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Ok,

Well I had a really bad weekend. Felt like I ate way to much, kept drinking while I was eating, and it has continued to today with eating a burrito, and chicken soft taco from the Bell. On top of the I had a 6oz bag of trail mix. I cant believe I have done this. I am sure there are some people out there that have had the same experience. I really just need to get my mind back to where it was and stay focused.

Thanks for listening :mad:

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I'm not great at motivational mumbo jumbo so I'll save that for someone else. You said you had a bad weekend. You admitted it and are facing it... kudos for that.

I'm sure everyone falls off of the wagon. You just need to get yourself back on up.

My scale has literally not moved in 6 weeks. I know exactly why. I make great choices at meal times. But I also have some not-so-great choices during the week. No, it's not what I was eating pre-band. Not as unhealthy and definitely not the quantity. I have not gained weight, but I'm sure not loosing.

Time for us to get it back together, and remember why the heck we went through surgery in the first place.

I think it's definitely about getting your mind back in the right place. If I can commit to one day of great choices, it's very easy for me to continue on in that direction.

Don't sweat your mistake, just learn from it. I do believe I'll do the same! :mad:

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I can really commiserate with you -- my weekend was DEFINITELY less than stellar! Why is it all the junk food goes down so easily and we have to fight to get the veggies and chicken down? I think we just need to pull ourselves back up on the wagon and admit we are human and can make mistakes. Yep, I still feel like crap for doing it, but I am going to forgive myself and move on!

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I'm not great at motivational mumbo jumbo so I'll save that for someone else. You said you had a bad weekend. You admitted it and are facing it... kudos for that.

I'm sure everyone falls off of the wagon. You just need to get yourself back on up.

My scale has literally not moved in 6 weeks. I know exactly why. I make great choices at meal times. But I also have some not-so-great choices during the week. No, it's not what I was eating pre-band. Not as unhealthy and definitely not the quantity. I have not gained weight, but I'm sure not loosing.

Time for us to get it back together, and remember why the heck we went through surgery in the first place.

I think it's definitely about getting your mind back in the right place. If I can commit to one day of great choices, it's very easy for me to continue on in that direction.

Don't sweat your mistake, just learn from it. I do believe I'll do the same! :thumbup:

Thanks for the words, I did a lot better this evening, even went and walked 3 miles. I guess I was just mad at myself for eating all the stuff I did. When I had the surgery I told myself that I would not deprive myself of anything. What I didnt want to happen was to eat and drink at the same time.

I think my mind is back on track, and I am here in case anyone else needs to vent or whatever. Again thanks for the non motavational mumbo jumbo :).

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I can really commiserate with you -- my weekend was DEFINITELY less than stellar! Why is it all the junk food goes down so easily and we have to fight to get the veggies and chicken down? I think we just need to pull ourselves back up on the wagon and admit we are human and can make mistakes. Yep, I still feel like crap for doing it, but I am going to forgive myself and move on!

Thanks for the words!!!! I really wish I knew why all the junk food went down easy. I have dusted myself off and I am hopping back up there:rolleyes2:

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Here's my advise. Whenever you fall off the wagon, re-watch a movie made in the early 80's starring Dom DeLuise and Ann Bancroft called FATSO.

Hilarious movie, particularly if you are Italian.

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Thanks for the words, I did a lot better this evening, even went and walked 3 miles. I guess I was just mad at myself for eating all the stuff I did. When I had the surgery I told myself that I would not deprive myself of anything. What I didnt want to happen was to eat and drink at the same time.

I think my mind is back on track, and I am here in case anyone else needs to vent or whatever. Again thanks for the non motavational mumbo jumbo :thumbup:.

When I read your words in the beginning about what had happened, all I could do was say "why" it hurt me even though I don't know you, I felt your pain. . .we as women are expected to do and know everything, we are needed by our husbands, children, parents, our work demands us, churches, everything. . .we are supposed to do everything. When we fail, we beat ourselves up. . it's terrible how we are with ourselves, it's so painful, you made a mistake, it's ok, like the other posts say, get back up and go. . . this isn't for anyone but yourself. . . you are worth it, you are a person, you can be what you never were. . .

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I can tell you my take and maybe it will help a little.

In the past, I always felt like diets were almost a race...a track that I had to jog along, run along, regardless. Often going "off plan" meant doom and ruin and a regain.

When I "took" the lap band, I took it for life. Now I walk the path and if occasionally I stop and sit on a park bench, no one gives a rip. The pace is leisurely, the journey part of the trip. You walk along, sometimes at a fast clip, sometimes more slowly, you look around, you enjoy things, and sometimes you go to a scenic overlook and pause a bit. But you don't ever leave the path.

That's on the fly and I'm sure it's not perfect but I hope you get my gist. Leave the diet mentality and the guilt behind. You have the band. So you ate trail mix. Life goes on, the band is still there, you didn't decide "Oh too bad I've blown my diet might as well get pizza and ice cream tonight" and at taco bell you had what, 2 items? How much did you used to get?

Be kind to yourself, kind but firm. It's all different now, remember that. You have more control that you did, and at any time you can get back up off that bench, walk away from that scenic overlook, and continue down the path.

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What Restless said! We went away for a 3-day weekend to the apple orchards in Wisc. I did great all weekend, except Sunday my "lunch" was an apple turnover and a few hours later a piece of apple pie with ice cream. Were they wise choices? Of course not. Will they define me? No way. We go there once a year so I'm not about to beat myself up for treating myself.

That is definitely "going off plan" but to be honest it is NOTHING compared to what I would have done preband. I never would have stopped at 1 turnover in the past, or it would have been most of a big bag of potato chips, and trust me that could occur at least once a week in the old days!

What I love about the band is although the sweets did pass too easily it still restricted how much I could take in and I was actually craving Protein by that evening and it was easy for me to get back to healthy choices.

Don't beat yourself up over it - it's life. We won't be perfect.

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