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so, i was kind of starting to come down on myself regarding the speed of my weight loss. i'd set this goal for myself to try and lose 100 pounds by the four month mark. i know now that that is most likely not going to happen because as of three months, i'd only lost 54 (post-op). i remember my surgeon telling me that most successful lapbanders lose about 50% of their excess weight in the first year...so i did some number crunching, and it turns out that 54 pounds is 24% of my excess weight, so when i look at it from a different perspective, i've been losing about twice as fast as some successful lapband patients (on average). remember all: DON'T GET DOWN ON YOURSELVES for non-scale victories...just take a look at it from a different perspective. :thumbup:

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congrats on your weight loss so far you will make it to goal ,dont put any markers for yourself because you didnt have them when you gained weight you just sort of think oh my gawd how did i get to this point and sometimes the realisation of your size makes you gain even more ,,,now new perspective you know you can and have lost weight you know you will continue to lose weight doing what your doing so keep it up it not a race its a life change and it works im 2 years and six months banded have had a baby during this time and weigh 160 lbs and i got banded at 270lbs it hasnt all been easy but its worth it and to never lose another pound ideally id like to lose 7lb more but who cares ...lol id be really happy to stay just as i am.no ones perfect but we are all unique good luck to you ,i think your new perspective the right one !

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you're right. it's a slower process than we all expected. but i think it's a good thing. i think it's giving my body a chance to get used to each level of weight loss rather than plunging down. it also feels like it will stay off this time. i have been successful, but i don't consider myself a success just yet. i am scared to death that this isn't forever. i am buying clothes that are in the front of my closet, dreading the day when they might be at the back, never to fit again. I haven't been a size 12 in 20 years and i almost can't believe it.

i have lost just over 50 pounds since surgery April 1st. i am within a few pounds of my doctor's goal; within 15 pounds of where i want my highest point of a realistic range to be. another 20 would be best. i am looking forward to somewhere seeing the words "results not typical" associated with my success.

you are right. this is a slower process than we all thought. but that's ok. it really is. i think the physiological restriction is something that will never change. as long as i stick with the right foods, i will be ok. i also think, seeing as surgery was a last option for me, and being a self pay client, i have more invested in this than ever before. how much of a failure would i be if i let this opportunity slip away from me? i feel incredibly lucky to have this chance and i am not going to blow it for anything. i am feeling SO much better and everything i put on is big on me and people are starting to notice and although the attention is a bit uncomfortable, i am so much more comfortable. i almost can't believe how wonderful things are compared to january 2009. a truly new year.

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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