LouiseC

LouiseC you are so right! I've never really thought about it this way AND this attitude/behavior pertains to other successes one has in their lives. Truly eye opening moment for me.

Anyone watch SCRUBS? How about "bajingo??" hahahaha..... no?

I think people that we are close to may fear we will change and that this will mean that they also have to change. My sister, whom I love dearly, was immediately concerned about the future of our girls nights on the wine. She was very supportive and pleased with my decision, but still quick to identify that my change will alter her reality. It will alter the way we relate, communicate and socialize. I have realised i need to remember that.
Friends and family who depend on me to be and act a certain way are going to have to adjust to the "new" me, and for some it is challenging as they are left with no choice but to examine their own health and wellbeing as a consequence of my own decision.
So please do not judge your friend too harshly, unless she turns psycho jealous and competitive like some of the other examples given in the thread and if so, take the advice earlier of adding her to the weight you plan to lose! Lol

I think people that we are close to may fear we will change and that this will mean that they also have to change. My sister, whom I love dearly, was immediately concerned about the future of our girls nights on the wine. She was very supportive and pleased with my decision, but still quick to identify that my change will alter her reality. It will alter the way we relate, communicate and socialize. I have realised i need to remember that.
Friends and family who depend on me to be and act a certain way are going to have to adjust to the "new" me, and for some it is challenging as they are left with no choice but to examine their own health and wellbeing as a consequence of my own decision.
So please do not judge your friend too harshly, unless she turns psycho jealous and competitive like some of the other examples given in the thread and if so, take the advice earlier of adding her to the weight you plan to lose! Lol

Better stay out of the before/after photo's then y'all post-opers' are smokin!

The " " pretty well sums it up. Just add her to the weight you are going to lose.

I had my surgery on March 8th.
I am down a little over 70 pounds which is actually not really hitting me yet.
Here is what I have jumped for joy over.
My scale will never hit the dreaded 300 mark again.
It will also not hit 250. I have not been under 250 since my early 20's
Bigger victories?
I am no longer on ANY medication. supplements are the only thing I NEED.
No more arthritis pain. NONE...EVER
No more CPAP machine....and my kids are not afraid I am going to die in my sleep!
No more antacids. No more blood pressure meds
NONE!!! All erased from my life.
YAY!
Silly things to many that make me smile
I ran 2 miles...and lived to tell about it...I did not even FEEL like I was going to die.
My dog LOVES her 3 walks a day! (she has dropped a few pounds herself
I am saving a TON of money...just the amount I was spending on soda and Snacks for my home was ridiculous!
My kids are eating a better diet...hopefully they will not get my "fat" gene!
and the #1 Victory
Today my 1st pretty bra and pantie set was delivered and I can wear it proudly COMFORTABLY
I have not had a pretty bra since I was 13 YEARS OLD !!!!!
I feel FANTASTIC!

Yeah - now we will all be able to practice some Kama sutra weird stuff lol Well damn.. I was just about to change my signature... and add to my motivators "to add 13" to my willy" lol... My wife was a bit scared, she said "uh, hell no. That just won't work.." lol

Seriously? that means when I get to goal I'll gain 13 inches..(400/30}..that can't be right, that would put me in the guiness book of world records for sure. Lmao

I have become my own orchestra. I have never known so many sounds to come out of my body. I think the throat gurgles are my favorite. They make me giggle.

I have become my own orchestra. I have never known so many sounds to come out of my body. I think the throat gurgles are my favorite. They make me giggle.

Definitely the sounds of a newly sleeved patient!!!! LOL Mine still makes those noises.. I call my sleeve "Chewie" because of the noises it makes... Reminds me of Chewbaca from Star Wars!!

Six months out I was sure it wasn't going to work. I had the hardest time right about then with a nine week stall and I could only barely hang under 200 pounds. I was terribly frustrated and felt like everyone was losing faster than I was (not true at all) and I was considering revising my goal to a higher number. I even toyed with the idea of revising to DS, but quickly decided it was too drastic.
It happens to a lot of us. The reality is that slow loss is still loss. Reaching goal in seventeen months (like me!) is no less satisfying than reaching it sooner. It's all about getting there and being happy with the changes you make that improve your health, body and lifestyle.
Hang in there and try not to get too discouraged. I found that I was sabotaging my own loss by cutting my diet back too severely. I not only lost a little more consistently eating a more balanced diet, but I also felt better. That was huge - shedding that mental feeling of deprivation also helped me shed the expectation that I'd see a drop every single day on the scale.
I lost in fits and starts the whole time - often I'd lose for only four days a month and actually gain about 3 pounds every time I had my monthly visitor.
Remember: slow loss is still loss. There isn't a prize waiting for you if you hit goal sooner. It's natural to feel discouraged when you struggle to lose and it feels like other people shed weight without real effort. But if you stick with it, you can see goal.
~Cheri

I did too and I was upset, my doc said drink more Water and just wait, now at week 3 1/2 it's like melting off in my sleep. So it'll come off, just wait, share concerns with NUT and you'll pee out like 3lbs a day

I am the same so I made the choice to do it quickly! I decided to have WLS at the end of April. Made an appointment with a surgeon and met with her on May 7. I confirmed the following day that I would have the surgery and she said they had an available space on May 28th! I started the pre op diet on the 11th and haven't looked back.

I agree with the others who've said drink more Water. The other thing I've found helpful is to go brush my teeth. I know it sounds odd, but "delaying" eating to brush my teeth does two things; my mouth feels nice and clean and I find I don't want to lose that, and the delay is usually enough to derail my hunger. I do take an acid reducer (Dr's RX) daily, I'd check with your doc before adding that.

Yes, I finally started getting waxed again. For the longest time I hadn't cared but then all of a sudden my stomach wasn't sheltering it so completely and I had to look at it! All I can say is welcome to the jungle! That's ok though, it's nothing a little wax won't take care of!

Ugh...I'm at the stage where I desperately need to get new bras. Sports bras are great, however they're pretty much a no go to wear for work. I'm also going to check out that genie bra, I just hope it has a little padding which is a must for me because if it gets a little nippy outside I get nippy. Lol

I am sure many of you that are further along on our journey have had a friend or family member call you "skinny" as a sweet compliment to your weight loss. It has happened to me a couple of times over the past year. Well, I knew I was far from it still but I just smiled and said "Thank you".
Well, yesterday morning on the way to church, I was riding in the back seat with my 4 yr old (not normal) and commented how much room there was back there now. My son, as with most kids at this age, is brutally honest. He stated that I fit so well because I was SKINNY.
Skinny? Me? Really? Wow, it is so awesome that my son sees me like that way. I am not the fat mom any more. Yay!!

So I haven't posted in a while, but yesterday was a shocker for me & I thought I really need to share this. I am almost 3 months post-op (06/05) and so far I have lost 40lbs (including pre-op lost), including 2 stalls. I can't see the difference but I know the difference in the way that my clothes fit. So yesterday I went shopping for some black slacks & a top for an upcoming job interview @ work. I started this journey wearing a size 20 or 22 on a good day, I do own a few 18's but in the past couple of weeks they are too big in the waist. I found a pair of slacks and a top both in a 16 (not a 16W), went into the dressing room to try them on (thinking that they would be too small, still the BIG GIRL shopping in my head). Lo and behold the pants fit and the top also, I broke down in the dressing room and these were happy tears that were falling. I can't believe that in less than 3 months I am down 3 sizes, my collarbones have made an appearance, and I am 10lbs away from my first 50lbs lost and I will hit ONEDERLAND. My goal for the first 50lbs & Onederland is June 30th.

I travel a lot for work internationally and, comparatively, the US is out of control with portions across the board. You just can't get it. And people would look at you crazy of you asked. It's always been so much easier for me to eat normal portions when I travel outside the states. I could see how, if it was adopted broadly, it could impact people positively.
So, for me, I say cut the portions. Nobody needs it and everyone else around the world survives just fine without it. I've heard people say that "being able to get a 60 oz soda is what this country is about". I must've missed that memo. For me, and just for me, "freedom" isn't about a super sized meal.

NSV = Non-Scale Victory... and don't apologize for questions... that's so why we are here.

Yes i would pack my lunch before you even serve! You do all the cooking and put tender love and care into their meals. The least you should do is pack your own. I would put a sticky on it that said " do not touch or you will have sandwiches for a month"!!! Lol

I would suggest getting rid of the crap in your pantry. Remove temptation.