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Oh sweet pea, I'm so sorry - I think it's not 'men' who are so frustrating, I think it may be *the* man to whom you have currently hitched your wagon. My partner has never. ever, ever been anything but totally supportive to me on my weight loss journey. He has given things up, restricted intake, upped his exercise, stopped eating carbs/sugar/whatever whenever that was what I needed at the time. I could not have done this without him. You might want to look into couples counselling. If your partner is derailing this huge, massive, life-altering thing you have done, even inadvertently, then that needs picking apart by a professional xxx

I appreciate all your comments, definitely helps. I was having a moment last night. I've had two surgeries in the past, fibroid removal and a c section. I just feel this is more intense. I feel okay though. It's true I have so much more to think about. Drinking medications and vitamins, this is a whole new world for me lol Sent from my SM-A326U1 using BariatricPal mobile app

Hello, I'm 6 days post-op from the sleeve and outside of terrible pain from my big incision. Normal, from what I've read. Anyway, I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has watched people in our lives go through the dark side of WLS with unfortunate life changing experiences like transfer addiction. Seeing this happen to someone close to me really discouraged me for a long time from taking the leap. I finally got past that and while I don't regret doing it, I'm determined to not fall into that pattern. My first goal is to find a good therapist that has experience with bariatric patients. If anyone has recommendations or advice, I'd love to use this spot as a safe and productive place to discuss. Take care all! Sent from my SM-S908U1 using BariatricPal mobile app

Gastric leaks are almost always discovered before you even leave the hospital. So you can put that fear aside.

Just rest, sleep and heal. Forget everything else, you have enough to think about with vitamins, supplements and drinking your quota.

I understand where you are coming from and see issues like that for me coming up…. Unfortunately he isn’t changing but I am. I have been married for 22 years so it’s not a relationship i want to flush down the drain, but I have to start to prioritize myself over everyone else. He too likes the way things are and is trying hard to avoid change. it has been too much hard work to change myself for the better and loose the weight i have to go back to the destructive patterns of the last 21 years….. I am giving him a little more time to adjust but also letting him know that I need emotional support and help around the house too and if he is not willing to change for me, I wish him well on his solitary path. It’s hard when partners are out of sync; even worse when one refuses to adjust for the other … I hope he can change for you.

Just popping in to say that counseling is so, so helpful. My husband and I have gone off and on throughout the years and its been tremendously helpful at times. Don't sit on these feelings, they just fester and turn into resentment but it absolutely doesn't have to be that way. Best of luck to each of you!

You have all been so very helpful. I don’t know what I would do without this forum. My surgeon is not very supportive. He said that I’m only the second patient he’s had that’s gotten this hunger and he’s been practicing for 25 years. He noted that I had a history of depression and anxiety ( long since resolved) and suggested that I keep my therapist notified for when I experienced these “episodes”. I believe in his arrogance he simply didn’t like me questioning his work, which I did. There was no sympathy, no alternative explanation as has been given here by my peers. The distress I’ve gone through is something that no person going through this should have to go through. All VSG patients should be told that they MAY experience hunger, right away. This notion that’s in all our preparation and classes or books that ghrelin is removed is false for too many people. If I hadn’t found this on the web I’d have been in really bad shape. Thank you all! Please continue to share with me your experiences with hunger and if it resolved. It is helping!

P.S. don't chase the full feeling - for one thing, most people don't feel restriction to around the time they start up on solid foods - or until the nerves that were cut during the surgery regenerate (which also tends to be around the time we move to solid foods). Plus the "full" cue is often different after surgery. I don't feel full the way I did pre-surgery. Now, it's more like a discomfort in my chest. when I feel that, I know it's time to stop, or I"m going to be sorry. Others have reported weirder things like runny noses when they're full. For now, you're better off measuring out what you're supposed to eat and just eating that. and no - your surgery is not unsuccessful. You're losing weight at a normal clip. And you'll continue to as long as you stick to your program.

That darn number is a crazy thing. It gets in your head and kind of takes over your brain. I still worry every single day that it will start creeping up regardless of what I put in my mouth. I have retrained my brain when it comes to eating and my relationship with food BUT the mirror and scale are the devils