsa dancing - something that will get you reinterested in it
- Search for great tasty alternatives: PB2 was a great suggestion. Look on the recipes forum, write a list of your favorite things and make a goal that over the next 2 weeks you will find a new, healthy, tasty alternative for each. Maybe it's not exactly the same, but spend some time and browse a store like Whole Foods or Trader Joe's to see if you can find something interesting.
- Distract yourself: If I am bored I will eat til the sun goes down. If you are on the move, maybe it will help you too.
- Get a hobby: This goes along with bored. Plus you will feel invested in something. Half of eating for me is the addiction, so finding another thing I love that is actually productive is killing 2 birds with one stone. My new favorites are drawing on the new tablet I got for my pc, learning to crochet, and trying to convince myself I love my homework =p (Totally not working)
- Get a buddy: Every time you're feeling like grabbing the PB - text your buddy. If you don't have one, I am always happy to have more friends. If you do have one, or you have a friend IRL who is very supportive they can help even more. When you're having a hard time have them drag you out to a park for a walk.
- Throw out the junk: If you don't have family that's going to whine about it, get rid of it. If it's too tempting to have around, then maybe it's just better off not to. The things that I can't throw out I try and hide from myself. Out of sight, out of mind. I haven't seen a donut in about 12 weeks now - and writing this post is the first time I really thought about them. Last year I used to eat one a day just about. Now they're just a faint memory like oh yeah those used to be nice.
- Start a journal/write in your blog: Every time you wanna eat write about it. It's your blog, your journal, and you're free to write anything you want. Look at my blog - it's almost all whiney. And fifteen minutes after I wrote all that I had a big "PHEW!" thank goodness that's off my chest. Once it was out it was off my chest and I could start to go on with my day.
I'll stop at that because I don't wanna give you like 3 pages of text - but I could go on and on. I hope at least some of it helps. You have stayed on the wagon before and you can get your butt right back on and start losing again. You are awesome. Don't beat yourself up, accept that you made some mistakes, and keep on going! =)

Hey it's ok! I'm sure other will chime in soon too! But it is a big daunting thing sometimes!
With Uni I try and break something big into the tiniest little piece, just to get me started, even if it's just checking some of the online posts, or putting together and printing next weeks readings,
You can do this... What is the least-procrastinational thing you can do each day that keeps you healthy? (I.e what's so easy for you that you don't even really have to think?)
A small goal achieved at the beginning of the day can make it all seem like a lighter burden!
You know, if you go through your posts you have a lot of insight into what your issues are! Once you know the problem you can start to figure out a solution

jld23475, after one year, working hard with the sleeve - with more weight to loose - i can only imagaine your feelings/depresson etc
all the above info from fellow sleevers, is great - i'm sure you'll get more reinforcements
please don't give up - you've come so far - you've been successful - you're about 1/2 way to goal - what an accomplishment
get rid of the Peanut Butter and any other bad food/junk in the pantry - when you go shopping - don't even go down that aisle
don't know what happened that you "temporarily" have taken a wrong turn in the road - but turn again - you can find yourself on the right path- i know you can
some of your hunger might be head hunger - we can all relate to that
you've been so successful this past year, you know what to eat, and what not to eat - you can do this, have the confidence in yourself that i have in you
we can all give you the support and compassion you need - but you must be there for yourself - go to a support group, talk to a friend/family member
you might be bored, watching tv? so you go back to bad habits and eat? try and get busier
i know that the above is easier said than done -
please don't sabatoge yourself after you've come so far
good luck

Cheetos are my nemesis. If they are anywhere near me, I am compelled to eat them, way past the point of satisfied or even full. I love cheetos...they don't love me, but they are my crack. I don't keep them in my house. I do allow myself some of them. Once a month I buy a single serving bag and I am definitely like a crack addict. I sit down somewhere, just me and my Cheetos, and I eat them with as much appreciation and adoration as I can manage. NOTHING interrupts Cheetos time. Then, I throw away the package, wash my hands, brush my teeth and refuse to buy any more for another month. Perhaps you need to do something similar with Jiffy. Allow yourself that once a month treat, but eat clean (Protein and water) the rest of the time.
Someone will disagree with how I do this, but this is how *I* manage my addiction. For me, it's easier to avoid the trigger when I know that I am allowed to have it, just not today. And, in a huge way, Im glad that my brain has focused on one food rather than a whole spectrum of foods. It makes the craving easier to manage.

First of all you need to drop "only" from your vocabulary. You have lost 98 pounds!!! That is amazing! Those are pounds you will never see again. Second of all if you can keep Protein Snacks like string cheese or boiled eggs or cottage cheese around those are great go to foods. When that doesn't work for me I always have mint gum handy. Chew some and the mint sooths your tummy and the sweetness it a plus. Besides when your mouth is minty fresh who wants to eat on top of that. Congrats on the great weight loss and keep it going. I know you'll do great!

Please remind yourself that its a whole lot of pounds you lost 98!!! WOW. Keep at it

Swap it! Take control of the cravings by changing the Peanut Butter (which is probably the fat or salt you want) with a sf kind (I've heard US has something called PB2 which is a good alternative) or get some macadamias to munch on (unsalted are still tasty!)
Get some 0% Greek yoghurt with some fruit in it (i love mixing it with frozen berries for that icecreamy texture!)
Start preparing more... Boil eggs, grill meat, store tins of salmon/tuna in the fridge, make up some savoury cupcakes (in the recipe section)...
Get remotivated however you need!
And remember this is a lifestyle thing, you'll have ups and downs, smiles and frowns, just keep getting back on the horse!!!!!
Peace and best wishes!!!

I hit mine four weeks after surgery. Have at it!

Colored mine about 2 weeks after surgery and every 6 weeks since with no troubles. Cover that grey and enjoy the new skinny you!

I colored mine 1 week before surgery, and I just did it again 8 weeks past surgery. No problems yet

I am 2 weeks out and I dyed my hair last week. Everything seems fine but I am so close to surgery I have not noticed any hairloss yet.

Oh my gosh, what a huge difference. Your lookin so cute. Trim and sassy! Great job:)

I have had many changes in the last 5 months since surgery. At work many people know due to a non trustworthy co-worker/friend but at this point I really dont care who knows I had VSG. Its saved my life. Some compliment, some just stare...its weird but I try to just be the same me.
I have an old military friend whos husband & I were all stationed together, he makes comments in front of her (she has gain alot since she got out too) that are uncomfortable, like "you look beautiful now that u r skinny again & time has been kind to some of us" I can feel this hurts his wife and cringe when he says these things to me because it is obvious it hurts her. I dread seeing them, but have no idea how to shut him up. I feel it has strained our friendship...even when she is alone I can feel she looks at me different & I try not to mmention the surgery, my weight loss but it feels like we are no longer close! The saddest part is we were battle buddies in the war and I never wanted to alienate her in any way...she was my life friend, she had my back in a horrible place & she is my chosen sister!
My husband also had the sleeve so we really lean on each other about food, excercise, weight loss etc...that part has been a blessing. I can see some of the people in my life are great & see that the surgery has been positive...sadly some are not ok with our choice...those are the ones I will be sad to lose but it is not something I can control. Looks are temporary but love & friendship are always...I just wanedt to be happy & healthy not change my friends...I'm babbling now...over & out

I have had many changes in the last 5 months since surgery. At work many people know due to a non trustworthy co-worker/friend but at this point I really dont care who knows I had VSG. Its saved my life. Some compliment, some just stare...its weird but I try to just be the same me.
I have an old military friend whos husband & I were all stationed together, he makes comments in front of her (she has gain alot since she got out too) that are uncomfortable, like "you look beautiful now that u r skinny again & time has been kind to some of us" I can feel this hurts his wife and cringe when he says these things to me because it is obvious it hurts her. I dread seeing them, but have no idea how to shut him up. I feel it has strained our friendship...even when she is alone I can feel she looks at me different & I try not to mmention the surgery, my weight loss but it feels like we are no longer close! The saddest part is we were battle buddies in the war and I never wanted to alienate her in any way...she was my life friend, she had my back in a horrible place & she is my chosen sister!
My husband also had the sleeve so we really lean on each other about food, excercise, weight loss etc...that part has been a blessing. I can see some of the people in my life are great & see that the surgery has been positive...sadly some are not ok with our choice...those are the ones I will be sad to lose but it is not something I can control. Looks are temporary but love & friendship are always...I just wanedt to be happy & healthy not change my friends...I'm babbling now...over & out

Thank you all for your support and advise. It is nice to come onto a forum where you can discuss the 'real' issues and not be judged and or talk with others going through the same things.

Yes, we have done marriage counseling, before the sleeve. Our marriage has been really rocky for a few years now and it seems like we have been hitting our biggest bumps lately. Post op. Thank you for your support!