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So did my husband, the Dickinson part. Wow!

Look how small this world is! I'm from JC, born and raised. I'm now in Virginia; but miss NJ so badly. What school did you go to? I went to school in JC and Bayonne. JC stand up! Lol Alicia

I'm in the waiting zone too and I can't stand it. I could probably understand it if I were waiting for appointments. But, I got through all of the requirements rather quickly. I'm pretty much waiting for the doctors to catch up. One never put notes in my record, then went on vacation, so I had to see another Cardiologist. Then, my Psych wasn't a Psych. She signed off on my surgery; but wasn't authorized to because she's a LCSW. So, I ended up having to go back to see an actual Psych and now I'm waiting for his notes. It sucks b/c I thought I did everything right and met with my surgeon 3-weeks ago to get my date only to be sent back to the drawing board. I feel your pain. The wait is agonizing! Good luck!

It's a drink. ????

I think it's great that you're brave enough to take control of your life. You'll be equally as brave going into the surgery and coming out as you begin your journey. Haven't seen too many men on the forums; but I know they exist. Thanks for sharing and sending prayers up for you for a speedy recovery! Best to you!

The best is, recenty, I've started to reply to these things sternly saying, "Reserve your comments for someone else. I don't want to hear it." And his response is, "Ooh! Why are you do sensitive?". I give him a blank stare and think of saying, "Because you're an idiot and your words hurt my feelings." Instead, I just walk away confidently without a word. Anyways, at the end of the day, this is my journey because it's my health. Yes, I'll need his help and support along the way; but I need to keep my goal in perspective. Good luck everyone!

I so agree with your post. It's not that my husband doesn't agree with the surgery. In fact, he says that he's happy that I'm taking control of my health. HOWEVER, he's the kind that says this, then turns around and says indirect comments that are in direct conflict with this. For example, prior to my revelation about the surgery, he would comment about people on TV or overweight people, in general, not having the will power to lose the weight. That overweight people make excuses for not losing the weight and that "skinny" people have just as hard a fight to stay in control of their health. Of course, when I tell him that when he talks about "those people", he's talking about me, he says, "You're different." Little things i forgot to mention... 1. My husband's never been overweight. In fact, he was a body builder, a personal trainer, and he's in the military (where they have to stay fit). 2. I've always been overweight. My current weight is 276, I'm 5'6 and addicted to sugar. So, you might say that in the area of health, we've always spoken different languages. I haven't scheduled my surgery yet (hopefully in the next two weeks); but I can't help but to feel alone in this journey. But, I know I've got to do this for me. That aside, all of the stories and posts I've read here give me the fuel I need to press forward. So, thank you!!

Good luck and the best to you on the other side!