Sharon's last chance

LOL I've experienced this sort of this...both in my "real world", and in reading posts on this website! I'm amazed, almost daily, by the posts (here) that read "I'm X number of days post-surgery...when can I have (insert bad food/drink/behavior here) again??"! I rarely respond to those posts...sometimes its just better to keep my mouth shut... LOL As for people in my life, I tend to treat each question (and, Lordy, have there every been questions!!) as an opportunity to educate the other person regarding the realities of this surgery, and life afterwards. Oddly enough, the thing that seems to raise the most eyebrows is when I decline ordering a drink (and by drink I mean a non-alcoholic beverage) with my dinner. That really seems to throw waitresses right off their game! LOL Let people be amazed and bewildered by the lifestyle changes and choices we're making....maybe our example will make a difference in someone else's life one day!

Seems like they may be doing some of this to satisfy their own uncomfortable feelings. You did this surgery for you first. Be at ease with your plan and they should follow. Sorry you are going thru this.

I can totally relate. I don't feel it's weight related. I do feel it's stress related. With all things going on work, home, school, blah blah blah. I just feel sometimes sex is the last on my list of things to do. Something that works for me is I schedule mini get always even if it's just overnight. Just me and the hubs. That seems to do the trick for me, the reckindeling of romance.

Same here

Well my mother was also emotionally abusive to me she had all kinds of anxiety problems, bi polar disorder on top of it, and refused to take her meds so living with her was pure hell for most of my life. I kind of learned to deal with it like, tip toeing around her that kind of thing.She also did that thing where shed talk about how horrible i was to my aunts/uncles on the phone really loud so I could hear. I think the most important thing I learned is to put my feeling before hers. If you feel shes abusive, and you've talked to her, and she still won't change her ways you need to do whats right for you and your life. Don't worry about your dad he'll get over it, your mom may realize having you in her life is a privilege not a right and change her ways, but if not oh well. Don't worry about her, when the time comes you can forgive her but for now i'd work o getting out of that house asap like get a job and start saving up, or really anything.Being in that environment isn't healthy because after a while you may stat to believe the things your mother says

Try staying out of the house more. Since you can't move, get a job, go to college, or enroll in an activity that will require a bunch of time away from her.
You could always just tell her that she's emotionally abusive. It may not go over well but I feel that if she takes the liberty to verbally point out your faults, then you take the liberty to point out hers. Sometimes, when people know how you feel about them, that's enough to shut them up.
If now isn't a good time for the truth, I don't see when it will be. What if you don't end up married until you're 30. You want to put up with that for 11 more years? I think not.

How do u like them? Do they have that strong whey protein taste and smell? Are they thick?

I was going to eat some plain chicken but after reading some of the other post about cancelling the surgery.....i think not.

agreed.....don't beat yourself up over 1 cheat, just try again tomorrow and take it day by day.
Good luck!

Would it be really bad if I had a grilled chicken and salad right now? - My surgery is 18 days away and I am on day 6 of all liquid. Seriously? Is this considered a cheat?

It depends on what your pre-op diet is.
Gatorade is considered a clear liquid. However Gatorade G2 would be a better choice.

I have made this and it is delish. Another good thing, my family loved it also. Will surely make it again.

Thanks everyone for responding to my post

Sleeved May 3. Down 55 pounds. Averaging now 2-3 pounds a week.

I know the feeling. I noticed the more weight I gained the less people would do nice things like hold doors open. I still think sometimes this is all in my head, but I don't think all of it can be. I do think that some of the people not talking to me as much when I became larger was because I was not confident in myself and people were getting that vibe. I was miserable at my highest weight and I think that showed. People I think can see the unhappy and just naturally stay away, but there are for sure people out there that judge just on looks unfortunately.

If you have an open wound, it's a no-brainer. Tell your boss you still have an open wound, take some extra time, AND talk to your doctor to find out why it hasn't closed. After almost three weeks, that does not sound right.

This is so my fear, as I already have thininng hair and it will be just terrible if I lose quite a bit of hair. I am really scared about this

Hey Slim, you dreaming about a hot dog too?

I stick to the all beef franks or turkey dogs.
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Wow - good for you recognizing all your victories. Congrats!

I was taking antidepresants as well before and wanted to stop.....not a good idea... go back to them until you have got thru the mind hunger.... I was a basket case.... maybe take a smaller dose but this is a hard journey ... we need all the help we can get.

I agree with Supersweetums--it sounds like you made some really great decisions under some emotional circumstances. When I get "hungry" and I've just eaten, I always ask myself if I want an apple or some Tomato. If I'm really hungry, I eat the apple or the tomato (sweet or savory--both low-cal and filling for me). If I don't want the apple or the tomato, it's not really hunger; it's head hunger or boredom or some other "thing." I don't typically eat for emotional reasons, but I definitely enjoy eating; getting up and moving around and finding something productive to do usually gets me off the "I'd like something to eat" train of thought.
Hang in there--seems like you've been pretty proactive in staying on track!

First of all, congratulations on your loss and your maintenance. I had my surgery in November of the same year that you did.
I do struggle with it sometimes too, feeling cheated because I can't eat more. Sometimes I enjoy the taste so much, that I do wish I could have a little more. You did a great thing leaving the table, it is a testament to your success. Most of the time, I stop, I know my limits. There have been times where I have taken that extra couple of bites and then paid for it afterward. I do not think you are alone with that feeling.
The one thing that has helped me with those situations is something a fellow sleeve patient who was a few more years out than me said. She said that when she feels like that she tells herself, "If I could, I would, and that is how I got here in the first place". Unfortunately, I think emotional eating is something that is very difficult to overcome. I know that I haven't, but I do my best to set up my world that I just can't eat a whole bunch of food that is not as good for me. I don't keep anything in my house that will tempt me...and boy does it suck when I just want some chips because I think they will make me feel better, and there are none. So what do I do, I end up eating a Protein ice cream pop (homemade), or an apple with a little natural Peanut Butter and honey because that is all I have. So I am still eating because I am stressed? Emotional? Whatever the reason which is not real hunger, but I am not sabotaging myself in the process. Make sense??
I should quit rambling, but I appreciate you posting this with honest feelings. It does get harder the further out you are, but to me, it really sounds like you know how to manage your diet in a healthy way. You didn't eat more pizza, you didn't eat the second taco, you made the right choices and you know your bodies limits.

For me, it was the doctor wanting to add another pill to my list (already way tooo long for my liking) because my diabetes was out of control. I decided, "no more pills" and had the surgery within 4 weeks.
And... drum roll please... I haven't taken anything for diabetes since day 9 post-op! Blood pressure meds are cut in half. Cholesterol meds are gone too! Now i'm down to 1 bp pill, 1 prevacid, 1 allergy pill and all my supplements.