PJ Geeser

Dont worry about it.....They say that because it is so different than the way they have always known you. YOu just go to the point you want to go and dont worry about what everyone else says. That sounds like the perfect weight. Yay for you
I wish i was in your shoes...i however seem to be going the other direction lately. Been almost 2 years for me and still at the 50 lbs mark only...I have never been able to find the working spot for my band. It is one extreme to the other and no in between. Either feel nothing or it goes to the opposite and tooo tight instantly and then i end up going in to get some out. Just been there for the 3 unfil and am gaining again. Sick of it. I feel like i have no band again and will probably take 3 months to get in again for a little fill. they are so busy i hate it as we cant get it adjusted so that it helps me out at least some...just so hard to get appts anymore as they have too many patients vs. drs to do the follow up.

Ummmm...you're doing great...I had mine in oct of 2012 and have to date only lost 55 lbs. been unfilled twice and now finally getting back to some help from the band. Not set where it needs to be but getting close!
I too am very frustrated but I just think back to the weight I started and am thankful I am not there anymore. It could be better and it will get better but I know I will never be thin but I will be healthier and that is all that matters. I will keep plugging away and I keep telling myself ... losing slow is better that gaining.
Dont be down on yourself...that is a fantastic weight loss already

It could be acid. I've had a lot of those troubles and getting on a daily anti acid has helped me stay with the tight band without getting too tight from irritation. My doctor prescribes nexium in an oral suspension powder you mix with Water so you can get it down even when the band is irritated. Good luck!

well I feel my fills were way too slow...haha...but I understand why she did it the way she did. As everyone usually will feel something by the 3 to 5 fill as a whole. So the first one was 3 cc and then slowed down. At about month 10 seh did get more aggressive but still so frustrating to be a year out with no help but I definitely dont want to go back for an unfill again...yikes...that is really a set back and yet alone twice.
I hear you on wondering if you made the right decision...i too felt that way as i divide out how much i spent vs how many lbs I lost...well lets just say its not cheap but even at 53 or so lbs now...that is still better than where i was when I started. I also think that maybe losing it slower will be easier to keep off in the long run....fingers crossed anyway...maybe not but thats the way Im gonna think about it.
Good luck and see if you can find the sweet spot first...it should be there somewhere too and hopefully you will start losing again

A while back some one put up a list of what things weigh and I realized then that I had three 33-pound cinder blocks to lose. I guess I latched on to this because at various times I've had to move cinder blocks around our little farm and they are so damn heavy. The thought of carrying three of them around with me all the time is just crazy. Well, I'm happy to report that I have lost one of them now. That one was on my belly, I think. Quite the chunk! Now two more to put down -- can't wait.

"Let's be clear, my life has changed in ways that I could not have imagined and the fun part about all of it is that I didn't seek it."
I read posts here everyday and shake my head....and then keep my mouth shut...and wonder who some of these people are...(sorry)
If you want to be successful you have to be willing to accept change....the band demands it...yet I can see people here who complain about this and that, and all they are really doing is fighting it...refusing to let go...
Loosing weight is not that complicated...yet I read posts where every theory under the sun is talked to death as to how to loose weight...I ask myself "Where are people getting this trash?"
I thing people are convincing themselves of this nonsense while really avoiding the obvious truth right in front of their face.....
I also understand that we are/were fat because we had a LIFETIME of bad habits, and it is hard to give it up in a few months....even years....yet that is what I read...
Going through Weight Loss Surgery, for me, was an absolute last resort...I did not want to do this! And wish I never had to...! Let's be clear...I'm not proud of this....Yet I could not be more pleased and satisfied with the results....
I was at the end of my rope, and I was ready to do ANYTHING!!! Wire my jaw shut if that is what it takes...(providing I will never be hungry)
So when I experienced stuck episodes, had to give up certain foods for life, accept limited portions...etc,...I was ready...and learned, sometime the hard way, to change in order to fall in synch....
Yet I get the feeling that for some people, this is just another "Gimmick"...like any of those "Miracle" weight loss TV commercials....something cosmetic or designer....and do not wish to make any sacrifices....
I remember asking a Psychologist at one of the Hospitals what these Psych evals were all about......and among other things, she also said they want to be sure you are "Mature" and "Understand responsibility and know if you what you're getting into"
I also heard on this forum a few time in the past, that this WLS has become too common...to accepted and easy to get...and at the same time Weight Loss Surgery centers business is booming performing surgeries....
Sorry, I'll get off my soap box now....GOOD POST OP!

I would have responded...."well yes I have and it was alot of work, Thank you for noticing"

Fat fills out your wrinkles for sure. The lines in my face get deeper with every pound I lose. lol. But I do agree that you are able to dress more stylishly and usually after a big weight loss, take more interest in your appearance. That would make one look younger.

I feel in myself that losing a great deal of weight has made me look years older..Maybe it is because of what I went through I don't know. But I look in the mirror and see an old lady...Just a little younger then my mother and she is 80.....crap!

If you are hungry...you need a fill...go in asap and keep going until you find that right level of help from your band

Parisshel...I have noticed people treat me different too...especially strangers in public...holding the door, a smile, a friendly comment etc...how does it make you feel that people treat you differently? Personally, I enjoy it, BUT have to say it makes me a little sad that people can't treat people that nice regardless of looks....

I know first hand....as I just had the same thing...that some drs, when you have a complete unfill for some reason and when they start the refill process again...they are very aggressive. they wont fill you to the point you were for obvious reasons as you were too tight perhaps but will come with in 1 to 2 ccs so it dont take so lone to get you back to where you need to be. With that said...when being "empty" for 3 to 4 weeks and then (in my case) putting back 9 ccs in all in one shot...that IS a shock to your system. You swell alot from the drastic difference and I could "feel" it being put back in as she did it. Was very sore inside for 6 days and was very difficult to eat much but you adjust. About day seven...I could definitely tell I need to go for more but havent done it yet...just has been too difficult to make the 2 hour trip during the holidays for a fill but am calling first thing tmr to schedule a fill....cant wait. I want to get back to "feeling" not hungry....LOVED it when I got there and want to get back to that stage asap.
I think it sounds like you may need another fill but be patient getting there.....once you start getting some help from your band it makes the whole process easier. Be patient..you will get there. Just try making the best food choices you can in the mean time and eventually it will pay off when you and the band start working together..
I too was "stuck" at 35 lb. loss for almost 6 months straight...eating healthy the whole time so I understand the frustration of not losing when doing all you can and following the rules. It took a full year of fills before I felt any help from my band what so ever which is usually uncommon as most will have help as a whole by the 3 to 6 month time frame.
I have lost very slow but made a definite difference when I finally got closer to the green zone. Once I get back to it now...I expect the scale to start moving again....slow is ok with me as long as it keep going in the right direction. I have a 40 lb goal for this next year and if I hit that will be ecstatic. ( that will put me at 100lb loss- god willing ) If I dont make it...Im ok with that too as I still am in a better place than i was over a year ago.
Dont give up...put you best foot forward and your heart into it...do it for yourself and your own health and you will succeed in your own time frame.
Good Luck to you and come back for help here anytime you need it...so many on here that understand and can give you insight on issues you are having

I know first hand....as I just had the same thing...that some drs, when you have a complete unfill for some reason and when they start the refill process again...they are very aggressive. they wont fill you to the point you were for obvious reasons as you were too tight perhaps but will come with in 1 to 2 ccs so it dont take so lone to get you back to where you need to be. With that said...when being "empty" for 3 to 4 weeks and then (in my case) putting back 9 ccs in all in one shot...that IS a shock to your system. You swell alot from the drastic difference and I could "feel" it being put back in as she did it. Was very sore inside for 6 days and was very difficult to eat much but you adjust. About day seven...I could definitely tell I need to go for more but havent done it yet...just has been too difficult to make the 2 hour trip during the holidays for a fill but am calling first thing tmr to schedule a fill....cant wait. I want to get back to "feeling" not hungry....LOVED it when I got there and want to get back to that stage asap.
I think it sounds like you may need another fill but be patient getting there.....once you start getting some help from your band it makes the whole process easier. Be patient..you will get there. Just try making the best food choices you can in the mean time and eventually it will pay off when you and the band start working together..
I too was "stuck" at 35 lb. loss for almost 6 months straight...eating healthy the whole time so I understand the frustration of not losing when doing all you can and following the rules. It took a full year of fills before I felt any help from my band what so ever which is usually uncommon as most will have help as a whole by the 3 to 6 month time frame.
I have lost very slow but made a definite difference when I finally got closer to the green zone. Once I get back to it now...I expect the scale to start moving again....slow is ok with me as long as it keep going in the right direction. I have a 40 lb goal for this next year and if I hit that will be ecstatic. ( that will put me at 100lb loss- god willing ) If I dont make it...Im ok with that too as I still am in a better place than i was over a year ago.
Dont give up...put you best foot forward and your heart into it...do it for yourself and your own health and you will succeed in your own time frame.
Good Luck to you and come back for help here anytime you need it...so many on here that understand and can give you insight on issues you are having

I know first hand....as I just had the same thing...that some drs, when you have a complete unfill for some reason and when they start the refill process again...they are very aggressive. they wont fill you to the point you were for obvious reasons as you were too tight perhaps but will come with in 1 to 2 ccs so it dont take so lone to get you back to where you need to be. With that said...when being "empty" for 3 to 4 weeks and then (in my case) putting back 9 ccs in all in one shot...that IS a shock to your system. You swell alot from the drastic difference and I could "feel" it being put back in as she did it. Was very sore inside for 6 days and was very difficult to eat much but you adjust. About day seven...I could definitely tell I need to go for more but havent done it yet...just has been too difficult to make the 2 hour trip during the holidays for a fill but am calling first thing tmr to schedule a fill....cant wait. I want to get back to "feeling" not hungry....LOVED it when I got there and want to get back to that stage asap.
I think it sounds like you may need another fill but be patient getting there.....once you start getting some help from your band it makes the whole process easier. Be patient..you will get there. Just try making the best food choices you can in the mean time and eventually it will pay off when you and the band start working together..
I too was "stuck" at 35 lb. loss for almost 6 months straight...eating healthy the whole time so I understand the frustration of not losing when doing all you can and following the rules. It took a full year of fills before I felt any help from my band what so ever which is usually uncommon as most will have help as a whole by the 3 to 6 month time frame.
I have lost very slow but made a definite difference when I finally got closer to the green zone. Once I get back to it now...I expect the scale to start moving again....slow is ok with me as long as it keep going in the right direction. I have a 40 lb goal for this next year and if I hit that will be ecstatic. ( that will put me at 100lb loss- god willing ) If I dont make it...Im ok with that too as I still am in a better place than i was over a year ago.
Dont give up...put you best foot forward and your heart into it...do it for yourself and your own health and you will succeed in your own time frame.
Good Luck to you and come back for help here anytime you need it...so many on here that understand and can give you insight on issues you are having

I want to wish all of you a safe and Happy New Year! I wish you all the gift of health this new year! Thanks to everyone who has helped me through my journey this year. Thanks for your support and guidance! A lot of us had surgery this year to improve our health and some of you are in the process - so cheers to everyone! 2014 will be even better!!!!
Good luck & God Bless!

Another thing I could never imagine is someone telling someone else they hate them on here. Really? How can you hate someone you don't even know. I am a writer, have my own columns in online websites and I can tell you this. If I write a story and ten people read it they will all take it and process it the way they feel it fits their needs. People on here trying to tell you how you said something and it was mean or rude and that was not the way it was intended. Stop reading in to what people write. You take words very seriously when the original poster might not have meant it in that way. I don't understand the two year old mentality of people here that think when you give them advice that they don't want they would say don't answer my post anymore I hate you. Really? You can really hate someone you don't know. I have to laugh. I have never in my life hated anyone that I did know. Maybe not always agreed with them but to be that hateful to say you hate someone is beyond my knowledge and no I am not bragging about my writing career either just telling people how others interpret words. I know someone is going to get upset about what I wrote the first time but if you feel guilty then you are guilty of the same things I have written. Others getting upset about the stars they get on their blogs and then blog about it. Really? That is just narcissistic that anyone would care if someone voted a one star on their blogs. I thought blogging was for your own self not to please anyone else. You have to have love for yourself and not worry about what others think of you. Just move on if you feel offended it doesn't have to end up in a giant free for all knock out match. I am sorry but that is just childish behavior. You shouldn't need affirmation from other people about yourself that you are good or you make them happy posting all the time. That I just don't understand. While I would love for people to read what I post I am not going to get a complex because they didn't like it. I will sleep very well tonight while your are awake thinking about this website.

I've never been part of an online forum/chat group until this one, so this was a new experience for me....starting almost 5 years ago now.
When I joined, I'd get on here and just listen....LISTEN closely to what the successful folks had to say. I wanted to be like them!! And I'd also pay attention to the ones who were struggling, and try to find out why.....to avoid those same issues. There is a wealth of information that can be had from this site. Personal experiences that can never be replaced by someone who hasn't "been there, done that".
One thing I do sometimes, is go back and read veterans posts/questions from when they were starting out. It can be eye opening....we had lots of the same questions and concerns that are asked here every day.
Now for my little rant...
I was ready to leave about a month ago...Disgusted...not because of anything anyone said, but because I felt a sense of censorship coming from what I percieved to be "the site". Locking threads that are a hot topic, just because of differences of opinion? If someone violates a rule, is disrespectful or hateful, tell that person, and then ban them if they dont stop! (Which is what ended up happening in the instance I'm referring to....KUDDOS to the moderating team or whomever is responsible for how it was handled in the end.) I despise the shotgun approach to dealing with problems. We don't have to agree with someones OPINION, politics, views on issues. MOVE ON! Don't read the damn thing if it offends you....certainly don't try and limit someones OPINION just because you don't agree with it.

14 months out.....was to tight for 1 month and had to be completely unfilled to let my insides settle down and heal..on the 17th will start the process over and start refilling. Outside of finally getting to the green only to go a little over board...I was finally getting the benifit of being banded and was loving it...only to start over. I cant wait to get back to filling and into the green zone again.....I hope to have the aid of my band the rest of my life

14 months out.....was to tight for 1 month and had to be completely unfilled to let my insides settle down and heal..on the 17th will start the process over and start refilling. Outside of finally getting to the green only to go a little over board...I was finally getting the benifit of being banded and was loving it...only to start over. I cant wait to get back to filling and into the green zone again.....I hope to have the aid of my band the rest of my life

14 months out.....was to tight for 1 month and had to be completely unfilled to let my insides settle down and heal..on the 17th will start the process over and start refilling. Outside of finally getting to the green only to go a little over board...I was finally getting the benifit of being banded and was loving it...only to start over. I cant wait to get back to filling and into the green zone again.....I hope to have the aid of my band the rest of my life

14 months out.....was to tight for 1 month and had to be completely unfilled to let my insides settle down and heal..on the 17th will start the process over and start refilling. Outside of finally getting to the green only to go a little over board...I was finally getting the benifit of being banded and was loving it...only to start over. I cant wait to get back to filling and into the green zone again.....I hope to have the aid of my band the rest of my life

ok I change my post above to "she". Doesnt matter, male or female, I guess she is the ASS then.
I agree...I too wouldnt go on the vacation with her...would be very uncomfortable knowing your partner said these things and felt this way. I do feel the same as above...that she is probably seeing someone else and trying to make you do the breakup.
Only you can decide what to do but we all wish you the best...take your time...take care of yourself FIRST and then make the decision that is right for you

ok I change my post above to "she". Doesnt matter, male or female, I guess she is the ASS then.
I agree...I too wouldnt go on the vacation with her...would be very uncomfortable knowing your partner said these things and felt this way. I do feel the same as above...that she is probably seeing someone else and trying to make you do the breakup.
Only you can decide what to do but we all wish you the best...take your time...take care of yourself FIRST and then make the decision that is right for you

ok I change my post above to "she". Doesnt matter, male or female, I guess she is the ASS then.
I agree...I too wouldnt go on the vacation with her...would be very uncomfortable knowing your partner said these things and felt this way. I do feel the same as above...that she is probably seeing someone else and trying to make you do the breakup.
Only you can decide what to do but we all wish you the best...take your time...take care of yourself FIRST and then make the decision that is right for you

OMGOD.....over 9 lbs???? Come on...wake up...sounds to me like he is looking for an excuse to leave but is hoping you will leave him first. (If I had to guess-I would assume he already has another one that he has been seeing right now and that is why he is saying these things to you)
That is just absolutely an awful thing to say. Sorry...but 9 lbs cant make you look that different. WHat an ass! Sorry but he is. Kick him to the curb as hard as it may be for you....you dont need his kind of abuse...that is NOT LOVE!
It shouldnt matter what you look like if someone truly loves you for who you are.
I have no tolerance for his type and honestly would tell him so!.
Move on...there is someone much better out there for you who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.