SV2

We've been eating this-its great! Sent from my iPad using VST

Yes. Nobody is mocking these wives-at most, the group is responding to the callous thoughtlessness and disrespect indicated of their husbands. We are assuming the truth as described. If these stories are inaccurate, then our advice does not apply. At the very least, it remains absolutely true that no one deserves to be treated as they have said they have been treated. Sent from my iPad using VST

Great story! Sent from my iPad using VST

I think just about every one of us here will tell you that being overweight is just a symptom of something going on in our emotional lives. I know exactly what you are going through as I did the same thing when I got the lapband 5 years ago (it/I wasn't successful). I have started therapy so that when I do get sleeved next month I will have a better idea of exactly what the emotional issues are that I am trying to address by eating. I want to be successful this time, and for the rest of my life. Perhaps you should consider some therapy to discover what it is that is making you eat when and what you know intellectually is bad for you and counter-productive. Sent from my iPad using VST

Yeah, I'm sure there's a logical, caring reason why a spouse would throw a bunch of candy bars on his recently-sleeved wife's lap. Sent from my iPad using VST

Yep, I called and was told that everything is on schedule, and that I will get an email about 2 weeks before the surgery. I told them I'm available if they get a cancellation How are you doing? Sent from my iPad using VST

How many times do you have to read that the surgery was the best thing the person could have done for him/her self? If you can lose the weight and keep it off without surgical intervention, then great-do it. However, most of us here have lost weight in the past (like other posters here, I have also lost over 100 pounds before on my own), but keeping it off has been the real challenge for most of us. if you can stack the deck in favor of your long term success, why wouldn't you? The success to complication ratio is so good, that to me, this is a "no brainier". Sent from my iPad using VST

Generally just means a low-carb diet. I don't believe it's an insurance requirement, but does reduce the fat in your liver. Sent from my iPad using VST

Yikes! I just re-read what I wrote. I'm sorry if I came off too harsh. I thought about editing it to tone it down, but decided against it. I meant what I said. What I wanted to say more than anything to Jan and MGM is that anyone who is taking on this challenge to recreate their life deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. I'm sorry if I offended anyone. Jan and MGM-I don't know you guys, but I know you are both incredible people for making a decision to change and taking massive action. I think both of you deserve to be supported by your husbands as you go through this huge life-changing experience. Hugs all the way around! Sent from my iPad using VST

Nothing yet. I'm supposed to be getting an email from the coordinator in my doctor's office with that info, but I haven't gotten it yet. I think I'll give them a call tomorrow. Sent from my iPad using VST

That is SO awesome! Sent from my iPad using VST

Can't wait! Sent from my iPhone 4S using VST

Were you not married by this time by choice? Your choice, I mean.

MGM and Jan: I CAN'T WAIT FOR YOU TWO TO TELL US NEXT YEAR THAT YOUR DIVORCES ARE PENDING. The kind of disrespect you two have described is simply unforgivable, ESPECIALLY FROM A SPOUSE. "Good father", "good grandfather": whatever. Jan-what did your husband teach your son by getting the candy bars and throwing them in your lap? That doesn't sound like a good anything to me. No one deserves to be treated like this. Your husbands feeling "insecure" is absolutely no excuse for this. They have no respect for you, and shame on you if you let them treat you this way ever again. I sincerely hope that when you two lose the weight and feel better about yourselves, you realize that YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT, AND IF THEY WON'T TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT, DIGNITY, AND LOVE, F--K THEM and go get the person you truly deserve. Sorry if I sound bitter, but no one should be treated like that, and certainly no one should treat someone like that in front of their children. Prepare mentally NOW for what may be inevitable.

Honestly, I don't understand the fear. Granted, I have already had the band, and am scheduled for revision on August 8th. Also, I had 2 cancer surgeries in 2004, and my gallbladder out about 4 months ago. However, the greater fear for me is NOT having the surgery and being miserable and obese for the rest of my life. Which scares you more? Death is a possibility whenever you step outside, but we face it everyday, don't we?

Denise-looks like you're going to beat me by 2 weeks. Nice! Can't wait to hear all about it.

Awesome awesome awesome!

I'm scheduled for lap band to sleeve revision on August 8. At my psych eval, the therapist admitted to having had a bypass (she's still quite thin). She said that after the surgery and weight loss that my life would completely change. She then said my life would change in ways I couldn't imagine. So my question is this: what major life changes occurred for post-opers, and did they have changes that they could not imagine before surgery?